Seriously cancer men; especially if it's a long distance relationship why ignore all texts/calls/social media
Why do cancer men play games?
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Because he's abusive and gets on knowing you miss him.
Throw away then cause I'm with ya Inkedtaurus. Very frustrated. I'm in a Long Distance Relationship with a Cancer man as well and mine is doing the same thing right now.
Posted by KaptainKhaosThere might be some truth in this.
Because he's abusive and gets on knowing you miss him.
Also because he doesn't value you enough to make an effort in the relationship, long distance or not, but I might be wrong.
Ignoring is inconsiderate, but sometimes it's fucking necessarily like (I speak only for myself):
Good reasons:
- I'm pondering my relationship with you
- I'm processing *stuff*
- sometimes my shell just feels nice and safe and I like to escape to it from time to time
- cause I have a life outside of you
- cause I'm not in the fucking mood to talk/text
Good reasons for bad events
- cause I'm tired of being asked *to define our relationship*
- cause I don't want to argue about the same ol shit
- cause I'm done with you and you don't seem to get it
- cause I don't feel like being manipulated that day
- cause you don't seem to have a life and I'm wondering why
- cause I'm tired of your games
- cause it's not always about you
- cause you're nagging me to death about it, and I don't care anymore
- cause there's too much drama when I don't
Oh, so many reasons!
In general, if I care about how you feel, I'll try to give you what you need. But if my best ain't good enough, then I tend to just say fuck it and move on.
Does that clarify it a bit? Yeah, I know I'm probably being an ass right now. I'm in a bad fucking mood! Don't take it personally.
Good reasons:
- I'm pondering my relationship with you
- I'm processing *stuff*
- sometimes my shell just feels nice and safe and I like to escape to it from time to time
- cause I have a life outside of you
- cause I'm not in the fucking mood to talk/text
Good reasons for bad events
- cause I'm tired of being asked *to define our relationship*
- cause I don't want to argue about the same ol shit
- cause I'm done with you and you don't seem to get it
- cause I don't feel like being manipulated that day
- cause you don't seem to have a life and I'm wondering why
- cause I'm tired of your games
- cause it's not always about you
- cause you're nagging me to death about it, and I don't care anymore
- cause there's too much drama when I don't
Oh, so many reasons!
In general, if I care about how you feel, I'll try to give you what you need. But if my best ain't good enough, then I tend to just say fuck it and move on.
Does that clarify it a bit? Yeah, I know I'm probably being an ass right now. I'm in a bad fucking mood! Don't take it personally.
^^^^^ I think Crabby just gave us ALL something to think about with that long list.
I must say it makes sense.
I must say it makes sense.
Ha! I think a ton of us wish the cancer we wonder about would yell all those things at us. I love the vent! I think I saw the cancer guy I like angry twice and I was so excited to see some emotion I was giddy. I told him, "I knew there was some firs inside if you so.ewhere." I know this was not my topic, but thanks crabbycrab for keeping it real.
* "I knew there was some fire inside of you somewhere."
Homie held nothing back with that one.
Posted by crabRiotYeah I did...
Homie held nothing back with that one.
- cause I'm tired of the pasture I'm stand on getting smaller and smaller as you try to make yourself my only world
- cause I feel pressured to feel the same way you feel about me and I don't. Nor do I want to, but you're not hearing me.
- cause I'm tired of explaining my feelings only to realize you still don't have a fucking clue.
- cause I feel things are going too fast and need to slow the pace down
- cause I changed my mind about some shit and figuring out how to tell you or if I'm going to tell you
- cause things you say don't fucking add up
- cause my instincts are kicking in and telling me not to get any closer to *this* and I trust my instincts more than you.
- cause I'm tired of being told that I'm playing games and getting shit for just being myself
- cause I know you did something and the sight of you make me sick!
- cause I cheated and I know I'm in deep do do!
These are ALL things that have come up during my dating life at some point or another. And quiet frankly, there just so much more shit I could list.
More insecure women bitching about Cancer men again?
Their bitching may be valid - idk...but just thought maybe if they kknew there are many reasons why people do what they do, they'll be able to fucking relax!
Posted by crabbycrab76Can we give the gentleman a round of applause!!!!
