My gf retreated in her shell...

My gf went into her shell not because of me but because of everyone around her. Her life circle so to speak. Everyone is always asking for favors grom her, she is a single parent of 2 girls and wants a "break" from parenting as all moms would like. Her mother felt like since weve been together she never goes to see her anymore and that hit her hard too.

She was distant today and i asked whats wrong!? She replied she wanted to be in her bubble and id just have to understand. I do because i see it as her way to recharge her batteries.

My question is how long will she be in her shell and barely communicate with me??

Just give her time. I don't think it will be long it depends on the situation for her. Also support will get her out the shell sooner. For me...if I feel bad about a situation and I just feel like no one get it. I have to go away and figure out this rational way to deal with my emotions.

Posted by Arielle83
Until she feels ready.

You keep checking in and asking her to come back will make her go deeper.

So when she in shell do i just dont contact her at all? I thought small good morning/night text will let her know im still around.

Posted by butterfly30
Just give her time. I don't think it will be long it depends on the situation for her. Also support will get her out the shell sooner. For me...if I feel bad about a situation and I just feel like no one get it. I have to go away and figure out this rational way to deal with my emotions.

She mentioned going in her shell a week or 2 before now so i kinda knew it was coming

Posted by ufo
the title sounds like my autobiography

just give her space, be present but she'll decide when she comes around and ask her if there's anyway you can make things easier for her

Well today she should get a package in the mail from me i told her about. Maybe thatll help some.

Posted by LadyLuna19
Like a crab when I feel safe, I'll pop back out and make efforts to see people. If i feel withdrawn or drained, I either lash out or stay quiet and luckily my friends know that means I need time to recharge or I need to reorganize myself...

How long does that last?