Signs that a cancer guy is interested

How to differentiate between a cancer guy who likes you but is taking it slow to get to know you and a cancer guy who is just playing?

Cancer men Ive known have been persistent about persuing the woman they like. Ive seen Cancer and other watery men who date women that persue them or that they are not really into get very tantrumy, blamey, dump their emotions (not in a good way) and the female is left trying to "make everything right" or somehow thinking if only she would do this, this and this everything will be OK. No, if you're getting a cancer dumping their lower emotions (including sulking, crying, taking lots of time away in a bad mood, blaming you) from the get-go they are just not that into you. If you get game, they maybe into you but are not evolved enough for reality.

I'm going to go by my experience in the past with 2 cancer men. They both were exactly the same in their approach, which was not direct by any means.

The first one Cancer A (cancer sun and moon) would ask me questions about my world/life. Some questions he would ask were: "what kind of guys do you like?" They undertones of these questions are romantic in nature. They send you songs. He communicated through music lyrics like "did you hear that song 'I love you' by so and so. He didn't want to speak of any other woman with me. When I brought them up, he would brush it off. If I ever told him about some girl that likes him, he would brush the topic off and say "I don't care, I'm not interested in her". They ask you to spend time with them. This guy, mind you, was my brother's best friend. He was out of line with the things he was doing and he knew that. So my point is that even a double cancer/the most insecure or shy of men will do sneaky things like this to show interest. He would do nice things for me and would get upset if he didn't see me at school or at my home when he came to hang out with my bro. He showed jealousy when he saw me with another guy at school. He would make underhanded comments like "oh so I saw you with your bf". lol. Don't expect a cancer to make the first move. They will show you that they like you in subtle way, but you will have to make the first move. The only time they will come out and say it outright is if they are losing the girl to some other guy, which leads to cancer B.

Cancer B (cancer sun, capri moon) was my best friend. I met him at my workplace. Initially he liked a girl who was also aquarius. lol. In fact he's the one who got me into astrology. Eventually he started liking me and he was the kindest, sweetest guy I knew. He knew my soft spot, which being my mom, so he'd send flowers for my mom. He gave me 2 tickets to Cirque du Soleil (as I love them), one for me and one for my mom. He was very reliable and there wasn't a thing he didn't do for me. He insisted on paying everytime we went out. Since he initially liked another aqua girl, it didn't even occur to me when he stopped liking her and started to like me. Nevertheless, he never told me. Then I met my libra ex and started dating him. Cancer B took every opportunity to put down my bf. When I broke up with him, that's when one emotional tidal wave hit him and he immediately jumped on the opportunity. He told me over the phone that he LOVES me. Not like, but LO

Aquarius09, please tell me more about the personality of the cancer dude with capricorn moon.

I'm kinda dealing with a guy with those exact placements (+gemini venus, which I'm kinda suspicious about 😄). Oh boy, it hasn't been easy. Dude frustrates me. I've realised that I can be very impulsive & rash with him because of how slow he is sometimes with some things- including how he avoids direct questions like a plague. I find him secretive & indirect & it annoys me 😄 Answering questions shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Nonono. Ain't nobody have time for that. I've broken up with him several times already because of these traits, but he always manages to weasel his way back into my good books...until he starts dodging questions again. We're off again at the moment 😛

Anyway, I find cancer men quite interesting, sweet & caring. I click with this one without effort. We're similar in many ways, except the secretiveness. He is such a sweetheart though so it's really hard to stay mad at him. What guy asks what you had for breakfast, lunch & dinner? I thought it was weird at 1st & told him so too. He was offended, naturally & told me he asks because he is concerned about my wellbeing. How cute is that 😛! Never had a guy act as my nutritionist before. Ha!

Crabs aren't so bad after all, they just require A LOT of understanding & patience. We'll see...

Posted by Libralicious72
Aquarius09

I hope that the people who have misjudged you from your previous post read this! :o)

Libralicious, you are a wise woman, and we don't have many like yourself on this website, certainly not on the cancer board. I believe you are new on this website but in due time, as you read more posts in the cancer board, you will start to see a pattern. What happened in my post is quite the norm on cancer board. This sign just hates any criticism given to them or their kind! Remember that! Worst of all is that they can't seem to acknowledge their shit. The most common and overused advice you get here is "get over it". LOL. Meanwhile if others wanted to repeat their own advice to them, it can't be done because they play the biggest martyr and display some crazy, psychotic behavior that even mentioning "get over it" sounds trivial. For example, some cancer chick will come on the aqua board and complain about her aqua man, who is displaying blatant signs of disinterest and yet she still wants him. I'm sitting there thinking "how do I tell this girl to get over it (give her cancerian medicine) when she's already desperate enough to want a guy that doesn't want her. Telling her to get over it doesn't even quench 1/3 of the emotions she's feeling otherwise she wouldn't be chasing him, yet other signs are expected to instantaneously get over their butthurt. At least in the aqua board, we will acknowledge our detached and cold bullshit we are prone to; however this forum, no way in hell. I don't need cancers to love me. As long as I have a handful of people who can keep their sentiments separate from what's posted, I'm good.

Also a fine example of their psychotic and off the deep end behavior is displayed by that guy who wrote about the libra girl recently in the libra board. Telling him to get over it sounds hilarious because he won't be able to get over it as he's already obsessed with her. Lol

Posted by WaterCup
Aquarius09, please tell me more about the personality of the cancer dude with capricorn moon.

I'm kinda dealing with a guy with those exact placements (+gemini venus, which I'm kinda suspicious about 😄). Oh boy, it hasn't been easy. Dude frustrates me. I've realised that I can be very impulsive & rash with him because of how slow he is sometimes with some things- including how he avoids direct questions like a plague. I find him secretive & indirect & it annoys me 😄 Answering questions shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Nonono. Ain't nobody have time for that. I've broken up with him several times already because of these traits, but he always manages to weasel his way back into my good books...until he starts dodging questions again. We're off again at the moment 😛

Anyway, I find cancer men quite interesting, sweet & caring. I click with this one without effort. We're similar in many ways, except the secretiveness. He is such a sweetheart though so it's really hard to stay mad at him. What guy asks what you had for breakfast, lunch & dinner? I thought it was weird at 1st & told him so too. He was offended, naturally & told me he asks because he is concerned about my wellbeing. How cute is that 😛! Never had a guy act as my nutritionist before. Ha!

Crabs aren't so bad after all, they just require A LOT of understanding & patience. We'll see...

Sure thing. Well, a truly interested cancerian man is a wonderful sight. They can make you feel so loved. However, eventually the communication issues will seep in and destroy the union. It seems like you're already facing that with his secretive/indirect approach while you are double direct due to your aqua sun and scorp moon. You will need some serious watery/earthy placements to persevere through the initial stages. Libralicious is your girl for she has successfully pierced through that shell. If there is an air sign that can do that, it's libra with water or earthy dominance in their chart.

My cancer BFF was the most ambitious guy I knew. He would work day and night to attain material comfort or create his nest or even his goals. He wanted a sports bike so he got his motor bike license then worked his butt off in two jobs to save up for his bike. I once told him I loved Infiniti (it's a car here) and he asked me which one. I showe him. He worked day and night and got himself that Infinit

Infiniti and he even let me drive his new car. He enjoyed seeing me eat and made sure I was home safe and sound. Sometimes he would pick me up from work at 11 pm because my mom couldn't, and he didn't want me to take the bus at 11 pm. How my friendship ended with him was quite surprising. When he told me that he LOVES me and not like, I told him love is two sided and therefore it can't be love. He got pissed. He wished evil on me saying things
Like "I hope one day you like a guy that doesn't like you back". He started putting me down until I cut him off for ruining our friendship thanks to his feelings. He bawled (literally) over the phone begging me not to end our friendship. I stayed my ground, and then he started pointing out each and every nice thing for me in order to stay (I've always paid for lunch). That was some petty shit and from there on I learned that never let a guy do so much for you because that's fishy and means that they want to buy your agfection.

Aquarius09 you are a walking contradiction, hypocrite and I'm really beginning to believe delusional. Must be all that hot air.

I think we air signs need to stop using logic to make sense of these crabs because they are deeply in tune with their emotions and act from them. That's why some of their mysterious actions are longtime mysteries...and will always be a mystery because sometimes they don't logically know themselves but they feel and feelings cause them to be unpredictable. And constant unpredictability causes mystery and sadly so much confusion. And you can't use reason to make sense of things. Sometimes you can because they are also very logical but for those moments that make no sense you just have to understand that that was their emotional process at the time and their emotional process is theirs and most of the time has nothing to do with anybody else at any given moment. I'm starting to understand this a little better. My cancer friend does a lot of things that people will perceive to be rude but she's not really being rude. For example times when she's focused on a goal she has laser like focus and when she's trying to meet a deadline she doesn't even pickup her phone (unless it involves her daughter), she very short in her responses and she tends to walk around with a serious face on. Shes embodying the emotions of success with these projects and the feeling of accomplishment. So she gets ambitious and driven. That is her current overall feeling. No happy or sad or whatever......only ambitious and must accomplish to go bigger. Then In the next moment it's a new feeling. Then sometimes it's several feelings all at once. Some people would take her moments of being in feeling mode personally when it has absolutely nothing to do with them and that's also something that you crabs could pay attention to. Other people that have to deal with your moods and mystical and mysterious ways are not mind readers and it gets exhausting to constantly experience so many shifts in moods all at once or ones that come on abruptly and sometimes it comes off as you being rude, mean, not interested, peculiar or just puzzling altogether and it can cause a lot of confusion and hurt.

Posted by Moonbutter
Aquarius09 you are a walking contradiction, hypocrite and I'm really beginning to believe delusional. Must be all that hot air.

The pot calling the kettle black. Lol

Posted by aquarius09
Infiniti and he even let me drive his new car. He enjoyed seeing me eat and made sure I was home safe and sound. Sometimes he would pick me up from work at 11 pm because my mom couldn't, and he didn't want me to take the bus at 11 pm. How my friendship ended with him was quite surprising. When he told me that he LOVES me and not like, I told him love is two sided and therefore it can't be love. He got pissed. He wished evil on me saying things
Like "I hope one day you like a guy that doesn't like you back". He started putting me down until I cut him off for ruining our friendship thanks to his feelings. He bawled (literally) over the phone begging me not to end our friendship. I stayed my ground, and then he started pointing out each and every nice thing for me in order to stay (I've always paid for lunch). That was some petty shit and from there on I learned that never let a guy do so much for you because that's fishy and means that they want to buy your agfection.

lol @ he wished evil upon you. I think I remember the story. Ha! And thanks for the reply. Much appreciated. Not sure if this is going to work for me romantically though due to some other issues. There's a 6 year age difference (I'm older), distance etc. The thought of being a cougar grosses me out lol. But I sure would like to keep this guy as a dear friend. I like him very much as a person & wish we could have kept it on friendly terms. I don't think he/they can go back to being friends-only though, because I've tried & it's not working hence the "break up". Ah well. Another one bites the dust, I guess. Won't be needing Ms Libra's pointers lol. Thanks again, my dear.

BTW, read your thread on the crab & LMAO. Must have stung just a little 😛 Such things can hurt even when you're not head over heels with someone. I think it's an ego thing. Like, "Who the hell does this person think he is?". Aquas have very big & fragile egos. At least I know I do 😄 A Cap that I don't even fancy is pulling something similar on me as we speak. I dated him for a few weeks though lol. Anyway, he is supposed to be doing some work on my laptop & we agreed on yesterday. Still waiting on that call & I'm furious. Met him earlier today by chance & even that didn't jog his memory. Ugh. To hell with him!

And aqua09 you probably genuinely hurt his feelings. Cancers don't buy people's affection. If they can't win you off of their natural charm then they won't get to the point of buying you things or letting you drive their cars. Once a cancer spends dollars on you, you know they really care about you because they work hard for their money and love to saved it. I feel like cancers make money just so they can spoil the people the care about. They spend money and treat the people they love in that way because they are showing affection (not buying it). And to say something like that and reject them after they've put their heart out there is something that they find hard to come back from. This is an example of an air and water clash. He does these nice things for you because he honestly loves you and being a crab communicates better through showing love and affection instead of actually allowing themselves to speak the words. Aquas put stock in logic and physical observations and words so to you, you probably though he was being fake or trying to manipulate you into loving him because he maybe doesn't express his love verbally or his I love you actions aren't consistent and are more unpredictable (like I was saying).My cancer I could say honestly was deeply deeply in love with this other aqua dude and she won't really tell me the details but I have a sneaking suspicion that their breakdown happened because of the aqua/cancer clash/misunderstanding.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by aquarius09
Infiniti and he even let me drive his new car. He enjoyed seeing me eat and made sure I was home safe and sound. Sometimes he would pick me up from work at 11 pm because my mom couldn't, and he didn't want me to take the bus at 11 pm. How my friendship ended with him was quite surprising. When he told me that he LOVES me and not like, I told him love is two sided and therefore it can't be love. He got pissed. He wished evil on me saying things
Like "I hope one day you like a guy that doesn't like you back". He started putting me down until I cut him off for ruining our friendship thanks to his feelings. He bawled (literally) over the phone begging me not to end our friendship. I stayed my ground, and then he started pointing out each and every nice thing for me in order to stay (I've always paid for lunch). That was some petty shit and from there on I learned that never let a guy do so much for you because that's fishy and means that they want to buy your agfection.

