cappygirl11
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cancerians....so confusing
Posted by cappygirl11exactly why.
I said I'm not ok and he asked why? So I said you should know. Now he has dissappeared again.
I have learnt this the hard way
Never let the other person (be it whosoever) know that he is the reason behind your unhappiness .And we are taking 6 weeks here.
And of all the people,you can't let a dumper think he's that important to you.
*talking
Really is 6 weeks along time to get over someone. We have been together like 5 years. Should I text him
He specifically said. I don't want to be friends when he left.
Maybe he realised he acted on impulse and wants to take it back but doesn't know how.
Maybe he realised he acted on impulse and wants to take it back but doesn't know how.
Posted by cappygirl11No, you got me wrong with that. I certainly won't say 6 weeks is enough time to get over someone. I myself take a very very long time to get over someone I really invested myself emotionally. Takes me months time. What I mean't is that though for you it was "oh only 6 weeks" for him it may have been "6 WEEKS".
Really is 6 weeks along time to get over someone. We have been together like 5 years. Should I text him
And men,especially an ex,don't find it attractive when you are not doing well and especially because of them. It's like a burden nobody likes to deal with. Burden of being responsible for your happiness. I would personally say you shouldn't text him of your now but make sure you appear well,happy and charming the next time he checks back. He's a cancerian so I doubt if he'd disappear so quickly unless they find someone else. It is very likely he'd check back again although maybe after some more time passes. So when he asks "how are you", you really shouldn't throw in an emotional baggage. These guys when in a relationship crave for emotional intimacy and love emotional responses but when not together anymore,they avoid such emotions like plague. He WILL run away even further,trust me on this. Speaking this from my very own experience because my ex gets fumed each time I talk about love,emotions,breakup now. So make sure you give a positive happy image when he texts again. Keep it light and casual. Make sure you both enjoy the conversation. Everyone likes a happy person and he'll surely come back again if you two re-set a positive environment again.
I was gonna ask him on a date. Do u think that is too much
NO NO NO NO NO unless you wanna post "I asked him on a date and he cut me off completely,what can I do now?" someday soon.
It's understandable to feel desperate at this moment but if you act upon it you are doing nothing but killing a possibly salvageable relationship.
This guy clearly told you to not even contact him and you are planning out your date gown already. Come on girl!!
It's understandable to feel desperate at this moment but if you act upon it you are doing nothing but killing a possibly salvageable relationship.
This guy clearly told you to not even contact him and you are planning out your date gown already. Come on girl!!
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
My Bro who is also an emotional water sign says.... He realises what he lost and wants back in.
Also I'm confused cause he clearly said he doesn't want to be friends.
I somehow think he figured out he broke up 6 weeks later
Also I'm confused cause he clearly said he doesn't want to be friends.
I somehow think he figured out he broke up 6 weeks later
Posted by cappygirl11Six weeks is nowhere near enough time. There are like 20 stages of recovering from a breakup after that long of a relationship, you are barely skimming stage 1.
Really is 6 weeks along time to get over someone. We have been together like 5 years. Should I text him
Men don't respond to words, they respond to no contact. You didn't contact him (like he asked) so he popped out of his little crab shell to see what would happen and when you responded with the tinniest bit of emotion he was either A.) satisfied that he still has some sort of effect on you or B.) became a typical crab and scurried back into his shell not ready to deal with the results of him reaching out.
When I broke up with my Cancer he said "did you think i was going to fight for you or something?" and then he drove away. He called me right around a month later and cried and said he didn't want this..he still says that but you know what, he NEVER did anything about it.
Posted by cappygirl11i don't understand why he would do that if he said never contact him again. When the cancer Male I knew said that I Believe he really meant it and I'm currently on week two of not speaking to him after saying I'll never contact him again. I'm surprised yours came back after saying he didn't want you to speak to him again because from what I've seen most just go quiet or not respond and do the disappearing act rather than being vocal about not talking again unless they mean it
After a long relationship with my now ex. And a very problematic last year. We got into a heated argument and it ended up with him saying "this is over I don't want to see or hear from you again. Never contact me.... If i even stop feeling as like i am right now. I will contact u"
So I left. Didn't contact him. Totally dissappeared. Now 6 weeks later i get a message asking how I am. I said I'm not ok and he asked why? So I said you should know. Now he has dissappeared again.
What does he want. Did he expect me to be happy? Am I loosing the plot in my own drama?
Posted by cappygirl11See, from my personal experience with my ex,I can tell that they don't easily disappear. They might but it takes time or if they find someone else. My story with my ex is different because we still talked every single day even though we broke up 6 months ago but some personal academic issue got in and he totally changed since mid july. We barely talk now. I broke my leg 2.5 weeks ago and he checked up on me everyday until I got bit better and told him I still love him. He didnt reply anything negative but I realized he got even more distant. He stopped initiating texts and it was only me initiating the talks the entire week until I decided I've gotta stop. I didn't initiate any text throughout this week even though I really really wanted to talk to him. And today,exactly a week later,he just messaged me few hrs ago asking what am I upto,how am I doing. We exchanged 4-5 messages and I told him "have a great day 🙂" to imply I am cutting off this conversation. But he still continued the talk by asking how is my leg.I replied and that was it. I was friendly but a little aloof and formal with my tone.