Ignoring is inconsiderate, but sometimes it's fucking necessarily like (I speak only for myself):
Good reasons:
- I'm pondering my relationship with you
- I'm processing *stuff*
- sometimes my shell just feels nice and safe and I like to escape to it from time to time
- cause I have a life outside of you
- cause I'm not in the fucking mood to talk/text
Good reasons for bad events
- cause I'm tired of being asked *to define our relationship*
- cause I don't want to argue about the same ol shit
- cause I'm done with you and you don't seem to get it
- cause I don't feel like being manipulated that day
- cause you don't seem to have a life and I'm wondering why
- cause I'm tired of your games
- cause it's not always about you
- cause you're nagging me to death about it, and I don't care anymore
- cause there's too much drama when I don't
Oh, so many reasons!
In general, if I care about how you feel, I'll try to give you what you need. But if my best ain't good enough, then I tend to just say fuck it and move on.
Does that clarify it a bit? Yeah, I know I'm probably being an ass right now. I'm in a bad fucking mood! Don't take it personally.
Posted by BinotaCrabby needs to save this to cut and and paste, otherwise one will get carpal tunnel syndrome retyping every time a thread like this is posted.Posted by Celestial_LunaYeah! +1Posted by crabbycrab76Can we give the gentleman a round of applause!!!!
Ignoring is inconsiderate, but sometimes it's fucking necessarily like (I speak only for myself):
Good reasons:
- I'm pondering my relationship with you
- I'm processing *stuff*
- sometimes my shell just feels nice and safe and I like to escape to it from time to time
- cause I have a life outside of you
- cause I'm not in the fucking mood to talk/text
Good reasons for bad events
- cause I'm tired of being asked *to define our relationship*
- cause I don't want to argue about the same ol shit
- cause I'm done with you and you don't seem to get it
- cause I don't feel like being manipulated that day
- cause you don't seem to have a life and I'm wondering why
- cause I'm tired of your games
- cause it's not always about you
- cause you're nagging me to death about it, and I don't care anymore
- cause there's too much drama when I don't
Oh, so many reasons!
In general, if I care about how you feel, I'll try to give you what you need. But if my best ain't good enough, then I tend to just say fuck it and move on.
Does that clarify it a bit? Yeah, I know I'm probably being an ass right now. I'm in a bad fucking mood! Don't take it personally.click to expand
Posted by PEITHOTry answering my question on your post as to why you won't block a married man with children who asks you are you single, then maybe you'll be taken seriously here. I still would like to know why it's so hard for you to block him.
All the ones I know do I use to talk to another one who had a girlfriend yet he admitted that he flirted and talked with other women.
Still waiting for you to answer that...
Posted by PEITHOALL huh? Wow @PEITHO, you get around! 😛
All the ones I know do I use to talk to another one who had a girlfriend yet he admitted that he flirted and talked with other women.
I have a question. I always wonder about LDRs. Personally, I just don't understand why anyone would want to be in a LDR because it comes down to did all the men in your town die that you have to resort to LDR? I understand if it started off as in real life and then one party had to move away. Even then, I think people should break up amicably before they move unless one party decides to move with them. Why oh why do people get into LDRs? The idea of companionship is to see, feel and physically be with your partner. What's the point of LDR? Nothing good comes of LDR, but insecurities and mistrust.
Posted by crabbycrab76You speaks your mindPosted by crabRiotYeah I did...
Homie held nothing back with that one.
- cause I'm tired of the pasture I'm stand on getting smaller and smaller as you try to make yourself my only world
- cause I feel pressured to feel the same way you feel about me and I don't. Nor do I want to, but you're not hearing me.
- cause I'm tired of explaining my feelings only to realize you still don't have a fucking clue.
- cause I feel things are going too fast and need to slow the pace down
- cause I changed my mind about some shit and figuring out how to tell you or if I'm going to tell you
- cause things you say don't fucking add up
- cause my instincts are kicking in and telling me not to get any closer to *this* and I trust my instincts more than you.
- cause I'm tired of being told that I'm playing games and getting shit for just being myself
- cause I know you did something and the sight of you make me sick!
- cause I cheated and I know I'm in deep do do!
These are ALL things that have come up during my dating life at some point or another. And quiet frankly, there just so much more shit I could list.click to expand
I like you crabby, heck I even bookmarked the the thread since I can't copy and paste all of what you wrote on my phone.
This is how you silence the critics (myself included)
Realest post I've ever seen on the Crab board.
Posted by aquarius09I usually avoid commenting on long distance relationship related posts... But this made me SMILE 🙂
I have a question. I always wonder about LDRs. Personally, I just don't understand why anyone would want to be in a LDR because it comes down to did all the men in your town die that you have to resort to LDR?.
