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Cancer Men and Playing Games
Understanding Cancer Men and Playing Games
Cancer men are often misunderstood as playing mind games due to their cautious and sensitive nature. In reality, they tend to be nervous and unsure how to express their interest. Their actions are usually driven by genuine care and fear of rejection, not manipulation. Recognizing these traits can improve communication and reduce misunderstandings.
Yeah Im pretty much the same. Im generally kind of shy around girls, particulary if I like them because Im trying to figure out the best way to go about courting them. I often go through a great deal of indecision trying to figure out if the girl is interested in me at all before i start to make my move. I mean, I usually try to hide my feelings for her until Im sure she feels the same way, or until I get a feeling that she is interested in me. This is because when I like a girl I become incredibly sensitive to her actions/words, like sometimes I can take her ignoring me for her not being interested at all, when in fact she is waiting for me to pursue her. My sensitive nature really comes out when Im intersted in a girl, hence I usually try to hide it, as if they see it too early theyre going to think im a bit of a sissy. I suppose this could come across as playing games, which is a shame because I always have the best of intentions with girls im interested in. I think its important for girls to realise when dealing with a cancer man that they are very sensitive to environments etc. You cant expect them to show their true natures in public or in front of other people because they are so worried about rejection. We take a bit of time to build up trust and confidence in a relationship. But yeah I can see how women get frustrated with us, cos theyre probably doing their heads in trying to figure out if we are interested in them as well. Dont under-estimate our senstitivities when it comes to relationships.
I like it when things are out in the open.. I see, I conquer.
Waiting around hoping something will happen and playing games is just a waste of time.
Waiting around hoping something will happen and playing games is just a waste of time.
Hello Gentlemen:
Well let's see- Ok Fiddlesticks, the part about being nervous and dense- I could some some of those aspects in my Cancer man when we first met- not the dense part but the shyness and nervousness- which only maganetized me even more to my Cancer- I thought it was very charming because me personally I hate cockiness. And yes you do all take your time when it comes to knowing if the person feels the same about you. My Cancer because of how into each other we were when we first met, told me he loved me but I told him he didn't have to say it because you know how it is when two people who have this amazing chemistry and connection with each other can start saying things that you might not really mean yet- sure enough my Cancer did stop and it was a while before he told me he loved me again even though I would say it to him.
I had to learn after that you Crabs take your time when it comes to matters of the heart and yes this can be unnerving and tortuous for us gals- especially if we are already sure and if our feelings are strong for you. My Cancer man knew he had me, lol. But he was never cocky about it. I also had to weather the storm of him coming out of a relationship where he had been mistreated pretty badly, so issues with that also affected him. She was a Gemini in case your curious. Overall, I think Pisces have one of the best connections with Cancer men and I think this is the only sign that makes Pisces want to pounce all over them, because we can be pretty picky. I know personally I have never reacted to any other guys that I've dated that were Taurus, Scorpio, and Pisces the way I have to the Cancer. The other guys I acted very disinterested and they had to "dazzle" me so speak in order for me to be interested. It wasn't that way with the Cancer- he had this something about him that quite honestly that had me goo goo over him instantly.
Well let's see- Ok Fiddlesticks, the part about being nervous and dense- I could some some of those aspects in my Cancer man when we first met- not the dense part but the shyness and nervousness- which only maganetized me even more to my Cancer- I thought it was very charming because me personally I hate cockiness. And yes you do all take your time when it comes to knowing if the person feels the same about you. My Cancer because of how into each other we were when we first met, told me he loved me but I told him he didn't have to say it because you know how it is when two people who have this amazing chemistry and connection with each other can start saying things that you might not really mean yet- sure enough my Cancer did stop and it was a while before he told me he loved me again even though I would say it to him.
I had to learn after that you Crabs take your time when it comes to matters of the heart and yes this can be unnerving and tortuous for us gals- especially if we are already sure and if our feelings are strong for you. My Cancer man knew he had me, lol. But he was never cocky about it. I also had to weather the storm of him coming out of a relationship where he had been mistreated pretty badly, so issues with that also affected him. She was a Gemini in case your curious. Overall, I think Pisces have one of the best connections with Cancer men and I think this is the only sign that makes Pisces want to pounce all over them, because we can be pretty picky. I know personally I have never reacted to any other guys that I've dated that were Taurus, Scorpio, and Pisces the way I have to the Cancer. The other guys I acted very disinterested and they had to "dazzle" me so speak in order for me to be interested. It wasn't that way with the Cancer- he had this something about him that quite honestly that had me goo goo over him instantly.
