Push and pull. How real are Cancers?

If Cancers are constantly having mood swings, then how real are they at any given moment? What I mean is if their mood switches and they happen to feel nostalgic and pull you in during that phase, exactly how genuine/honest is it if they end up pushing you away when the clock stirkes 12 and another change of mood takes place?

FUCK!

I'd love to know! I honestly think you need to take what they say with a grain of salt.

K, I'm no expert but I have Cancer moon and some days I'm feeling it more than others. In general, I'd say, if someone's "feelin it" most of the time, thats what it is (the rest is just moods). I'm also dating a Cancer and dont buy into that "they disappear for weeks at a time stuff". They 'shell', sure, but not for long periods of time if they're really interested - maybe for a few hours or a day at the most but when they care they keep in touch - even if its just a lil "check-in". Thats been my experience anyhoo.....

Posted by cancerguy
FUCK!

+ 1
+ Fuck that shit

@ MiaSangria, every couple months, he pulls me as though he wants to be with me and when confronted with what he wants, he says he was just feeling nostalgic.

Well, all is settled now. Good luck! 🙂

Thank you all for your thoughts. He'll make it clear one way or another with his messages that he wants to be with me, yet when confronted, he gives me the nostalgia speech and all of this takes place every few months. Disappearing either physically or creating the distance and then coming back into my life and coming closer. He was all about protecting me and his family when we were together. I know he still loves me even though we aren't together anymore. I guess I'm hurt and confused to why this takes place between us when it could be simply one way or the other. On or completely off. I'm also confused to why he wouldn't consider my emotions regarding all of this when he knows it hurts me. Do I simply not take him seriously and ignore his actions and things he says or attempts in contacting from now on?

Posted by Claire
It depends on how 'fake' the individual is from day to day, obviously!

If something is 'real', that doesn't mean it can't change to something else that's 'real'. Things and people change, real or not.

If he said he doesn't really want to be with you and was just feeling nostalgic, then there's your answer.

Hi Claire, thank you for your feedback. Things and people do change, although the pattern isn't about a person changing their mind like how the average person changes. It's push pull push pull push pull push pull push and on and on.........
And when feeling nostaligic?? That sure fools me! Especially when he directly writes or says he wants to be with me with so much passion and emotion and then bam, the pattern repeats.

Cancer emotions are REAL.

They just hide or go silent when they are nervous/afraid/angry/insert negative emotional feeling here.

Just like REAL crabs do.

Trust me, I know lots from experience!

Posted by Scubafish
Cancer emotions are REAL.

They just hide or go silent when they are nervous/afraid/angry/insert negative emotional feeling here.

Just like REAL crabs do.

Trust me, I know lots from experience!

So how can you tell whether it's ^^^ or if they are dangling a carrot in front of you and leading you on/giving you false hope?

@rosepetal...strike one! I think non-cancers have been banned from ever saying push/pull on the cancer board?? And you said it numerous times! Now what?! Teehee!

Posted by treefrogger

Posted by Rosepetals

If Cancers are constantly having mood swings, then how real are they at any given moment? What I mean is if their mood switches and they happen to feel nostalgic and pull you in during that phase, exactly how genuine/honest is it if they end up pushing you away when the clock stirkes 12 and another change of mood takes place?

what's your sign rosepetals?

the mood swings that you see with a cancer are real. it may not be as consistent as earth signs, but it doesn't make them less real.

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I am a confused Pisces who is trying to wrap my head around how a person can feel hot and cold hot and cold hot and cold consistently about someone, unless their hotness isn't all that genuine or is a matter of dangling a carrot.

Posted by missscorp
@rosepetal...strike one! I think non-cancers have been banned from ever saying push/pull on the cancer board?? And you said it numerous times! Now what?! Teehee!

Oooopsi. I'm sorry. Does hot and cold work?

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Posted by missscorp
@rosepetal...strike one! I think non-cancers have been banned from ever saying push/pull on the cancer board?? And you said it numerous times! Now what?! Teehee!

hehehehe.

water signs are exempt from the ban. 😄

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Nevermind on the ooopsi... I guess I'm safe.😄

@treefrogger...who knew?!Hmmm...I like this thread!

