Cancer man (aquarius moon, taurus mars) not very physical or verbally affectionate..

Hi,

What could it mean if a man (cancer sun, aquarius moon, taurus mars, leo venus) is hardly ever verbally or physically affectionate but all good in every other way?

Examples of his "good traits" - initiates contact daily, initiates plans for the upcoming weekends etc, thoughtful presents for my birthday, very polite, everyday wishes me a great day, offers to pay for drinks, takes the effort to travel to see me (and is always on time/early), tells me he can't wait to see me (so he's not being incredibly cold as he is being nice and caring but in the way you would be with a friend rather than romantic), deleted his online dating profile within about a month of us meeting (but didn't mention this to me so not like he did it so I would think he's a good guy), puts "x"s at the end of every text (not a vital point I know)

Examples of his lack of physical affection - generally never initiates cuddles (but gladly accepts them if e.g. I initiated but probably the first to let go haha), never holds hands (although I am not too fussed about this but thought it's worth mentioning), no smooches, etc., never flirty

Examples of his lack of verbal affection - never compliments me (but never says anything negative about me either) unless I compliment him first and then I get a compliment in return about my looks or intelligence or something, never sends any flirty texts, etc.



It's been nearly 5 months that I've been seeing this guy.

So what could all this mean? Is there anything in his placements that might suggest reluctance to be flirty, charming, etc. and not just treat me like a good friend? Or is he just not very romantically interested in me but enjoys being with me for the conversation, companionship, etc?

I only ask as every guy I've dated before him, was always very good at making me feel like the most precious object of their desire, tons of compliments, very touchy-feely etc. but none of these relations ever lasted long as it was always one of those high passion, quick burnout (and I'm sure they cared less about me than my current SO and would flirt with anything so it was never the most reliable relationships but definitely the most thrilling) but with my current one, it feels more slow and steady.

To be honest, I'd be worried if he started out all affectionate and then changed but that isn't the case (he's always seems like this).. With past ex's, it was always clear they wanted to see me and would stay up all night texting me, enthusiatically describing to me how amazing of a time they had with me up until e.g. 3 am, after getting back from dates. Whereas with this one, he'd always send a quick text saying he had a nice time with me, we should do this again and then he's off to sleep. So, after every meet-up, I feel doubtful whether this is the end of us and he's just being polite or if he genuinely wants to continue this..

I don't really want to bring it up as forced "chore" affection is worse than no affection. Any insight? Thanks

Is this touchy feely stuff you want happening when your out in public?

I'm a Taurus ven and I'm not one for pda

I saw this guy's placements and I was like he sounds like a guy fit for me and someone I would love. Then, I saw OPs pros and cons and I'm not even surprised. His cons wouldn't affect me given my chart. #mydreammanchart

@lisabethur8

It means you have small boobs

Posted by Scrumptious
It means you have small boobs

He has a Leo Venus and these guys like model slim women, so small boobs would be fine.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Is this touchy feely stuff you want happening when your out in public?

I'm a Taurus ven and I'm not one for pda

Thank you for your post - it's not really that I particularly want it, just wanted to see if it had any meaning regarding his feelings/intentions as I've never been with anyone who's been so reserved for so long.

To be honest, all of our meet-ups have been in public, with the only "private" ones being when in his car, but even that's not totally private.

I don't think it's in his placements because I have the first three and I am nothing like him at all. I can't imagine it being his Taurus Mars either, but how about looking for hard Saturn aspects in his chart? Maybe Venus, Moon, Ascendant or Mars square/ opposite Saturn?

Having said that, I did date a Scorpio with Mars in Capricorn before and he wasn't one for affection at all. I ended it because of that. A couple of Mars in Virgos i've known have been less affectionate than most too. I would never have made that connection before writing this post, though.

Aside from Astrology, it probably doesn't mean anything and is just the way he is. There are people who are naturally that way and it doesn't mean they love or desire you any less.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Is this touchy feely stuff you want happening when your out in public?

I'm a Taurus ven and I'm not one for pda

Thank you for your post - it's not really that I particularly want it, just wanted to see if it had any meaning regarding his feelings/intentions as I've never been with anyone who's been so reserved for so long.

To be honest, all of our meet-ups have been in public, with the only "private" ones being when in his car, but even that's not totally private.

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I'm sure he would be much more affectionate if you two are totally alone.

Once your relationship progresses where you are at each other's homes he will be much more comfortable and at ease with you.

Posted by clare
I don't think it's in his placements because I have the first three and I am nothing like him at all. I can't imagine it being his Taurus Mars either, but how about looking for hard Saturn aspects in his chart? Maybe Venus, Moon, Ascendant or Mars square/ opposite Saturn?

Having said that, I did date a Scorpio with Mars in Capricorn before and he wasn't one for affection at all. I ended it because of that. A couple of Mars in Virgos i've known have been less affectionate than most too. I would never have made that connection before writing this post, though.

Aside from Astrology, it probably doesn't mean anything and is just the way he is. There are people who are naturally that way and it doesn't mean they love or desire you any less.

Thank you for your reply. It's a good idea to check the aspects, rather than just his sun, moon sign, etc. I had a look and the only planet he has interacting with saturn is mercury (a -321 Opposition between Mercury and Saturn) - this is within his chart. I suppose as Mercury is about communication and affection is a form of communication, this might play a part?

but then again, I have the same aspect too, in my birth chart.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by aj123

Posted by LadyNeptune
Is this touchy feely stuff you want happening when your out in public?

I'm a Taurus ven and I'm not one for pda

Thank you for your post - it's not really that I particularly want it, just wanted to see if it had any meaning regarding his feelings/intentions as I've never been with anyone who's been so reserved for so long.

To be honest, all of our meet-ups have been in public, with the only "private" ones being when in his car, but even that's not totally private.

I'm sure he would be much more affectionate if you two are totally alone.

Once your relationship progresses where you are at each other's homes he will be much more comfortable and at ease with you.

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Thank you for your post. Yeah I suppose that could be true, it's just strange as I've never experienced this before from anyone else and I'm not exactly the shy type so it's not like I'm sending out "stay away from me" body language signals haha.



Any more posts appreciated 🙂

I don't do PDA unless i'm being escorted don't hold my hand. I hate ppl touching me @ home. Only exception when we're sleeping I'm down for cuddling but not forced.

My cancer dude with different placements is the same.

Btw we don't do all the other things he's doing unles we like you or want something from you.

Hoping there's a decent reason why you've not been to his home in 5 months.

Posted by aj123

Posted by clare
I don't think it's in his placements because I have the first three and I am nothing like him at all. I can't imagine it being his Taurus Mars either, but how about looking for hard Saturn aspects in his chart? Maybe Venus, Moon, Ascendant or Mars square/ opposite Saturn?

Having said that, I did date a Scorpio with Mars in Capricorn before and he wasn't one for affection at all. I ended it because of that. A couple of Mars in Virgos i've known have been less affectionate than most too. I would never have made that connection before writing this post, though.

Aside from Astrology, it probably doesn't mean anything and is just the way he is. There are people who are naturally that way and it doesn't mean they love or desire you any less.

Thank you for your reply. It's a good idea to check the aspects, rather than just his sun, moon sign, etc. I had a look and the only planet he has interacting with saturn is mercury (a -321 Opposition between Mercury and Saturn) - this is within his chart. I suppose as Mercury is about communication and affection is a form of communication, this might play a part?

but then again, I have the same aspect too, in my birth chart.

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who knows, it could be his upbringing, a fear of some sort or something else. might just be the way he is. (: