still on the crab....

Its one thing this cancer won't commit......but why won't he leave me alone....😢 its not about sex....sex to some comes and goes easily....as long as we waited to share intimacy...I don't get it....I'm not trying to anymore (with him) but it still hurts and the hurt don't go away....

@wineaux...I put it all out there and have stopped communication 100% ...I don't take his calls, his txts go unanswered...I'm finally at the point where I feel I've given enough time, I've been very patient and I will no longer tolerate the his way or the hwy method....its still hurts...strong enough to do what I gotta do for me but still weighs down the heart...😢

lol can you help me with a cancer boy if I pm you? 🙂

Posted by luckystar
misscorp i would like to help you....if you want me to give you compatibility feedback PM me.

Basically.....that I've waited for him as long as I can.....he knows how I feel about him...its time for me to move on & its time he let me...not to be taken out of context when I say its time he let me....I told him not to call, not to txt me..bluntly not to contact me at all..in other words if you can read between the lines and I know he can! make this transition easier for me...I wanted him to know how hard it is for me to walk away and I'm showing him that I meant it & I do...I cannot go on any longer putting my life on hold almost(of course he doesn't know this!)Waiting on him...basically its what I've done...when my heart loves it loves 110% and leave no room for other opportunities...I told him I thought I would be able to carry on as we do but know I can't anymore and I won't & I'm not! But it still hurts like all hell....😢 when he calls, I want to answer..when he txts ...I want to respond but I don't and I won't..if I meant anything to him maybe one day he will show me...and if I didn't it just confirms I'm doin the right thing because I'm doin what is right for me...still doesn't make it any easier 😢

Luckystar...awwww...=)pr princess...smarty!!! Hahaha!

Posted by luckystar
give me the date of their birth with the year.

Sent you a pm 🙂

*sigh* Cancer men can be douchebags! Some of them get in your head and heart just to see if they can shake you up. That's a bunch of bullshit! You're better off without him and finding someone else. And I usually giggle at Scorpios pain, but this time around I won't because I KNOW how shitty those crab bastards can be! I hope someone comes along and sweeps you off your broom...err feet (just a little Scorpio jab for ya' LOL) Good luck! Seriously! 🙂

@Sarinka..he's managed both! In my heart & in my head..I hate him j/k!!! Haha!so many mixed feelings with him..he keeps calling like he wants to make sure he stays in my thoughts..your right it is BS and I've just grown tired of it...sigh*...about sweeping me off my throne...haha!!! One day...I'm so picky but this crab managed to do just that!!!!your crack hilarious!! Thx =)

My cancer called again yesterday...I didn't answer & he didn't leave a msg..the last we spoke I told him how it seems as if we're just not on the same page with the progress in our relationship, I told him how extremely hard it is for me to walk away to please understand and make no contact cause it was make a hard task much more difficult for me...why is he calling knowing this? It feels like he's totally disregarding my feelings to stroke his own ego...not cool on his behalf...not cool at all...😢

Here's my theory based on dating a Cancer man for 10 years...

~They do too little to late. Once they see you walking away, they grasp on for dear life. DON'T LOOK BACK and KEEP WALKING!!! RUN if you have to!!!

~They won't ever tell you they enjoy seeing you "affected" by their behavior. They like seeing you hurt. Sucks don't it :/

~They can't take the same treatment as they give so when they stop answering your calls the Earth shatters when you don't answer theirs :/

The rest is just filler...a bunch of "my mom does this for me" references and cheating. Yes...Cancer men do that...a LOT! That's why I'm SO HAPPY I have a Leo now! They are like night and day...LITERALLY! LOL!

Find a nice Capricorn. Have a bunch of babies and next thing you know you'll be like, "Cancer who?"

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
Here's my theory based on dating a Cancer man for 10 years...

~They do too little to late. Once they see you walking away, they grasp on for dear life. DON'T LOOK BACK and KEEP WALKING!!! RUN if you have to!!!

