Getting comfortable with a Cancer girl

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AceOfFlames
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Well, I know if I'm interested in someone if I end up writing about here on dpx. So here it is my experience so far with this cancer... It was the first time a women approached me in a such consistent and subtle manner, looking back it seemed that she did nothing at all but in fact I got plenty of hints that she got a crush on me, but you know, you never know for sure with this kind of girl.

She learns in the same university as me and we are in the same year. She gave me a friend request a few months ago, and started liking some of my post about art and love from time to time, I got the hint that she wanted me to approach her, but because I was involved with someone else at that time (another cancer tbh) I ignored her. After a week or 2 I randomly saw that she unfriended me and I knew that she got a crush for sure. I added her back, she accepted the request asap but I still didn't gave her any kind of attention. A week later I ended up the thing with the last girl because she cheated (another story).

I was very sad, and I took a break and went by the sea with some friends to clear my mind. She started to post more and more photos of her (based on the frequency she usually posted) in the same location as me (is a popular place tho). I was really fcked up, and tired with women after that thing so I still avoided giving her any attention. Then I noticed that she was checking my Instagram stories even if she doesn't follow me (so it meant that she checked my profile at least daily). I wrote a random story in which I wrote something like 'if we don't talk it means that you are to good for me' because I thought the fact I don't give her any attention might damage her self esteem (she is really beautiful, but kind of shy). She responded out of the blue to that story.

And this is how we started talking. She is very flaky, shy, and she didn't responded to many of my messages but she always does something in order to have at least one interaction per day. She post a photo in order for me to like it, and if I don't she post a sad quote or smth, she avoid responding to my messages throughout the day in order to start a conversation in the evening, or wanders around the university in places I might be (usually the places I go to smoke) in order for me to see her and say 'hi'.

The thing is she goes super awkward after like 2-3 minutes of talking, even if she is really physical, like she kept her leg pushed into mine when we were standing in chairs next to each other for quite some time, or one time found a reason to come next to me when I was talking to someone in a dark place (we were setting up a party and they were testing the lights) she just stood so close to me making full body contact with the side of her body greeting the guy I was talking to. It was really warm and nice, but it was so subtle that no one in the room found it strange.

The thing is that she refuses to spend more time with me. And I have the feeling that in many times she just plain avoids me, so I keep asking to hang out but she is flaky and she said that 'she doesn't go on dates'. What should I expect? Because this thing is running for like 2 months, and I have the feeling that if I keep reaching her without her putting enough effort to at least talk to me like she talks to one of her friends she might take me for a fool.

Aside from that I have no problem for waiting because I am tired and disgusted by most of the other girls in my uni (thots) and after the last failure with that bitchhh, if she didn't popped up, I would've took a looong break from dating.
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haunt
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She sounds super shy and awkward asf, this honestly sounds like me when I was younger actually. I think she’s just overthinking about silly things when it comes to you, you guys really need to hang out and have some one on one time or she’s going to keep acting evasive like this. She sounds unsure.. her physical touching is tests, I would do it to for a (hopefully) positive reaction in someone I like.
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AceOfFlames
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Posted by Melka
What's your sign?
I think with most Cancer girls you have to approach slowly, be their friends first. Most Cancers are shy, but once you get to know each other, they are very nice and open.
I'm an Aries sun and moon, but for some reason my best friends are cancer and cancer woman like me. Is kind of scary for quite some time, every one of them is cancer (mostly) or scorpio tbh.
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Posted by Melka
What's your sign?
I think with most Cancer girls you have to approach slowly, be their friends first. Most Cancers are shy, but once you get to know each other, they are very nice and open.

I'm an Aries sun and moon, but for some reason my best friends are cancer and cancer woman like me. Is kind of scary for quite some time, every one of them is cancer (mostly) or scorpio tbh. click to expand
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They can be good friends, especially younger older combination, I think. Both cardinal signs.