Dating and mental illness

So the cancer I am interested in has just confessed to me that they're not in the right headspace for a relationship, as in the past month they've been having numerous panic attacks and some serious anxiety. But she's down to hang out and get to know me. We meet before the recent problems and really connected, I genuinely like this girl and I want to stick around regardless of her anxiety. Wheb it began there would be mega waits for replies to my texts like 12-24 hours, at the end of the week shed apologise and now it's come out about her anxiety. Also I should mention that the last three times we've tried to hang out have been rescheduled due to family commitments, Uni work etc

I have a huge dillmena where I don't want to push her away by being too up her grills but I also want to support her and prove that she can rely on me. The last thing I sent her was a picture of a cute puppy with a message "hoping you're feeling better, hopefully this helps!" And she didn't respond. That was almost a week ago. Also quite uncertain if this is because of her mental illness or if she's just not keen at all. Should I chase or give her a longer break or give up all together?

Most important is to not be a pressure, and especially to be genuine and trustworthy. If you don't follow up to whatever expectation you made her have from you, it will hurt her and could make it worse. Possibly she'll blame you afterward.

But be careful with promises and the expectations you give her, as people with problems can take them more heavily because they suffer and usually need more or less from you than you might expect.

And most importantly.. Don't expect anything from her, it's hard I know but she'll feel more pressured while she already doesn't have space for that. But once again, don't make her have expectations of you either, because that's something she could become stressed about too. Leave it open

^^ yes to whatever risesafterall said.

If you are ready to invest all your time with her... Maybe someday in future she may suddenly need you and you should be available to her. That way it can work. You can never know what anxiety can do. If you are capable or ready to put everything aside, drop everything - when she will need you and be there, only then take this further. Otherwise...it's very risky to put your hands into.

And...if you have eternal patience to handle everything gently.

You should know if you can put so much effort...and just support her, come what may.

Just be a friend without any expectations. But frankly, i think you need to care for yourself. Its not being selfish but being practical. I have been through a similar situation and there are instancss wherein goodness can be taken for geanted. If ahe is being upfront with regards to her anxiety - think about it... Are you cut out to handle the same on a long term basis? Be practical!

I ended up marrying a man that was bi-polar and it didn't end up well ... I will save you the horror replay ... believe me - that sort of thing is so very - very hard and it takes it's toll on everyone ... if you want to be her friend, then just be her friend and stop pushing for more because she is not capable of giving you that due to whatever it is that she is dealing with ...

I'd rather give it a break unless I want to welcome mental illness into my life.
You can always check up in a month to know how's that going. If she's so dear to you, let her know she can count on you and reach you whenever she wants. If she doesn't want you in your life, no amount of trying is gonna change that.