Sex/Love...not just for Cancers...FOR EVERYONE!!!

What's more important to you? I constantly see failing relationships and all types of promiscuity and I know where I stand. Where do u stand? And what are you looking for? Me personally, I need somebody I can relate to in some kind of spiritual/deep way. If that's not there, it all seems pointless. I need a connection on some level with a woman before I can engage in sexual nouns ons with her, because that act alone is going to be a deep spiritual thing.........trust me :-). Am I alone? I feel like know body respects what love (and the act of making love) really is or should be.

And thats supposed to say "Before I engage in sexual **GOINGS ON'S**......Not nouns or whatever that f $ $ k....F $ $ k spell correct with a 15 inch ***k!!

sexual nouns lol

boy you do know how to get a virgo excited 😄

for me..love over sex any day.

LoL. Very Virgo like of u. :-)
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Posted by Metaphysicalreciprocity
Deep/spiritual connection definitely...it takes sexual intimacy to another dimension. Sex that is experienced solely to satiate a primal appetite has not been successful with me...so, like you said...it's pointless.

I recommend celibacy/abstinence to those who've not found someone that they connect with on a metaphysical level. I really do believe that when you're sexually intimate with someone, you give a part of yourself to that person; not just in the physical sense. So, that's why people who are promiscuous are not only oftentimes affected physically by it (venereal diseases), but also mentally and emotionally. What's left to give when you've desensitized yourself to something so sacred and beautiful, and you've shared it indiscriminately? Nothing, but the remnants of self-destruction.

Very well said.

@Metaphysical-Definately well put. That's exactly what I'm talking about. I (being a 33 year old male) also have not been sexually active for quite some time and refuse to fall victim to societies standards which in turn would totally disagree with who I am inside and what I feel. It sucks because at times u feel as if knowbody else gets it. As if know body holds something sacred as such anymore. Thanks for your input and honesty. :-)

Hi Clueless :-)

same... the frustrating thing for me though is that sometimes i DO connect spiritually and mentally with someone from the opposite sex but it goes no further than on a platonic level for me. i think in retrospect that's simply how i connect with people... i DESPISE small talk (but i'll do it in settings that require it) and would much rather prefer the mental/spiritual way. so i think the spark that takes me, personally, beyond a platonic level might be a mixture of spiritual/mental/animalistic lust/and something unexplainable. so i can't quite say a spiritual/mental connection is what takes the cake... it has to be MORE than that. but maybe because i'm just a picky idealist. :/

@Bloodflood- I understand that. That's usually how I tend to be as well. I'm not for too much small talk either. The spiritual/mental connection is definately not the only factor, but its very important to me. At least you acknowledge it though. Some people are pure lust and that's what's confusing to me. Thanks for your input.

I always thought there was going to be a shift and funny enough, I understood it while reading dxp, lately. Those who were and those who are have helped show me that

There are those who do. There are those who don't. That's it. That's the shift.

People now relate on a different plane that does not involve the physical.

For example, Internet relationships/friendships whatever do not exist in the physical. They may touch it, so the physical self gets confirmation of it's existence, but the relationship does not exist there. Spiritual connections also exist on this plane. They are just as tangible as the physical.
Pluto in Scorpio generation are putting things in black and white with opinions over sexuality and how it is expressed. This generation has formed into two basic groups.

There are those who do. There are those who don't.

There are those who are looking for deep bonds in relationships on that plane.
There are those who are looking for only physical relationships on this plane. (even though they may not be aware of it)

We are everything. We are nothing.

I used to think that everything was grey and you had to find the answer in the in between but I see now how that was misleading. There is no grey. There's Here and There. They are simultaneous but exist separately.

curious but have you tried the "pure lust" route?

Posted by CluelessCancer
whats your moon blood?

i'm a sag moon. apparently though sag moons don't get a good rep here for being passionate, enduring lovers :/ that's far from the truth and as a fire moon i'm sure you'd understand 🙂

both are important to me
and I want both
will not compromise one over another
if it takes time to have both then so be it

Yea blood. Doesn't work for me.

Ok. I want to take this in another direction with a hypothetical, because I'm curious:

Say you did connect with someone on a very deep level, but circumstances dictated there could be nothing further to be built on in terms of a future (distance, what have you).
Could you be intimate with that person, knowing this, and be able to walk away still happy that for that brief moment of time, you could be together?

Please note: I don't include having affairs, cheating, or something out of a sappy chick flick. So I'd ask to just stay on the question.

^Yes, I would be content with the moment, even if there's no follow up. Life itself is a brief moment in time. The happier, the better

+ I couldn't deal with "what could have been" type of reasoning.

I have to say that sometimes i hate that i "just" can't have sex, everyone who is "just having it seems to be having so much fun and everytime i try, i just can't go through with it. my need of connection to have sex drives me nuts sometimes, like why can't i just do it. then sometimes, it remains one of the many things i like about myself.

I'm so with you on this. I can not give myself to someone without some kind of deep connection. I was never into one night stands. It always takes me a long to before I do the do with my past relationships. If I am not in a relationship, I do not want sex. I would like to take time to get to know someone first. That makes it all the more better. The foundation must be in place before we take it to the bedroom. I have a lot of libra and gem in my chart, so I like to also be mentally stimulated. Also, I have to be able to trust you. I need to feel safe and secure. If not, it's not going down.

I gotta see where her mind is at before I'm willing to get behind that.