Would a cancerian guy meet his ex if he really moved on?

so ill try this again and another way
Will a cancer guy make an effort to meet you if you are his ex and he says "i have moved on" ?
Mine tells me he has moved on and he said i shouldn't expect a relationship from him.He'll try his best to not be too good and sweet to me but at the same time he'll say things like "you are my long term investment". We never met each other since we have always been in a LDR (now if you dont prefer LDR then well and fine but dont post negative comments here). So I was in his town this weekend and i told him i'd like us to meet. He had late office hours that day and he got done pretty late.Also,there were some road issues that day due to some violent protests so he knew it would take him 2 hrs to reach home and would get him late to reach home if he met me.Yet,he still drove to meet me and we spent nice but kinda formal 2 hrs together. He would always talk about how he wants to take his special someone to this cafeteria called Barista and when we were in a relationship he would tell me how much he wants to take me there. So to my huge surprise he took me there but he behaved casual with it. When i asked "are you sure about this?",he said "why wouldnt i be? No big deal." Then he handed me his phone and asked me to go through his personal family photos.However,i tried being affectionate by feeding him the 1st bite of the cake,holding his arm when he was walking in the middle of the road but he didnt reciprocate any of it. He didnt try to be touchy feely or whatever but I've heard cancerians are very touchy feely and affectionate.
Does this person still feel something for me? Would he met me had he really moved on?

Sometimes I can go out with friends but it would take me awhile because there was a feeling of liking you alot, to bringing it down to just that. So would just have to think. This is casual friendship only and it's a new place to eat sure why not. But nothing more to me because it was already expressed and usually won't change that because feelings do get involved. Or just not hang around you at all and find a new interest altogether.

I think maybe he is USED TO THE IDEA of you...but something has gone—

Anyway the mixed signals are not fair on yourself. You need to ask him to be less confusing the fact he has said he will try to shows he realizes he is doing this himself.

It's possible he is TRYING to move on.

Either way I think he is trying to move on. He has decided it's ended. But that feelings take longer to die. But I would not wait around for him it's not fair on you. You should try to move on emotionally too.

You should tell him he is getting your hopes up. If that is what is happening and ask him either to clarify or just take a break from hanging.

Feelings or familiarity can take longer to die than a relationship itself does.

I think in real terms he has made his mind up and it's to him a friendship. It doesn't mean his older feelings are totally gone. But the fact that they are there in rememberance...it doesn't mean he is comfortable being affectionate with you now either which he does not seem to feel.



you are my long term investment.... Well how long ago did he say it?
I would tell him you are vulnerable to him emotionally for a little while.

Don't hang with him for a bit it's not fair on yourself.


There is an inbetween place of ...i used to like you that way..but now i can't...etc. And finding familiarity with that instead. A lot of exes can't find that place. So don't feel you have to.

Thank you for the responses.
The thing that's confusing me is that although i do strongly believe that he's trying his best to move on by not being his sweet emotional self with me anymore but the fact that he still took me to the place he has always reserved to take his special one left me baffled. When we were together he would always tell me how much he wants to take me there so i wasn't expecting him to take me there since we brokeup 10 months ago but he still did.He behaved casual about it but he still took me there. And also the fact that he himself handed me his phone and asked me to see his family photos and some very personal photos. I know that I myself could never hand over my phone to someone unless i really love that person and feel close to that person. So these 2 things have left me feel confused.

Also,he texted me this monday saying "I am still thinking about our meet and it indeed felt like I met a baby 😛 a school girl 😛 " . I am like WTH!! I asked him why? if it was my face or behavior.He said "just the experience of it". Really don't know why and when would a guy say that.

Posted by BlondeAmbition






you are my long term investment.... Well how long ago did he say it?

He said that the 4th time. We broke up 10 months ago on April last year and he said this on October the first time even though we were broken up but in touch,then November when i was fatally ill and then just 3 weeks ago.These were his words "I have told you you are my long term investment.In long term investments,you just invest a little bit and then don't give a butter about it for a while since you need to stay more updated about the short term investments on daily basis.Then you renew your long term investment after a while and then it just grows"

Posted by gia
Thank you for the responses.
The thing that's confusing me is that although i do strongly believe that he's trying his best to move on by not being his sweet emotional self with me anymore but the fact that he still took me to the place he has always reserved to take his special one left me baffled. When we were together he would always tell me how much he wants to take me there so i wasn't expecting him to take me there since we brokeup 10 months ago but he still did.He behaved casual about it but he still took me there. And also the fact that he himself handed me his phone and asked me to see his family photos and some very personal photos. I know that I myself could never hand over my phone to someone unless i really love that person and feel close to that person. So these 2 things have left me feel confused.

Also,he texted me this monday saying "I am still thinking about our meet and it indeed felt like I met a baby 😛 a school girl 😛 " . I am like WTH!! I asked him why? if it was my face or behavior.He said "just the experience of it". Really don't know why and when would a guy say that.

Handing my phone to someone in general would only be a big deal to me if a) they took it without asking or b) they started snooping whilst on it. I may hand it over easily, and if I'm trying to act cool I won't watch what you're doing. Although my instinct would be to hover.

Also, I really have no idea what his text means...? Is that an innuendo, or is he insulting you, or is he showing his feelings and being cute?

You're my long term investment means " I will save you up for the future me when I probably get interested in settling down. But no sure thing now ". It's when you put the clothes which doesn't fit you now in case you get fit enough. Would you like to wait until he sets up his mind... let's say in 5-10 years? BTW, What was the reason you broke up?
Secondly, don't read into what cancer says or sometimes does too much!! He doesnt know himself. Cancers can never be 100% sure whats on their mind
So, ask yourself, is it taking you where youd like to be taken to NOW?! Do you want to exercise your option of probable future relationship having no real certainty hes there too?
Still no? Run forest run. Tell him honestly you still care for him but cant be that friend right now because its unfair for you both. Give him back his number, and tell he can reach you if he s sure youve got the future. If you yourself are still there when he finally DECIDES.
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