Ok guys someone has to help with this push and pull thing. Aqua man here and not really into mind games when comes to flirt/relationships. I fell for and chasing this cancerian woman but she's probably doing the push pull on me. Staff like she asked for the first date but when some time later along the line I asked her to be my girls she says let's get to know each other first, she responds immediately to my daily messages but rarely initiates talk, kisses with passion but plays the busy card (ok she's busy but if you want to make it work you make up some time) so it feels like I'm the one trying and just today she updated her online profile where I met her from! I have hold back on messaging for last few days taking opportunity from her last response that she will be ultra busy this week (out of town) so I said ok we catch up when we catch up..no response yet and the profile update. I was thinking of send irregularly messages maybe once a week but I start to suspect she's not a typical cancerian woman. I've read that they can also lie and cheat but haven't met any cancerian person like that, they all fall in the same "sensitive" category. Does the pull push work with cancerian women or she will think I'm not interested and close herself in the shell?

Posted by SeraphCuteness
We are very genuine 🙂

Lol this thread is way long ago tho, SeraphCuteness (geez, I typed only Seraph, knowing there's another user actually named Seraph, lol). How did you even find this, hehe

Bumped it..what do you mean 🙂

Heeeeeelp

Hi @Tas2017

I read your other post and can relate to your situation since I too am talking to a very confusing Aqua guy!

Do you want to exchange notes privately? 🙂

Gladly..check your inbox 🙂

hi i think we are dating the same guy. literally.

I just posted a question a second ago , it's about 3 pages long and probably not the best grammar but if you have the time

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-for-3-months-ruined-my-life-for-the-last-4-years-and-still-going-help-8156996/?checkpg=1

and if you figured it out and have any idea please help me, you don't even need to read it all. a few sentences from each paragraph will tell you're we're in the same place.

i might be a little deeper into in than you though. I almost wanna say, if you haven't fallen in love yet, save yourself . i really would even want to meet you in person and be astrology friends

i forgot to answer your question.

i may seem a mess but if i know anything by now, react only when he starts it. the more space you can give him while maintaining your happiness the better this relationship will turn out.

theres a trick though, you can sense when they feel a little insecure, when they start become unsure how you are feeling about them , you need to reassure him.

Until you know for sure they love you and about to put a ring on it, keep on finding you own happiness while you are with him. you need a sane place to go to when he is being crabby. Because if you go to him looking for happiness when he's crabby , you'll come out with bitterness

wait , this is 6 years old? I'm so new to this site. man, i doubt she'll respond , i really thought we connected. my virgo self wanna cry

Posted by MagicMona
why deal with anyone's mood swings in the first place? it's like kowtowing to a child who constantly throws tantrums. some act as if people have to put up with their shit in order to be with them, but that's the best way to end up lonely af.

This!

Because cancer totally worths it 🙂 Besides once she starts trusting you she is much more open and easier for you to manage the mood swings if you really like her.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
i forgot to answer your question.

i may seem a mess but if i know anything by now, react only when he starts it. the more space you can give him while maintaining your happiness the better this relationship will turn out.

theres a trick though, you can sense when they feel a little insecure, when they start become unsure how you are feeling about them , you need to reassure him.

Until you know for sure they love you and about to put a ring on it, keep on finding you own happiness while you are with him. you need a sane place to go to when he is being crabby. Because if you go to him looking for happiness when he's crabby , you'll come out with bitterness

Thanks for the insight, mine is a cancer woman though 🙂 I know what you say and it's a little early as we're not officially together yet. However judging from my ex-cancer of 3 years relationship, she was almost always open (still needed the reassurance) only time she went to her shell was when she was annoyed (not when angry but also when just annoyed to something little) with me. Then I noticed she was going to her close friends for comfort and they played a big part in her coming back to me as I was constantly apologetic/reassuring (ok it was my fault I admit) and although she wanted to believe be she was almost always coming back after her friends telling her to relax, I'm a good guy etc.