Update re: Cancer Guy. I cant Leave Him Alone Guys

Ok....so you guys remember the Cancer guy who was dating the Aries girl and kinda weird about leaving her alone.

Well I took your guys advice and wished the best of luck with him and lil' Ms. Aries and moved on, and left him alone. Well he emailed me yesterday and told me that he and the girl were done. He also acted really jealous about some comments that some of my male friends had left on my Myspace page. He asked me did I like any of them and did I want to date any of them.

But this is the weird part...he did all of that acting jealous bit, but did not call me. It's weird. It's obvious he likes me, otherwise, he would not be in my business the way he is...but he didnt call.

What do you guys make of this?

Its da dammmn cancer addiction,lol. Avoid it at all costs. But seriously though its call adding an air of mystery and adding attraction but we tend wait a while to make a move.

Ok and get this..... he just sent me an email saying "we need to talk...how ur day going".

Im thinking if we need to talk soo bad then why dont you frickin call me!!!

probably has no money on his phone... what sign are u?

LOL.. But he can call me at night when his minutes are free. I am a Scorpio. Everything that I read says that we should be pretty compatible.

yeah scorpios mix well,sexually too and they love the possesiveness we sometimes display

Yea b/c I am a lil possesive! LOL.

he will call,lol.

hopefully!

Dude really likes you. It's all there.

Why do you say that ABC?

May not seem like much to follow without him actually aknowledging so but well...

1.He's on the rebound. great sign.

2."He also acted really jealous about some comments that some of my male friends had left on my Myspace page..." ALARM.

3."It's obvious he likes me, otherwise, he would not be in my business the way he is...". This is TRUE.

Went through this with a girl once, or at least she did. Just watch for the rest, you might pick up on the hints he gives.

Girl I told you to beware! The Cancer/Scorpio pull is so very dangerous. They will drive you completely and totally insane.

Cancers I believe are naturally jealous. I love it...but they are also difficult to deal with...

I'm gonna have to get the Holy Oils out for the both of us-Come on over so mama can oil your forehead ✨

Karima girrlll you are not lying!!!

Get this...he called me last night and said that he was watching one of his favorite shows but he wanted to touch base ith me to see how my day is going. So, I told him that my day went well...andthen he tells me "well Im going to watch my show and Iwill call you as soon as get off work tomorrow at 5:30."

I thought that was so weird!

And I think what attracts me so much to him (other than the deep sexual tension) is the fact that he IS such a challenge. He's not a challenge in an asshole player type way. He's so sweet and sincere yet so complex and mysterious. Lord help me!

I have to make this man MINE! LOL

OH Jesus! Girl...I'm gonna fight you!!!!! God you feel the same way I do! Lord help us both! They are so sweet and just loving and they make you want to protect them and be around them often...

It's a very vicious and dangerous cycle.

I Hate it!!!!!!

But serioulsy I hope your Cancer is ready and available for you with his heart, mind, and spirit. Because if they are not open in the way you need them to be. Loving them is pointless...Take it from me.

Oh Lordie! This is actually scary....

I dont want to get hurt, but it just feels so right. And I know if it works with us it will be sooo GOOD!

But he is definitely taking his time at coming around.

"But he is definitely taking his time at coming around".

And he is gonna continue to do so...

Nothing you can do, feel, or say is gonna change that.

It's good when it's good but honey when you get fed up! You are gonna want to spit "Pea soup". I mean Cancers take Scorps anger to a whole other level. I'm at a place right now where. I love my Cancer with all my heart and all my soul. I am In-Love with him but guess what. Until he decides to open up his heart and let me in. I am leaving his ass to the wolves. And I know how he feels deep down but...they somehow manage to never open up all the way. Frustrating as all hell!

Oooohh NOOOOO!!!!!

Both my cousin and a really good friend of mine have Cancer boyfriends. Infact, my cousin's just proposed to her. He is so weird. Just 3 months ago he was anti-marriage. If she brought the subject up...it was an instant arguement. Then one day he proposed out the blue and now hes into it more than her. He buys wedding books...he got all excited.

They are a weird bunch. I think what keeps me hanging in there is the fact that I know how wonderful and true they can be when they do come around. They are one of the very few signs that will truly let a Scorp woman have her way, once they come around. It's just getting them to come around that is the prob. 😢

told ya he would call

Yea he called but for only a second...and then he got off so he could watch some stupid show.

Yesterday, when we spoke via email me that he had not called me b/c he had a lot of stuff on his mind. I wish there wasa way that I could get him to open to me.

Last night he "promised" that he would call me today so we can really talk, after he gets off work.

Last night he "promised" that he would call me today so we can really talk, after he gets off work.

Hopefully he will call and you guys can talk and move forward but if he doesn't try not to be too angry. At any rate keep us posted!

DON'T think too much into this or you might crash.

Karima I will definitely keep you guys posted.

ABCR...I will make sure not to crash and burn. Right now it's kinda fun. But I know it can get serious very quickly and very easily.

Hes slowly coming around.

