So confused by lovely Cancer woman

I posted this before but then took it down because I had a great chat with her but now it seems my worse dream has come true.. so this is my story:

I met this woman on a dating website back in July. I was actually about to cancel my subscription when her picture caught my eye. I read her profile and whilst it could have been anyone's profile, I liked the way she wrote it so I messaged her and soon got a really nice reply, I decided not to beat around the bush and so asked her out and the following weekend after changing from the site to texting, we met and had a lovely afternoon together and pretty much spoke non stop. Turns out we have a lot in common, we're both a bit old school, like similar music, the same kind of old movies, she's quiet and slightly shy like I am sometimes. After we left she sent me a message saying she hoped I wasn't disappointed which I was not at all. We continued to text one and other pretty much every day and I soon got up the nerve to ask her out again. That day she cancelled on me due to work but rearranged for the next day which she also cancelled, work was quite busy that week, by the end of the week I got the impression she was quite down about some things so I called her and we had an amazing chat that got a lot more personal. Turns out we are similar in other ways too, she's been hurt a lot in the past, she comes from a broken home like myself too. What really saddened me though was that her ex had passed away suddenly. She went away the following week but she called me the minute she landed back in the country and we set up to meet the following weekend which she cancelled, this went for about a month but we were always in touch, I sensed that maybe there was something else going on but decided to give her the benefit of the doubt, as we both said we felt a connection between us, I'm not just saying this, there is true connection there.

Anyway, we did meet again and a great evening together, which this time ended with a kiss, afterwards she text me some lovely messages about she was happy we'd met and it's so rare to meet someone you can connect with. That was the last time I saw her.. but as before we are always talking via text. A few weeks ago she lost her phone but emailed me straight away to get me to send her my number and she added me to her FB account and then when she got a new phone, she text me straight away to say that she'd missed me. We've spoken a few times on the phone in this time and it's always so

deep and a joy to talk to one and other.

This takes us up to about now, I asked her to see a movie this coming weekend, but the other day I sent her some music and I got one of those messages you never quite like to hear.. it said she loved the music but she was sorry, that she didn't deserve me.. so I text her asking what she was sorry for, she replied everything. I replied and then she called me, she'd been talking to her friends who had asked if she liked me and she said yes so they said she just needed to be honest with me, I didn't quite get to the route of the issue with her, but she told me she'd bought a couple of tickets to a movie the following week and was hoping I would go with her to which I said of course, I asked if she'd still like to come to the movie with me this weekend and maybe get some dinner, she said she would love to have a 'proper' date with me. I say 'proper' because she is quite old school as I am, but neither of us have ever really done proper dates in the past, I guess we're not what you would call conventional people which is why I get and like her so much.

I text her the following day to say I'd picked up the tickets for Sunday but have not heard back from her. It is Sunday today and I have not heard from her at all, this is the longest she has been 'quiet', I sent her a long message last night via Facebook, which I know she has now read, I will text her in a bit to let her know I will be at the film and she is more than welcome to join me, but I realise I am possibly at the point where I am going to have to just move on and get over her which is going to be hard because for all the 'mystery', I like and care about her so much, but if she won't open up, there is nothing I can do.

I guess I'm just trying to make sense of the 'don't deserve you' message, I understand that this can sometimes mean they don't like you and it's a good safe way out of a situation, in their eyes they think it's the best way to not cause any pain, but then if that was the case surely she wouldn't then call and tell me she likes me and had already got tickets for a movie. She says she's very shy and she's quite socially awkward and from some of the chats we have had, make me think there are self esteem issues going on as well. I have had those issues in the past myself, I actually put myself through therapy a few years ago and am much stronger and a better person than I used to be.

I guess there is another possibility in that she has met s

has met someone else, we did meet on a dating website after all, and so maybe she is feeling guilty about that. I just wish she would contact me and tell me that she is okay. I know we live in an age where life moves fast and people don't seem to care as much anymore, it's all internet advice, game playing..etc.. I'm old school, I care about those around me and she told me she was old school too.

I know it's hard to give advice when you don't know someone, but maybe there is someone here who could offer some advice?

(Long message.. had to post it in 3 sections!)

Dude, give her a couple weeks to herself.

After you wait...

Send her a text, and say hey and see how she is feeling.

If she icewalls you, then just leave her alone.

If she writes back, then take it really slow.

Do not pressure her, but be cool about things.

It could go either way, but don't act like a crazy person if it doesnt work.

