Cancer's and their respective Birthdays

I would like to know how Cancers reacts if their love one (assuming he/she is really in love)doesn't acknowledge their birthday.

Would they expect a card, present, call, text, etc...... just something—? Or they would not care one way or the other?

This no contact stuff is now embedded into my DNA 🙂 .... almost... went 1.5 years...with no contact from me... but he does the usual Cancer crap... of calling and hanging up..... I gather he is looking for me to chase him.... But No contact is where I sit.

He now knows tho.. that I actually know his exact birthday which is next Monday the 19th...So I guess..

Yes he drives me crazy... just like others have stated... on these boards.

Posted by piranhaparadiise
You've been posting the same shit for the last two years about him...either call him up to tell him to quit it or changes numbers ...sheesh

He's probably doing it to annoy the crap out of you...or maybe it isn't even him ?!! *shockers*

You know ... I find this real funny.... Others have posted their crap about their Cancers' they've been off and on with for 10years plus.... and they do not get the disrespect I have always gotten from DXPnet.

It is him.... I sent him a sweet text in April "Meow Meow Purrrr" .... I was out of town at the time... but saw him the day before I left (Easter Weekend)... We were driving in oposite directions... ended up at a red light practically staring at each other. 😉

Being a Leo... I roar a lotttttttttt... so I thought that the text would be appropriate (short and sweet).... He called me within 10 minutes of me sending it. So to you... I say... you don't have to read my questions 🙂

Most people around here talk about the years of so call relationships with their Cancer guys... can't shake them.. blah blah blah.... but in my so call case... I get crap answers... like yours 😢

Don't bother to read my posts...if you cannot be helpful

Posted by Noosiekins
LOL Love it Catin!! I say piss him off right back! I'm so tempted to send my ex cancer the new Beyonce song lol ON HIS BIRTHDAY!

You know Noosiekins..... I met up with him in March this year at Winners...chance encounter (Sunday)... We talked business... for 10 minutes... and I left him to go back shopping. BTW.. I went to him ...Show no fear..is my motto.

I left the store.. went to my car.. got a copy of I Dream A Dream CD... by Susan Boyle..... Left it on his windshield..and then went on to predict that he would not be at work on Monday..and possibly even on Tuesday. I was correct.. I was also told that he only lasted 1/2 day on the Wednesday... that he looked totally confused.

Now what songs on that CD would affect the emotional Cancer Man... HUM!!!!... Wild Horses, I Dream A Dream, Cry Me A River, You'll See, Proud, End of the World. 😉

It worked like a charm... If you don't know the CD.. Google it.. listen on Youtube. 🙂 It worked like a charm. Got him where it really hurts. 😉

"hehe well I've been seeing a leo for the last 2.5 months... totally love that he's NOTHING like the Crab!!! (he's away for 6 weeks though for work 😢 )"

Noosie... If you don't know the story.. he was my office husband for a year 2007... He was always in my face... He came after me.. NOT the other way around... He disrespected me... and I walked that day...🙂

I have been hitting him over the head with a baseball bat since... He does he usual Crab nonsense... He get another ROAR from me.... lol...

I even told be that he was psychotic... Told him to go back to the bimbo's he can manipulate... OH!!!!... and there is so much more... but he keeps on coming...in his slow but steady crab pace... 😉

Posted by piranhaparadiise
@noosie
I only jumped on Catin because a couple of years ago she said he was calling and hanging and we all gave the same advice...so what I was blunt...

On the music thread where did I jump on anyone — I gave advice to another Pisces

Follow up with who...you never came to me ? Only wineux and my thought when she contacted me I felt it was only for gossip news ...because she had never PM me ever when the Kudos/complaint board was up...infact it was obvious on that board she was annoyed with some of my comments...I'm not stupid I can sense it...but th at's ok...we are all different leave me be and I'll leave you all alone !!!

I deleted my account because I felt it was best to leave it to rest...your point is with that —

Piranhaparadiise.. You do not know what I have done/said to get this guy to go away... But I have.. and have been very blunt about it to him....

NOW CAN WE GET BACK TO THE QUESTION ASKED PLEASE.... I'M SURE... SOME CANCERS OUT THERE CAN ASSIST

SO THE QUESTION IS:

"Cancer's and their respective Birthdays—??"

