How are Aries and Cancer ?

How are Aries and Cancer ?

what i wanted to write in the first post :

Hi all

Yesterday when i went online on msn i saw a name that i didn't knew. So i
asked who she was and she answered with : Samantha !.

We spoke about that time she Skyped me and talked my socks off 🙂. She was one of the womans who have talked me under the table 🙂. So today we talked again and i told her i have a internet radiostation running. So she logged on and i played some requests for her. Some time later she said she would go to sleep, but keep the internet radio tuned on 🙂. so when she went offline on her msn , i searched for all my romantic songs and have broadcast a special Candle-light show for her while she was still logged on 🙂.

I will never know if she have heard all the things i said and the music i played.
But my question was: can a Aries and a Caner work out good in relations ?i think i really like her. She talks much ( i like that ), and she got humor 🙂.

Thanks in advance

Try it out, that's the best thing you can do, I think..
I myself like this aries, but I haven't seen him in a while.
It's a pity, 'cause we REALLY clicked.
I might see him next academic year, because I'm going back to university.
As a cancer female I do think this can work out as well as any other combination..
I like the male-female-aspect of this relationship, but the fact that we're cardinals stops us from trampling each other..
Cancer females aren't afraid of the spontaneity of the ram, they just convince theirselves that it's only a whim, nothing to take seriously.
An ariesmale is always busy, and us girly arieslovers watch their every move in an amused kind of way, so for you to stop and look straight back at us (*looks behind her* 😄) is very flattering.. ANYWAY =D
If she's interested in you (or if she could get interested in you), just be honest with her, don't push her, but make sure she knows that you really honestly like her. That's the most important thing to do I guess 🙂

Zal ik in het Nederlands of in het Engels antwoorden 🙂....

Cancimini, your right about the spontanious thing. it didn't scare her away !.

Last night there was this Bluesroute in Maarssen where all the cafe's have Live bands playing Blues music. She and i were on MSN and she told me she was bored. I asked her out and she was ok with it after i told her to pick her up @ her house and bring her home again 🙂.

So as you said she wasn't scared of my spontanious / busy way of being myself . We had a great night out with Blues Music and it was fun to see her in real life. and she confirmed that today 🙂.

Well from my experience being with an aries is not the best match. But maybe aries women are different, the aries man that I dealt with was a pathological liar it was ridiculous. He would often go days, a without calling me, and then when he does finally call he pretends as if we had spoken the day before. lol hey! nothing beats a failure but a try.


Good Luck!

Can anyone shed some light.....

I am a aries and have met a cancer man....I still have him in my head but I refuse to let him win......

This is my story.....met him at work....he was a client....have never crossed any lines before but he was giving all the signals I thought....went on for 2-3 months....figured it was time to figure out what was going on so I made the first move and asked him to dinner....my reply was as follows...."straightup....why" as he caught me off balance I replied "because I like you" he then said "do you want a yes or no answer or can I get back to you" I said "sure...you can get back to me" needless to say he never did and when I saw him the following week I pretended like I never saw him....I figured you reap what you sow.....Well the look on his face was one of "I don't understand what is happening here" and then I saw it actually click in....needless to say I never called him and he never called me....then I happened to be in the same bar as him and the next day got a call at work from him....well its work so what could I do....I called him back and made like no problem what can I help you with....its like it never happened and I'll be damned if I will bring it up and he is never going to......I see him here and there and each time he stares at me as if he is wanting to break me into submission....thats the only way I can describe it....and I will not break....however I can't stop thinking about him and I think he could be the one....

So am I completely insane and is there any hope in breaking him!

cheeky14
lol, Im an aries man and am in similar situtation with a cancer woman that i cant get her out of my head and she has everything im looking for in a woman
litte while back she turned me down by saying she is not ready fro relationship so I remain friends with her but acted like i never made the move on her
since than i even had her over my place and cooked a nice dinner with wine and we played xbox all night but never made a move at her in any way.....LOL
i think its driving her crazy because she is super nice to me and sending all kinds of signal
i might take her out for a beer tomorrow and have fun but not make any moves, i'll let her do it this time around.....HA!

Jesus, they could've at least provided us with a manual huh.. 🙂
There seem to be more questions than answers at times!