Also, what is your sign

I'm a virgo and no, I'm not going to act like a crazy person at all, it just feels weird her being so quiet all of a sudden, my main concern is that there was some of issue about her getting too close and now she feels guilty over that, like I said I know there is nothing I can do about it if she doesn't want to open up.

I have sent her a text about this evening, if she comes great, if she doesn't I will leave her be.. she read my FB message but hasn't deleted me from her account, so there is maybe a glimmer of a hope there, but I'm not going to think such things, thinking always leads to problems! Thanks for the message though.

Yeah, I think you should give her some time alone. It seems like her insecurities are in the way concerning you guys' relationship. She might be thinking of the pro's and Con's of being in a relationship with you. I agree with ScorpioFish don't pressure her. And yes, take things slow. If she doesn't come around, I believe you can just move on.I think Cancer/Virgo's make a good match. Just seems like it would be a lot of work on an emotional level. Anyway, I hope you can work it out with her.

@CluelessCancer How come you don't?

Posted by unknownghost
I'm a virgo and no, I'm not going to act like a crazy person at all, it just feels weird her being so quiet all of a sudden, my main concern is that there was some of issue about her getting too close and now she feels guilty over that, like I said I know there is nothing I can do about it if she doesn't want to open up.

I have sent her a text about this evening, if she comes great, if she doesn't I will leave her be.. she read my FB message but hasn't deleted me from her account, so there is maybe a glimmer of a hope there, but I'm not going to think such things, thinking always leads to problems! Thanks for the message though.

Yeah, unfortunately some (note I did not say ALL) Cancer girls put up ice walls at random and they sometimes decide to keep them permanently.

It's often very hard and frustrating to deal with, especially when they occur for no understood reason.

Like we all agree, just give it a couple weeks and then send her a text. If she still says nothing at all, then get out there and find someone new. Heck, get out there and find someone new now. Time is short.

Oh the ones I have encountered were nice and understanding. Cancers can be selfish on an emotional level. Sometimes we drain people.

Unfortunately she did not turn up on Sunday and I have not heard anything from her, I have to say to being so confused about it and I do care about her, I am not a selfish Virgo and to be honest, I have never met one. I do not believe she is selfish either, something must have happened for her to act this way, I just don't know what. I can't push her I know, I could push her away for ever. I just understand why she has just vanished like this.. the only glimmer of hope I have is that she hasn't deleted me from her Facebook account, but then maybe I am looking for something that just isn't there?

Posted by CluelessCancer
This actually makes me feel good. Good for her. You go Cancer Girl.

run run run far away

Chill out, Boo.

The guy misses his Crab, and he's upset about it.

Be nice and encouraging.

🙂

Maybe you should just keep it moving. If she really cares about you, I'm sure she'll show up after she's had time to herself. You can wait her out, but don't revolve your whole life around her. Go out and have some fun. Do a hobby. It'll keep your mind of your situation for a while. I know you miss her, but be strong.

Lol Did you get burned by a Virgo?

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This actually makes me feel good. Good for her. You go Cancer Girl.

run run run far away

Chill out, Boo.

The guy misses his Crab, and he's upset about it.

Be nice and encouraging.

🙂

hell fuking no, i don't want anymore crabs having to deal what' i've dealt with. they can do better. Good for her. Keep on walking, running, cycling

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Okay, alright!

Put your snappers down, it's me, Boo.

Lol ScorpioFish you're funny.

Aaaaawhhhh you are a sweet virgo man. Dont mind @cluelesscancer crabby girl beeee niceeee. You know how it feels to feel heartbroken
Poor fella!

No worry! And @scorpiofish is wright. Give her time. Trust me you are on her mind. We are very emotional women. And being open and giving 101% to our "One" makes us easy to hurt, anddd we know this. Without knowing we test a guy. Not to hurt but if we realllyyyy love the guy, we can get insecure and our heads gets stuffed with all sorts of theories
🙂 it can be a bad thing (cause we may see mountains that arent there) and a good things (cause we are pulling ourselves back to earth to not let the loveydovey feelings clutter our head ) we can get carried away BIG TIME by our emotions. So we need to step back, re think anddd maybe she is hoping you will be a "prince on a white horse" hahaha and fight for her 😄

"Proper date" that really sounds like crabby ghehe
We loveeee the old fashioned "holding the door open" "thousand red roses" "wine and dine me" thing

The big wedding and all that. Hahaha remember braveheart! We LOVE a mel gibson "imma kill all the people who hurt my women"
The notebook, dear john, etc ect yupppppppp robin hood! Hahahaha dont give up 😉 grab that crabby. Romeo and juillet....... Hahahaha i must say @scorpiofish he can give her time but not tooo much, as in, she may put too many weird theories in her head if he waits too long and leaves her be.