Out of context...seems to me the majority of participants on the board are women who are either in love,falling out of love,breaking up,heart broken & even happy go lucky somewhere in between...a lot with the same questions who have maybe shared the same thoughts,feelings or hurt one time or another and come here for advice,answers positive critisim even...and yet somewhere on the majority of the threads someone male/female will come along,pass judgement as if they personally know you and what started out to be a curious,sad,positive whatever thread turns into a cat fight...meow..=)

Back to the subject...my cancers bday coming up to...there's one thing he's always done is fit me in or celebrate with me on his bday....I wonder if he just didn't hear from me this year if it would even bother him? I don't think I have the heart to just completely disregard it...but don't want it to seem as an excuse for me to break my silence either...torn...😢

Posted by missscorp
Back to the subject...my cancers bday coming up to...there's one thing he's always done is fit me in or celebrate with me on his bday....I wonder if he just didn't hear from me this year if it would even bother him? I don't think I have the heart to just completely disregard it...but don't want it to seem as an excuse for me to break my silence either...torn...😢

Missscorp... I know how you feel... but I would say... keep your silence... DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR...Based on what you wrote... You and he have taken somekind of time out... or he is your ex at the moment... To me YOU owe him nothing.. at the moment.

Mine has called me 3 to 4 times in the month of July for the last 2 years... Yup.. calls, leave no message.. hangs up... Actually NC was easy.. because I didn't even know he had made the calls until months later... So I guess.. NC.. was easy for me...

This year tho.. changes are taking place... but imo I must maintain my stance of not rewarding bad behavior..regardless of the situation... His BD...is no different... He has made ZERO attempt to have a sit down and talk... or even get together.

After 1.5 years of silence on my part... He finally put stuff into words.. and leaves me with "SOON"... I questioned this as "SOON"... in a crabs life... could be 25 years from now.... and I won't be playing that game... with him or anyonelse.

Stay calm.. and don't reward him... stay the course... Let him come to you.

@C..I'm thinking he starts missing you around that time of year..a little sentimental maybe..no! Not the crab?!!hehe..=)kudos for the silence...why give in unless they're willing to give...meet you halfway at least..I think silence on my behalf is fitting considering I'm in the midst of "trying" to move on..it would just open me up to weakness..I know my will be heavy should I not contact him on his special day but then he's made my heart heavy for awhile now...tit for tat...and then again its nothing like that at all..😢

I dated a cancer...our birthdays were 10 days apart.
When we broke up I received a poem years later and part of it said...

"...I hate that I had the worst birthday without you.
...I was just sad
because it was my first birthday without you.
It felt like a cursed birthday without you
and I??ve felt that hurt since those first days without you..."

:/

HOWEVER, when it's DONE...it's DONE! If you've been silent, remain silent! It's tough to remain silent and they WANT to hear from you, but tricks are for a circus poodles and games are for children!

Good luck! May the force be with you! 😉

Send him this:



That oughta brighten his day! 😉

My bf's birthday was on the 5th. He claimed that he wouldn't have cared if I did anything special for it or not.

The day before he was acting like a spoiled brat. We share the car and I needed him to help me get the ingredients for the food items I was to make for his party the next day. He refused and threw a fit because he had made other plans even though I had informed him a few days in advance. So, needless to say, I didn't make a damn thing that I was going to.

We went out hours before the party the next day to buy a few items. Everything was pre-made and I only bought a few things like chips and soda. He practically sulked the entire time. I barely acknowledged his birthday (it was a double birthday/independence day party) and focused on the party in general. He saw me say "happy birthday" to the other person and sulked some more. He then came up behind me, rested his head on my shoulder, and I could tell he was wanting his share of the attention. That is when I whipped out the bottle of champagne I was saving just in case he decided to stop being a jackass.

So, yes, at least in my cancer's case, he did care. Quite a bit. I find them to be far too sentimental to not care. Each birthday is another chance to make lasting memories.

Posted by ninjamu

So, yes, at least in my cancer's case, he did care. Quite a bit. I find them to be far too sentimental to not care. Each birthday is another chance to make lasting memories.

Thank you for this..... I'm really hoping you are right... because from what I know.... my cancer hasn't had a good BD in a few years..... He calls me a few times after 7pm... but never leaves a message .... I gather from this.. that he thinks of me a lot on that special day 😉

In previous years .. he did not know if I knew when his BD was... but this year... I acknowledge knowing back in March in one of my infamous e-mails to him.

Knowing the man...I would expect him to want somekind of acknowledgement this year.... He hasn't earned it... So NC.. is status quo

I plan on not answering my phone that day...and to keep really really busy. To me... if he wants acknowledgement he needs to MU.. which he has not. Scared little boy 🙂

Hey Winneaux... Let's try this again... Would not accept my response complete... 😢

I suspect mine is no. 2.... because he has always called me on his BD.. after 7pm.. which indicates to me that he's staying away from everyone.. but I guess I have been on his mind hence he is peeking out as you noted... He did not really know until this year tho.. that I even knew his BD was the 19th.... I kinda figured it out on my own..due to our strong connection. My BD is August 19 go figure.

