When will cancer women realize they made a wrong decision?

What i have observed from my cancer girlfriend is that when she makes a decision about something, even if it's a wrong decision, she tends to be stubborn about it (the wrong decision). My question is, are all cancer women like that? And how long until they realize that they have made the wrong decision? Thanks

i hate being told i’m wrong i prefer to learn for myself from my own experience. other people ‘advising’ me is condescending.

- cancer rising

Posted by besarlalluvia
i hate being told i’m wrong i prefer to learn for myself from my own experience. other people ‘advising’ me is condescending.

- cancer rising

how long until you realize you made a wrong decision? i don't do that to my cancer (tell her she is wrong. i just allow her to realize it on her own)...but she has been stubborn about wrong decisions for years.. so now i am wondering how long until she realizes she was wrong. thanks.

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Posted by besarlalluvia
i hate being told i’m wrong i prefer to learn for myself from my own experience. other people ‘advising’ me is condescending.

- cancer rising

how long until you realize you made a wrong decision? i don't do that to my cancer (tell her she is wrong. i just allow her to realize it on her own)...but she has been stubborn about wrong decisions for years.. so now i am wondering how long until she realizes she was wrong. thanks. click to expand

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when the world lets her know. how do you know she is wrong?

To make it clear to you, not all Cancer individuals will think they're wrong unless they contemplate the situation and ponder about it.

You might probably see it as the wrong decisions on most cases but for her, it might not be the wrong option.

However you did not mention what kind of decisions she would make, so it's pretty vague to answer your question straightforwardly.

The have the brain damage and will not realize anything other then to put it behind them.

Never tell them there is a hole in front of their path... let them fall in and get out on their own. Saves a lot if bickering.

You may tell her is wrong once, then cross your arms and take a step back. If the bad decision affects you and it goes on for a long time, tell her it is wrong twice and it pisses you off. If nothing change dump her and let her know is because of that.

This is the fail-proof approach. Cancer girls can do a lot of crap because they 'feel' is right, then when they cause harm to themselves they blame it on 'how cruel the world is'. In this state they don't have enough power to be responsable for their mistakes (mostly made because the lack of action, or change needed when something wrong is going on). If this is the case and common sense and patience don't work is nothing you can do instead of giving them the bitter pill of rejection whit a clear big WHY written on it. You can check them out after a while to see if something changed (because even if they will feel bad and change they will be to indecisive about letting you know they want to make things work).

If you have way too much patience for a thing that you feel is not right you may look as a fool and she will just feel like she can do anything and you will be good with that.

I just let go of a cancer because she felt that it was ok to cheat me with another guy to make me jealous instead of apologising after she did some very bad and mean things to me and I cut her out of for 2 weeks. She still see herself as the victim that did it out of love, even if I tried to make things up myself when she was wrong... after all that that period (that's when I found out about it). The guy she dates now look at me with hate because all that 'emotional pain she got trough because of me' when all I did was having patience with her bullshit without giving up my self esteem. My only regret was that I wasted so much time with her.

Just cause you think it’s wrong doesn’t mean it is. Grow a pair and tell her you’ve been low key judging her choices. Then open up the floor to her. I’m sure she’s felt you’ve made some ‘wrong choices’ as well.

Me personally I have away of looking at myself with everything. I also go in my shell to sort things out...even when I know things are not my fault..I still look at ways to handle things differently..especially to avoid the self pity shit which heavy water is known for. When i get to the point of not moving...and being stubboring it's because I know I tried other routes or its something that's fucking with my security. Sometimes it's as simple as my intuition won't let me change my mind.

On scorps.. they can have the blame you factor about them. They are fix..so when the ego get to big. It's I am right ..it's this way not that way bullshit. These are one of the sign's that will sit miserably in hiding because they refuse to move due to ego.

Question is what make her decision wrong?

depends on several things:

-have we matured or not? if not? neverrrrrrrrrrrrr

-how close we are and has that person earned our trust...this one has nothing to do btw with the above....not mature? wont trust their six sense yet sooooo wont know whats what.....when we mature we learn to use our way of reading people in a positive way not a destructive way

- if we have bagage from the past and we cant cop with them? forget it

- also depends on our chart..... i am cancer sun/pisces moon/libra mars/gemini venus/aqua rising im different from most cancers for some reason.....im water but i dont hold grudges and i have no trouble with admitting im wrong and pick up the communication.

whats her chart?

Maybe try taking a different approach.

If she asks for your opinion on something, offer the different options that you see and include those that she sees, and then offer the one that you might choose for yourself if you had to and why. Then let her make a decision for herself, and without saying she should have chosen your choice. Afterwards if your choice turned out to be the better choice she might appreciate your opinion more, y'know? But it doesn't then from there on make yours better than hers. It should be the same process every time. It's just a matter of good communication and making decisions as a team.

That's because we usually make decisions based on our hearts or passionately and that's not easy to change... My scorpio bf pointed this point 5o me gently and we began discussing everything together before either of us makes a decision

That's because we usually make decisions based on our hearts or passionately and that's not easy to change... My scorpio bf pointed this point 5o me gently and we began discussing everything together before either of us makes a decision