his real job

Few days ago while we were in a good conversation about his fam and his life he told me something about the real job he currently doin. Now i just know that he is in a dangerous, high risk, illegaly job.
The possibilities of him ended up in jail or get shot or any bad thing like that just scarin me up.
He says that he wanna quit, and starts a new life.. Im still shocked and need some objective insights

Wow. Is he a hitman? LOL! Whatever it is I hope its not something that'll put YOU in danger. You surely dont wanna be caught up in no drug bust, etc. Stay away until its safer to be around him

Hi guys, so were livin far away from each other.. Theres no chance for me to be there with him while hes doin that crappy job.. And i told him i wont dare to meet him anymore if he is still doin it.. He telling me that he gonna quit it and has been workin on it, and one of the reason he stop it is for me (which i somehow hard to believe in).
He thought i was cool with it at the moment he told me that, actually i was shocked and didnt know what to say, so i wasnt talk that much than "thank you, you let me know.. And i appreciate it"..
So next day, he still all sweet and loving but i just dont know why i started to feel numb.
I had a real bad past related to the drugs that he is workin with now, and me and my fam been strugglin against it due to our one of fam members addiction rehab.
I told him bout it last night and said if he still wanna doin it all i can say is good luck, but if he really wanna quit, then make a real plan (since i thought he has no real plan yet, all that he said that only he wanna see me and just be with me). I told him that he have all of my support if he wanna quit..
Naive, i know. But yeah thats what i said..
And he just said "okay, thats a lot of words.. I feel bad for your fam and i appreciate what you said"

You sound sane enough to know not to deal with some thug or whatever he is. The economy is bad, but that gives him no excuse to be dabbling in illegal activities. Is he a stripper? All this shadiness is making my brain to overload ideas of what he might be up to.

Watercup!!
I was gonna say that i smell an excuse over the air to him this morning, but i didnt.. Yeah yet.
And yeah i either got myself crowded by a bunches of terrible things that might be happens causes of the job he is doin... Idk whether im overreacting or that job real crazy.. Ohh the job is related to drugs ish.

Ofcourse you're not overracting..it's even worse if it's drugs. Do you know how many lives he is ruining by being a dopeboy? I hope he is not "dealing" to kids. Girl, please stay away from this guy, for now, until he starts stripping or something less dangerous. LOL! You owe this one to yourself.

what does it matter what his job is? Do you love him? If so, then you should already know that he knows exactly what he's doing. If he knows it's not long term and just for quick money, don't get bent over it.

For example, if your man is in the Mafia, what are you gonna do? Rat on him?
Different philosophies in life....

If his real job is dangerous and/or illegal, run for the hills. When people make those choices, those around them get hurt. Don't settle for a man whose not on the legit and not good to you. Save yourself for someone whose making something good of himself. These things matter immensely after the initial haze of "being in love" wears off. Compatibility > chemistry.

Posted by Este8
If his real job is dangerous and/or illegal, run for the hills. When people make those choices, those around them get hurt. Don't settle for a man whose not on the legit and not good to you. Save yourself for someone whose making something good of himself. These things matter immensely after the initial haze of "being in love" wears off. Compatibility > chemistry.

A couple can have both: Compatibility and Chemistry.

if they jsut have compatibility, it could be anyone you can get along at the office but have no feelings for.

However, I agree with you about the illegal stuff. My point to the OP was, giving her a perspective on loyalty. Loyalty vs. Principles. Which one does she love most? At this point of her life, she obviously can't risk or won't risk herself with anyone she believes is in illegal stuff.

This just made my day!