Us cancers want to be chased, it makes us feel good. Ah, wonderful!!!
Obviously that's a one-way street, and you don't want that to happen.. 😉

Golden rule: NEGLECT!
We actually need to be "neglected"/ignored in a way to urge action and so as to show our true emotions.
Why?? Because we analyse! We constantly sound out your emotions. Aries are "easy" creatures on the emotional level. We sometimes know in advance what you're gonna think or feel. When we don't get to see you, when you disappear or ignore us, we don't get to do that anymore!! So when we see you and you're all friendly and kind, but nothing more, we start wondering.. But no way in hell is there a possibility to rate you, so you'll always be one stap ahead of us..

It's as "simple" as that! 🙂

So you figure neglect will win the cancers heart.....does punishment make you feel more and want the other person more? It really is a hard concept to wrap your head around (lol)

So because I am stuborn and will not yield it might have actually made him want me more? Totally bizarre. So if he does see me but hasn't seen me for a while, how should I act. Should I be cold, or I guess I should be friendly and then he will start to think, wow I have lost my power over her.....I must get it back and the whole cycle will start again? Does that sound right?

I wouldn't ever go thru this if I really didn't think he was the one....again he is in my head and if that is the way he wants to play it, I can adapt and beat him at his own game.....

At what point will I know I have won?(lol) and when I do it sounds like it could be the beginning of the end......

Any other tips anyone could give me would be greatly appreciated.....I wouldn't want to hurt him for anything and I seem to have a great tolerance for pain.....because I figure it ultimately will be worth it.....its can't be worth much if it wasn't hard to get in the first place.....

cheeky14u 5/23/2007 10:48:14 AM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.129

So you figure neglect will win the cancers heart.....does punishment make you feel more and want the other person more? It really is a hard concept to wrap your head around(lol)

--> we want to keep things nice and easy, if there is trouble regarding a person we do like, we want to make things better

So because I am stuborn and will not yield it might have actually made him want me more? Totally bizarre. So if he does see me but hasn't seen me for a while, how should I act. Should I be cold, or I guess I should be friendly and then he will start to think, wow I have lost my power over her.....I must get it back and the whole cycle will start again? Does that sound right?

--> Yup, be friendly and ever so kind, because you want him to think he has no effect on you. We hate the "honey, you're not THAT special"-attitude. Don't make it too hard on him though, make sure he's convinced that there's always a chance to win you over!

At what point will I know I have won?(lol) and when I do it sounds like it could be the beginning of the end......

--> you'll know, trust me! At some point, we do make fools out of ourselves too you know, repeatedly 😛

So there is hope to win him after all....I just have to make like he means nothing and keep it friendly.....it sounds easy....but for me it can be hard to do.....I think once he looks in my eyes he will see it and its sometimes hard for me not to show how I really feel....

Are cancers always driven by emotion....so if he does realize he has some feelings will that make him act....and will he act only if he thinks there is a chance to win?

I can tell he is really sensitive and can feel there is more to him then meets the eye....my friend thinks he is a idiot....but I don't I just think he has a really bizarre process of doing things....and he needs to be sure of who he chooses....I guess I dropped the ball...but not really....and still think it could happen if all the stars align (lol)

I think he might be seeing someone also....but it is hard to tell when I have seen him with her its like they are so distant and he doesn't pay any attention to her and like I said he stares....unless he is just trying to piss her off and make her jealous.....but I don't think so for some reason....like I said I can see something in his eyes

I really appreciate all you help and insight any advice and tips you can give me are great!

Cancimini, you're pretty accurate with your posts about Aries men 🙂.

I called her yesterday evening and she first didn't knew it was me.
Then when she thought who would give her a call she said my name 🙂.

We're gonna play a game of soccer this evening ...

Golden rule: NEGLECT!
We actually need to be "neglected"/ignored in a way to urge action and so as to show our true emotions.
Why?? Because we analyse! We constantly sound out your emotions. Aries are "easy" creatures on the emotional level. We sometimes know in advance what you're gonna think or feel. When we don't get to see you, when you disappear or ignore us, we don't get to do that anymore!! So when we see you and you're all friendly and kind, but nothing more, we start wondering.. But no way in hell is there a possibility to rate you, so you'll always be one stap ahead of us..

It's as "simple" as that!

Cancimini you are so right about that. It's so true.

neglect, lol
I can do that, i'll take you out for a fun night show you that im interested in you and than I'll disappear for few days,weeks.......i know for a fact that it drives my cancer friend up the wall, lol, lol, lol

cheeky14u 5/24/2007 9:22:29 AM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.129

"So there is hope to win him after all....I just have to make like he means nothing and keep it friendly.....it sounds easy....but for me it can be hard to do.....I think once he looks in my eyes he will see it and its sometimes hard for me not to show how I really feel...."

