Posted by INTJVIRGO
I'm a Virgo man who's been with lovely Cancer woman for over two years. The beginning of our relationship was like an extraordinary experience - never met such a lovely person in my life, also other aspects were super-good. We were happy, and loved each other very much I constantly had a vision of her as my future wife. But, for the last 5-6 months we were fighting over minor stuff, so minor that I don't even remember, but it had impact on us - the communication between us became worse and bigger problems started.
But let's get to the breakup itself.
She was abroad for 1.5 month, and went back. So that day after work i came to see her, she was like cold and reserved, didn't want to have sex at all, agreed on a quickie. We went to the restaurant, talked and everything was nice, until when we were getting back - she told that we should try sex with other partners, I was like so a 4-some? She said no, separate you take some random girl and I take a guy. At first i thought that she is testing me and said that it could possibly kill our relationship. We talked about that for a while, but I was scared as f. thinking that she cheated on me or want to cheat with some guy with my approval. Later that night we had another fight for something very minor but we spent a night together.
Day of the breakup:
I woke up, started thinking about all this mess - angry since yesterday. I said we should take a walk, finally i sat on a bench and told her that this is over - told her why. She cried, begged me one time to give her some time to adjust to me again. We talked almost an hour about us. She even wanted to have the last sex with me, I refused.
Texted her that we should meet yo give her stuff back, I gave her few items, she gave me mine.
Few day later i realized that I love her so much, and broke up with her only because I was very angry and jealous. I texted her six days after the breakup to talk. We sat an hour together talking and even laughed together few times mentioning our past. I told her that we lost something in the process, and should rebuild our relationship. I knew where we messed up because I have a journal, I went form first to last meeting and knew everything. I asked her if she would take a trip with me, that we planned together - said NO and told me that I should meet someone else.
Two weeks after breakup I sent her a letter and my journal. After that we were texting about weather, about trip that I took myself, sent some photos to ourselves, she took few days in SPA. One night we were texting, I told her that I would like to call her, she replied that I should. We talked for over 2.5 hour! I felt great, we were honest and happy, i felt that communication was great. She confessed that she also messed up few thing when we were together, and if I would be near her right now she would totally have sex with me.
Next day she didn't contacted me at all and didn't replied to my hello, so when in the evening I texted If she's safe and everything is OK, because i'm worried. She replied that everything it's fine.
Next day, we texted and talked on a phone for 20-30 minutes.
Next day, we were both coming back to our town, she was there 2PM and I 10PM, I texted her that I went back, what about a walk? She told me that tomorrow she drives to her parents and must be up early.
Now she is in her parent's home-town and I don't know what to do next. I know that we both messed up, but I was the one who broke up with her. Any tips? I want to send her flowers there.
I can't figure out her emotions: she's happy during contact with me, and next day very cold. Should i give her more time or try harder?
Posted by INTJVIRGO
I know that flowers won't change much, but I still don't know what she feels exactly. If she would be totally over me, she would stop contacting me, right?
Posted by solidsnakePosted by INTJVIRGO
Not good, I want her even more after what happened yesterday, but she claims that she feels "nothing".
She went back to town, we met in person yesterday to talk, in her apartament because it wa raining. We both had teras in our eyes: I, because I felt that eventually we would lost contact forever, she because she sees how hard I try but she still feels nothing and she feels guilty about that. We were talking for about 2 hours - recalling memories, laughed, cried, everything I held her hand. I asked her what she feels, because I was writing and texting to her but she never said a word about what she feels. Finally she told me that all what she wants now it's sex and we did it, felt amazing, the intimacy was mind-blowing. After that she was very sad but satisfied, I asked why: because I used you and you still have hope. I replied that I agreed to be used. She told that I'm good in bed, she is great too. Then we were lying next to each other saying few words and looking in each other's eyes. I asked her can we contact each other, she replied OK. We fall asleep, but I woke up: told her that I must go because I have work tomorrow, gave her a kiss and told to not feel guilty that she feels nothing. I spent there over 4 hours.
I totally don't know what to do now. I still love her. I'm now sitting in my office, can't focus on anything because she pops in my head. Is there any chance? I still feel in my gut that we should be together.
That’s what you get for taking advice from the above cancers. You want the happy ending but your going to be left waiting at the bus stop in the rain. She’s made up her mind fool. It’s time to man up & take charge of your destiny, Go to the gymclick to expand