A long distance relationship isn't a relationship.
An E-Communication (Internet) relationship isn't a relationship.
A Jailhouse Visit 'relationship' isn't a relationship.
This should be copied and pasted on all long distance relationship-related posts.
Posted by TaurusBull1977As we all have our own opinion to this but i respectfully strongly disagree! 🙂 You don't understand how powerful a LDR can be until you actually get to experience it yourself. Yes,there are SO many cases where there is jealousy insecurity trust issues seeping in and ultimately it ends but there are LDR stories which are just too amazing. How can I be so confident that LDR (for that matter Internet relationship too )is very much a relationship? Because I have been in a LDR myself,for bit more than a year and it was surreal. We brokeup because of a very very different reason which had nothing to do with being in a LDR. But yes,it was the most beautiful chapter of our life so far. Reconciliation can get tough being in a LDR because it can create misunderstandings but oh please,things are just as worse for in person relationships else you wouldnt have come across so many posts here in this very forum.Posted by aquarius09I usually avoid commenting on long distance relationship related posts... But this made me SMILE 🙂
I have a question. I always wonder about LDRs. Personally, I just don't understand why anyone would want to be in a LDR because it comes down to did all the men in your town die that you have to resort to LDR?.
A long distance relationship isn't a relationship.
An E-Communication (Internet) relationship isn't a relationship.
A Jailhouse Visit 'relationship' isn't a relationship.
This should be copied and pasted on all long distance relationship-related posts.
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People need to understand this fact that a 'healthy and proper' relationship is not just about hugging,kissing and doing the naked act together. No,it's not. The basic essence of a potential lasting relationship is being able to form an emotional,intellectual,mental and spiritual connection which is so incredibly strong that miles just can't tear that bond. And that's how you actually fall in love and more importantly stay in love. This happens when you talk.When you communicate your ideas.Your goals in life.When you show them your weakness with trust that they wont take advantage of your vulnerability. You need words to connect on a deep level and not always bodies. Yes,there are times when you desper
* Yes,there are times when you desperately wish you could hug them or kiss them but the fact that you can't might make you feel sad for few minutes but doesnt really deject you because you know how surreal that moment will be when you finally meet them in person.
You dont always stay in LDR. Obviously it has to translate into an in person relationship at some point in order to build a life together but this is just downright horrible to tag a LDR as a non-existing relationship. I have seen enough in-person relationships - you feel attraction because of the physical attributes, start making out before even getting to know who the other person really is,be all lovey dovey for a month or two and then come here and post "We slept together last night and it was great but i dont know why is he not responding anymore". When you are in a LDR, you try to get to know the actual human first being because the non-lasting physical exterior is absent. When you fall in love,you fall in love with the other person for who they are,their good habits,their bads,their moodiness,their humor..everything that makes them them and not because of how smokin hot they look with or without those clothes! You love their soul. Love that human being. And this is what actually lasts.Nothing beats the feeling of meeting your LDR partner whom you know and understand so well. Some people are just worth the wait and struggle and in order to understand that you first need to understand what love really is. Couples who survive LDR,cant withstand anything because time and distant is the biggest test of time. So just as there are so many in-person relationships which are a success and have failed,there are as many LDRs too.
You dont always stay in LDR. Obviously it has to translate into an in person relationship at some point in order to build a life together but this is just downright horrible to tag a LDR as a non-existing relationship. I have seen enough in-person relationships - you feel attraction because of the physical attributes, start making out before even getting to know who the other person really is,be all lovey dovey for a month or two and then come here and post "We slept together last night and it was great but i dont know why is he not responding anymore". When you are in a LDR, you try to get to know the actual human first being because the non-lasting physical exterior is absent. When you fall in love,you fall in love with the other person for who they are,their good habits,their bads,their moodiness,their humor..everything that makes them them and not because of how smokin hot they look with or without those clothes! You love their soul. Love that human being. And this is what actually lasts.Nothing beats the feeling of meeting your LDR partner whom you know and understand so well. Some people are just worth the wait and struggle and in order to understand that you first need to understand what love really is. Couples who survive LDR,cant withstand anything because time and distant is the biggest test of time. So just as there are so many in-person relationships which are a success and have failed,there are as many LDRs too.
