anger And temper management

haven't seen it yet. just thought u guys hv some input....

do u get angry easily?
do U confront or tolerate the anger?
how do u deal w it?
wat makes you really angry?
how forgiving r u?

do u get angry easily?

Sometimes. I used to anger very easily in my younger days, but have chilled out over the years.

do U confront or tolerate the anger?

Some of both. I try to tolerate and bottle it up, but if it doesn't go away -- time for a release.

how do u deal w it?

Very, very, carefully. I used to be rather explosive.

wat makes you really angry?

Laziness, stupidity, lack of accountability, shirking responsibilities

how forgiving r u?

If someone apologizes, acknowledges their mistakes, and takes ownership -- I forgive instantaneously.

No apology, or admission of wrongdoing, I'm not likely to forgive, but eventually, with enough time passed, I will get over it.

Posted by CapTenn
do u get angry easily?

Sometimes. I used to anger very easily in my younger days, but have chilled out over the years.

do U confront or tolerate the anger?

Some of both. I try to tolerate and bottle it up, but if it doesn't go away -- time for a release.

how do u deal w it?

Very, very, carefully. I used to be rather explosive.

wat makes you really angry?

Laziness, stupidity, lack of accountability, shirking responsibilities

how forgiving r u?

If someone apologizes, acknowledges their mistakes, and takes ownership -- I forgive instantaneously.

No apology, or admission of wrongdoing, I'm not likely to forgive, but eventually, with enough time passed, I will get over it.

What he said ^^^^^^.....agreed

do u get angry easily?

Yup.

do U confront or tolerate the anger?

Depends, usually confront it. Then work out remaining rage in other ways.

how do u deal w it?

Dealing with the problem. working. exercise. gaming.

wat makes you really angry?

Lack of awareness. No responsibility. Picking on the weak.

how forgiving r u?

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Not very. Say sorry and mean, do actions to make up for it, fine. Will not forget though.

mean it*

I get irritated easily and that shows very obviously. But real anger is slow to build. When it does build, it comes out very icy, very cold, very blunt, very controlled (unless it's something that pushed me over the top) and very non-caring in a "you will listen to me" and "I don't care what your excuses are".

The cold control can be quite scary, or so I'm told because people know how to deal with a hot head, but they are taken aback by the control. They say they don't know how to read it and don't know what I'm going to do next.

I have aqua mars.

I have learned with age at the first sign of something to nip it in the bud before you get to the point where the anger becomes explosive. I'm happier, the people around me are happier and things just don't escalate. For my anger to really surface is when I've told someone several times that what they are doing isn't acceptable and they don't seem to get it, then there will be a final straw and then the anger comes out explosively. It happens very rarely.

Then, afterward, I'm all embarrassed. Not because I stood up for myself and not about what was said. I'm embarrassed because I wasn't able to control it the way I wanted to.

I used to not say anything and then resentment would build up to the point where the explosions happened. But once I learned to nip things in the bud and speak up at the first moment of the infraction, I don't feel the necessity of losing my cool and releasing the steam.

Forgiving? Well, it depends on how sincere you are in your apology and upon the actions to take to solve the issue. If those match up, yes, I can forgive. But if any of it rings false and you don't make efforts to fix the behavior, then I can hold a grudge for a long, long time.

Of course, there are certain incidences where I most likely won't ever forgive.

Blame my scorpio parts and cap moon for that aspect.

I guess my using the terms explosively and cold control are contradicting terms. But for me internally it's explosive, for the person experiencing it, it's cold and controlled. Hope that makes sense.

🙂 thanks fr the response.

my cap hasn't shown any anger yet.
just hoping he isn't bottling up...

yes yes worrier virgo at play :/