Seeking advice, courting a cancer woman

So I was screwing around on a dating website not really taking it too seriously. And I met this woman, and I just completely fell for her, utterly and completely like all those romantic poems out there that sound almost over romanticized (well of course I've never met anyone who made me feel the way before). Butterflies, tingling all over, can't stop thinking about her. I'm 47 and had never experienced that before and quite frankly just didn't think that kinda stuff was for real, until it happened to me. I was honest with her, pour my heart and soul out for her, everything. I sent romantic poetry for days on end, romantic love songs, talked about what a fairy tale romance this could be. And she just stopped responding to me, I just asked if she would give me some sort of sign if she had moved on or scared and needed time and I made it pretty clear that I'd wait forever for her. Still no responses, now I'm just utterly crushed thinking that I scared away the best thing that's ever happened to me and something that I may never find again...

any opinions/advice?

I am a Taurus man who divorced a Cancer woman 6 months ago after a 6 years old rs. But that is not the point.

The point is that you've opened up to her too soon. You said you will wait on her FOREVER. And the cancer lady (in fact any woman) thinks 'ok, I will come back to this guy later on, now lets see whats out there' ...

I did that myself a few times, not with the Cancer woman, so I can speak from experience.

Before pouring all your heart out...why didn't you agree to meet with her in person, first?



This is odd behavior for a Taurus.

well I think skye might be right. My assumption was that since she was opening my messages (you get these notifications when someone opens your message) that she was reading them and probably just scared/in her shell blah blah

I'm just a hopeless romantic and was just hoping/dreaming of something incredibly romantic.

Thats happens when you put your feelings out there, they usually get trampled...

Lol Im on dating site...

I am on and off of all the time...

I was vibing with a Taurus and suddenly I just got off the site..

Not cause I wasn't Interest in him I was just overwhelmed I get over a 400 "hits" 198 msgs..

When ever I log on.. Everyone starts talking at once and its hard to connnect with people let alone hold a convo...

Sometimes I log off turn off my notifications and I am blissful unaware of any msg... I have 36 unanswered msg right.... Now... 😢

Also next time you talk ask for her number its easier and more personal good luck!

Posted by Cancan26
Lol Im on dating site that I am on and off of all the time... I was vibing with a Taurus and suddenly I just got off the site.. Not cause I wasn't Interest him I was just overwhelmed I get over a 400 "hits" 198 msgs.. When ever I log on.. Everyone starts talking at once and its hard to connnect with people let alone hold a convo... Sometimes I log off turn of my notifications and I am blissful unaware of any msg... I have 36 unanswer msg right.... Now... 😢

because it's a game and people catch on quick - what I see that happens is that all the grogs are lined up waiting for new and inexperienced new users to show up so they can be the first ones to pounce - the idea is to sort through them and after a few weeks settle down to perhaps getting a few real inquiries come in and/or going out from you

to the @OP - yeah, sumthing wrong with you bro - sorry but IMHO you are infatuated and most likely scared this woman off the chart by coming on like a psycho

Posted by Skye
Do you both have pictures up on this website?

yes we both have pics.

I started with 1 message, she read it granted me access to her private pics.

I sent another pretty much just bullshit chatting and what not. she read it right away, this went on for a while. Like she was sitting there waiting for me to message her... I just assumed she was being a cancer and waiting to see if I was just on there looking to get laid or really looking for something serious. The poetry was just something for the hell of it, and she was reading the message about as fast as I was sending them. So it would see as though she was into it, so I just kept going, started throwing in some info about myself here and there. She just kept reading. It's just gotten to a point where I'm just kinda like hey are you taking this seriously or playing a game etc. We could use regular old email instead of me paying for all these messages. Just logical stuff. Like I said I've met women online for years and I'm not worried about meeting them in person whatevs. I've found there are a lot of particularly hot women that only interact online because they're tired of guys drooling all over them in person... If you want real true bonding, I have always felt you start with the non-physical first. But I'm not going to debate that, everyone has their opinion....

On several occasions I made it clear that if I was creeping her out or bothering her, I'd just leave her alone. Just the same thing, reads my messages within a couple of minutes after I send them etc. I'm totally new to online dating sites, but have been online since the mid 80's and have met plenty of women, that were just friends and some that turned romantic.

I've never really met any cancers until now, and honestly never really put a lot of stock in astrology and relationships. This was just a situation I hadn't experienced, so I'm a lot confused. I admitted that it was fast and she was probably scared, shit I'm scared, I've never felt this way, I've been dating for 30 years. It still seems pretty romantic, but at the same time I don't wanna keep this up if she just thinks I'm a douchebag... 😛

Yeah so I'm dumb to jump in that fast, but how the hell are you are going to ahve a fair tale romance if you don't take a chance?

I've had several women on the same site block me after just sending a greeting, so that was my assumption that that is how they tell you to bug off...

Posted by SadTaurus
worried about meeting them in person whatevs. I've found there are a lot of particularly hot women that only interact online because they're tired of guys drooling all over them in person... If you want real true bonding, I have always felt you start with the non-physical first. But I'm not going to debate that, everyone has their opinion....

This is TOTAL BS!

Posted by SadTaurus
well I think skye might be right. My assumption was that since she was opening my messages (you get these notifications when someone opens your message) that she was reading them and probably just scared/in her shell blah blah

I'm just a hopeless romantic and was just hoping/dreaming of something incredibly romantic.

Thats happens when you put your feelings out there, they usually get trampled...

For someone you barely met?

Posted by DiamondAce
It just takes time. I think you can still get back her attention but slow down and give a little of space.

yeah, I get it

Thanks for the advice

My Mom is a Cancer. After being a widow for ages and stories about how much she loved my father...all of a sudden she told me she doesn't understand how I can love someone so much! I said but you loved dad! She said but I loved myself more and I would never let love for man to be killing me bevause YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF MORE!

I know few other Cancer women and I can tell - my mom pretty much sums up them all!

And sorry for your hurt. You haven't met have you? Because I think she might been catfishing so she took off before exposing herself.

Just ??‍♀️??‍♀️??‍♀️

Posted by DiamondAce
I'm not a cancer but I'm a woman. I'd be scared if someone confess that much that soon especially online dating and in a world full of empty promises and skeptics. It just takes time. I think you can still get back her attention but slow down and give a little of space. Good luck and sorry to hear of your situation.

Same here. I'm a cancer woman and as much as I want a committed partner, I get scared and will run for my life if I feel that they crush me with super high expectations or move too fast. I broke up with a partner who put too much expectations and too much of their happiness on my shoulders. Not saying that you did that, but she might have read it that way. To be honest all that romantic and mushy stuff would have me run for the hills in an eye blink (but maybe that's my Virgo rising).

And I don't know what she had told you before that? You don't speak to anything she communicated to you.

Why don't you go on a site you have to pay for? That sounds fishy? I also think it's unhealthy because people tend to expect results for their money and that's really not how anyone should approach meeting a romantic partner.