*LDR couples can withstand anything
Geez hate the fact that you cant edit these posts
Geez hate the fact that you cant edit these posts
Posted by TaurusBull1977+1. LDR is really just a penpal with high technology being used instead of a letter.Posted by aquarius09I usually avoid commenting on long distance relationship related posts... But this made me SMILE 🙂
I have a question. I always wonder about LDRs. Personally, I just don't understand why anyone would want to be in a LDR because it comes down to did all the men in your town die that you have to resort to LDR?.
A long distance relationship isn't a relationship.
An E-Communication (Internet) relationship isn't a relationship.
A Jailhouse Visit 'relationship' isn't a relationship.
This should be copied and pasted on all long distance relationship-related posts.
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Posted by crabRiotYeah, I think my leo moon is fucking with me - or my *satan in the flesh* therapist is- not sure which. 😛
You speaks your mind
I like you crabby, heck I even bookmarked the the thread since I can't copy and paste all of what you wrote on my phone.
This is how you silence the critics (myself included)
Realest post I've ever seen on the Crab board.
I'm gonna post those reasons to all threads I see that start off with the following:
- Why do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
- Do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
And I'm gonna suggest that the original poster pick ANY and ALL that apply to their situation!
And noticed *ego boost* is NOT one of the fucking reasons *I* go silent! Nor am I sitting at home an emotional basket case sucking at my mother's breast! Nor am I flirting at every fucking girl that catches my eye! Really people!
I openly admit that I cheated. ONCE. I don't represent ALL cancer men, so don't judge them based on MY stupidity.
I just wish people could at least show some fucking respect by having their question contain *..why do MY MAN..* or *...it seems MY MAN...*. Some people do this, but others...not so much. But this painting EVERY fucking cancer man with the same damn paint brush is annoying as hell. I know they don't mean anything by it, but damn! I haven't been on dxp long, but I read through some of the post, and I can't help but feel like I want to slit my throat or jump out a freaking window!
Note to self: remember to kiss the ground gf walks on when she get back in town. I don't want to be back out there dating. I may not find someone willing to take the time out to get to know me!
"Yes,there are times when you desperately wish you could hug them or kiss them but the fact that you can't might make you feel sad for few minutes but doesnt really deject you because you know how surreal that moment will be when you finally meet them in person. "
Sad for a few minutes? Yeah, okay then. You just made all of this sound very fairytaleish. In fantasy and romantic novels, it's possible and beautiful, but reality is a lotttttttt different especially in the shitty present day society we live in where guys/girls (I wouldn't isolate one gender here) wanna get laid first and form an emotional attachment after.
"I have seen enough in-person relationships - you feel attraction because of the physical attributes, start making out before even getting to know who the other person really is,be all lovey dovey for a month or two and then come here and post "We slept together last night and it was great but i dont know why is he not responding anymore".
I'm glad you acknowledge the present day situation, and so given that, you really think anyone cares to be monogamous or even serious in LDR? It's like being in love with Siri. LOL. I'll take my male Siri over LDR. At least it responds to me on demand. lol
"When you are in a LDR, you try to get to know the actual human first being because the non-lasting physical exterior is absent. When you fall in love,you fall in love with the other person for who they are,their good habits,their bads,their moodiness,their humor..everything that makes them them and not because of how smokin hot they look with or without those clothes! You love their soul. Love that human being. And this is what actually lasts.Nothing beats the feeling of meeting your LDR partner whom you know and understand so well. Some people are just worth the wait and struggle and in order to understand that you first need to understand what love really is."
^You described how a relationship should be between two mature individuals. That doesn't come from LDR. The key factors there are two mature, serious individuals who prioritize the same things. You're more likely to attain that in RL than LDR. LDR promotes communication and a really half ass one at that. It's communication that's highly dependent on emojis, technology, commas, grammar etc. If humans ran simply on the beautiful things you mentioned that LDR promotes, then sex wouldn't be so big on everyone's list. Forget sex, we need to hear the person next to us. We need to feel
Sad for a few minutes? Yeah, okay then. You just made all of this sound very fairytaleish. In fantasy and romantic novels, it's possible and beautiful, but reality is a lotttttttt different especially in the shitty present day society we live in where guys/girls (I wouldn't isolate one gender here) wanna get laid first and form an emotional attachment after.
"I have seen enough in-person relationships - you feel attraction because of the physical attributes, start making out before even getting to know who the other person really is,be all lovey dovey for a month or two and then come here and post "We slept together last night and it was great but i dont know why is he not responding anymore".