~They won't ever tell you they enjoy seeing you "affected" by their behavior. They like seeing you hurt. Sucks don't it :/

~They can't take the same treatment as they give so when they stop answering your calls the Earth shatters when you don't answer theirs :/

The rest is just filler...a bunch of "my mom does this for me" references and cheating. Yes...Cancer men do that...a LOT! That's why I'm SO HAPPY I have a Leo now! They are like night and day...LITERALLY! LOL!

Find a nice Capricorn. Have a bunch of babies and next thing you know you'll be like, "Cancer who?"

I dunno how much I can say against this cuz my Cancer has every other planet in Leo lol so his amazigness might be because of that... but don't judge an entire astrological sign based on the actions of one. Some men are jerks for reasons outside of astrology.

@Sanrika..thx for the post, really makes me think & you had 10yrs with the crab...its true,his grasp stronger when he feels me distancing myself like he wants to know he has me but don't do anything to keep me...I think its very selfish on his behalf...I just don't get it?sigh

@Bri, that Leo in his chart is saving you a LOT of heartache with your Cancer...TRUST! Leos are loyal to a fault that's why I'm with one now. He might have his little flare ups and "Lion Rage", but I'd rather go through that than deal with a cheating crab! Cancer men are too attracted (and GULLIBLE) when it comes to the attention from the opposite sex! As much as I want to say "they are good guys" they are just too easy to manipulate when it comes to female attention. My ex crab had an Aries rising and a Cancer moon and cheated on me WITH a Scorpio who was SUPPOSEDLY my friend! After 10 years?! C'mon son! LOL!

As for you little lady, it WILL hurt...TREMENDOUSLY, but you WILL get over it. Just do YOU and keep it moving. Cancers are MASTERS of creating emotional chaos and it is poison to your spirit. I know the attraction and "deep feelings" and all that stuff y'all Scorpios talk about when it comes to Cancers is there, but YOU have to ensure YOUR sanity and healthy emotional balance. YOU don't need someone fucking with your emotions! Seriously!

I also wanted to add that after we broke up I dated two more Cancers and they were a fluke as well. So this isn't based off of one random event. I am not built to deal with the BS that Cancers try to dish out. Y'all Scorpios love that shit, but me...FUCK THAT!

@wineaux Thanks! And you're right, but it doesn't seem like she is strong enough right now to look him in his teary "I can cry at the drop of a hat" eyes. I'm not speaking FOR her, but that's just going off what's she written here. Hell, she might be able to sting him away, but she's still going to think about him and it's still going to hurt :/

*sigh* Relationships can be a fuckin' headache LOL!

"...what's she written here" = #FAIL!!!

Certainly you all knew I meant, "...what she has written here..." My parents paid too much for Catholic School for me to let that be out in the web-universe LOL!

I got me a leo-y cancer as well. Works well for me. Maybe because I am a virgo-y leo? *shrugs*

Posted by luckystar
yes pr_princess....

i can look at your charts together....the age of the male crab does matter, they tend to be very immature

chile mine is 30 and sometimes I feel like I'm dealing with a 16 yr old....when it comes to maturity:

female >>> male >>> male Crab

@airybri - i'd love to compare crab charts if you're up for it.

My leo's is:

Sun Cancer
Moon Aries
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Leo
Jupiter Leo

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
@Bri, that Leo in his chart is saving you a LOT of heartache with your Cancer...TRUST! Leos are loyal to a fault that's why I'm with one now. He might have his little flare ups and "Lion Rage", but I'd rather go through that than deal with a cheating crab! Cancer men are too attracted (and GULLIBLE) when it comes to the attention from the opposite sex! As much as I want to say "they are good guys" they are just too easy to manipulate when it comes to female attention. My ex crab had an Aries rising and a Cancer moon and cheated on me WITH a Scorpio who was SUPPOSEDLY my friend! After 10 years?! C'mon son! LOL!

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I can not imagine mine ever cheating on me. We've talked about it before, like how weird it would be to be with anyone else, but then again we were both virgins when we met (..and still are technically). But yeah, I freaking love his leo qualities. He has those anger flare ups, but if someone get's "angry" easily they also get calm easily, yanno? And it's over the funniest shit, never directed at me or anything (driving with a leo-y cancer = LOL) And he's loyal and understanding about everything, and always believes in me (I've never had that before.)

