Heartbroken by Cancer man.

Hello,

I don't know where else I can seek advice or some relief. I just need to tell you what I have been through and I need your input. I met this cancer guy online who is 2 years older than me. He kept sending me messages everyday all day long for a month. Then we met. Oh well I had intamacy with him. We contiued to see each other for a month. Couple of times a week. He cooked me dinners, watched a movie cuddling me. I really started to feel something for him. I offered to clean his apartment, I cooked for him, I bought him little gifts etc. I was so caring, easy going and head over heels in love. One night I drank a little and I told him I am in love with him. He didn't reply back. I had asked something from a friend of his from Netherlands. He told me that he told his friend to buy it for me. But the next day he stopped talking to me, he stopped answering my calls or replying my messages. I am not sure if he is doing this because he realized that my feelings are intense and I need to calm down. Or maybe he just saw me as a hook up although he didn't behave so. Maybe I just need to move on. We havent talked for 4 days but he didnt unfriend me on facebook and I am still on his contact list on his phone.

I am feeling upset and heartbroken. I dont know what to do, I cant figure out what he is planning. I need your opinion.

Thanks.

You fell for him too soon. I do feel for you.
If I were you, I wouldn't do a shit after his reaction.
But when he calls if he calls, I would be soo casual that he'd understand that I have got no expectations of him and he's not on the pedestal for me. Feed him with his crap, but do it with a smile, do it with a confidence of a wonderful woman who he's getting less and less attention of.
And please don't melt into these men! He should be afraid of losing U

It sounds like the progression of your relationship wasn't natural,
so to feel such intense feelings early was only fair.
You guys were cooking and cleaning and essentially playing house.
A Cancer eats this shit up for dinner.
We LOVE taking care of people and being taken care of and you provided.
Give him some time without that and he'll be back.
In general, we can't let go of people, whether we must keep them as friends, or whatever else.
You can try to tell him, like you just told us, 'Hey, I was drunk. I said some intense shit. I'm sorry if you weren't ready to hear it.'

Oh, Cancer men! Why are they doing this crap again and again...not sure whether this gives you some relief, but most of women around here dating or interested in a Cancer man are going through the same BS. In my opinion, this relationship became too intense really fast and from what I've figured out, Cancer men tend to take things sloooooooooooow when they are genuinely interested... I think the key to this is to ignore him for a while and let him come to you or at least show some interest in resuming the relationship...He may think that he is moving too fast with you and naturally wants to take a step back. Give him some time 🙂

What did you ask his friend about and why didn't you ask him?

Damn homie. Be patient and see what he does. I rushed with a cancer too. They love their punkass shell lol. He'll come back out of his shell. Yall need to see each other in person and maybe talk out what happened. I think disappearing acts are so rude. I always feel disrespected lmao. Like no you didn't just abandon me like that. But I'm some emotional scorpio so lol

Every other sign , I've noticed are extremely patient with Cancers. As a Cancer, if you disappear, I'd go missing. Honestly, I'd delete your existence.
If you ever decide to come back, you must have a reason like I lost a family member kind of reason if not remain lost. I don't know how to cope with such inconsistencies but we can't all be the same.

OP, from what I read, this is after one month of dating?

Posted by Namy
Every other sign , I've noticed are extremely patient with Cancers. As a Cancer, if you disappear, I'd go missing. Honestly, I'd delete your existence.
If you ever decide to come back, you must have a reason like I lost a family member kind of reason if not remain lost. I don't know how to cope with such inconsistencies but we can't all be the same.

Easy to say! But as it turns out on this forum, most Cancer men DO disappear on the women they are dating. And these women are left scratching their heads and wondering what the hell is going on... Now guess what, in my typical Aries style , I once got pretty impatient with the object of my desire (Cancer man, ahem ahem) and gave him a little "nudge" so to speak after not hearing from him for about a week and a half. The Cancer male reacted pretty annoyed to say the least. In a huge paragraph he wanted to let me know how he did not respond well to accusations or force. hahahaha...AWESOME! I sent an apology and thought he hated my guts...After that I just left him alone. A few days later I hear again from him asking me when I was free to meet up. Finally we met and had an amazing dinner and drinks. But hey, what a rollercoaster!

If you ask me, these little naughty souls (Cancer men) love to pull off mind games on women. What they fail to realise however is that nobody owns an inexhaustible source of patience.

