Help me understand my cancer man

Hi, Im new here so bare with me, but could anyone help me understand what's going thru my cancer mans head. Ok, we have been together a little over a month. Everything in the beginning was wonderful. We texted all thru the day and evening and we saw each other as much as we could. When we did see each other we had so much fun and really enjoyed each other. Then about a week and a half ago he just stopped responding to my texts and had no interaction with me. I did text him during this time just to let him know I was wondering what was going on. He did finally respond and we saw each other about 5 days after complete silence from him. When we were together that day I asked him what was going on. He didn't really have a clear answer. He told me he loved me and he told me we are still together, he doesn't want me to date anyone else and he's not dating anyone else. I asked him to please not close me out like that because it really hurt. He promised he wouldn't. Now after that date he is only occasionally responding to me with maybe one or two sentences. I asked to see him and he said he was busy with work, which I completley understand. So I asked if we could see each other Saturday and his response was "right now Saturday should work". I am really hurt because I don't know how we went from texting, talking and seeing each other all the time. To him not responding and maybe being able to see each other. I really like him and don't want to lose him, but I feel like I'm the only one trying. Should I stop texting him completely and see what happens? Im very confused and hurt. I've read here before that sometimes cancers retreat, but do they ever come back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi, Im new here so bare with me, but could anyone help me understand what's going thru my cancer mans head. Ok, we have been together a little over a month. Everything in the beginning was wonderful. We texted all thru the day and evening and we saw each other as much as we could. When we did see each other we had so much fun and really enjoyed each other. Then about a week and a half ago he just stopped responding to my texts and had no interaction with me. I did text him during this time just to let him know I was wondering what was going on. He did finally respond and we saw each other about 5 days after complete silence from him. When we were together that day I asked him what was going on. He didn't really have a clear answer. He told me he loved me and he told me we are still together, he doesn't want me to date anyone else and he's not dating anyone else. I asked him to please not close me out like that because it really hurt. He promised he wouldn't. Now after that date he is only occasionally responding to me with maybe one or two sentences. I asked to see him and he said he was busy with work, which I completley understand. So I asked if we could see each other Saturday and his response was "right now Saturday should work". I am really hurt because I don't know how we went from texting, talking and seeing each other all the time. To him not responding and maybe being able to see each other. I really like him and don't want to lose him, but I feel like I'm the only one trying. Should I stop texting him completely and see what happens? Im very confused and hurt. I've read here before that sometimes cancers retreat, but do they ever come back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Posted by Libra14
Hi, Im new here so bare with me, but could anyone help me understand what's going thru my cancer mans head. Ok, we have been together a little over a month. Everything in the beginning was wonderful. We texted all thru the day and evening and we saw each other as much as we could. When we did see each other we had so much fun and really enjoyed each other. Then about a week and a half ago he just stopped responding to my texts and had no interaction with me. I did text him during this time just to let him know I was wondering what was going on. He did finally respond and we saw each other about 5 days after complete silence from him. When we were together that day I asked him what was going on. He didn't really have a clear answer. He told me he loved me and he told me we are still together, he doesn't want me to date anyone else and he's not dating anyone else. I asked him to please not close me out like that because it really hurt. He promised he wouldn't. Now after that date he is only occasionally responding to me with maybe one or two sentences. I asked to see him and he said he was busy with work, which I completley understand. So I asked if we could see each other Saturday and his response was "right now Saturday should work". I am really hurt because I don't know how we went from texting, talking and seeing each other all the time. To him not responding and maybe being able to see each other. I really like him and don't want to lose him, but I feel like I'm the only one trying. Should I stop texting him completely and see what happens? Im very confused and hurt. I've read here before that sometimes cancers retreat, but do they ever come back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

So I really don't want to hurt you by saying this... And I don't know the entire story so I could be wrong. But it sounds to me like he's no longer interested and is too much of a p $ $ y to be upfront with you about it. you said "I feel like I'm the only one trying".. Well let me tell you, when you feel like that with a cancer, that's never a good sign. Cancer's are the epitome of effort when they love someone... When I stopped trying with my ex, was when I started having wondering eyes.. Its f-d up but its the truth. He probably doesnt want to stirr the pot by telling you how he really feels. But if you ask he WILL talk. Trust me. Sure he could be playing insecurity games too.. but it sounds to me like you ARE giving him emotional security.. which leads me to believe these arn't "hard to get" games.. but maybe hes just waiting for it to end. Ughhhh Iv been working on my Character defects so yeah it takes one to know one.

Maybe he feels he is attached to you and doesn't want to seem clingy, he is trying to give you space all at the same time not telling you that he needs it. I as a cancer sometimes I get attached to people and it makes me act like a bitch to see if the person will still put up with me. But maybe WaterDevil is right. I've read quiet a few post where women feel like they are the only people trying in the relationship so maybe that is typical male cancer behavior, do you know his moon sign? Quiet the confusing male,

He did text me last night and asked if we could go out. I asked him if this is a game or if he wants out and he said No. He did tell me that summer is terrible at work and he gets really busy. I do get that considering what he does. I dont know what to think. Hopefully he can find some sort of balance.

Posted by Libra14
He did text me last night and asked if we could go out. I asked him if this is a game or if he wants out and he said No. He did tell me that summer is terrible at work and he gets really busy. I do get that considering what he does. I dont know what to think. Hopefully he can find some sort of balance.

how old is he?

He is in his 40's.

Posted by Libra14
He is in his 40's.

I think you'll be fine! Cancers are quiet the workaholics when it comes to there financial stability, and they are always thinking about the future so he will likely seem preoccupied but is actually paying you so much attention and is storing it all to impress you with all of his knowledge of you and some for his day dreams lol! They have so many different view point but and always wants to please you so be clear what you want what you feel and let him know what you feel like you guys can accomplish together!