Confusing Cancer girl. Advice Needed.

I'm a Leo man. Not typically into this astrology but I need some advice. I have a situation with a Cancer female and I feel like she's so distant. I met her 2 summers ago I liked her, but she is kind of weird. She waited to have sex with me, but we did a few times. I got very frustrated because one day she was practically in love with me the next day she hated me. SHe would push me away and after a while, I got a girlfriend, but we broke up. The cancer girl was pretty upset about it I guess, and the last time I saw her I realized how much she really does like me. Last year, i got really jealous because she was also talking to another guy, they weren't serious but it angered me. This year though, I'm not really jealous if she talks to anyone, I'm not really sure what she does because she has been going out a lot but she says she has only been with me and I believe her. I don't understand her, she goes from one extreme to the next in a sort of bipolar-ish way. I don't have the same feelings for her as she does for me but I can't stop thinking about her. I haven't talked to her in about a month but I did see her recently. I know she is kind of shy she barely answered my calls when I used to call so I stopped. One time I called just for the hell of it and I was shocked she picked up. She has done a few things for me and invited me on a trip that someone else was paying for so I didn't go because it was at someone else's expense. She told my friend she was over me but I don't know if I believe it because of this look she was giving me the last time I saw her. One time she said she was crying because she wanted it to work between us and it wouldn't. She says weird things like she will do things depending on her mood and I'm like wtf. One time when she got mad at me she told me she hated me and then an hour later she told me she was in love with me I laughed like this girl is a character! I know she only said it so I would say I loved her back. I don't feel the same way but there is something about her that makes me still think of her. Are they always this confusing, sometimes she is so bubbly I think she is on drugs. Is this typical of them??

"Are they always this confusing?"
Yup. It can get pretty emotional, irrational and then the "F" bombs drops.

When Cancers get into their "emotional whirl", step back and let it ride.
It may take a minute or two for Cancers to come out of their shell after an episode, or they may need a little coaxing.
Depending on what pissed them off.
They say that Cancers emotions are like the 'moon', we have numerous cycles.

No. Not all of us are bi-polar.... ;}
No. Not all of us are on drugs...hhaaaa lol.

Thanks. She is such a smart woman, very intelligent and beautiful. I just think she is so different, when I met her I didn't really realize. But now, I see she has much more to her. I kinda feel like I can't talk to her though. The last girl I was with was a Sag and we shared the same sense of humor. With the cancer girl, sometimes we do sometimes we don't and she said she was hurt that I can't talk to her so she was leaving? I'm like wtf! Yea she is a very intense girl. So many changes and finally I stopped responding altogether so we haven't talked. She's not the most direct woman, and when she is I'm not even sure what to think lol. She said she cries easily and I didn't really believe her, I didn't know what to expect from a cancer girl i guess

Oh yeah, she can never keep her hands off me when we are together lol. At first I thought she was using me for sex, but I see she really did like me, I am just confused she is a very strange girl. I can't really put my finger on why I can't stop thinking about her.

Cancer's won't use someone they care about for sex. It's just not in us.

You can't stop thinking about her because us Cancers are very intuitive. We can pick up and sense your feelings. (for the most part) So this is an advantage of ours... We are a water sign, and this works in many ways. We can encompass and almost 'wrap' ourselves around you.

Leos and Cancers are a wonderful mix actually. Leos are very dominant but endearing. Cancers loved to be domninated with an iron fist at times, but that iron first better have a velvet glove on it. We hate being TOLD what to do, but nicely asked with a soft push works well 🙂 A Cancer woman will stroke the ever growing ego of the Leo man.

With the right adjustments... it can be lovely 🙂

Maybe, I'm really not sure. She told me she loved me and I didn't say it back. The first time I was seriously thinking this girl is nuts because of her extreme changes going from literally saying she hated me to being in love with me. It made me smile, and I laughed. The second time she said it I said nothing and actually something bad happened where I think she was hurt. I stopped talking to her altogether and I'm not sure what to do. She said she was over me. She is very hard to figure out. I feel like a jerk for not responding to her anymore, especially after we had slept together because I am not that type of guy, but I am not sure. How am I supposed to know where I stand with her when she changes so much and says good things one day and bad things the next? I will admit I have plenty of girls to choose from, but her distance and push pull or whatever u call it is intriguing, but very frustrating! How do I deal with this?

Cause she is a hot n crazy complex bitch. I got a cancer rising, sounds like me. Cancer women rule!

As a Cancer, there are times I entertain myself. Meaning I try out feelings and thoughts. I can be shy and then not shy and say exactly how I am feeing. Deep down I am usually aware of how I feel about my guy and quite able to be a chameleon.

Like another poster said, we like a partner who is able to be forceful with velvet gloves. We also like the chase so don't totally expose yourself in a clingy way. Be honest to the fullest, but let us come to you at times and for heavens sake be sure of what you want! We are not that difficult and will usually be aware it's "just a mood" we are in. Let us have it and if begin to come across irritated then you are asking to many questions. Just trust us and let us show our feelings as they happen.