My is playing mind games too.. I had to to text him first after the second date and he says miss you. I was shocked because I'm thinking well why didn't you Text me! Haha

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Posted by Namy
Every other sign , I've noticed are extremely patient with Cancers. As a Cancer, if you disappear, I'd go missing. Honestly, I'd delete your existence.
If you ever decide to come back, you must have a reason like I lost a family member kind of reason if not remain lost. I don't know how to cope with such inconsistencies but we can't all be the same.

Easy to say! But as it turns out on this forum, most Cancer men DO disappear on the women they are dating. And these women are left scratching their heads and wondering what the hell is going on... Now guess what, in my typical Aries style, I once got pretty impatient with the object of my desire (Cancer man, ahem ahem) and gave him a little "nudge" so to speak after not hearing from him for about a week and a half. The Cancer male reacted pretty annoyed to say the least. In a huge paragraph he wanted to let me know how he did not respond well to accusations or force. hahahaha...AWESOME! I sent an apology and thought he hated my guts...After that I just left him alone. A few days later I hear again from him asking me when I was free to meet up. Finally we met and had an amazing dinner and drinks. But hey, what a rollercoaster!

If you ask me, these little naughty souls (Cancer men) love to pull off mind games on women. What they fail to realise however is that nobody owns an inexhaustible source of patience.

All you basically said is that your sense of pace trumps the cancers sense of pace, so they better hurry up to match yours.

You sound like another entitled woman who believes she needs to speed along a relationship. Your needs are only half of a relationship. No wonder he was annoyed. Cancer men don't like dealing with demanding women.

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And what you are implying here is that it's absolutely acceptable for him (being a Cancer man) to flake on me even though it was him who had to get back to confirm our date? Mind you, it was just one day before we were supposed to meet up and still no word from him. Sorry, I cannot subscribe to such communication standards. He's lucky I didn't dump his ass there and then. He did explain his circumstances later on and that's what probably saved it in the end.

Posted by Arielle83
@arieswoman27

You probably should of dumped him for not meeting your demands.

You can't change ppl, so you'll just be constantly disappointed.

Well, thanks for your valuable advice. Whether I will dump him or not is irrelevant here.
One more thing: Since when being a Cancer woman makes you an expert in Cancer men?

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Posted by Arielle83
@arieswoman27

You probably should of dumped him for not meeting your demands.

You can't change ppl, so you'll just be constantly disappointed.

Well, thanks for your valuable advice. Whether I will dump him or not is irrelevant here.
One more thing: Since when being a Cancer woman makes you an expert in Cancer men?

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Well I agree with most of what Arielle posted, especially the bit about women posting primarily about their needs-which is fine except more often than not it's at the expense of the other person's needs.

Yeah I will back up arielle too, she's pretty spot on

Posted by narb
i wouldnt give up as yet cancers are scared easily i would just give him space and time to think..... give it some time if he does not reach out to u in 3-4 wks i would attempt to reach and if he does not respond then let it go. and keep in mind they are slow..

That gave me some relief. Thanks.

Posted by MiZLeo
Why were you cooking and cleaning and buying him gifts? Your not his mommy.

Because I thought that cancer men like women who behave them like their mothers. They like to be spoiled. The more I did for him, the more he did for me. Until I told him that I was in love with him :/

Posted by Goldigold
No she is 100% right!! He probably thinks something is wrong with you mentally. And you are no challenge for him. Women think that because cancer men are emotional that they are irrational, wrong!

Stop acting so desperate! Giving out the goods so fast and an emotional mess....get it together. They like to conquer.

Agree 100% !

Dont be so desperate.

When my cancer ex disappeared, so would I. Once i disappeared for 3 months and then called him to say hi. The next day he flew (was working out of town) to see me and spent a week with me. That's when he told me he loved me. Would still be with him if he wouldn't have moved. We both couldn't deal with the long distant relationship.

Be patient and see what happens

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I need to treetruk a crab cause if it leads to this kind of insanity it's worth it!

This board is ridiculous

Crab men got the voodoo dick

Or something but I want a taste

hahahaha
well-said!

Yeah, I wanna do the crab dance 🦀🦀

People should get to know each other before sharing their feelings. It would save a lot of heartache and damaged self-esteem.

As for Cancer men or men in general, I think it's rude and immature to just ignore someone because you think a woman is falling for you too fast.
Be an adult and let the person know it's too soon for you. It might hurt her feelings, but at least it's better than disappearing and saying nothing and hoping that she's a mind reader.