He called me twice yesterday...which is an improvement for not calling at all. LOL. The last time we talked last night, we talked for almost 3 hrs until 1 am. We talked about everything from terrorism within the US to sex.

He said that he is going to come over on Sunday, and I am going to suprise him with dinner. But it will be hard to resist becoming intimate with him. Ooooh its going to be rough!

If you want to be intimate with him, be intimate with him. What's going happen is going happen whether it is now or 6 month, 9 months etc. Do what U feel. U R the only 1 who is gonna have to deal with it.

Krobe.... you are very right. I am the only one who is going to have to deal with my decision. And thats the problem. If I open myself and make myself available and vulnerable in that way...it will just make it that much easier for me to get hurt. And thats what I am scared of.

What do you think about that?

maianm-you know I got ya back. But as I said before-please, please make sure before you give him anything that you are clear on what he wants! If you listen to nothing else I have said. Please listen to that. I do not want you to be hurt.

I am telling you because I got hurt in the process and if he plays his cards right. He could definitely be the one for you. Before the panties come off make sure you ask him-Is this just for sex or are you open for a relationship.

I am on a sabatical right now. I am taking myself completely off the market because I am tired of being hurt and tired of men thinking having sex with women without a commitment is okay. It's not...Not for me.

So be careful and guess what 🙂 Have Fun! Let us know what happens...Well if you don't want to talk about the intimacy part. You don't have too.

Aww karima - thank you girl! Thank you soooo much for your concern!

Yes, we had a little talk last night. I told him that I am not the type to just have sex and that be that. That I may get clingy and want to see him and talk on a regular basis, and eventually want a full on commited relationship. I told him that if he is not up for that or does not want to be held responsible...its cool, but that I just wanted to let him know how I am so we are both on the same page.

He told me that he can handle that and that he is open to whatever happens. He also said that he may be the one who ends up being clingy.

Regardless of what he says though, I am going to try my best to hold out as long as I can. I at least want to give it a few more weeks.

Aww karima - thank you girl! Thank you soooo much for your concern!

Yes, we had a little talk last night. I told him that I am not the type to just have sex and that be that. That I may get clingy and want to see him and talk on a regular basis, and eventually want a full on commited relationship. I told him that if he is not up for that or does not want to be held responsible...its cool, but that I just wanted to let him know how I am so we are both on the same page.

He told me that he can handle that and that he is open to whatever happens. He also said that he may be the one who ends up being clingy.

Regardless of what he says though, I am going to try my best to hold out as long as I can. I at least want to give it a few more weeks.

Okay this is getting scary!!!

I have not talked to my Cancer since THURSDAY! He knows that my best friend came from out of town to visit me and that I planned on spending Friday, Saturday and the begining half of Sunday with her...before I take her to the airport today at 3pm.

We had discussed him coming over today after I drop her off at the airport, on Wednesday. He said that he was not sure as to the specific time...but that he was coming over.

But I have not heard from him since Thursday!!! My friends are telling me that since he knew that I was going to be busy with my friend this wkend, that he is prob giving me space and will call later today....but for some reason I feel worried that he wont call. Maybe it's my (Scorpio) fear of rejection. 😢

My friends also said that I should not call him and that if he wants to see me that he will call me. But to let it play out and see what he does on his own.

What do you guys think?

Do you guys think that a Cancer man would make plans and just stand me up without even calling to make something up?

Hmm.....so do you suggest that I just give him his space and attempt to communicate with him?

Ok now the question is when should I call him.

Should I call him sometime soon...and ask him whats up and if hes still planning on coming over. Or, should I give him a chance to call and wait until later in the day??

HELP!?!??!

Well guys...its over!!!!

I called him he did not answer the phone...i left a message and he DID NOT return my phone call. He basically stood me up! So I guess thats that.

How frickin disrespectful and rude can a person be!?!?!? I thought Cancers were supposed to be all loving and kind...He displayed niether charateristic. And really hurt me in the process of acting like an ass.

I just cant believe him!!!

I dated a Gemini and I thought he was the pits...but one thing I can sayabout him is that he was a MAN. When he said that he was going to do something..he would do it, and if he couldnt he would let me know.

What this Cancer did is a direct sign of his disrepsect and lack of interest in me. Not only is this guy clearly not interested in me, but he lacks respect for me as well. I am so hurt by him. I would have never expected this out of him.

I am going CRAZZZZYYY. I feel a bad mix of hurt and anger. LOL. I want him to have to answer for what he did. Atleast, be held responsible and give me some type of explaination.

I sent him a message on myspace...please read below and tell me what you guys think.

I'm going insane!!! I just wish I could forget about him and get over it already!

****

"Hey you,

I hope that everything is going well for you and that you had a good weekend.

I am writing this lil' message b/c I am just a little confused. I really don't understand what happened with you yesterday.

If you didn't want to go out for whatever reason, or if you're just not interested in me all together and don't want to talk to me?I don't understand why you just didn't say so. I don't want to jump to conclusions, without knowing the full story, and I don't want to think that you would be that you would do something that could appear to be inconciderate?