I'm glad you acknowledge the present day situation, and so given that, you really think anyone cares to be monogamous or even serious in LDR? It's like being in love with Siri. LOL. I'll take my male Siri over LDR. At least it responds to me on demand. lol
"When you are in a LDR, you try to get to know the actual human first being because the non-lasting physical exterior is absent. When you fall in love,you fall in love with the other person for who they are,their good habits,their bads,their moodiness,their humor..everything that makes them them and not because of how smokin hot they look with or without those clothes! You love their soul. Love that human being. And this is what actually lasts.Nothing beats the feeling of meeting your LDR partner whom you know and understand so well. Some people are just worth the wait and struggle and in order to understand that you first need to understand what love really is."
^You described how a relationship should be between two mature individuals. That doesn't come from LDR. The key factors there are two mature, serious individuals who prioritize the same things. You're more likely to attain that in RL than LDR. LDR promotes communication and a really half ass one at that. It's communication that's highly dependent on emojis, technology, commas, grammar etc. If humans ran simply on the beautiful things you mentioned that LDR promotes, then sex wouldn't be so big on everyone's list. Forget sex, we need to hear the person next to us. We need to feel
Forget sex, we need to hear the person next to us. We need to feel their warmth, hold their hand, touch them, see their facial expression. LDR doesn't come even 1% close to RL relationship. If it did, Siri would be the next best thing.
"Couples who survive LDR,cant withstand anything because time and distant is the biggest test of time"
That's the problem. Couple just don't survive LDR. Bring your stats on this one. It's a weird concept soon to be obsolete. It's not going to survive in today's world where FWB is big.
"Couples who survive LDR,cant withstand anything because time and distant is the biggest test of time"
That's the problem. Couple just don't survive LDR. Bring your stats on this one. It's a weird concept soon to be obsolete. It's not going to survive in today's world where FWB is big.
Posted by Stihl46I don't think it's so much as insecurity. It's women who get into arrangements (LDR or FWB) not working out for them and their sanity and then complaining about it.
More insecure women bitching about Cancer men again?
Posted by Kodak375Haha! Like I said....there are soooo many reasons! LOL!Posted by inkedtaurusBecause sometimes my Xbox one acts up and instead of cleaning the CD, I play with emotions and aim for high scores. And then I keep track of them on my achievement list.
Seriously cancer men; especially if it's a long distance relationship why ignore all texts/calls/social media
*sarcasm*click to expand
Posted by crabbycrab76Preach on brother...Posted by crabRiotYeah, I think my leo moon is fucking with me - or my *satan in the flesh* therapist is- not sure which. 😛
You speaks your mind
I like you crabby, heck I even bookmarked the the thread since I can't copy and paste all of what you wrote on my phone.
This is how you silence the critics (myself included)
Realest post I've ever seen on the Crab board.
I'm gonna post those reasons to all threads I see that start off with the following:
- Why do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
- Do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
And I'm gonna suggest that the original poster pick ANY and ALL that apply to their situation!
And noticed *ego boost* is NOT one of the fucking reasons *I* go silent! Nor am I sitting at home an emotional basket case sucking at my mother's breast! Nor am I flirting at every fucking girl that catches my eye! Really people!
I openly admit that I cheated. ONCE. I don't represent ALL cancer men, so don't judge them based on MY stupidity.
I just wish people could at least show some fucking respect by having their question contain *..why do MY MAN..* or *...it seems MY MAN...*. Some people do this, but others...not so much. But this painting EVERY fucking cancer man with the same damn paint brush is annoying as hell. I know they don't mean anything by it, but damn! I haven't been on dxp long, but I read through some of the post, and I can't help but feel like I want to slit my throat or jump out a freaking window!
Note to self: remember to kiss the ground gf walks on when she get back in town. I don't want to be back out there dating. I may not find someone willing to take the time out to get to know me!click to expand
And then they justify their over -generalization of cancers by stating..."...well every cancer that I know..." Ever think maybe you just know some shitty people? And how many do you know really 2? 5? WOW - well that's enough to throw every fucking person of a sign in the same bucket, isn't it?
Damn, I hope my mood changes soon - feel like I wanna bitch slap somebody! And I'm already tired of my own fucking rants! Hmmmm, seems like a good time to ignore calls/texts/social media! Baahahahaha!!
