Posted by Leonessa
I don't know where else I can seek advice or some relief. I just need to tell you what I have been through and I need your input. I met this cancer guy online who is 2 years older than me. He kept sending me messages everyday all day long for a month. Then we met. Oh well I had intamacy with him. We contiued to see each other for a month. Couple of times a week. He cooked me dinners, watched a movie cuddling me. I really started to feel something for him. I offered to clean his apartment, I cooked for him, I bought him little gifts etc. I was so caring, easy going and head over heels in love. One night I drank a little and I told him I am in love with him. He didn't reply back. I had asked something from a friend of his from Netherlands. He told me that he told his friend to buy it for me. But the next day he stopped talking to me, he stopped answering my calls or replying my messages. I am not sure if he is doing this because he realized that my feelings are intense and I need to calm down. Or maybe he just saw me as a hook up although he didn't behave so. Maybe I just need to move on. We havent talked for 4 days but he didnt unfriend me on facebook and I am still on his contact list on his phone.
I am feeling upset and heartbroken. I dont know what to do, I cant figure out what he is planning. I need your opinion.
Posted by leo48
ok so Friday I wouldn't fulfill this fetish for him because it just seemed extreme. so he tried to manipulate me, he started lying to get me to do it. then I made him mad un intentionally (I swear) I told him I knew he would get mad if I told him that I really didn't want to do it. and he said "oh so you made me mad on purpose and I said no way I would never do that. Not on purpose. and he said your lying and I said no im serious he said he would ignore me and act like I never existed if I didn't do it. I said fine then im still not doing it. he said no. I said bye I love you and he said stop and do what I said and I said y and he said because he said so. I said no and I didn't txt back. now today he is ignoring me! How unfair he totally blamed me!!! I would never do anything like that to him. not even try to manipulate him. I was so surprised. he has manipulated me before but I never noticed but my friends did. but now I see because this time it was way to obvious. is he really gonna ignore me or is just a game. does he want me to chase him idk ?!? I hate mind games.
Posted by Tubabye89
He did break up with me because he said he wasn't happy. I no longer have hope because he did unfriend me and block me. I can't stand him so freaking petty. Funny thing is that he has another girl already lol
The relationship was all a joke. I hate cancer guys.
Posted by beautifuldayPosted by JBG
Why did he break up with you?
He has a very different life style than me. He has tons of friends and goes out all the time and wanted me to go out with him all the time even though he would never pressure me but it was there underneath. I'm was always studying for my MBA plus working and when i had free time i wanted to watch a movie or sleep.
Plus he's got some emotional issues. I think he always felt that he's not good enough for me. Actually also he's very negative and seems to think that all realtioships fail eventually. Does that make sense?click to expand
Posted by gia
I really wish you aren't right @thinktoomuch but I highly fear you are. I have read so much about all this,trying to decipher his behavior. B says "you have to be very very patient for these men if you want to win them back.They take a lot of time to come out of their shell. They will slowly poke their head out and repeat until they feel safe and secure.They want consistency.They may say things to test you" and C says "he's just using you to move on,that's it. No reconciliation happening.Not possible"
My head has been spinning. A big part of me hates me now for loving this person so much in such a way that a year has passed and i feel exactly the same as i did 2 yrs ago. I have been way too hard on myself for having messed up by betraying his trust. He said "its not about not overlooking your mistakes.Its about not being able to feel the same again" and I,in my stupid head,thought that maybe if we stay connected and have him slowly get out of his shell and make him realize that the reason why we brokeup is a reason which doesn't have any scope of being repeated again.Once he realizes how much i genuinely love him then he'll be back because I know for sure that the emotional connection is what i need the most for us to happen. I read that one has to be very patient because the process of winning a cancerian back is a long long process and I have been even willing to wait for him. Things were good even after we brokeup,you know. Two months after we brokeup he confessed he still had feelings for me and we made love.He said he still loves me but has trust issues.Then his academic failure happened and he returned changed.The talks reduced and so did the quality of the talks reduced but he would still be very sensitive towards me although emotionally detached. But i hated that change in him so i kept asking him emotional questions like "why dont we talk anymore""why do you let us connect anymore" "will we ever talk like before again" etc etc which would highly pisss him off and annoy him to the core.Even 3 months ago he said i am his long term investment.He is such a different person when we speak on phone and so different when we chat online or text.He's so open when we talk on phone.He allows the emotional connection(not totally though).We make each other laugh.He'll make some weird sexual innuendos and he actually behaves sensitive towards my feelings but he's this cold detached person when we text.The last talk we had on phone was 2.5 weeks ago and he told me he was planninga trip to Asia and my thought came in his mind. But I am a helpless emotional piscean fool. And since then his behavior started changing to worse as i kept my emotional questions coming. I need to stop it right now. I am doing fine moving on with my friends,family and books but there are those evil moments which bring you so low that you feel butterty for the situation you ha
Posted by Rihmodel
I like this one cancer man who I denied multiple times before. It took me a while to open up sexually, but when i did, everything changed. The sex was amazing, he told my friends he likes me, you said he would miss me when he would leave and also told me to not talk to anyone else. However, I have heard many times that he is a hoe and I shouldn't expect anything more than just sex. I haven't spoken to him in a month. I haven't called because I don't want to reach out to someone who hasn't reached out to me but then I think he's waiting til he comes back in town to see if I went against what he asked me ( don't talk to anyone else). Should I just go with the flow ? Or just say treetrunk it
Posted by victoriagemini
Is normal for a cancer man to be in to you saying miss you again not talk to you for while? We live 5hrs away from each other
Posted by jadedpearl
Going on day 6 of not talking to me. We had sex, spent time together had (what I thought) a good time....a few days afterwards I initiated contact said he was stressed I backed off....absolutely no mention of our time together.....hasn't called/texted me since....I know he is done being busy and the stress has subsided....he's active on social media just been totally silent towards me....does he even give a treetrunk about me?
i refuse to call him or text him...why should i have to chase him?
Posted by Andalusia
Been seeing this Cancer guy for about a month or so. We work together and he ended a long term relationship about 7 months ago, so we both wanted to take it slow and keep it out of the office water cooler gossip, so to speak.
He's very attentive, complimentary, and candid. Initiates communication 75% of the time, picks me up, opens doors, etc. He told me a little bit about his previous relationship and is forthcoming with self disclosure because i'm 'gorgeous, poised, intelligent and funny, class A material' and he 'wanted nothing but transparency between us'.
We had plans to attend several events this weekend. I work a lot so I specifically requested off to spend the weekend with him. We are texting Thursday night while im out of town about the event on Friday and he says he's on the fence about going, but that he will let me know before he goes to bed. He texts me the next morning (he's at work, I'm still out of town) that he's "out for tonight". Meaning he's not going.
I say okay, and then start trying to firm up details for the other plans we had made. He is being kinda squirrelly with his answers, so I finally say:
"I could be over thinking, but this kinda feels like the beginning of a slow fade."
Him: "Sort of, yeah. It's odd, but I'm seeing you more and more as a buddy rather than a romantic flame. As cliche as that sounds."
I didn't respond, so he follows it up a couple minutes later with, "Didn't really mean to do this over text."
I again didn't respond, because... what am I gonna say to that? So he texts me several times later that night (paraphrasing because I deleted them):
"I really wasn't trying to being malicious or ill intentioned. I'm just trying to find the life I want."
"You've inspired me to start writing again. I hope you know how much that means to me."