BTW, read your thread on the crab & LMAO. Must have stung just a little 😛 Such things can hurt even when you're not head over heels with someone. I think it's an ego thing. Like, "Who the hell does this person think he is?". Aquas have very big & fragile egos. At least I know I do 😄 A Cap that I don't even fancy is pulling something similar on me as we speak. I dated him for a few weeks though lol. Anyway, he is supposed to be doing some work on my laptop & we agreed on yesterday. Still waiting on that call & I'm furious. Met him earlier today by chance & even that didn't jog his memory. Ugh. To hell with him!

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Bingo! You always say the things I feel. It stung my ego. I was like this in my head "who the hell is he to blow me off when he's the one who asked me in the first place!!! Where does he get off with this rudeness!"

Well, I for one am not sorry to see this cancer go down the drain for you. They can be exhausting for us. You would've seen that down the road. I know what you mean by that age difference thing. I'm the same way.

And don't thank me for responding. I'm always up for convo with my fellow aquas.

Posted by Libralicious72
**(Aquarius09) What happened in my post is quite the norm on cancer board. This sign just hates any criticism given to them or their kind! Remember that! Worst of all is that they can't seem to acknowledge their shit. The most common and overused advice you get here is "get over it". LOL. Meanwhile if others wanted to repeat their own advice to them, it can't be done because they play the biggest martyr and display some crazy, psychotic behavior that even mentioning "get over it" sounds trivial.**

Ha ha!... I'm dating a Cancer guy remember... He is all of the above! But lovely too... :o)

Unfortunately, there are greater rewards for putting up with their craziness. I remember one time a cancer friend said to me "why do you think I take care of you? It's because you put up with my insanity when most people would just run". My response was "yea I have a knack for handling crazies😉"

Posted by StarChild63
And aqua09 you probably genuinely hurt his feelings. Cancers don't buy people's affection. If they can't win you off of their natural charm then they won't get to the point of buying you things or letting you drive their cars. Once a cancer spends dollars on you, you know they really care about you because they work hard for their money and love to saved it. I feel like cancers make money just so they can spoil the people the care about. They spend money and treat the people they love in that way because they are showing affection (not buying it). And to say something like that and reject them after they've put their heart out there is something that they find hard to come back from. This is an example of an air and water clash. He does these nice things for you because he honestly loves you and being a crab communicates better through showing love and affection instead of actually allowing themselves to speak the words. Aquas put stock in logic and physical observations and words so to you, you probably though he was being fake or trying to manipulate you into loving him because he maybe doesn't express his love verbally or his I love you actions aren't consistent and are more unpredictable (like I was saying).My cancer I could say honestly was deeply deeply in love with this other aqua dude and she won't really tell me the details but I have a sneaking suspicion that their breakdown happened because of the aqua/cancer clash/misunderstanding.

Actually they do buy affection because the following came from 2 cancer people.

My ex BFF who I spoke of earlier would contact me sporadically after friendship was over. I wouldn't respond. One day I got fed up so I responded with what do you want. And he told me that he was moving to a different country and wanted to see/talk to me before he goes.
I'm like our friendship was over 5 yrs ago. Forget me already. He was like you don't know cancers. When I did oblige and speak to him, he confessed the following: "I did everything wrong to get with you. I thought that buying you things would get me you but it didn't. I think you sensed my approach wasn't honest. Blah blah blah".
My response was "yeah, you can't buy an aqua's love. We don't care for that. I thought you'd know that after all the aquas you ever liked. We'll date a pauper if we have a connection with him". The second cancer was my beo's ex

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Posted by Libralicious72
**(Aquarius09) What happened in my post is quite the norm on cancer board. This sign just hates any criticism given to them or their kind! Remember that! Worst of all is that they can't seem to acknowledge their shit. The most common and overused advice you get here is "get over it". LOL. Meanwhile if others wanted to repeat their own advice to them, it can't be done because they play the biggest martyr and display some crazy, psychotic behavior that even mentioning "get over it" sounds trivial.**

Ha ha!... I'm dating a Cancer guy remember... He is all of the above! But lovely too... :o)

Unfortunately, there are greater rewards for putting up with their craziness. I remember one time a cancer friend said to me "why do you think I take care of you? It's because you put up with my insanity when most people would just run". My response was "yea I have a knack for handling crazies😉"

Yep... Mine has been MIA for 3 days now... Rough with the smooth and all that jazz! lol

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I admire your patience. You must have Capricorn, the most patient sign, dominant in your chart.