Damn, I hope my mood changes soon - feel like I wanna bitch slap somebody! And I'm already tired of my own fucking rants! Hmmmm, seems like a good time to ignore calls/texts/social media! Baahahahaha!!
Posted by crabbycrab76Reading your *RANTS* got me exhausted and hungry ----That sandwich looks good from here ... where did you get it—? LOL!!!
And then they justify their over -generalization of cancers by stating..."...well every cancer that I know..." Ever think maybe you just know some shitty people? And how many do you know really 2? 5? WOW - well that's enough to throw every fucking person of a sign in the same bucket, isn't it?
Damn, I hope my mood changes soon - feel like I wanna bitch slap somebody! And I'm already tired of my own fucking rants! Hmmmm, seems like a good time to ignore calls/texts/social media! Baahahahaha!!
Crabby do me a favor (if you can) and copy and paste all your list of things(both lists now) to my inbox..thx.
I'm loving everything you post..keep it fire moon,keep it up!
I
I'm loving everything you post..keep it fire moon,keep it up!
I
Posted by crabRiotSent 😉
Crabby do me a favor (if you can) and copy and paste all your list of things(both lists now) to my inbox..thx.
I'm loving everything you post..keep it fire moon,keep it up!
I
Posted by Celestial_LunaShit, me too!! Gonna veg the fuck out later! Haha!Posted by crabbycrab76Reading your *RANTS* got me exhausted and hungry ----That sandwich looks good from here ... where did you get it—? LOL!!!
And then they justify their over -generalization of cancers by stating..."...well every cancer that I know..." Ever think maybe you just know some shitty people? And how many do you know really 2? 5? WOW - well that's enough to throw every fucking person of a sign in the same bucket, isn't it?
Damn, I hope my mood changes soon - feel like I wanna bitch slap somebody! And I'm already tired of my own fucking rants! Hmmmm, seems like a good time to ignore calls/texts/social media! Baahahahaha!!click to expand
Posted by PEITHOyeah, that makes fucking sense. No other sign gets upset when bullshit is posted about their sign- just Cancers. Wtf.
The only reason you get upset about it is because you are a Cancer so you need to relax.
Posted by crabbycrab76
Their bitching may be valid - idk...but just thought maybe if they kknew there are many reasons why people do what they do, they'll be able to fucking relax!click to expand
It's very hard to do a long distance relationship. Especially as adults. Just keep trying. Why don't you send him something? Maybe life got in the way?
Posted by kissmygritsNow there's an idea! Keep trying and actually work with the LDR instead of accusing the guy of playing games. Who would've thunk it!
It's very hard to do a long distance relationship. Especially as adults. Just keep trying. Why don't you send him something? Maybe life got in the way?
I don't have to assume you're a fake user trolling the crab board. Very entertaining by the way! ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘
Posted by kissmygritsYes it is!
I don't have to assume you're a fake user trolling the crab board. Very entertaining by the way! ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘
Posted by PEITHOOh! To be ignored by PEITHO. The bliss of the thought!
Yes they do play games and they always assume and make up shit about people when they are being ignored.
Imagine it cancers. No more @PEITHO trolling us! Wait...did my heart just leap at the thought of that?
I can't wait till you find your next playmate. Hope he's a scorpio. Now that would be interesting. Oh, and please PLEASE, post on their board so they can chew you up and spit you out.
Posted by KsamCancerLmaooooo omg these comments. You lot man ‚‚‚‚ÂÂPosted by ElTigre23im about to throw my computer
Not another thread like this. I'm about to throw my iPhone.click to expand
Posted by WildHHeartGeminiits frickin frustrating. all of ya wanting to throw things must be cancers also lol
Throw away then cause I'm with ya Inkedtaurus. Very frustrated. I'm in a Long Distance Relationship with a Cancer man as well and mine is doing the same thing right now.