Posted by AquaCancerMoon
People should get to know each other before sharing their feelings. It would save a lot of heartache and damaged self-esteem.

As for Cancer men or men in general, I think it's rude and immature to just ignore someone because you think a woman is falling for you too fast.
Be an adult and let the person know it's too soon for you. It might hurt her feelings, but at least it's better than disappearing and saying nothing and hoping that she's a mind reader.

I couldn't agree more.

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Posted by Admiral
I have a disdain for most American men and women not using the chances they have. Spoiled brats are what I see and they make the guys that are actually doing something look bad. But fuckit.

Well I know for a fact you are correct about the majority of American women. For the most part they don't even need men these days because the family has programmed them to believe a career is the top prority. I find Eastern European women to be blessed with far more humility.

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I am not American and woman is woman everywhere on the earth. We are sensible creatures that seek love.

Posted by dewiklaessen1991
maybe for him it takes time so taking a step is the best you can do also cancer men often are afraid to get rejected or hurt they feel very intense for you but normally if it's mutual you wouldn't have to hold back me and my sagg boyfriend were head over heels at eachother from day one and it was mutual he has is moon in cancer but i had a cancer before and believe me if a cancer let's you wait don't do anything because you will always be the one chasing him and taking the first step they are not the type to do that. once you let them go they'll come after you show him you can be without him but talk about the things you did together that you had a good time etc

Fingers crossed. I hope he comes back. I feel like he is taking some time for me to calm down. It's been 6 days that I didn't hear from him. I am keeping silence as well. He used to call me everyday and texted me all day long until I expressed my feelings for him. Ouch that hurts. I know I sound too desperate 😢

I am leo.

Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.

Thanks 🙂

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.

Yep that's how I see it.

I had an Aries tell me he loved me after two weeks. He was clingy and it weirded me out, so I broke up with him. He thought I owed him something cuz he claimed he loved me. So a barrage of verbal abusive texts followed until I sought a restraining order.

Back the fuvk up.

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Being rejected drives fire signs crazy. We become more demanding.

So how can I undo what I did? I am currently keeping silence and wait for him to make the first move when he is ready or if he feels ready. Gosh I hate to be so impatient. My ex was cancer too. And I did everything wrong from beginning to end. Maybe cancer men are not for me.

Posted by Cg2016
Damn homie. Be patient and see what he does. I rushed with a cancer too. They love their punkass shell lol. He'll come back out of his shell. Yall need to see each other in person and maybe talk out what happened. I think disappearing acts are so rude. I always feel disrespected lmao. Like no you didn't just abandon me like that. But I'm some emotional scorpio so lol

Ahaha Cg I love you! You speak my language, I feel the same damn way about ghosting, like what?? Damn Sagg did me like that but he is a fire sign so it is doubtful he will return haha but hopefully the Cancer does OP. He is a water sign so one would think he would be down for all that emotion. Eitherway, this is why men need to stop moving so fast and doing so much with women, I have already begun adopting a policy to shut any man down that tries all that romancing too early on. Too many burns.

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Posted by tiziani
It's not about desperation but sincerity.

Yep that's how I see it.

I had an Aries tell me he loved me after two weeks. He was clingy and it weirded me out, so I broke up with him. He thought I owed him something cuz he claimed he loved me. So a barrage of verbal abusive texts followed until I sought a restraining order.

Back the fuvk up.

Being rejected drives fire signs crazy. We become more demanding.

Yeah that's what I see. The difference is cancer needs stability and security, so you become demanding and we see it as you trying to control.

So we bail.

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There is absolutely nothing you can do but move on with your life. If he comes back he comes back, but be prepared that he may not. But if you want to stop making these mistakes and stop being so controlled by your emotions that you ruin potential relationships, start learning how to control them now. Turn this into a wonderful learning experience for yourself, sort your shit out and get back into the dating field. Dont plan or expect this all to work out, just be present in the moment, and in this moment he is gone. If you just sit and linger on the shoulda, coulda, wouldas and the what ifs, you will only make this more painful and embarrassing for yourself.

And seriously, who needs that?

Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

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This is worse than my story.

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

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what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?

Posted by Arielle83
Women on dxp never actually want to UNDERSTAND why they do this. You all just come here venting your stories where you all make the same mistakes and expect to be catered to.

Don't tell a Man U "love him" when you're drunk.