I dunno I love everything about him and I can't imagine feeling any other way.

... I met cancer's chart, I dunno why I said leo lol.

@sanrika...this is a man who played all the righ cards...I am so not easily swooned but this man did it...I let my guard down with him...he was so respectful, well spoken, he's everything I never knew I wanted! Hahaha!!! Now I know why!his friends told me he also is very picky & had not brought anyone around since his last commited relationship...he's so touch & go..& yes it messes with me emotionally & it sucks....this man never struck me as the type to play games and now it feels as if I'm a pawn on his bored....he send me a txt this morning....and I hated him for it...you know it sucks when you "know" what you have to do..and its so hard to follow through...I know my worth & I know this man is capable just not with me...he's had enough time to make his move..I'm a strong girl and deal with lifes lil curve balls so why the hell am I being tormnted by the crab?!?!I have a very full busy schedule & I dont even know where I find the time to let this get to me...lollygagging when I need to be running!

Hey there....on another note! If I have all of my info as far as placements...where can I read up on it aside from cafeastrology? Homework kinda! =)

@wineaux..thx girl...I know I can..I've done it before but it hurts like hell...I waited for this man...I truly waited for him...I'm just not his her...and it makes it so much harder when he makes contact with me 😢 why keep stringing me along? I know the answer to the question! Because I've let him...but what are his reasons....I wish I knew...I think its hard to comprehend cause he just never struck me as the type to play games....sigh*

@lucky: Thanks, Doll! I AM quite loveable 😉 As far as my chart, I'm pretty balanced. 🙂

Yes, we lived together (and when I went out of town for a lengthy business trip SHE moved her shit into OUR fuckin' condo)! WHAT THE FUCK?! Giiiiiiiiiiirl...I'm trying not to get heated talking about this! LOL! It doesn't get me AS upset as it did when it first went down, but it is still sickening how dirty people can be! As far as that backstabbing, trifling, whorish fake ass "friend"...she's a stay at home mom now. Oh, I forgot to mention they have a CHILD together! :/ However...their kid is a Sag born in the year of the Ox. Now, from my research, a fire baby in a house full of water (Cancer & Scorp) with a Sheep

He called again today...numerous times......I hate it....it got to me today & I broke....😢

They don't respond when you want them to at times and then when you don't want them to...bam..there they are

Have a male friend answer the phone when he calls! LOL! That'll do the trick! 😉

@princess: And we (I say "we" because I AM a Cancer) don't answer because we don't want to just like when you don't want to answer the phone when you don't want to. If we want to talk, we'll pick up/ call or text. Don't take it too personally. 🙂

True dat....when I'm not in the mood I do the same..notorious for it...my friendss & family hate me for it sometimes!

Well no this has been going on for a week. I said something stupid so he said "when you send messages like that I'm not gonna answer". OK whatever if he can't talk through shit then how are we supposed to communicate. Or maybe he has a gf who knows. So I texted him to apologize for saying stupid stuff and that texting isn't the way for us to be communicating. No answer. So I though I'll give it a try and call him, he cancelled the call after 1st ring. So I take it we're done. So we're done.

@luckystar...for them to lose you!....😢 @pr...simply a pawn on their board game...why not just be up front and honest...my crab definitely has a communication barrier...its almost like he's so afraid of rejection he leaves it all up to me! Like don't get me wrong...I was born a leader but sometimes I wanna be led!! He will call and say...I'm gonna be in your area...or next to your school and waits for me to initiate something instead of just saying...hey, I wanna see you? So childish sometimes especially for a grown damn man!!!!sigh*

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
As much as I want to say "they are good guys" they are just too easy to manipulate when it comes to female attention.

No. If we stray it isn't because we were "manipulated" into it.

Posted by luckystar
what is it going to take for them to feel they have lost something great?

To actually lose something great.