Posted by crabbycrab76yes all of those are legitimate reasons that I have considered being why. it doesn't have anything to do with me tho cause he was initiating convos and saying he missed me before he started ignoring me. so Im pretty sure im not the reason, however weve talked everyday for 3 months straight so its just weird that now he doesn't want to but I understand if hes sick of talking to me lol that isn't the issue. its just been days and he has no problem posting things on his facebook for people to text him. so I guess its possible hes done with me but just seems weird one of the last things he said to me was how much he missed me
Ignoring is inconsiderate, but sometimes it's fucking necessarily like (I speak only for myself):
Good reasons:
- I'm pondering my relationship with you
- I'm processing *stuff*
- sometimes my shell just feels nice and safe and I like to escape to it from time to time
- cause I have a life outside of you
- cause I'm not in the fucking mood to talk/text
Good reasons for bad events
- cause I'm tired of being asked *to define our relationship*
- cause I don't want to argue about the same ol shit
- cause I'm done with you and you don't seem to get it
- cause I don't feel like being manipulated that day
- cause you don't seem to have a life and I'm wondering why
- cause I'm tired of your games
- cause it's not always about you
- cause you're nagging me to death about it, and I don't care anymore
- cause there's too much drama when I don't
Oh, so many reasons!
In general, if I care about how you feel, I'll try to give you what you need. But if my best ain't good enough, then I tend to just say fuck it and move on.
Does that clarify it a bit? Yeah, I know I'm probably being an ass right now. I'm in a bad fucking mood! Don't take it personally.
Posted by MissGemmiguess that's a good point. maybe its less a cancer thing and more of an immaturity thing. I just felt everything was fine and dandy. there was a moment of doubt for him though I think. I tried to explain very well what the situation was but I think he mistrusted me and I guess that's disappointing because I really care for him and wouldn't do him dirty like that. but I know he was hurt by the situation whether or not its just in his head doesn't matter
They ignore because there is no clear cut emotional intelligent answer available. Maybe experience taught these particular Cancers that ignoring helps to keep the mystery around them. When it comes to these types there is no specialness or mystery. The whole list that has been witten is not exclusively for cancers. Any person who lacks the ability to speak upfront or is able to cut loose will set up the same list.
For the one who keeps on texting and demands attention. Don't make a fool of yourself and have someone disrespectful you by ignoring you. You give egoboosts to people who really don't even deserve a 'hi'.
Posted by aquarius09to be honest with you, I always felt the same about LDRs. I never thought they were good enough for me. but I happened to meet him while I was on vacation and it was instantaneous chemistry. we talked for hours and I had the easiest time being around him and he said he felt the same about me. so our texting turned to flirting turned into him introducing me as his girl to his family. it kinda just fell into place that way. there was never really a question of do you want to do this. we both just wanted eachother.
I have a question. I always wonder about LDRs. Personally, I just don't understand why anyone would want to be in a LDR because it comes down to did all the men in your town die that you have to resort to LDR? I understand if it started off as in real life and then one party had to move away. Even then, I think people should break up amicably before they move unless one party decides to move with them. Why oh why do people get into LDRs? The idea of companionship is to see, feel and physically be with your partner. What's the point of LDR? Nothing good comes of LDR, but insecurities and mistrust.
or so I thought lol
Posted by crabbycrab76I love cancers personally. and my post was why do cancer men, not ALL because I understand astrology and know that a lot more goes into it then your sun sign not to mention all other sorts of variables so no not ALL sun cancers are the same, just wondering why it seems to be a cancer phenomena that they disappear so suddenly without warning or cause lolPosted by crabRiotYeah, I think my leo moon is fucking with me - or my *satan in the flesh* therapist is- not sure which. 😛
You speaks your mind
I like you crabby, heck I even bookmarked the the thread since I can't copy and paste all of what you wrote on my phone.
This is how you silence the critics (myself included)
Realest post I've ever seen on the Crab board.
I'm gonna post those reasons to all threads I see that start off with the following:
- Why do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
- Do ALL cancer men (fill in the blank)
And I'm gonna suggest that the original poster pick ANY and ALL that apply to their situation!
And noticed *ego boost* is NOT one of the fucking reasons *I* go silent! Nor am I sitting at home an emotional basket case sucking at my mother's breast! Nor am I flirting at every fucking girl that catches my eye! Really people!
I openly admit that I cheated. ONCE. I don't represent ALL cancer men, so don't judge them based on MY stupidity.
I just wish people could at least show some fucking respect by having their question contain *..why do MY MAN..* or *...it seems MY MAN...*. Some people do this, but others...not so much. But this painting EVERY fucking cancer man with the same damn paint brush is annoying as hell. I know they don't mean anything by it, but damn! I haven't been on dxp long, but I read through some of the post, and I can't help but feel like I want to slit my throat or jump out a freaking window!