Ok the chickiness word is not what I typed- DXP changed it, lol
Over-confident or arrogant- use those two in place of that chicky word
OBPisces, if I may ask, what is it that made you go crazy about your cancer friend?
I'm trying to figure out specific traits what it is that women like about cancers.
Is it something done, said or the way it's done or said..?
I'm trying to figure out specific traits what it is that women like about cancers.
Is it something done, said or the way it's done or said..?
Hey SRG:
Well, let me see if I can put it into words- well for one, when it came to our initial conversation, when we first talked over the net, we both wanted the same things in life- meaning what was important to both of us- stability, loyalty in a relationship, and him wanting a family of his own- that blew me away because I could tell that he really wanted that- it was important to him. Ok then there was the fact that I could be comfortable with him- we talked about EVERYTHING- he didn't come off as a jerk or say things that were rude or he didn't show disinterest in the things that I liked- he was a good conversationalist- even over the phone- the first time we talked on the phone, we talked from about 8 or 9 that night until 6 am the next morning and STILL didn't want to get off! To me, he was intelligent, gentle, funny, charming, and intriguing to me all at the same time. I just felt comfortable with him. And the connection was even there whether we were on the phone or on the net talking. I couldn't wait to meet him and believe me I thought I would never want to meet anyone from the net.
I could just sense a wonderful gentleness and caring about him that I was drawn to and he was just charming- that one I don't know how to describe specifically. He didn't have to "try hard" like some men obviously do and he didn't come at me with things that he thought I would be impressed with- like bragging about money or something or a car or his job, which for me are not what impresses me at all.
I hope this gives you some idea, lol. Trying not to make all my posts into novels, lol
Well, let me see if I can put it into words- well for one, when it came to our initial conversation, when we first talked over the net, we both wanted the same things in life- meaning what was important to both of us- stability, loyalty in a relationship, and him wanting a family of his own- that blew me away because I could tell that he really wanted that- it was important to him. Ok then there was the fact that I could be comfortable with him- we talked about EVERYTHING- he didn't come off as a jerk or say things that were rude or he didn't show disinterest in the things that I liked- he was a good conversationalist- even over the phone- the first time we talked on the phone, we talked from about 8 or 9 that night until 6 am the next morning and STILL didn't want to get off! To me, he was intelligent, gentle, funny, charming, and intriguing to me all at the same time. I just felt comfortable with him. And the connection was even there whether we were on the phone or on the net talking. I couldn't wait to meet him and believe me I thought I would never want to meet anyone from the net.
I could just sense a wonderful gentleness and caring about him that I was drawn to and he was just charming- that one I don't know how to describe specifically. He didn't have to "try hard" like some men obviously do and he didn't come at me with things that he thought I would be impressed with- like bragging about money or something or a car or his job, which for me are not what impresses me at all.
I hope this gives you some idea, lol. Trying not to make all my posts into novels, lol
Oh he was sexy, but of course I didn't know this until after he sent a pic of himself and after seeing him in person- I find that most Cancer men have a sexy charm and looks about them that I am drawn to- I think the shyness adds to it- it does for me anyway.
Hey SRG:
Also go to the Leo board the one title Blaahhhh and see what Wheels had to confess, lol.
There's more proof of that Cancer man voodoo working even on a Leo, lol
Also go to the Leo board the one title Blaahhhh and see what Wheels had to confess, lol.
There's more proof of that Cancer man voodoo working even on a Leo, lol
"How dumb its a cycle with all water signs to play with other people,s
hearts and heads thus they are the most depressed of the 4 elements ."
Sorry, but that's a non sequitur.
hearts and heads thus they are the most depressed of the 4 elements ."
Sorry, but that's a non sequitur.
Thanks for answering OBPisces.
Was your cancer friend the same in person as talking on the phone? I mean was the connection the same in both instances or does something change when you meet in person?
Are the expectations different?
