@moontide
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Hey Cancerians
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.
Also, don't take it personally. Females are sick. Maybe she was getting close to the other person at the same time and he just made a move first and she deemed him the bf.
Also, that Leo and Virgo are both guys, but it works both ways. If a female Cancer has Venus in Gemini or Leo, she won't be as clingy.
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.
I realize this, and again I know I'm generalizing Cancer as a sign.
She had been dating this person since before we even met.
I don't mind if people like to date many people, but two at once? That's never okay without letting both people know what's going on, Digress
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.I realize this, and again I know I'm generalizing Cancer as a sign.
She had been dating this person since before we even met.
I don't mind if people like to date many people, but two at once? That's never okay without letting both people know what's going on, Digress click to expand
How do you know he doesn't know she dates others? click to expand
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She told me she doesn't tell him about me
Posted by Triple_C
Also, that Leo and Virgo are both guys, but it works both ways. If a female Cancer has Venus in Gemini or Leo, she won't be as clingy.No but i am venus in leo and i am high maintenance as fuck! watch out! click to expand
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I don't mind that at all. If both people can laugh about it, it can be an endearing quality ha
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.I realize this, and again I know I'm generalizing Cancer as a sign.
She had been dating this person since before we even met.
I don't mind if people like to date many people, but two at once? That's never okay without letting both people know what's going on, Digress click to expand
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Yeah, I kind of agree. You should know if the dating is not exclusive. Unfortunately, many human beings are utter piles of ****. Lol. They will do whatever they can get away with and then claim innocence.
Posted by Triple_C
Also, that Leo and Virgo are both guys, but it works both ways. If a female Cancer has Venus in Gemini or Leo, she won't be as clingy.No but i am venus in leo and i am high maintenance as treetrunk! watch out! click to expand
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At least you're not a clinger : )
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.
It's not so black and white. Cancer sun with a gemini venus here. I'm very loyal and clingy.
And it takes me years to get over a person who I had deep feelings for, even if they hurt me a lot, used me etc. I can't move on to someone new easily, even if I want to.
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.It's not so black and white. Cancer sun with a gemini venus here. I'm very loyal and clingy.
And it takes me years to get over a person who I had deep feelings for, even if they hurt me a lot, used me etc. I can't move on to someone new easily, even if I want to. click to expand
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That sounds like a blessing when things are good, and, well, a curse otherwise. I have trouble getting over people emotionally too.
Posted by Triple_C
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.It's not so black and white. Cancer sun with a gemini venus here. I'm very loyal and clingy.
And it takes me years to get over a person who I had deep feelings for, even if they hurt me a lot, used me etc. I can't move on to someone new easily, even if I want to. click to expand
That sounds like a blessing when things are good, and, well, a curse otherwise. I have trouble getting over people emotionally too. click to expand
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Yeah, it has been more of a curse than a blessing really.
Also, that Leo and Virgo are both guys, but it works both ways. If a female Cancer has Venus in Gemini or Leo, she won't be as clingy.
What? I am a Cancer with a Venus in Leo and sometimes I could be clingy into an extend.
In no doubt, a Cancer will break up with the boyfriend first before they get together with somebody else.
The loyal ones are usually the ones that have a hard time letting go.
Only the ones that aren't serious about the relationship will think it's not a problem as long as it wasn't anything sexual
I give myself time to focus on myself before I even move on
Love and relationships have to do with Venus; not the Sun. I know a Leo and a Virgo who both have Venus in Cancer and they are both soft and whipped and could never live without clinging to another person. I am a Cancer Sun, but I have a Gemini Venus and I don't want to be stuck dating any one person. People need to understand this stuff. I know that Cancer, as the crab, is thought of as being clingy, but it all depends on Venus.
It's not so black and white. Cancer sun with a gemini venus here. I'm very loyal and clingy.
And it takes me years to get over a person who I had deep feelings for, even if they hurt me a lot, used me etc. I can't move on to someone new easily, even if I want to. click to expand
That sounds like a blessing when things are good, and, well, a curse otherwise. I have trouble getting over people emotionally too.
I have trouble with people when I am in a situation, but after, I am quite good at compartmentalizing and moving on and sometimes I do get short-circuited recalling certain memories that make me sad/blue, but generally, I only hang on to people until I don't. I might hang on to the anger of the situation, but not the person.
In regards to your situation look at it this way, she's probably settled and figures, why ruin what I have until I am sure of this thing with this other guy. It's very selfish, but maybe she doesn't even trust her own feelings. How can you when you fall for someone else outside your relationship, I would doubt my own mind and emotions, yet sometimes the allure is too strong so have to pursue.
It's not so simple being a crab, we are emotional entities and sometimes we can be addicted to how that person makes us feel and not the actual person.
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That's what I concluded as well, she was keeping a safety net of sorts for herself. Being emotional or uncertain doesn't justify that behavior though. I would argue that the way a person makes you feel IS that person, even if you don't want to acknowledge it. You can't just disregard someone's humanity like that without damaging yourself emotionally. It strikes me as very dissociative.
well, I do usually have a few love interests at the same time, but one is always stronger.
and while I’m always hyped about falling for anyone new, I must admit I’m quite lustful and emotional at the same time, so I can only tell the difference between love and a momentary desire after weeks or even months it has passed (and probably hurt me as well).
I would agree with this for the most part. However, I don't wait to end a relationship - if I want to end it, I end it. Most of the time I am happier single anyways because I have multiple people I'm interested in, although a lot of them could end up as flings. It takes a lot for me to commit to a relationship, I'd rather be single and date whoever. Still, my Moon is in Cappy, and my Venus is in Leo, so I may be slightly different.
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Hey Cancerian women out there,
I've heard that your sign has a tendancy to 'tree-branch' from one love interest to another. Does that stereotype hold any weight in your experience? Do you end a relationship before you pursue another one or do you look for other potential partners while you're in a relationship? I thought you were very faithful and relationship oriented. Of course, I do realize that I'm generalizing your sign here.
I was getting close to a Cancerian girl who a month into interacting revealed she had a boyfriend, even though we were very touchy-feely intimate with each other, cuddling, spending a lot of time together, in ways that would probably constitute emotional cheating on her part.
I started to back away because I respect the idea of relationships and it made her upset and she didn't seem to understand or care why. It left me feeling really confused and lead on but I'm still very drawn to her. She seemed like she was pursuing me, and was the one who initiated our interactions. Just.. confusing.
I'm curious of your input.