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hate cancers!!!!
A Cancerboy played real hard with MY heart. He knew I loved him, so he pretended to care?.... when he was just playing around. He broke my soul.... cause really thought he cared.

sag-girl

Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one who inflicted it.
And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. Attack thoughts toward others are attacks on ourselves.
The first step in fogiveness is the willingness to forgive. If you can state, despite your resistance, your willingness to see the spiritual innocence, the light in the soul of one who has harmed you, you have begun the journey to a deep and unshakable peace. By Forgiving, you heal your spirit, your soul and your being!!!!

Do you think if you have done something to someone that it is always better to instigate an apology? I am in an awkward situation because i dont know this person that well but feel i owe her an apology, i am ridden with guilt.

PS. I like your perspective on forgiveness. I have spent my life controlling people through intimidation and ultimatums. I give them ultimatums to control them but now im thinking that maybe i have to compromise and that is a skill i am not good at. The question is how far do you compromise before you lose yourself? All i want to be is the nice person i know i can be but somehow i am too afraid. All i want to do is shine!
Have a good day.

If you are feeling guilty about something, then nine times out of ten the situation warrants an apology and/or at least an analyzation as too why it (the something) was done in the first place. Regardless to your being well acquainted with this individual or not Pain is Pain, Hurt is Hurt. What you send out to the universe does come back. Be Blessed, Be the Light not the Darkness.......

Know that you only have control over oneself. By choices and deeds. By trying to contol others only brings forth the insecurity an unhappiness that we are feeling in our own lives. I know that you have a precious spirit we all do, Let It Shine!!!!!

Hmmm...my b/f broke up with me 7 months ago - and I haven't spoken to him in all this time. He hurt me tremendously - it wasn'r pretty, and very insensitive. I did call him and we are going to speak. I need to forgive and make peace with him to his face - and then will I only be ready to truly move on love another. It's tough - and takes courage - but I HAVE to do this. Friends have warned me against such a thing, but I have to - it's a must. It just keeps knawing and knawing at me!tned ha

I too suffered a tremendous hurt or awakening about seven months ago. I lost my job due to downsizing, my house that I only had five more years before it would truely be mine and a little of myself. I was hurt, angry and confused! That was then.....Now I've come to the realization that material stuff is just that, STUFF. Things you acquire just BECAUSE. Know that you are not the same person you were seven months ago, not even the same person you were yesterday. If meeting face-to-face with your ex will facilitate closure, then by all means DO IT!!! Pardon my bluntness but regardless to your friends warnings, it's your life. If this is what you need to close that chapter, face it head on ......I did and I'm a better, happier person for doing it.

Tah-Tah-For-Now

Scooter... (^_^)

I second that motion! If you never have
the closure you need. That door will
always be open. Be it one -if you see
each other years from now- have kids
and husbands..or just a significant
other. You will feel an open door
when coming face to face with the person
until you close it. You can open as many
doors as you want, but you wont ever
walk through one- until you close one
behind you.

Thanks guys - I did speak to him yesterday. I am a gay male - and this has been extremely difficult. We became so emotionally attached to each other - like brothers, soulmates - incredible connection. He broke up with me - in a very hurtful way. I never got closure. I know he was devastated also, because I stopped talking to him totally. We had a wonderful conversation yesterday. I know he is dating someone again now, and that's ok. We did tell each other that we missed each other. My feelings for him have changed - I care for him deeply - and he does me. It was a good connection. Maybe someday we will be the best of friends, maybe not. Time will tell.

You go girl! Isnt it funny how people stop responding to you on this board when you tell them you're gay. I had the same problem but i still post, cant shut this little pussy up 🙂

PS. Im really glad you spoke to him, now you can get closure...!

I had to make peace with him, somehow, someway, for my own well-being. I made a footprint in his life, I know, and will always remember that as I do. He wants to eventually meet for a drink or something, but I don't know about that yet. One thing at a time.

STOP it YOU weird thing!! I'M THE ONE who posted the damn message. And I'm a Sag-GIRL!!! I'm so not gay......I'm heartbroken by a cancer-boy!! We never actually dated...it never got that far. He just knew that I had a HUGE crush on him, so he pretended to care. I thought it was for real. Until I realised that the only reason he seemed to care, was that he had somehow become familiar with my (what I thought) secret love for him.

Sorry forgot to log on....just wanted to confirm that I DID write the message above!!!!!!!!

And I didn't speak to him yet either:o(
There's not really anything left to said....he can't see anything wrong in what he's beeen doing! Is there anything wrong in flirting with someone, who you know loves you— When you don't feel as strongly for them??
Maybe I'm the oversensitive one...

sorry - I was just venting my hurt. Didn't mean to offend anyone, really.

Sagis would take death first rather than be w/a Cancer. The two DEFINITELY don't mix. Unless you're the exception to the rule?

hey I know lots of sag/cancer couples...and once too!!! I a taurus rising...maybe that counts for something

I just have to say, the response that some of you Cancers have, were absolutely wonderful and caring. Even though this topic started off with hate, you guys/gals gave love, openess and forgiveness.

Cancers are some kind of WONDERFUL!!

P.S. (I'm a Cancer too LOL)

I just want to say I kindof agree. The cancer male I love is such a cheater. He sleeps around with a different girl every night. I just found out this week and it really hurts. He was seeing me and two other women at the same time. I just want to know is that a trait of some cancer men? It was great until I admitted to him I had feelings after that he started to be busy at work. Now I find out about other sex partners. I know what a fool? Oh well his loss. I still love him but cannot feel safe with him or ever trust him. But tell me is that a cancer male trait? I like the other things about him and if its not I will gladly go out with another one!

OOOpsie!! I was the first respondent to your post ( forgiveness )....I'm a true blue Gemini, hope it doesn't matter.