This year tho... he got confirmation that I knew.... but what he doesn't know is that I just got real confirmation of my assumption a few months ago. 😉

It seems to me... although no Cancer Guys/Gals have come forward yet to confirm... That Cancer BD's are very special/important to them and acknowledgement of same is also very important... Without it... More shelling will take place lol 🙂

Posted by missscorp
@C..I'm thinking he starts missing you around that time of year..a little sentimental maybe..no! Not the crab?!!hehe..😢

I was just re-reading these posts... and you made me do a little research

Back in 2007... I went on a road trip with my sister... Left on the Thursday the 19th it seems. My Cancer guy.. had rented a cottage or something up north.. and I was on my way to Sudbury.

Because, we needed to bankrupt the company and start over again... I was speaking to him many times on the Thursday... reminding him to do this that... Or I've been thinking again... blah.. blah.

On the Friday... I was leaving Subbury mid Morning... and made my last call to him.. Got V-mail.. On Monday I would have an new cell phone and number and I was about to go through many many dead zones... I just said that if I don't hear from you within 10 minutes... We will have to talk on Monday... He called me within 5 minutes 😉

So you are right.... We were very very close in 2007.. and I'm sure he remembers every detail... including the fact that we spoke a lot... around his BD that year. I did not know at the time it was his BD tho... I'm a romantic at heart... and would instinctly say... Love You... in jest at first... and later on... I actually did mean it.

So thank you for bringing this up... I had not put the timeline together until now. 🙂

@wineaux...I would say my crab fits right into number two...with the exception of shelling around his bday...likes to celebrate..however he is really low key with the ifts & the attention...and its so the scorpion way..just like you said...someone rub me the wrong way and I will cut you completely out of my life forever, as if you never existed..dropped like a bad habbit...like 2nd nature almost, not so easy with the crab...dammmit

@C...I'm sure he too remember the details...its funny when your able to piece together times of the past and see a pattern...maybe coincidence or something very significant hmmm

Ok.. I've survived the day.. but Mr. Cancer.. is still on game mode.... imo

I have never ever received Unavailable calls on my cells... Not ever....and the fact that I got two days in a row.. are very suspect.. imo

July 18,2011 6:17 PM Missed Call on cell from someone who is unavailable.
July 19,2011 9:24 PM Missed Call on cell from someone who is unavailable.

came in on cell line 416-252-0153 7/19/2011 3:01 PM This is a skype connection apparently

My Cancer is very computer savy... unlike me... lol ... however today.. I avoided all calls.. which upon investigating led me to some skype thingy... I'm sure you computer savy people out there.. would understand... and maybe shed some light on this crap..and how it works....for us less sophisticated dames. 😉

Today was his BD... and I just knew he would play MFG with me.. even at this late date... I did what I needed to do.. As he did to hide imo the fact that he is pissed with moi.... lol... Not my problem but his as he cannot come clean with his needs and expectations... Scared little boy.. imo...

Posted by catin
Ok.. I've survived the day.. but Mr. Cancer.. is still on game mode.... imo

I have never ever received Unavailable calls on my cells... Not ever....and the fact that I got two days in a row.. are very suspect.. imo

July 18,2011 6:17 PM Missed Call on cell from someone who is unavailable.
July 19,2011 9:24 PM Missed Call on cell from someone who is unavailable.

came in on cell line 416-252-0153 7/19/2011 3:01 PM This is a skype connection apparently

My Cancer is very computer savy... unlike me... lol ... however today.. I avoided all calls.. which upon investigating led me to some skype thingy... I'm sure you computer savy people out there.. would understand... and maybe shed some light on this crap..and how it works....for us less sophisticated dames. 😉

Today was his BD... and I just knew he would play MFG with me.. even at this late date... I did what I needed to do.. As he did to hide imo the fact that he is pissed with moi.... lol... Not my problem but his as he cannot come clean with his needs and expectations... Scared little boy.. imo...

OK... I know you all think I'm crazy... So be it... I know that this is him... playing MFG still/again. Just saying...

So my plan today was should the Unavailable call or Skype Call come in today.... Well I would answer and immediately hang up..... Hence letting this SOB know that I know it is him... and I'm not playing. 😢

I've told him on upteem occassions to be a man...or be a wimp... and that whatever he decides (his choice always)... is OK fine with me.