However dont start sending her desperate mails or text! If you know where she lives send her flowers and a card! Trust me!!!! She'll go WEAK 😄 or show up on her doorstep with the flowers 😉 and if she doesnt invite you to stay but accepts the flowers dont worry..... 😉 she is just mindblown..... (P.S red roses 😉 )

Oh and @scorpiofish 😉 im a lunar babe dating a plutonian king soooooooooo not like this virgo/cancer but weirdly when i read this fella his story O_o crabby sounds like the "scorpio" in this combination haha
With my scorp im a little bit the virgo and he the cancer HAHAHA

@unknownghost cancer women are called moon maidens. Our emotions are connected to the moon this is no myth 😉 if there is a full moon i can stare myself blind looking at it , im a summerbird and you wont ever catch me outside at night but the moon.....wauwwwwzzz my fantasy is to have a romantic evening/night with my king in the moonlight with....a full moon. Hahahaha soooooo nerdy but true

People say we are wishy washy but thats a lie
We actually look for loyal, old fashioned men. Who love us with all they have but arent push overs. They have to be able to stand our moods. And because we are emotional and romantics doesnt mean we are soft harmless creatures 😛 we can actually get very feisty as you can tell by cluelesscancer haha we have clawsss and can lash out. We can get hurt and we can cry for 2 reasons: we are really heartbroken OR....and remember this one. People dont always understand this: our ego has been stepped on or we are highly insulted and we cry cause if we dont we will rip someones head off HAHAHA the phrase: "dont take my kindness as weakness" is written all over us. 😉

Posted by butterfly84
Aaaaawhhhh you are a sweet virgo man. Dont mind @cluelesscancer crabby girl beeee niceeee. You know how it feels to feel heartbroken
Poor fella!

No worry! And @scorpiofish is wright. Give her time. Trust me you are on her mind. We are very emotional women. And being open and giving 101% to our "One" makes us easy to hurt, anddd we know this. Without knowing we test a guy. Not to hurt but if we realllyyyy love the guy, we can get insecure and our heads gets stuffed with all sorts of theories
🙂 it can be a bad thing (cause we may see mountains that arent there) and a good things (cause we are pulling ourselves back to earth to not let the loveydovey feelings clutter our head ) we can get carried away BIG TIME by our emotions. So we need to step back, re think anddd maybe she is hoping you will be a "prince on a white horse" hahaha and fight for her 😄

"Proper date" that really sounds like crabby ghehe
We loveeee the old fashioned "holding the door open" "thousand red roses" "wine and dine me" thing

The big wedding and all that. Hahaha remember braveheart! We LOVE a mel gibson "imma kill all the people who hurt my women"
The notebook, dear john, etc ect yupppppppp robin hood! Hahahaha dont give up 😉 grab that crabby. Romeo and juillet....... Hahahaha i must say @scorpiofish he can give her time but not tooo much, as in, she may put too many weird theories in her head if he waits too long and leaves her be.

However dont start sending her desperate mails or text! If you know where she lives send her flowers and a card! Trust me!!!! She'll go WEAK 😄 or show up on her doorstep with the flowers 😉 and if she doesnt invite you to stay but accepts the flowers dont worry..... 😉 she is just mindblown..... (P.S red roses 😉 )

I agree with this message. Especially the part about our emotions. I know I think too much, but that could be my Virgo moon coming into play.

I miss her but I'm not going to give up on her, it feels so strange to me but I believe she is the one. She doesn't believe in the zodiac so much but she adores the moon. Unfortunately I don't know where she lives, she is very old school though, she's just so lovely.

The silent treatment is killing me but I am strong enough to wait and get on with my own things in life. She knows how I feel about her and I really don't believe she'd say some of the things she'd said to me and not mean them.

I have decided to send her this message, I sent her one at the weekend hence the first line:

'Okay, so I know I said I wasn't going to message you again??_

You're going to have to tell me to go away if you don't want me to message you any more but you are the first girl I've met who I genuinely like and feel a proper connection with and I'm not going to give up on you that easily. You're mysterious but I love the way you talk and the way you look at the world.

I don't know what you meant when you said that you don't deserve me. You deserve someone who understands you, cares about you and loves you for who you are. I understand you, I care about you and I know given time I would fall in love with you.