Posted by pr_princess
Well no this has been going on for a week. I said something stupid so he said "when you send messages like that I'm not gonna answer". OK whatever if he can't talk through shit then how are we supposed to communicate. Or maybe he has a gf who knows. So I texted him to apologize for saying stupid stuff and that texting isn't the way for us to be communicating. No answer. So I though I'll give it a try and call him, he cancelled the call after 1st ring. So I take it we're done. So we're done.

Yeah, you conveniently skipped over the "stupid stuff" that you said that probably made him think you're a raving lunatic.

@PR: that's called a, "Cancer Grudge" and it is pretty intense! LOL! I don't know what you said, but he took it personally and he's actually trying to "teach you a lesson" about talking to him sideways. When you stop calling, he will call you. I put MONEY on that, but the more you push for him to "communicate" the more he will detach. If Cancers are thinking things through, let us think. If we don't want to talk, leave us alone. We'll come around when WE are ready, not when it's convenient for anyone else. Period! Just being honest. Hope it helps! 🙂

Cancerguy...why keep a girl around for so long? I've put it out there..said I couldn't do it anymore..I went as far as telling obviously I'm not your "her' and refuse to be Ms right now while your looking for Mrs right...I am Mrs. Right!!! Just not his and he tells me to go with the flow...he won't stop contact and I haven't seen him the last 3 times he called to see me..and not because its some type of game but more so because I'm in love with him and can't handle what he has to offer at this time and seeing him would only hurt more and make it even harder for me...why not just let it go?

@Cancer Guy...I would LOVE to believe that...I REALLY would, but I'm not that stupid. That is all...

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
but I'm not that stupid. That is all...

No, you are. It's just how you rationalize it.

Yes...you are right. I'm stupid...for dating a Cancer man so long. Thank you or letting me see the light. I appreciate it. You've saved me a TON of therapy *rolls eyes*

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
Yes...you are right. I'm stupid...for dating a Cancer man so long. Thank you or letting me see the light. I appreciate it. You've saved me a TON of therapy *rolls eyes*

You are in that regard too. Why would you waste so much time with someone? I'm sure people tried to tell you, but you ignored them like you're ignoring me now.

Posted by missscorp
Cancerguy...why keep a girl around for so long? I've put it out there..said I couldn't do it anymore..I went as far as telling obviously I'm not your "her' and refuse to be Ms right now while your looking for Mrs right...I am Mrs. Right!!! Just not his and he tells me to go with the flow...he won't stop contact and I haven't seen him the last 3 times he called to see me..and not because its some type of game but more so because I'm in love with him and can't handle what he has to offer at this time and seeing him would only hurt more and make it even harder for me...why not just let it go?

Why are you placing so much pressure on yourself and this relationship? He says go with the flow, but you say "now now now", what the hell is the matter with you?

I too have been punished by the crab...I know he's sensitive and I've never disrespected him, not ever although as of late I have been very verbal about leaving me alone, for him to grow up & I'm tired of it all & surprisingly he hasn't shelled on me...he has in the past when I've pushed,poked & proded...I've done my best to give him his space and go with the flow & I know love is patient,kind, unselfish...but when the other person gives so many mixed signals no matter how patient you try to be it starts feeling like your being taken advantage of and it makes me angry...I've tried & tried...meet me halfway that's all

Yes, I'm ignoring you...please go away LOL!!!

Posted by missscorp
I too have been punished by the crab...I know he's sensitive and I've never disrespected him, not ever although as of late I have been very verbal about leaving me alone, for him to grow up & I'm tired of it all & surprisingly he hasn't shelled on me...he has in the past when I've pushed,poked & proded...I've done my best to give him his space and go with the flow & I know love is patient,kind, unselfish...but when the other person gives so many mixed signals no matter how patient you try to be it starts feeling like your being taken advantage of and it makes me angry...I've tried & tried...meet me halfway that's all

Maybe you just don't know what "go with the flow" means? I've never seen a scorp woman so worked up over a man, maybe that's what you can't stand about it all. He got to you, the unreachable scorp, and now you feel like he's toying with you. Admit it, you like it and you hate it. Haha, this could be one for the ages.