Note to self: remember to kiss the ground gf walks on when she get back in town. I don't want to be back out there dating. I may not find someone willing to take the time out to get to know me!click to expand
Posted by aquarius09well that's ridiculous because it was a mutual decision. it wasn't just THE WOMAN. jeez louise you guys are ridiculous about LDR and its my fault because im insecure or that im throwing a tantrum. that is not the case here lol im genuinely confused. and you all should know that I was never fond of the idea of an LDR it just is not what I would normally be comfortable with. but I loved being around him so much even for that little bit of time it was sort of like I said to myself welp ill try anything once. I just felt for him and how he talked with me and treated me seemed to mirror my feelings also but I never pressured him I even asked straight up if he was still into me and down to the long distance thing and I said if you don't that's ok because I know you have a lot of things going on and youre busy youre stressed etc and he still said no no I want you and I want this. so mixed signals out the ass here and its not because I got myself into anything or because im insecure or don't understand that he has a life. obviously I do. I just don't understand the point of ignoring me completely and absolutely as tho I don't exist.Posted by Stihl46I don't think it's so much as insecurity. It's women who get into arrangements (LDR or FWB) not working out for them and their sanity and then complaining about it.
More insecure women bitching about Cancer men again?click to expand
Posted by inkedtaurusNo, no, I'm not blaming you. I'm just saying please identify the matter. Your relationship has run it's course. A relationship, of any sort, has run its course when it's not meeting your needs. There's a saying "I rather be alone than be with someone that makes me feel lonely". What's the point of a relationship where you're feeling lonely? Cut him loose and find a next guy. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you both rushed into a relationship due to the instantaneous connection you had with him while you were on a vacation? What is the chronology from the time you had that connection with him to you meeting his family?Posted by aquarius09well that's ridiculous because it was a mutual decision. it wasn't just THE WOMAN. jeez louise you guys are ridiculous about LDR and its my fault because im insecure or that im throwing a tantrum. that is not the case here lol im genuinely confused. and you all should know that I was never fond of the idea of an LDR it just is not what I would normally be comfortable with. but I loved being around him so much even for that little bit of time it was sort of like I said to myself welp ill try anything once. I just felt for him and how he talked with me and treated me seemed to mirror my feelings also but I never pressured him I even asked straight up if he was still into me and down to the long distance thing and I said if you don't that's ok because I know you have a lot of things going on and youre busy youre stressed etc and he still said no no I want you and I want this. so mixed signals out the ass here and its not because I got myself into anything or because im insecure or don't understand that he has a life. obviously I do. I just don't understand the point of ignoring me completely and absolutely as tho I don't exist.Posted by Stihl46I don't think it's so much as insecurity. It's women who get into arrangements (LDR or FWB) not working out for them and their sanity and then complaining about it.
More insecure women bitching about Cancer men again?click to expand
Sorry jumped the gun a bit there I just am frustrated and know I'm looking for answers that really I cant know unless he tells me but I'm trying to find a way for me to move on from it and I cant. I have so many feelings for him and I cant unfeel them no matter how hard I've tried.
You are right tho Why put more effort into if I'm the only one trying. I don't wa,tho be obsessive and send him a million texts and call constantly but I also have a hard time giving up on it.
And yours right again, rush we absolutely did. It took a moment for us to get used to eachother & such but once we did our mushy lovely fogey ness was puke worthy in all honesty lol and I don't get like that with a lot of people so I enjoyed that we could be that way And make each others day brighter just by saying good morning how was your day I miss you so on and so forth. I may him in may and I just met his fam 2 weeks ago so maybe that has something to do with it, Idk. He didn't give any hints that anything was wrong after that but he did start distancing himself almost the day we were separated again
You are right tho Why put more effort into if I'm the only one trying. I don't wa,tho be obsessive and send him a million texts and call constantly but I also have a hard time giving up on it.
And yours right again, rush we absolutely did. It took a moment for us to get used to eachother & such but once we did our mushy lovely fogey ness was puke worthy in all honesty lol and I don't get like that with a lot of people so I enjoyed that we could be that way And make each others day brighter just by saying good morning how was your day I miss you so on and so forth. I may him in may and I just met his fam 2 weeks ago so maybe that has something to do with it, Idk. He didn't give any hints that anything was wrong after that but he did start distancing himself almost the day we were separated again
wa,tho - wanna
Yours - you're
Mushy lovely fogey - mushy loveydovey ness
I may him - I met him
Yours - you're
Mushy lovely fogey - mushy loveydovey ness
I may him - I met him
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