You told me that we had a connection that is rare, I believe that too and surely if that is so, then that is worth holding on to, no?

I will not continuously message you, you know how I feel about you, I believe you're the girl for me and that you're worth waiting for.'

Posted by unknownghost
I have decided to send her this message, I sent her one at the weekend hence the first line:

'Okay, so I know I said I wasn't going to message you again??_

You're going to have to tell me to go away if you don't want me to message you any more but you are the first girl I've met who I genuinely like and feel a proper connection with and I'm not going to give up on you that easily. You're mysterious but I love the way you talk and the way you look at the world.

I don't know what you meant when you said that you don't deserve me. You deserve someone who understands you, cares about you and loves you for who you are. I understand you, I care about you and I know given time I would fall in love with you.

You told me that we had a connection that is rare, I believe that too and surely if that is so, then that is worth holding on to, no?

I will not continuously message you, you know how I feel about you, I believe you're the girl for me and that you're worth waiting for.'

That's so sweet. I really hope she messages you back. I can tell you really care about her. Let us know if she messages you back. I hope you two can work things out. Hopefully, she'll come out of her shell and thought process to tell you what she meant and how she's feeling. Who says Virgos have no emotions 😉.

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Posted by unknownghost
I have decided to send her this message, I sent her one at the weekend hence the first line:

'Okay, so I know I said I wasn't going to message you again??_

You're going to have to tell me to go away if you don't want me to message you any more but you are the first girl I've met who I genuinely like and feel a proper connection with and I'm not going to give up on you that easily. You're mysterious but I love the way you talk and the way you look at the world.

I don't know what you meant when you said that you don't deserve me. You deserve someone who understands you, cares about you and loves you for who you are. I understand you, I care about you and I know given time I would fall in love with you.

You told me that we had a connection that is rare, I believe that too and surely if that is so, then that is worth holding on to, no?

I will not continuously message you, you know how I feel about you, I believe you're the girl for me and that you're worth waiting for.'

That's so sweet. I really hope she messages you back. I can tell you really care about her. Let us know if she messages you back. I hope you two can work things out. Hopefully, she'll come out of her shell and thought process to tell you what she meant and how she's feeling. Who says Virgos have no emotions 😉.

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Cancers have a way of bringing out emotions. 😄

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Posted by unknownghost
I have decided to send her this message, I sent her one at the weekend hence the first line:

'Okay, so I know I said I wasn't going to message you again??_

You're going to have to tell me to go away if you don't want me to message you any more but you are the first girl I've met who I genuinely like and feel a proper connection with and I'm not going to give up on you that easily. You're mysterious but I love the way you talk and the way you look at the world.

I don't know what you meant when you said that you don't deserve me. You deserve someone who understands you, cares about you and loves you for who you are. I understand you, I care about you and I know given time I would fall in love with you.

You told me that we had a connection that is rare, I believe that too and surely if that is so, then that is worth holding on to, no?

I will not continuously message you, you know how I feel about you, I believe you're the girl for me and that you're worth waiting for.'

That's so sweet. I really hope she messages you back. I can tell you really care about her. Let us know if she messages you back. I hope you two can work things out. Hopefully, she'll come out of her shell and thought process to tell you what she meant and how she's feeling. Who says Virgos have no emotions 😉.

Cancers have a way of bringing out emotions. 😄

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I think you're right 🙂. I actually like to bring out others emotions. There's no need to be unemotional all the time lol.

I decided not to send that message, I think something has happened for her to say what she said to me, I mean literally a few days before she told me she didn't deserve me she was telling me how she missed me, it's not fair for me to say those things to her and if something has happened in her life, even if she has decided that for whatever reason she can't be with me, I don't think it's fair for me to hound her like that. I might message her to see if she's okay and see if I can get her to talk to me, I miss her as a friend as well.

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I decided not to send that message, I think something has happened for her to say what she said to me, I mean literally a few days before she told me she didn't deserve me she was telling me how she missed me, it's not fair for me to say those things to her and if something has happened in her life, even if she has decided that for whatever reason she can't be with me, I don't think it's fair for me to hound her like that. I might message her to see if she's okay and see if I can get her to talk to me, I miss her as a friend as well.

If this is the case just ask her if she is okay, how is she doing. Don't be too available, then you get friend zoned.