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
He will come back to you if you mean something (i'm sure you do) . You just need to keep your emotions and desperation in check.There's a right time for everything but first, it's most important to buck up some self esteem and leave that phone alone and live your life normal. He told you to NOT contact him. Please respect that!
Posted by giaI think for OP it's more than likely the cancer will contact her because of their long history. But I'm just surprised he was so explicit about not wanting to speak and her not contacting him. If he cares he will come back and you need to just leave him to it for now and not message. Live your life.Posted by cappygirl11See, from my personal experience with my ex,I can tell that they don't easily disappear. They might but it takes time or if they find someone else. My story with my ex is different because we still talked every single day even though we broke up 6 months ago but some personal academic issue got in and he totally changed since mid july. We barely talk now. I broke my leg 2.5 weeks ago and he checked up on me everyday until I got bit better and told him I still love him. He didnt reply anything negative but I realized he got even more distant. He stopped initiating texts and it was only me initiating the talks the entire week until I decided I've gotta stop. I didn't initiate any text throughout this week even though I really really wanted to talk to him. And today,exactly a week later,he just messaged me few hrs ago asking what am I upto,how am I doing. We exchanged 4-5 messages and I told him "have a great day 🙂" to imply I am cutting off this conversation. But he still continued the talk by asking how is my leg.I replied and that was it. I was friendly but a little aloof and formal with my tone.
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
He will come back to you if you mean something (i'm sure you do) . You just need to keep your emotions and desperation in check.There's a right time for everything but first, it's most important to buck up some self esteem and leave that phone alone and live your life normal. He told you to NOT contact him. Please respect that!click to expand
Posted by giaI pm'ed youPosted by cappygirl11See, from my personal experience with my ex,I can tell that they don't easily disappear. They might but it takes time or if they find someone else. My story with my ex is different because we still talked every single day even though we broke up 6 months ago but some personal academic issue got in and he totally changed since mid july. We barely talk now. I broke my leg 2.5 weeks ago and he checked up on me everyday until I got bit better and told him I still love him. He didnt reply anything negative but I realized he got even more distant. He stopped initiating texts and it was only me initiating the talks the entire week until I decided I've gotta stop. I didn't initiate any text throughout this week even though I really really wanted to talk to him. And today,exactly a week later,he just messaged me few hrs ago asking what am I upto,how am I doing. We exchanged 4-5 messages and I told him "have a great day 🙂" to imply I am cutting off this conversation. But he still continued the talk by asking how is my leg.I replied and that was it. I was friendly but a little aloof and formal with my tone.
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
He will come back to you if you mean something (i'm sure you do) . You just need to keep your emotions and desperation in check.There's a right time for everything but first, it's most important to buck up some self esteem and leave that phone alone and live your life normal. He told you to NOT contact him. Please respect that!click to expand
Posted by LibWmani replied but it says you disabled private message haha 😛Posted by giaI pm'ed youPosted by cappygirl11See, from my personal experience with my ex,I can tell that they don't easily disappear. They might but it takes time or if they find someone else. My story with my ex is different because we still talked every single day even though we broke up 6 months ago but some personal academic issue got in and he totally changed since mid july. We barely talk now. I broke my leg 2.5 weeks ago and he checked up on me everyday until I got bit better and told him I still love him. He didnt reply anything negative but I realized he got even more distant. He stopped initiating texts and it was only me initiating the talks the entire week until I decided I've gotta stop. I didn't initiate any text throughout this week even though I really really wanted to talk to him. And today,exactly a week later,he just messaged me few hrs ago asking what am I upto,how am I doing. We exchanged 4-5 messages and I told him "have a great day 🙂" to imply I am cutting off this conversation. But he still continued the talk by asking how is my leg.I replied and that was it. I was friendly but a little aloof and formal with my tone.
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
He will come back to you if you mean something (i'm sure you do) . You just need to keep your emotions and desperation in check.There's a right time for everything but first, it's most important to buck up some self esteem and leave that phone alone and live your life normal. He told you to NOT contact him. Please respect that!click to expand
Did you dream about this too?
Posted by giaSorry just enabled it!Posted by LibWmani replied but it says you disabled private message haha 😛Posted by giaI pm'ed youPosted by cappygirl11See, from my personal experience with my ex,I can tell that they don't easily disappear. They might but it takes time or if they find someone else. My story with my ex is different because we still talked every single day even though we broke up 6 months ago but some personal academic issue got in and he totally changed since mid july. We barely talk now. I broke my leg 2.5 weeks ago and he checked up on me everyday until I got bit better and told him I still love him. He didnt reply anything negative but I realized he got even more distant. He stopped initiating texts and it was only me initiating the talks the entire week until I decided I've gotta stop. I didn't initiate any text throughout this week even though I really really wanted to talk to him. And today,exactly a week later,he just messaged me few hrs ago asking what am I upto,how am I doing. We exchanged 4-5 messages and I told him "have a great day 🙂" to imply I am cutting off this conversation. But he still continued the talk by asking how is my leg.I replied and that was it. I was friendly but a little aloof and formal with my tone.