So, let me know what's up. Like I have told you before, you don't have to worry about hurting my feelings, I am a big girl. :> "

Okay so this is the deal...I feel like an idiot!

First he respinds to the emailing asking me if I received his voicem message that he sent me last night.

I have has voicemails on my cell phone for the last few days. I hate checking my voicemail so I normally ljust look at my missed calls and call ppl back without listening to the voicemail. And there is this little envelope that appears onn the screen of my cell phone..but it does not tell me when a new one comes in.

Make a long story short he had left a message i didnt know it b/c I assumed the envelope was from the old messages. So, I finally checked and he did leave a message telling me that he was not feeling well and that he needed to take a rain check..so now I feel embarrased that I accused him of being a dirty dog and he atleast called. 😢

Giiirrlllll we will see.

Im going to take it slow and see what happens. I truly beleive that this happened for a reason...maybe to tell me to sloooowwww down. LOL

Redrovertoo,
U give good advice. I don't call the Cancer I know much, however, this seems to help the situation. DON'T CALL or put on PRESSURE! They usually come back around. Cancer usually asks me to call him or asks Y I don't call him. I think giving up the space helps. Then he comes running like what's up? Y U don't call. When, I do call. He never answers the first one. It is always the next time and the next time has some serious space. Then he picks up and he acts alot better too. I just let him come around if he wants me to call I will. When he is emotional I try to emotionally support him. He has been emotional...opening up more...Now! At first it was HELL! I just back off! NO Pressure! That helps.

Redrovetoo,
Yeah, I know what U mean, however, I have a man. Period. Cancer wants to be my man. Or at least make me "THINK" he does. He used to call me a great deal, until he started texting me at 1-2 am and I was not accepting that. Not at all. Cancer men, they will do work when U give them space with I don't care if U do leave me attitude. MY motto is bye, see ya, you R not the 1st man that has walked out my life and once U leave U will not B the last. LOL! I think that does something to them. LOL! Its like Y don't U want me to B your man? LOL! I don't treat him mean we'll not the nasty acting mean however, I do not let him run over me. I think he respects me more since I act this way. However, Yeah he is very charming, very intelligent. I just shake it off! Like it does not appeal to me and he comes up with something else. However, it is all game that he just can't run on me. Since, he realizes this. He is "acts" as a whole new person then the one I first met. However, he is not my man so I just let him come to me and open up when he is ready. NO pressure. He is very young, attractive and I know my chances R slim so I just show him that we can be aquaintances, because they don't believe in that just friends and he acts better. I can't change him and I know I can't. SO I just accept him the way he is. However, I stand him up more than he does me. LOL! He still comes around. LOL! I don't know what it is? I have no clue, however, when he calls or comes around I welcome him and listen to him when he opens up. That's all I can do.

OMFG, you guys need to hook up.. put the phones down and just hook up.

OMFG, you guys need to hook up.. put the phones down and just hook up.

NO it takes some patience with you Cancer men. LOL! I will prefer to wait it out. I don't want to B hurt like some of these other women. I have feelings too. Maybe I need to stop reading these boards and quit being scared and try it huh? From reading these msgs. I am SCARED! LOL! I don't think I want to take this kind of heartbreak.

Sometimes you need to stop waiting for something that may never happen and just go for it. Hook up and have some mind-boggling sex.

OK,
I will take your advice 6 months seem long enough. Done deal. Thanks LOL!

Krobe are you a scorp too? 6 months? Thats crazy.. what were you waiting for? It's so easy: I like girl; girl likes me; girl invites me to her place; we have sex; we're a couple.. end of story.

im not sure if i can help.....i never hardly ever called my ex, i really didnt have to....she called me always at lunch...sometimes while she was at work, on the way home and then to ask if i was headed out to her house yet.lol and when we were having problems i wouldnt answer.....she would call and leave messages.. not that im cold but it would piss me off because we would get into an arguement and i would want to work it out...make-up , talk it over.....nope she would shrink up and just stare at me, or take something to make her go to sleep ......so id say screw it and leave. then shed want to talk after a day or two and i was done. to me the time for her step up and act like she cared came and went....so i wouldnt want to talk about it anymore.

i like other people calling me....shows theres interest....i want someone to NEED to talk to me. 🙂

I'll be honest, these cancers you guys meet sound like a bunch of mindgame playing idiots. I also don't know why you guys take so much crap..

No I am not a scorp! LOL! Yeah, I feel U and U would "think" it is supposed to happen like that. HOWEVER...the deal is homeboy just does not want it to happen without him being number 1. I feel him though! He don't want to play seconds and I have to respect that! So what can I do. Wait until the time is right. I can't just jump out here and change my life in 1 day U know.

What can I say, homeboy is a selfish idiot..

Redrovetoo,
U R right. I feel like if I care about it, he will know it and back off...So Y care...I just back off and he comes around. LOL! If he asks me to call I will. I don't want him to feel like I am bugging him or trying to convince him that he is the one for me ya know.