Personally, i'm not too big on phones and email.. meeting the person face to face is preferable. When I do, I look for 2 things right off the bat: eye contact and the smile. From there, just work the cancer voodoo.. 🙂 Resistance is futile 🙂
I also like symmetry.. but thats another story 🙂
Was your cancer friend the same in person as talking on the phone? I mean was the connection the same in both instances or does something change when you meet in person?
Are the expectations different?
Personally, i'm not too big on phones and email.. meeting the person face to face is preferable. When I do, I look for 2 things right off the bat: eye contact and the smile. From there, just work the cancer voodoo.. 🙂 Resistance is futile 🙂
I also like symmetry.. but thats another story 🙂
"I have insane amount of cancer male friends and boy are they players a bit moronic because the reason they play games with girls heads because they have been hurt by other girls in the past . So being the emotional loser they are they play games with other people,s hearts ."
Unfortunately, these are the only types of Cancers that I have dated. Complete dogs, liars, hypocrites, and selfish sluts. What a stupid and sad why to live your life--urting someone because you think they're going to hurt you. Does this cycle ever stop for these kinds of Cancers or do they continue on like this forever?
Unfortunately, these are the only types of Cancers that I have dated. Complete dogs, liars, hypocrites, and selfish sluts. What a stupid and sad why to live your life--urting someone because you think they're going to hurt you. Does this cycle ever stop for these kinds of Cancers or do they continue on like this forever?
Hey SRG:
Yes it was even better in person but yes like you he got tired of the phone and email because after we met, we wanted to see each other. He lived 3 1/2 hours away from me but what was great was that the job he had he worked 4 days (12 hours shifts though, whew) and had 4 days off and 3 days on and 3 days off. So he would be able to come and see me and spend two days with me. I didn't grow as tired of the phone as he did on the days when we didn't see each other but he didn't care for it, but we would still talk because we wanted to hear from each other.
Man it got to the point where I couldn't take him leaving me when he would come and see me. I would cry every time, even on my way to work, no matter how I tried when it was time for him to go, lol. I would even try to pull little tricks to get him to stay longer by suggesting we go eat a place that he liked or something, lol. Bribery!
But if you're just yourself, the connection will be there. One thing Cancers don't have to worry about with Pisces is that you don't have to put up a front or hide your tender ways or your different way of thinking- we're drawn to that because it allows us to relax and be ourselves. Pisces and Cancer both want the same things- stablility, loyalty, and true love. I personally love how much my Cancer clings to me and I to him because it fits both of our true desires. He has his alone time yes and I do too but we both always seek each other out when we want to be near the other and I am always up for snuggling with him which he likes to do alotttt, lol, but it's so good🙂 I just can't explain it SRG but I do hope if it's meant for you to be with a Pisces woman that you will experience what I mean for yourself🙂
Yes it was even better in person but yes like you he got tired of the phone and email because after we met, we wanted to see each other. He lived 3 1/2 hours away from me but what was great was that the job he had he worked 4 days (12 hours shifts though, whew) and had 4 days off and 3 days on and 3 days off. So he would be able to come and see me and spend two days with me. I didn't grow as tired of the phone as he did on the days when we didn't see each other but he didn't care for it, but we would still talk because we wanted to hear from each other.
Man it got to the point where I couldn't take him leaving me when he would come and see me. I would cry every time, even on my way to work, no matter how I tried when it was time for him to go, lol. I would even try to pull little tricks to get him to stay longer by suggesting we go eat a place that he liked or something, lol. Bribery!
But if you're just yourself, the connection will be there. One thing Cancers don't have to worry about with Pisces is that you don't have to put up a front or hide your tender ways or your different way of thinking- we're drawn to that because it allows us to relax and be ourselves. Pisces and Cancer both want the same things- stablility, loyalty, and true love. I personally love how much my Cancer clings to me and I to him because it fits both of our true desires. He has his alone time yes and I do too but we both always seek each other out when we want to be near the other and I am always up for snuggling with him which he likes to do alotttt, lol, but it's so good🙂 I just can't explain it SRG but I do hope if it's meant for you to be with a Pisces woman that you will experience what I mean for yourself🙂
Keco:
I really do hope you find that Cancer that isn't using that charm for harm, lol. The only thing I can say about those types is that they obviously have been hurt in some bad way and now they're acting in ways which keeps them from getting hurt again- they will be the ones who dangle the puppet strings instead of them being the puppet so to speak. Or it could be that these are ones that are just not ready to settle and like the fact that they can play a little before getting serious. I don't know, most Cancers are just too feeling and tender to hurt someone without them having something that have hurt them in the past and turns them into the cold ones- no matter how cold though, they have that softness and love that they are protecting in those shells. Just man, it can be harrrdd to get to it when they're like this.