Should I not even ask how he is? Should I be completely quiet?
He will come back to you if you mean something (i'm sure you do) . You just need to keep your emotions and desperation in check.There's a right time for everything but first, it's most important to buck up some self esteem and leave that phone alone and live your life normal. He told you to NOT contact him. Please respect that!click to expand
So basically I need to dissappear again. Does the silence principle apply if he already initiated contact
I'm new to this but I'm a cancer & if this was me its because I thought/think highly of you & I needed those 6 weeks to get over you but because you meant so much too me id come back once I'd healed a bit & try to at least remain friends.
It takes me such a long time to heal from something, but I just need me time to collect my thoughts & can't do that if you're texting me.
I don't like to cut people off but I do when I'm hurting. The only way I can stop someone from contacting me is by saying the above & exactly what he said so I can figure things out.
Cancer female
It takes me such a long time to heal from something, but I just need me time to collect my thoughts & can't do that if you're texting me.
I don't like to cut people off but I do when I'm hurting. The only way I can stop someone from contacting me is by saying the above & exactly what he said so I can figure things out.
Cancer female
Posted by giaThis all the way, my cancerian after 3-4 months just contacted me asking me how I've been and she had a dream I wasn't well. I kept things so short and simple and told her I'm in good spirits and happy and all of that. I have my guard up 100% now, no way am I going to fall into another trap with her.Posted by cappygirl11exactly why.
I said I'm not ok and he asked why? So I said you should know. Now he has dissappeared again.
I have learnt this the hard way
Never let the other person (be it whosoever) know that he is the reason behind your unhappiness .And we are taking 6 weeks here.
And of all the people,you can't let a dumper think he's that important to you.click to expand
Oh no not again! Was just wondering how things were going with you guys. Doesn't sound good. After 5 years it seems he'd have learned to be nicer to you!! Sounds like he really knows how to mess with you at this point...i wouldn't do a damn thing.
Posted by ashley1734I don't think I can understand this part when it comes to cancers. It's the same with my friend. He wants reconciliation but he doesn't want to work at it. I left him about a month ago because he said really rude things to me and never apologized but instead act like it's okay for him to treat me that way. So I left and never initiated contact.Posted by cappygirl11Six weeks is nowhere near enough time. There are like 20 stages of recovering from a breakup after that long of a relationship, you are barely skimming stage 1.
Really is 6 weeks along time to get over someone. We have been together like 5 years. Should I text him
Men don't respond to words, they respond to no contact. You didn't contact him (like he asked) so he popped out of his little crab shell to see what would happen and when you responded with the tinniest bit of emotion he was either A.) satisfied that he still has some sort of effect on you or B.) became a typical crab and scurried back into his shell not ready to deal with the results of him reaching out.
When I broke up with my Cancer he said "did you think i was going to fight for you or something?" and then he drove away. He called me right around a month later and cried and said he didn't want this..he still says that but you know what, he NEVER did anything about it.click to expand
Now he's doing this passive/aggressive thing where he'd purposely walk on a crossroad about the same time I'd head to my gym. But he'd do it so that I only see him walking away crossing the intersection. At first I thought it's a coincidence. But then it happened again and again and again even though I altered the time when I head out to the gym. It's like he's waiting at that intersection for a long time and when he sees me approaching within certain 'safe' distance, he'd cross the street. So it's like stalking except he managed to disguise it as "coincidental passing". But now I'm worried that he'd get hit by cars because he'd just rush and run crossing the traffic-filled street so that he doesn't have to see me (but I'd see his back running off like a frogger crossing the street). I think he's hoping that I'd catch a glimpse of him and follow him to the old gym where we used to work out. But why would I? I don't see any real attempt at apology from him.
Now that doesn't work, I start to receive calls from number I don't recognise and when I pick up and answer the phone, the caller hangs up. This has happened before when we had a fight.
Is it really that hard to just be straight forward for cancers? This "sidestep" thing is not a good thing. I wish I can tell him this. Not only it can endanger his life, to other people it'd come across as stalking. Just because I don't mind it,
Just because I don't mind it, it doesn't mean that if he does it to other people they'd appreciate it. Nor would I appreciate it if it escalates further. Why is it so hard to just approach me and say "Hi, how's things? I want to apologize for.....". FFS. Or even just a simple "Hi".
I asked how he was and he never rePlied
Posted by cappygirl11you never take advises seriously,do you?
I asked how he was and he never rePlied
I do. I just thought I would be polite. Anyways I won't contact him anymore
Posted by giaI promise to take all your advise seriously going forward. So I stay back and wait for him to contact me?Posted by cappygirl11you never take advises seriously,do you?
I asked how he was and he never rePliedclick to expand
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