- cancer DOES NOT see that as SINCERE. He sees that as you have no control over your feelings. Maybe even desperate for love because they know women push that shit to hear it back.

A cancer man doesn't DISAPPEAR, he's simply busy.

- with PRIORITIES IE: work, family, money, home. These are all things a cancer puts first before you think you can score a prominent place in his life. You better be stable and not crazy (see above point about "drunk I love u")

When he's away from you he's probably questioning why you said such things so fast!
- he's thinking about u, but not calling u because he doesn't get where you stand or what you want. You were casually dating and now you've put him in a position where he's like "what the fuck?" I'd be thinking this chick is clingy.

And when you're clingy you interfere with our priorities. Fire sign women are hit and miss because you all need his attention and when you don't get it you demonize him.

Byeeee

Clarity! However, how come it's totally fine for a Cancer man to be "clingy", but when you are, it's a bad thing and they run?!

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?

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We rarely see each other, maybe 2-3 times a month, and only for sex. Yet we talk about baby and marriage quite often. I had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy. He has expressed to me that we're not official, and that he knows how we view our "relationship" is not in sync, so I guess I am the stupid one to expect more than he is willing to give at the moment.

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?

We rarely see each other, maybe 2-3 times a month, and only for sex. Yet we talk about baby and marriage quite often. I had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy. He has expressed to me that we're not official, and that he knows how we view our "relationship" is not in sync, so I guess I am the stupid one to expect more than he is willing to give at the moment.

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why are you seeing each other only 2-3time's a month?That's not good,but if you go with it then he might thing that it's enough for you,and what he gives you is enough for you,when a person want's to do something or be somewhere,he makes time for that,either it's a person or a Hobby he's passionate about,unless you're making it clear that you want to see him more often,talk to him,tell him what you want,and that you want him to see him more often,if he doesn't respond just cut him loose,then he might start thinking because now it's seems like he's happy with the situation you're both in,if you ain't gonna challenge him,he ain't gonna change the circumstances and the place you're in right now.make him think if he's rly into you he should be make more time for you,unless you're separated by long distance.

I am going through the same thing with the cancer man. But i haven't told him that i love him coz now after reading all this i am damn sure he will stop talking to me. Cancer guys are so cute you cannot resist them and when they need something from you they will play their cards well. I would suggest stop bothering him coz as cancer people are very sensitive let them feel that you're sad and unhappy. He would come around.

Posted by rabidtalker
Yeah I will back up arielle too, she's pretty spot on

Ok, so lemme pick the brain of a Cancer male. So if my guy has up front told me that we're not official (but could be one day), that our view on our " relationship" is not in sync, how then do I act? I admit that I can be clingy/needy, so I know I am at fault for a lot of problems within our "relationship", when he's clearly said that we're not together. I just get confused because he talks about marriage and baby with me (we had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy), yet won't commit. Basically we're fwb, but I know that he loves me. We both don't have our shit together right now, and I know Cancer men need security, so would that be a reason, along with my pushiness, to make him back away and not allow things to progress between us?

May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.

Posted by Leonessa
May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.

So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.

These damn Cancer men lol!

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May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.

So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.

These damn Cancer men lol!

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🙂) Help yourself. I hope you figure out things with your cancer. I am about to give up.

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May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.

So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.

These damn Cancer men lol!

🙂) Help yourself. I hope you figure out things with your cancer. I am about to give up.

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Lol, i'm a Virgo, I rarely give up on something I want. If it makes you feel any better, i've been on this rollercoaster for about a year now. What i've learned with Cancer men is, either you gotta deal, or shut up and get the hell out haha! My guy once didn't talk to me for 10 days, what for I still don't know.

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May I sound like a leo? Hey guys, it is my post. Dear Jkats, they stopped talking about me and started talking about you. Move your relationship to another post please.

So sorry Leonessa, I didn't mean to take away from your post, my apologies.

These damn Cancer men lol!

🙂) Help yourself. I hope you figure out things with your cancer. I am about to give up.

Lol, i'm a Virgo, I rarely give up on something I want. If it makes you feel any better, i've been on this rollercoaster for about a year now. What i've learned with Cancer men is, either you gotta deal, or shut up and get the hell out haha! My guy once didn't talk to me for 10 days, what for I still don't know.

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It is annoying, I know. I am waiting silently. As a leo, I am not sure how long I can stay silent though. Moreover, I have a feeling like he is going to get out of his crab and come back. I hope it won't be too late.