The second cancer was my beo's ex gf. She would take care of me but in return she expected loyalty for pulling douchebag behavior. She would flirt with other guys or lead them on and expect me to not tell my bro. Everytime I told her I would, she would get all emotional and say "look at everything I do for you, u can't do this one thing for me".

Meh! Aquarious i like the logic but PEOPLE differ. Use that logic .Anyways cancers would be more forward and pursue you,thats the indicators that we like you. When we are single we love to flirt,we attract women like WHOA! guess that's the water power we have. The Scorch has spoken.Amen.

WaterCup!!!!!

Posted by shellshocker
WaterCup!!!!!

Lmao.... THe CancerHUG of suffocation. WE da best huggers.period

Aqua09, those cancers were defective. And if dude came back for you after 5 years then wouldn't you say he really cared about you— Him buying you things was his expression of that care. Maybe. Has a cancer done you dirty or something?

Believe it or not, id admit it if a cancer did me wrong. I'll tell you what it is that irks me about cancers and this is based on my experience with them either as friends. I'm a reformist. I believe in reforming people's bad behavior. I feel like cancers men and women spoil the rotten apples and make them worse than they are. I'll give you examples. You guys can call it that cancers are kind hearted or tolerant of people, but I call it ruining the society.

1. That cancer ex BFF of mine was such a freakin doormat. He dated a girl I hooked him up with for three yrs. After I hooked him up, I stopped being friends with him for irrelevant reasons. Years later when he contacted me, he told me how after three yrs of dating this girl, she broke it off with him. The reasoning is the most ridiculous shit I've ever heard. So his gf was lonely and wanted friends. Instead of making friends the proper way, she responded to a male poster on kijiji who was looking for "someone to cuddle with". She told him about the poster she wrote to and was brave enough to give details. Imagine your gf telling you "hey honey! I just responded to an ad on goddamn kijiji for some random weirdo who is looking to cuddle with me". You know what his response was to her? "I don't think that's a good idea meeting strangers on the net in disguise of friendship." Now he figured she was talking shit and hence the disgraceful answer. Couple days later she pulled it off. She met this random stranger in his apartment and did cuddle with him. She came back and gave him the details and he listened to this. I cut his story off right there with "were you guys dating at this point?" He goes, yeah. I blew up and that's where you'll see my emotions. "Are you insane?! If my goddamn bf ever came and told me that he wants to go cuddle with a stranger/friend, I'd dump him with 'who do you think I am to you? Your sister?!!!" He said he didn't want to lose her so he tolerated this nonsense of hers. The catch was that eventually she truly did end up dumping my cancer BFF for that stranger/friend. I am outraged at how she was coddled when she should've been cussed and and dismissed!

Then same thing with my beo's ex. She was unhappy with my bro, rightfully so because he was not a good bf in terms of his attitude. So she would cheat but not leave him. Eventually when my bro got fed up, he left and instead of counting her lucky stars, she used to call my bro and beg him to take her back. Are you kidding me?

I can tell you so many stories of coddling. It pisses me off because all these people with bad behavior will just keep it moving with their head held high/sense of entitlement while these cancers reduced their dignity solely to keep them.

Self respect > love for some woman/man

Clueless cancer, yes. Cancers are stingy as hell with their money if they don't care about you. They won't even give spare change if they don't care about you.

Aqua09, I think you could be right about that part. Cancers that are in love with someone never know when to pull out of a bad relationship. It's like they have something in them that wants and believes the other person will do better and rise to the occasion and they hold that image and continue to support the one with bad behavior. Once cancers are in love I think they put love before anything else including their self respect. That's why I really believe they are truly the real lovers of the zodiac. They will love you from thick and thin.its like you know deep down inside that cancer will ALWAYS be loyal to you and look out for you if you needed help. But I think they like being in shit like that sometimes because these crabs are like mr. Fix it and are always doing things for everyone else. But I also think they know what they're doing when they reward bad behavior and they know fully but they just act like a momma like...I know you've been a naughty little boy but because momma loves you eeeehhhhh come here and get something warm to eat and a massage. But it's weird because when cancers love you in the beginning they can be monsters sometimes...but good to shitty people....cancers can you explain?

Posted by StarChild63
Clueless cancer, yes. Cancers are stingy as hell with their money if they don't care about you. They won't even give spare change if they don't care about you.

lol this is my husband.
but if you are good friends/best friends with their beloved, they don't mind paying the restaurant bill for them too. (just a small example)

Wow. I get that but you over did it now. I have similar situation