Ah I don't know, it's just a bit confusing, I do want to tell her how I feel but if she has decided for whatever reason it's not to be, there is not much I can say to do otherwise, I know she wanted to tell me something last week which is why she called after sending me that message, she didn't send it and vanish, she was clearly thinking about me even though we didn't really get to the bottom of the problem, then there was a missed call after we said goodbye but when I phoned back she didn't answer, she must have wanted to say something else and now I feel like she's closed herself off to me. Maybe I just have to be patient and wait this out, if it's meant to be I guess it will be.

I redecided (?!) to send it, women want men, not mice.. well men with a heart which is what I am. I will send it and leave it alone, she'll know how I feel about her and it will be up to her then, if she has decided I'm not the one for her, there is sadly nothing I can do about that I know, but she'll know at least.

Posted by unknownghost
Unfortunately she did not turn up on Sunday and I have not heard anything from her, I have to say to being so confused about it and I do care about her, I am not a selfish Virgo and to be honest, I have never met one. I do not believe she is selfish either, something must have happened for her to act this way, I just don't know what. I can't push her I know, I could push her away for ever. I just understand why she has just vanished like this.. the only glimmer of hope I have is that she hasn't deleted me from her Facebook account, but then maybe I am looking for something that just isn't there?

Sometimes women flake. Most women do. Only thing you can do is let her know you're about without appearing needy. Cancer ladies do get weird at times.

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Posted by unknownghost
Unfortunately she did not turn up on Sunday and I have not heard anything from her, I have to say to being so confused about it and I do care about her, I am not a selfish Virgo and to be honest, I have never met one. I do not believe she is selfish either, something must have happened for her to act this way, I just don't know what. I can't push her I know, I could push her away for ever. I just understand why she has just vanished like this.. the only glimmer of hope I have is that she hasn't deleted me from her Facebook account, but then maybe I am looking for something that just isn't there?

Sometimes women flake. Most women do. Only thing you can do is let her know you're about without appearing needy. Cancer ladies do get weird at times.

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Man, isn't that the Divine truth.

I cannot tell you how many times I have read about guys getting flake behavior from women.

The internet is LOADED with stories about poor dudes just trying to go on a date with some chick only to get totally dropped (and without any known reason).

That sounds like a board!

Oh, I've gotten it.
Although its usually because I suspect something and the woman knows that I suspect something. Its a real buttery way to treat a person.

It's just weird though, we had like some really deep chats, she told me she liked me, we had a rare connection, she wanted to rely on me..etc.. then last week she was telling me she missed me and wanted to meet for dinner, then blam from out of nowhere I get this whole 'I'm sorry, I don't deserve you' line, then she phones to say she liked me but felt like she needed to be honest with before quickly changing the subject and now I've not heard from her since, everything she has said to me has made me fall for her and now this is tearing me apart. Life, eh?

either not over ex back with her ex or met someone else she likes more

go do your thing cancers don't play games and like to be honest with the other person but we tend to only have eyes for one at a time and feel we are being dishonest to the one we want if we even talk to someone else

my take on it anyway

Posted by unknownghost
It's just weird though, we had like some really deep chats, she told me she liked me, we had a rare connection, she wanted to rely on me..etc.. then last week she was telling me she missed me and wanted to meet for dinner, then blam from out of nowhere I get this whole 'I'm sorry, I don't deserve you' line, then she phones to say she liked me but felt like she needed to be honest with before quickly changing the subject and now I've not heard from her since, everything she has said to me has made me fall for her and now this is tearing me apart. Life, eh?

How old is this chick? She sounds young based on the behavior.

you would think wouldn't you.. she's 33, I'm 36.

@unscene99 Well as far as I am aware there has not been an ex for a long time, the last thing she told me was that she liked me a lot and just wanted to be honest, that was the last time I heard from her, I have to say it doesn't sound like she has met someone else, if what you say is true.

She told me on the phone she'd got tickets to a film and really hoped I wanted to go with her, tells me she likes me and wants to be honest with me, that's when she changed the subject, that was the last I heard from her, if she has met someone else and wants to be with him, I doubt she'd say that to me and if she's being dishonest, well I have to say that's an odd thing to say.

I know this is stupid of me, I should just move on and forget her.. but she is seriously the first person I've really connected to in this way. Crazy us humans, are we not?

Posted by unknownghost
tells me she likes me and wants to be honest with me, that's when she changed the subject, that was the last I heard from her.

My take is she's building up the courage to be honest with you about something and backed out. It's probably not that bad, but to her it may be a big deal. Taking a step to trust someone is huge and can make a Cancer go quiet for weeks.

If you can tell her that you appreciate honesty, that you won't judge her or use anything she tells you against her in the future... it may be the nudge she needs to open up.