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
Yes, I'm ignoring you...please go away LOL!!!

😢

Cancerguy..I've waited for him for a long time because I know it would be worth it in the end...I think its the timing all of a sudden..the whole situation has me very emotional..and I have a good head on my soldiers I'm not often side-tracked but the whole situation has be a wreck...he is not fully aware of how bad it is affecting me...I say timing because maybe I had an ivisible marker in my head that I would wait until this very time before I've waited too long and give up...and the time is here & I'm just soo torn 😢

Posted by missscorp
Cancerguy..I've waited for him for a long time because I know it would be worth it in the end...I think its the timing all of a sudden..the whole situation has me very emotional..and I have a good head on my soldiers I'm not often side-tracked but the whole situation has be a wreck...he is not fully aware of how bad it is affecting me...I say timing because maybe I had an ivisible marker in my head that I would wait until this very time before I've waited too long and give up...and the time is here & I'm just soo torn 😢

How long is long (i'm not going to read the whole back story)? How do you know he doesn't know, they're very intuitive you know.

Cancerguy....I will admit to this...definitely this man managed to get to me...I always have my guard up..other people have told me I have a wall so far up they could never get close to me...he got to me mind,body & soul...I'm completely head over heels in love with him...I love to have him around but its all on his terms and its not fair to me anymore 😢 I admit I love to love him and hate to love him to because I always end up with my feelings hurt. I'm guarded but he made me trust him so I've totally opened up..I want him to know how I feel about him I just don't want to be waiting in vain...it wouldn't be fair...

I'm sure he know to an extent that its affecting me especially since the last time we were going to get together I couldn't and as silly as it seems...I cried instead of seeing him cause its like giving a kid candy & then taking it away...😢 I've known like no other from the very moment I seen him...I actually caught him seeing me! But I knew it was him...my heart has never felt this..I don't fall in love easily, I love hard, I love deeply and I don't walk away so I've stayed, I'm single and don't want to come across all wrong but can pretty much be out around the clock having a good time getting to know other people & instead I stay home and wait for him...don't get me wrong I go out with the girls and my family a lot but don't give anyone the time of day....its only him and this month made it 3yrs...I've waited...I'm torn..am I waiting for something that will never be? He doesn't strike me as the type to play games...he's super sensitive but hides very well...I just know...I see it in his eyes...😢

Posted by missscorp
I'm sure he know to an extent that its affecting me especially since the last time we were going to get together I couldn't and as silly as it seems...I cried instead of seeing him cause its like giving a kid candy & then taking it away...😢 I've known like no other from the very moment I seen him...I actually caught him seeing me! But I knew it was him...my heart has never felt this..I don't fall in love easily, I love hard, I love deeply and I don't walk away so I've stayed, I'm single and don't want to come across all wrong but can pretty much be out around the clock having a good time getting to know other people & instead I stay home and wait for him...don't get me wrong I go out with the girls and my family a lot but don't give anyone the time of day....its only him and this month made it 3yrs...I've waited...I'm torn..am I waiting for something that will never be? He doesn't strike me as the type to play games...he's super sensitive but hides very well...I just know...I see it in his eyes...😢

Are you actually IN a relationship with this guy? You make it sound as if you're not, but then you say you're intimate with him etc etc. I'm not sure I understand.

Posted by cancerguy

Posted by pr_princess
Well no this has been going on for a week. I said something stupid so he said "when you send messages like that I'm not gonna answer". OK whatever if he can't talk through shit then how are we supposed to communicate. Or maybe he has a gf who knows. So I texted him to apologize for saying stupid stuff and that texting isn't the way for us to be communicating. No answer. So I though I'll give it a try and call him, he cancelled the call after 1st ring. So I take it we're done. So we're done.

Yeah, you conveniently skipped over the "stupid stuff" that you said that probably made him think you're a raving lunatic.

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Oh lord... I basically said "If you want to string someone along there's plenty of girls to do it with, not gonna be me." - he did eventually respond.