I really do hope you find that Cancer that isn't using that charm for harm, lol. The only thing I can say about those types is that they obviously have been hurt in some bad way and now they're acting in ways which keeps them from getting hurt again- they will be the ones who dangle the puppet strings instead of them being the puppet so to speak. Or it could be that these are ones that are just not ready to settle and like the fact that they can play a little before getting serious. I don't know, most Cancers are just too feeling and tender to hurt someone without them having something that have hurt them in the past and turns them into the cold ones- no matter how cold though, they have that softness and love that they are protecting in those shells. Just man, it can be harrrdd to get to it when they're like this.
OBPisces, I'm glad you said that because I've always wondered do these type of men not have a soul or heart? How could they could dog out good women without so much as a second thought? Maybe by being players and sluts they don't have to get too close to one woman and that way that can't get hurt but wow they hurt so many in the process of looking out for themselves. I would love to someday mean a positive Cancer man but my heart is too scarred and hurt to give another one a chance 😢 I wish they could only see the destruction that they leave in their paths after playing with so many women's hearts....
It's also a shame because good Cancer men may end up getting turned down because of the rep that the bad ones have. It sucks all around.
It's also a shame because good Cancer men may end up getting turned down because of the rep that the bad ones have. It sucks all around.
i have to agree. pisces women and cancer men are a perfect match in so many areas!
i have to agree. pisces women and cancer men are a perfect match in so many areas!
You know what. Even after reading all these posts about Cancer Men. I still don't understand them! If i am not the one who hurt you. Why take it out on me? I show my love for a person up front! I never am one to misguide a person when it comes to feelings and emotions.
I haven't heard from my Cancer in two months...I don't even care anymore. I love him but I will not chase him.
He never gave me a chance anyway to show him just how much I could love and care for him and that hurts.
I haven't heard from my Cancer in two months...I don't even care anymore. I love him but I will not chase him.
He never gave me a chance anyway to show him just how much I could love and care for him and that hurts.
"Also go to the Leo board the one title Blaahhhh and see what Wheels had to confess, lol.
There's more proof of that Cancer man voodoo working even on a Leo, lol"
you read my thread...*blushes*
i don't understand it. it doesn't go away 😢. so...here i am, finding the answers to all of life's questions on the cancer board. 😛
There's more proof of that Cancer man voodoo working even on a Leo, lol"
you read my thread...*blushes*
i don't understand it. it doesn't go away 😢. so...here i am, finding the answers to all of life's questions on the cancer board. 😛
no one has ever had the power to make me feel like cancers do (not even -gasp!- scorpios). and the attraction is indescribable. it's completely non-verbal, beyond earthly explanation. it's in the eyes, the movement, the touch. it's a kind of emotional intensity that seems exclusive to cancer men.
it makes me wonder if men get the same sensation from cancer women.
whatever the case, it's magnetic. it intrigues and repels me at the same time.
it makes me wonder if men get the same sensation from cancer women.
whatever the case, it's magnetic. it intrigues and repels me at the same time.
Ahh don't blush Wheels, I've invaded many threads🙂
hahahaha
i started this thread for cancer guys to speak for themselves and offer explanations, not have others air their never-ending grievances! hahahahaha 😉
i really think that our actions, at times, are simply completely misinterpreted by others because we do live in our little fantasy worlds where the other person just "knows" what we're thinking... but it's never the case.
i started this thread for cancer guys to speak for themselves and offer explanations, not have others air their never-ending grievances! hahahahaha 😉
i really think that our actions, at times, are simply completely misinterpreted by others because we do live in our little fantasy worlds where the other person just "knows" what we're thinking... but it's never the case.
Do Cancer men play games because they are involved with several women?
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