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Posted by unknownghost
tells me she likes me and wants to be honest with me, that's when she changed the subject, that was the last I heard from her.

My take is she's building up the courage to be honest with you about something and backed out. It's probably not that bad, but to her it may be a big deal. Taking a step to trust someone is huge and can make a Cancer go quiet for weeks.

If you can tell her that you appreciate honesty, that you won't judge her or use anything she tells you against her in the future... it may be the nudge she needs to open up.

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Yeah, I agree. Something is bothering her. She wants to tell you, but she may be afraid you may judge her, or something. Hopefully, she doesn't leave you hanging for too long. Her insecurities must really be coming into play. Something is holding her back.

im cancerian, if had something like that, the easiest ans is, go straightly meet her without hesitation, and go out just 2 of you and solve the prob by open all question 😄

Well I sent her that message I was going to, I know she has read it because I did it through facebook, she hasn't told me to go away like I suggested in it if she didn't want any more communication and she hasn't cancelled me out of her contacts, I shall leave it for now and get on with my life, I am sure you guys are right, she can't open up to me about something and I'd really love her to be able to do so, I would never judge her for anything but if she won't open up there is not much I can do about it 😢

Posted by unknownghost
you would think wouldn't you.. she's 33, I'm 36.

Dude, she is 33 and acting like that?

Wowzers! (in Inspector Gadget voice).

Maybe you should find someone else, dude.

I know what you're saying, you're saying just what my mates are saying too.. but you know you're own head and heart at the end of the day, I know something is going on with her that either she is too insecure or shy to talk about and while I won't put my life on hold for her, she knows I am here and how I feel about her, maybe she just needs time, I personally believe she's worth being patient for but of course I can't wait forever. I'm sure I'll know the point at which to give up.. it sure sucks though, because before this happened we were in contact a lot and could talk about stuff and it felt like she was slowly opening up to me more.

Oehhhh @shellshocker thatsss a good one indeed HA! And the fact that she hasnt deleted you from facebook does say alot! Trust me...an ex is an ex. Even if we just dated. And no matter how deep the relationship was, if im through with a guy, even if i didnt want to break off the contact but i just dont have the wright feelings for that person, that person will be deleted out of my life completely. Leaving someone hanging in there knowing we will not go through with them, is not a cancer trait. Never met any before who does that. Its because if someone else would do that with us we will be heartbroken en get very crabby! We'll turn into nagging, kinda stalking people when someone just leaves us hanging like that. Double standards hu?! 😆 hahahahahahahah i think what shellshocker says is wright. And you did a good thing with the message. 😉 and the fact that she hasnt deleted you is a good sign too. Let it be. Let her think. But if she does delete you......then move on. A cancer only breaks contact if her feelings are gone, or her mind is made up. Aint no changing that.

don't be too needy , we love independent man but loyal to us. we don't like a boring guy too and lazy guy who has no ambition., its also a turn off to know a materialistic heartless guy who has hidden agenda with us. either emotionally needy or financially unstable. I hate players and womanizers also , its a warning sign , it kills the trust soooo easy. I hate competition because I'm willing to give u to anybody if u want with no hard feelings. I fight for the one I love and love me too, but not the one whom I love but don't respect me. Get lost. Loser. well in your case, She's maybe confused with you, in some part She likes you. well we'll never know the reason unless you ask straight from her.

I can relate to the crazy shit she's put you thru. I think this is not unlike a Cancer woman. I know that allowing myself to get close to a man is damned scary and often involves one step forward, two steps back. If you really dig this woman I wouldn't cut bait & swim just yet. I think it does take Cancer women a long time to warm up but once we feel safe, the walls comes down and the back & forth is over. Also, you're kind of investing too much in this for knowing her such a short amount of time. That alone could get her to retreat. But if she really likes you, she'll come around. Only you can say if it's worth the effort. Good luck & go slow.

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you would think wouldn't you.. she's 33, I'm 36.

Dude, she is 33 and acting like that?

Wowzers! (in Inspector Gadget voice).

Maybe you should find someone else, dude.

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Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. She's too old to be acting that way. She needs to woman up lol.

I think Clueless Cancer you've had some bad times with some Virgos and I'm sorry to hear that. Anyway, to let you guys know, she just text me. She's been through some bad stuff right now and was very happy to hear that I didn't hate her but has warned me friendship is all she can offer me right now, but you know what, I might get the best friend I've ever had out of it. So anyway, thank you for all your words of wisdom, in a weird modern age of computers kind of way, it's helped me out 🙂