Cancer girls are for the guys who love a challenge.. Good thing I Love challenges Hah!

Xoxo Yeah, it's very trying. lol

Should I wait for her then? It's been 2 weeks since I've seen her. Do u think it's best to distance ourselves from each other for a while, and then go back when we have both had times to ourselves? Not really sure what to think

Have you tried to contact her recently?

Have a plan ready to go out and about or plan something for home, in case she responds.
It wouldn't hurt to grab some flowers and a smile.... ;}

Posted by Evan71
Maybe, I'm really not sure. She told me she loved me and I didn't say it back. The first time I was seriously thinking this girl is nuts because of her extreme changes going from literally saying she hated me to being in love with me. It made me smile, and I laughed. The second time she said it I said nothing and actually something bad happened where I think she was hurt. I stopped talking to her altogether and I'm not sure what to do. She said she was over me. She is very hard to figure out. I feel like a jerk for not responding to her anymore, especially after we had slept together because I am not that type of guy, but I am not sure. How am I supposed to know where I stand with her when she changes so much and says good things one day and bad things the next? I will admit I have plenty of girls to choose from, but her distance and push pull or whatever u call it is intriguing, but very frustrating! How do I deal with this?

*Red Flag* She told you that she loved you TWICE and you never said it back? Did she tell you that she was hurt and had to leave after those two times? I don't know about everyone else, but as far as a Cancer woman with pretty good LTR sort of relationship experience; saying "ILY" is a pretty big step. Considering how much it takes for us Cancers to actually come out of our shell just to show someonethat we like them; those three words are not thrown around by any means.

She told you that you had hurt her. She most like it ultimatley hurt from that. Cancers absolutely need their love and admiration reciprocated. Not in a clingy way; but most definetly in an appreciative way. And the last thing we want to know is that we are in love with someone who only 'likes' us. I don't know the aspects of your relationship - but I will tell you a secret.

A little bit of special induvidual attention goes a long long way with us. Send her flowers to her work with an inside joke, that only you two would know, written in the card. She will melt.

Thanks a lot. She is definitely a challenge she is known for it. When I first met her a couple of guys kind of chuckled like 'good luck with that' because they had never gotten anywhere with her. I was really impressed because when we first fooled around, she seemed like she was really enjoying it, but yet she still maintained a lot of self control. I definitely want a challenging woman, and I have turned down plenty of girls for making it too easy for me. I think she has been hurt a lot now that I think about it because she has let me in, and definitely only a select few guys are allowed. She has pulled this several times, so I honestly didn't think too much into it. One instance that comes to mind is when she told me she missed me and I didn't say it back so she said she was done with me. At first I thought she was really overreacting, but then, I realized she just does it all the time don't worry about it. I guess this time she was serious though

Also, the last time I saw her, she was very bubbly, got a bit snappy at the end of the night because of something minor that happened but no big deal, overall she was very cheerful hence why I thought she was on drugs lol. She didn't say bye to me though when I left and we haven't contacted each other.

This chick sounds like my twin lol. Cancer women are bitter sweet.

Well Evan, seeing that I'm also a Seattle Native helping out a Brother in need I say let the hot and cold girl go...but who am I kidding; having a challenge and a girl who throws them at you can be quite addicting so GO FOR IT SOME MORE!

Hahaha I like that! I think I will!

Will do lol

Posted by Evan71
Thanks. She is such a smart woman, very intelligent and beautiful. I just think she is so different, when I met her I didn't really realize. But now, I see she has much more to her. I kinda feel like I can't talk to her though. The last girl I was with was a Sag and we shared the same sense of humor. With the cancer girl, sometimes we do sometimes we don't and she said she was hurt that I can't talk to her so she was leaving? I'm like wtf! Yea she is a very intense girl. So many changes and finally I stopped responding altogether so we haven't talked. She's not the most direct woman, and when she is I'm not even sure what to think lol. She said she cries easily and I didn't really believe her, I didn't know what to expect from a cancer girl i guess

Part of the issue/matter could be that you and her are like many people that come in here in that many people that post inquiries are very young, very very young and are essentially going through the beginnings of many phases which are just initial and with no real evidence of maturity > it shows with her emotions and you might just have a kink, I don't know you but I'm just saying - which is really no problem the kink or whatever but if relationships are basically new to young people then emotional trauma would be a natural albiet basically harmless byproduct.

Not to forget the flip which is relationships can be a thrill also so there.

Cancer girls are old fashioned...she probably wants the guy to be the initiator, etc etc...

I always had good chemistry with Leo Males...the one problem though which always prevented us from getting together is the Leo Pride---they never admitted to me ONCE that they liked me, when they showed all the signs, and mutual friends would tell me the truth. 😢