Well the Unavailable call came in... and I did exactly what I decided to do... I hit the green button on my cell then hit the Red one pronto. 🙂

Back to his shell he goes... lol.

I deserve better then this crappola...... I had to send him a message... which said Grow UP... arrrggggggg!!!

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
HOWEVER, when it's DONE...it's DONE! If you've been silent, remain silent! It's tough to remain silent and they WANT to hear from you, but tricks are for a circus poodles and games are for children!

Good luck! May the force be with you! 😉

I was looking for this quote earlier... but assumed.. that tiki33 had posted it.... This is exactly.. how I feel at the moment.... Thank you.

The crab told me last year that he gets pesimistic around his birthday. He says he prefers to receive money instead of gifts that don't fit him. Maybe it is a sensitivity thing? receiving gifts that he doesn't like would mean for him that people around him don't care so much about him?

AngelicVirgo, regarding money vs useless gift, it's a practical thing. i think a gift at all is interpreted as caring.

Sirinka_moon: Birthday Card... Fricken halarious!

I have been away for over 10 days... however my cell has been on... full time... I have NOT received any Unavailable or Skype calls since the 20th. His birthday was the 19th.. I noticed tho when I was away.. that the last Unavailable call which I answered and promptly hung up on... is now registering over 300 minutes. arrrgggggg How is that possible—? 😢

I may just send him the bill... lol....

While I was away.. another suspect call came in first thing in the morning... Once I answered.. the caller hung up... How long can these game continue—?

I did send him one of my colourful e-mails after the last Unavailable calls came in... Heck I have nothing to lose... and everything to gain. I have been so totally consistent in kicking his sorry butt to the curb... why would I stop now. 😉

They say the one who has the least to lose holds the power... Well folks.. I have nothing to lose... I want what I want.. A REAL MAN.... NOT A child dressed like a man.. that plays childish games.. and is so afraid of spending a few hours with me.. sigh!!!!!!

I actually asked him to find someonelse to play with... OH.. and So much more... but hey.. I have been feeling so reckless ... that I don't care..anymore... .. that it is fitting...

I said that I trust he will not bother me again... by contacting me.. unless he is willing to have a real conversation to discuss our mutual want/needs.... OK.. I said this before to him... He just refuses to listen.. I guess... So Yup .. imo.. he will be back..at some point...

Back to the shell he went.... However while I was away .. I did send him a nice text stating "Regardless of our struggles... that I was very proud of what he has accomplished. "

I'm just sorry I was not there to witness/share his success with him.... sigh!!!!

My BD.. is on the 19th of August... I do not believe he knows this... So my expectations... are non existent... which is OK... Life will always go on... and I will always have love for him.

I don't know what to tell about cancers and birthdays, all I know was its not worth to play their games.

My cancer ex and I had stopped talking after he was stupid. I didn't talk to him but was expecting at least a happy birthday when mine came around in April. Only since he is a big stickler for wishing people a happy birthday even people he isn't friends with. I got nothing and I called him and told him off in a nice way how that its pretty low to play games.

He apologized and gave me a buttload of excuses. And he sent me a bday email after midnight (technically not my bday) and I called him on it too. After schooling him that after midnight isn't my bday but thanks for trying he said sorry.

Needless to say on his bday even though we are not in the best terms right now I wished him a happy birthday to show him how to be the better person(Sorry Taurus ego showing through).

So I say don't play into the games and if it annoys you tell him so so he can cut it out. And if he doesn't school him on how he should act with you.

Posted by Applecoma
I don't know what to tell about cancers and birthdays, all I know was its not worth to play their games.

My cancer ex and I had stopped talking after he was stupid. I didn't talk to him but was expecting at least a happy birthday when mine came around in April. Only since he is a big stickler for wishing people a happy birthday even people he isn't friends with. I got nothing and I called him and told him off in a nice way how that its pretty low to play games.

He apologized and gave me a buttload of excuses. And he sent me a bday email after midnight (technically not my bday) and I called him on it too. After schooling him that after midnight isn't my bday but thanks for trying he said sorry.

Needless to say on his bday even though we are not in the best terms right now I wished him a happy birthday to show him how to be the better person(Sorry Taurus ego showing through).

So I say don't play into the games and if it annoys you tell him so so he can cut it out. And if he doesn't school him on how he should act with you.

Yeah AP.... I'm been trying to school him... for years now.... He just continues to fail the grade. 😢 We have been at a stalemate due to his continued BS.

Being a Leo... he has heard my ROAR loud and clear. I want the man I fell in love with .... not the child he has morphed into since my departure. 😉