Moreover I am being paranoid if he is seeing someone else. This feeling is gonna kill me.

Posted by Finbuff
@Jkats - Cancers have a hard time committing, particularly before 35-40. I would just go along with things as they are and be patient. Him saying he loves you is a big thing for sure, so focus on the postives associated with that statement. It all starts there, so that's a great foundation to build upon. Typically we don't do anything until the time is financially, physically and emotionally "right".

I can see that lol! Damn, i'm gonna need to start meditating, cuz I have very little patience for his hot and cold, back and forth, sideways stepping ways haha. You give me some hope that all is not lost, thank you.

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

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There's no confusion here at all, his actions tell the true story, while his words are nothing but hollow shells and sweet nothings.

A man does not love a woman if he is okay with losing her, and that is what a man says when he refuses to commit to a woman. He is leaving it open for another man to come in and take you away (not that women are objects, so fems back off lol).

He is showing you something and you are refusing to see it, but remember this is how we find many women heartbroken to find the man that told them they loved them off marrying another woman, after they had commited themselves to that man for years on only the promise of a ring.

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Posted by narayana
Sounds just like a passing attraction for him and you had way too much expectations. I'm not saying he's not into you anymore, but it might be just sexual and you probably scared him away with the intensity.

Idk if it's just me or I see many people expecting a Cancer to certainly fall for them once something intimate has been going on, just because Cancers are known to be emotional. Yes, we are, but we can easily toss aside our moments' desires and move on without catching feelings. We do not necessarily fall in love with everyone we fvck, the chances are even slimmer if the other turns out to be too demanding.

Just give him some time and don't be pushy or he'll just disappear without a trace.

And please kill all your expectations...
Cause nothing in life is promised except death. /Yeezy/

Well my situation is confusing, because my Cancer guy was the first to say I love you, I know that he's in love with me, says that he wants to marry me and for him to have his baby in the future, yet he won't commit to me. Wtf is all that about?!

what do y mean he won't commit,what behavior of his shows this ?

We rarely see each other, maybe 2-3 times a month, and only for sex. Yet we talk about baby and marriage quite often. I had a pregnancy scare back in December, and he was so happy. He has expressed to me that we're not official, and that he knows how we view our "relationship" is not in sync, so I guess I am the stupid one to expect more than he is willing to give at the moment.

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Oh wth girl (rolls eyes)...this man is a fraud. A player.

He is using you for sex. He knows your vunerable and ao he talks about babies and marriage with you, hell he may throw in a few i love yous because he knows it will keep you needy and trusting on him. He can call you whenever and at a drop of a hat you will be there. He has you so wrapped. If he wont make you his gf, how in the hell do you believe he is serious about marriage and starting a family with you.

Men do this alll the time and as you can see, they are getting away with it.

If he is not taking you on dates, and all you give in return in sex...man he is winning! You get nothing, he gets everything he wants in exchange for a few sweet words.

Sad. :/

Posted by Finbuff
@malloryor...we shouldn't hijack Leonessa's thread but I have to disagree to some degree. Unless this guy of Jkats is a real disingenuous loser, I don't believe he'd say 'I love you' if he didn't mean it. I have not, and never would say that to some woman just to have sex with her. That's a line, as a Cancer, I don't cross. Even if I'm asked, I'd avoid the subject before I'd say it, and I've been in that situation many times. Although I guess just being a Cancer doesn't mean it guarantee's integrity and honesty on his part, so she should be aware of possibly being deceived.

Sorry Leonessa i do not wish to do that either but let me say this Finbuff...

Let us look at the circumstances and ACTIONS of this man.

1. They see each other only 2 to 3 times a month.
2. Each time they only have sex.
3. He refuses to call her his gf
4. But talks about a future with her
5. He has not invested anything into the relationship
6. Yet speaks of a future
7. Umm, when one has serious goals about their future, they invest in it.
8. Just because you are a man of integrity does not mean all men are. It's not your sign (Cancer) that has made you the upstanding man that you are, its your upbringing, life experiences and DESIRE to have good character.

Like I said, this man isnt serious. I speak from experience because I have seen too many of my friends fall for the i love yous and all that they did was have sex with the man at his beck and call.

IT DOES HAPPEN.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I need to treetruk a crab cause if it leads to this kind of insanity it's worth it!

This board is ridiculous

Crab men got the voodoo dick

Or something but I want a taste

Yes. Yes they do. 🙂 lol!