--> You will be sending mixed signals, that's not too bad. Cancers rather act if they're practically certain about things, so in the meantime, you'll have all of his attention.Besides he's a cardinal, he loves a bit of challenge (if encouraged by your mixed signals).

"Are cancers always driven by emotion....so if he does realize he has some feelings will that make him act....and will he act only if he thinks there is a chance to win?"

--> It's impossible for a cancer to deny the feelings he/she's experiencing. Everything evolves around emotions! And we have a need to know what's up with that. So we start analyzing again, but this time our own emotions are examined! Being a cardinal, again, we will? ACT upon whatever is needed to take control over this restlessness.And obviously, you have to give him something to keep him going of course 🙂

"I can tell he is really sensitive and can feel there is more to him then meets the eye....my friend thinks he is a idiot....but I don't I just think he has a really bizarre process of doing things....and he needs to be sure of who he chooses....I guess I dropped the ball...but not really....and still think it could happen if all the stars align (lol)

I think he might be seeing someone also....but it is hard to tell when I have seen him with her its like they are so distant and he doesn't pay any attention to her and like I said he stares....unless he is just trying to piss her off and make her jealous.....but I don't think so for some reason....like I said I can see something in his eyes"

--> Hey, everybody is seeing everybody.. If he's not paying any attention to the girl and he's staring at you, that means something? like come on?! He's not obvious enough to piss her off or to make her jealous. If he really likes her and he wants to see her jealous, he'd do more than that for sure (cancers aren't that passive you know 😉 hehe).

boyfromutrecht 5/25/2007 5:41:49 AM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.49
"Cancimini, you're pretty accurate with your posts about Aries men . I called her yesterday evening and she first didn't knew it was me. Then when she thought who would give her a call she said my name. We're gonna play a game of soccer this evening ..."

--> Cool! Don't be surprised if she kicks your ass, hehe 😛

iluvmecancer 5/25/2007 12:57:03 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.5
"Cancimini you are so right about that. It's so true."

--> Scary huh— =D

class-act-aries 5/25/2007 3:17:17 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.86
"neglect, lolI can do that, i'll take you out for a fun night show you that im interested in you and than I'll disappear for few days,weeks.......i know for a fact that it drives my cancer friend up the wall, lol, lol, lol"

--> Days when we don't know you too well, weeks when we're crazy about you 😛

i was with her in a team and we lost against 2 of my friends. I don't really mind that, cuz it was pretty fun to play soccer with her.

When we lost she just said down and she watched the others play. i came to sit by her and we talked about things like hair coloring and stuff. Everything went well ...

TILL she started talking about her own opinion and stuff......

It's funny .. we both want to be right with our opinions ... and we don't admit the other is right .... It sucks .... cuz we can only talk " objectively " without yelling at eachother that i or she is right ....

I really appreciate your candor....your help is greatly appreciated and it will be put to good use....

So I guess the key is to not frighten the fish remain stationary and move slowly and sooner or later you could hook him(lol) again don't let his emotions run you and always
be in control of what you say and your actions....keep him off balance, let him see you as a challenge and a prize that is not easily won....

I hope I am up to the task.....cause everything in my head and my heart says he is worth it...

Any other info again is greatly appreciated....things I could do that would speed up the process....like if I could cut the time down to 1-2 years (lol)

Thanks a million!

It's strange how I know all these thing, but my hero is gone running 🙂 (he's that one out of ten aries I don't seem to catch)It's like he's dead or something. I never smothered him, but I questioned his intentions, and I guess that was a big no-no. The first thing I knew about him was that he wasn't afraid to speak his mind, he's kind of a daredevil and he's not afraid of anything (or so it seems). So I thought if he'd really care, he'd hang on to me no mather what I said? He was with his girlfriend for 5 years. Then the last year (of those 5 years) he started sending me messages and he wanted to meet up with me. Eventually he broke up with her (because he got tired of her) and he told me straightaway when I saw him again at a ball. He was a bit pissed that I lost touch with him that evening. When I talked to him later on he didn't react much and now I hear he's back with his ex-girlfriend. It's a shame? But I have only myself to blame I guess. Next year I think I will be seeing more of him, since I'm going back to university. I wonder what his reaction will be.

things* - has* gone running

darned mistakes 🙂 I know, I'm a freak!!