Am I a nympho?

I need a sounding board here. WHat is typical 'early stage love' supposed to be like sex wise. The usual track record for me and Mr Cap are...Once a week and maybe twice if Im lucky. We are in a NEW relationship. This does not feel right. We sleep next to each other every night. I DO not harp on the sex thing but my feelings are hurt each night when he does not initate. It feels like we are senior citizens! He is four years younger than me. I dont know what to do other than change our relationship back to friends. In a frenzy..

Another thing.. I hate to admit this. He has told me that he is not one of those guys that enjoys the 'lily'. He WONT GO DOWN ON ME> He says he doesnt like the taste or smell and he says he vomits at the thought. He is very flippant with the sex thing. He told me in the beginning that its not that important to him. He has made a couple excuses that hes tired or has to be at work early.

Marchgirl80, mercinaries could be right. Also, your Mr Cap could have a chemical imbalance (low libido).

AutumnC yes I have done the 'favor' for him consistently. I suppose because I enjoy it. I am too generous for my own good. I am not the 'birthday or xmas blow kind of gal'. Yes I did move into his hometown I have lived here for about nine months, from Texas. I trust him. I know he is not a sneaky kind of person. I think if he had to be celibate for some reason it would be no sweat off his back. I dont think its a finacial issue. I am financially secure and he is still in school finishing up his degree. He doesnt appear to be too stressed with his work/school. He is very responsible.

Atlantic Mist:
"Some can even go months and even years without sex"
For some reason that is EXACTLY his attitude about it.

Celibacy is not my cup of tea

Yeah I think you are right. I truly appreciate him. His word is gold. He feeds & takes care of my son just as his own in the most sincere way. Maybe I need a different approach. Its not that he dislikes sex, he and I are VERY good when that old blue moon comes around. Its really not the quantity, but the quality. You are right intimacy and affection is very important to me as well. Maybe this little hiatus we are in will yield a different level for us, or if nothing else I know he has my back and I have his. The truth is I dont think we have been able to break the ice emotionally. When we have kissed in the past I can feel the emotion and intimacy. Maybe we are just afraid to bring down that wall just yet. I have this book called Signmates "The games people play" and I have read up on Capricorn/Aries interactions. It is eerily dead on. Either way we will be friends.

I have his back, & he's got mine. heh I type too fast.

Thank you. Maybe patience is the key. I have read that most caps are very slow and cautious by nature.

After reading about capricorn men, I don't think I would ever have the patience for them. Everytime I see the cap I dated, I feel like I wasted time on him and I want to kick myself for it. Also turned off about the kid he never mentioned!

"a rule to live by and men and women alike can learn from or attest to this,

the man has to be, and I mean has to be, the freak-ier one in the relationship"

Yikes...at that rate I shall never find a man....

A life of spinster-dom

oooh good point...

Which came first ...THe chicken or the Egg debate

"i would categorize marchgirl's situation as a sextual incompatibility"

I would second that.
He could be the celibate type.
I dont know how someone comes to the idea they would want celibacy. Maybe I should talk more with P Angel.
Morissey--The 80's alternative band...lead singer was celibate. He stated that it was just too much work.

??

I wonder about that reasoning as well.
What is the benefit to begin with?

Um your uber-stressed out. Your tense. Easily angered or frusterated. On edge..

Im guessing the celib-ist dont do self love ...so

I dont know what you would get from it?

No stds I guess that would be the upside.

"Mg, would you consider riding in his sleep?

personally, I would love to wake up to that butter."

That is funny.. I have entertained that idea.

Wouldnt that be cowardly of me?

There is yoga and meditation for that and self help books..

What kind of spiritual state of mind? Now I am feeling curious...

Where is pAngel when u need her

😛

ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

It would be SOOO awkward if I 'began to molest him in his sleep'

And if he declined.. I would turn BRIGHT red..

satyrsmind..why do you think there are so many celibate people and WHY do they choose celibacy?

Just not geared that way...or find it time consuming? OR are not the touchy feely types or what?

Good article. But I think God creates and he created the first chicken on this earth that laid the egg.

Just seems right (if) you believe in God that is.

I have already been Samantha...went through a small 'sexual liberation' period.. about 4 months.. I did it ALL... threesome...one girl...hot interludes...but I suppose I had to get it out of my system..per se....

I had been in a LONG marriage prior,, married to my highschool sweetheart. We were together for twelve years total..

The sexual revolution... I subjected myself too.. though became very informative but very empty.

Im now in a place in my life that I have sewn some seeds and I am yearning for a loving partner

SG yes that makes sense..

I guess in a way deliberate dry spells are 'periods of celibacy'. So okay I suppose I can say that I have BEEN celibate.. It wasnt so bad. BUT if I can remember back I did feel on edge. A vibrator can only do so much.

The lack of affection and intimacy is something a toy box cannot provide you.

"The lack of affection and intimacy is something a toy box cannot provide you."

Neither can a relations based solely on sex either"

Yes I did one of those too.in the past. I 'allowed' the sexual chemistry that I shared with one guy in particular overwhelm or dynamic. I kept wanting to work on the 'other parts' of our relationship (if you could call it that) to justify the fact that I could not stop craving him but to no avail.. You cannot stuff a square orifice into a triangle slot period.

"libido is even more out of bounds"
DC you are proabably fertile right now😛
Make sure you strap on your chastity belt when you go around TOM CATTING or flirting with boys tonight

Or YOU could end up changing 2,000+ diapers like moi 😉

"hey, are you being to aggresive for the cap, maybe he wants to body slam you"

Body slam me I wish... I could take him😉

Whoever asked me If I open his pickle jars was HiLarIoUs! Im a petite 5'4 Southern gentile

REfresh my mem..

Id, superId and ...something else Id is the one that throws tantrums right?

But I see your point

in white tantra (or white magic tantra) the denial of pleasure actually gives you MORE pleasure, although that cannot be the reason for practicing, if that makes sense

denying your "ego" and transferring a will to receive to a will to bestow is is the process

and when it comes to sex you are supposed to have MORE sex with less ejacualtion

orgasm internally rather than externally

but in no way shape or form do you become more connected spiritually with the universe by abstaining from sex

its the orgasm

THAT is one thing on my list that I have NOT done... TAntRA Have you done it? TaurusARies?

So you say that is tied into libido... well then your saying that the more consistent celibate folks have a stronger SUperEGo and EGo or are more disciplined with extenuating factors..?

Or the more impulsive person does the one night stand scenario—

HAHA NOT!! The hottest sex I ever experienced was with a VIRGO!
They are little kink misters behind closed doors

Tell him DC

TEll him

!

🙂

hypo-sluts haaa

hypodermic needle crack whore sluts?

just like me

hahha

meant ho

The filtering gave me away

I tried to live the ho life once but it did not suit me.. Love and friendship is too important.

I have to go feed my lil babe

I got yer back

One thing I do know is that virgo does not disappoint in the fuzzybumping dept

What do you call an opposite of an undercover slut?

Under cover virgin?