Why do Cancers lose feelings?

A few reasons I would lose feelings for anyone is because of my own insecurities. Even though they are happy and tell me they are happy I can't read people well and misinterpret stuff that makes me anxious and depressed. Other reasons is because I don't see them and/or don't make plans because of time or I feel like they don't want to see me. I need a lot of attention and reassurance to know everything is fine even when they aren't feeling really social that day. It sucks but what other reasons would make a Cancer lose feelings for a partner, friend, family, or anyone?

This seems to be more moon-related

I think as Cancers we all can agree on:

Betrayal

Being taken for granted

being cut-off worthy



But everything else in particular comes down to the moon....

because I was about to say (as a Cancer w/ Cap moon)

Not taking responsibility for own actions

&....well other things...

for lover: cheated on, unappreciated , taken for granted , replaced.

friends: leaking secrets

For me, is if I get hurt over and over.

I am willing to forgive the first times, but, if someone apologizes then does the same thing. I just...drop it.

Also,

My moon sign- crab

My venus sign- crab

Even if I'm stuck in a situation where I have to live with this person for a while, I'd just say neutral things to keep the peace but /: I still wouldn't feel anything. (If I've been hurt a lot).

Posted by Pearls
This seems to be more moon-related

I think as Cancers we all can agree on:

Betrayal

Being taken for granted

being cut-off worthy



But everything else in particular comes down to the moon....

because I was about to say (as a Cancer w/ Cap moon)

Not taking responsibility for own actions

&....well other things...

Def this, if someone is in relationship with me and always complains about it, i will leave, there's no reason neither for you and i to stay in realtionship if you're unhappy in it, i don't like when people betray me and i don't like being cut off, if you cut me off once from your life don't bother coming back again. Also disrespect, dishonesty, i value honesty and truth no matter how hard it is, i respect people and trust people like that, and all people can agree that trust is more important than love, because you can always love the person you can trust, but you can't always trust the one you love, that being said you can't always know if a person is lying to you, you trust him and that's it, you give them a chance to stab you where it hurts the most or protect it. 🙂 I'm a mix of fire and water so i tend to lose feelings loads of time, sometimes because of my own pride i feel like some people don't deserve me, while that might not be the case it helps me to move on if a person doesn't appreciate me. Most important thing for me in relationship with either friends or loved one would be honesty, respect and ofc feels, without honesty there's no decent relationship ground, if you're just floating on a beautiful cloud of a love that's a lie it isn't going to last, same shit with friends. 🙂

Posted by cancer_wyrm
A few reasons I would lose feelings for anyone is because of my own insecurities. Even though they are happy and tell me they are happy I can't read people well and misinterpret stuff that makes me anxious and depressed. Other reasons is because I don't see them and/or don't make plans because of time or I feel like they don't want to see me. I need a lot of attention and reassurance to know everything is fine even when they aren't feeling really social that day. It sucks but what other reasons would make a Cancer lose feelings for a partner, friend, family, or anyone?

Insecurity leads to bad communication and drama.

Bad communication leads to frustration.

Drama leads to conflict.

Frustration and Conflict lead to breakups.

Stop being insecure about things, and stop cutting quality people out of your life.

Surely you realize that we, as quality human beings, will only appear in your life every now and again.

It's not like you are going to meet a high quality person each day of the week.

Trust me when I tell you, that high quality people are few and farrrrrrrrrrrr between.

Stop being a dick to quality people, and you won't be so damn lonely and ultimately prone to self-pity.

Posted by AnOdeToNoOne

Posted by cancer_wyrm
A few reasons I would lose feelings for anyone is because of my own insecurities. Even though they are happy and tell me they are happy I can't read people well and misinterpret stuff that makes me anxious and depressed. Other reasons is because I don't see them and/or don't make plans because of time or I feel like they don't want to see me. I need a lot of attention and reassurance to know everything is fine even when they aren't feeling really social that day. It sucks but what other reasons would make a Cancer lose feelings for a partner, friend, family, or anyone?

Insecurity leads to bad communication and drama.

Bad communication leads to frustration.

Drama leads to conflict.

Frustration and Conflict lead to breakups.

Stop being insecure about things, and stop cutting quality people out of your life.

Surely you realize that we, as quality human beings, will only appear in your life every now and again.

It's not like you are going to meet a high quality person each day of the week.

Trust me when I tell you, that high quality people are few and farrrrrrrrrrrr between.

Stop being a dick to quality people, and you won't be so damn lonely and ultimately prone to self-pity.

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JFC......stop being a dick to someone you don't know and just answer her fucking question. Also, you're not a quality person, scorpio wannabe. Now swim away bigot fish.

OP, I will drop a person from my life if they prove to be a backstabber, betray me in any way, are abusive, or have values that I can't stand for (the biggest ones being a bigot, abuser or someone who lacks basic ethics, is a creep). I'm very tolerant of people having different sexual preferences, beliefs, etc. but I don't have tolerance for bigots of any kind. Basically, toxic people don't stay in my life for long....not once I find out what they are.

My insecurities has been the doom of potentially great relationships. My fear of rejection has kept me from trying again with someone special. I just got to stop being a wuss about relationships.

Posted by kissmygrits
My insecurities has been the doom of potentially great relationships. My fear of rejection has kept me from trying again with someone special. I just got to stop being a wuss about relationships.

Yeah it happens to Cancer Men as well....

Its like we sabotoge and do investigate work on someone's past and try to find a conclusion on why they want to be with someone like us. I am starting to believe that knowing the least possible about someone's past keeps our security in check... Its so hard with today's Facebook's social media and pictures that you see with no real idea the context behind them and you press for answers from the other person and its a big turn off more often than not.

Once I start digging further I feel like I am never satisfied with what I find and I begin to feel vulnerable. Then I am realizing I am now attached to the person with an insecurity about something I found out. How it comes out will probably end up ruining what I had going with the person but I just want to let it go and rise above it and make that person respect me more. I also don't want to feel like I am a safe bet that can be used by this other person longterm and just feel at the drop of a hat they can just say they met someone else and are bored with me.

For me its either I feel like the person is way above my league or below it. When I feel like they are more polished socially; I instantly feel like are more likely to cheat or something. When they aren't and more insecure I feel like they should just put up with my emotional madness and they are "stuck" with me.

I feel like its easier to lose feelings for someone when you feel like they don't have anything else going. Its just very hypocritical in general and I have worked on myself alot to involve myself with people where I won't feel jealous or get angry if they decide they are in love with someone else down the line. Being a friend for years and not getting anything intimate based makes me sleep better at night then being intimate with someone early in a relationship and them deciding they want to be with someone else. I don't think I have ever gotten as angry or offended by rejection when the sexual relationship wasn't there or where I tried to push it.

As a Cancer female, i believe the following reasons for why i lose feelings:

1. I am being ignored

2. I am the only one working on this relationship whether it be a friendship or more

3. In a relationship, when i start being treated as a chump rather than his equal

4. I am being taken for granted

5. I feel as if the relationship has no room for further growth then i would say good -bye

6. The don't share the same values

7. I cannot trust them to protect me