argument with Capricorn

Hi all. Im new to this forum!!! Anywho i have a question about my capricorn. We had a argument last night. And for some reason i feel it was about something totally different than what we were originally arguing about. I told him i was going riding with a friend he asked where i told him. The next thing i know he is asking to use my car. I always say yes but this time i said no. He has his own car. He said he cant believe i was doing him that way. I told him it was not fair of him to act this way when i never tell him no. He said i never tell you no either and that he thought i liked him. I said i do like you and if you need me to take you somewhere i will. He said i thought you really liked me i said i do and its obvious we dont feel the same about each other. He said it is very obvious because he thought i really liked him. So again I told him I do and I don't appreciate him questioning my feelings about him. I then said i was going to bed before i say something i shouldnt. He said wow he cant believe me and that he likes me. Is therr anything i missed in that convo i am so confused. Why is he questioning if i like him or not just because i said no once

I told him I was going with a female friend. Thanks i won't think too much into it

Sounds to me like low self esteem.

Posted by truecap
Sounds to me like low self esteem.

His last few ex's cheated

Posted by lovelytaylor

Posted by truecap
Sounds to me like low self esteem.

His last few ex's cheated

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Trust issues.

Posted by truecap

Posted by lovelytaylor

Posted by truecap
Sounds to me like low self esteem.

His last few ex's cheated

Trust issues.

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Anything i can do? I havent heard from him today. I sent him a text saying i dont appreciate him questioning my feelings for him and there shouldn't be a doubt in his mind about if I like him

Posted by 88
hmmmm you should have left things alone and not tell him that. maybe he was already embarrassed about it and now that you said you don't appreciate what he did he may not get back to you right away.

you can show him that you dont appreciate his certain actions but when we use words like that with men. we *scare them off* because we make them feel like little kids and that is not what they are.

88Pisces

Im starting to think he is insecure. And i havent given him reason to feel that way.

Lol at 88 i got told my low rise jeans were tooo low. He is a january cap.

Posted by tiziani
Reading your post several times over to figure his age, it almost seems like "asking to use my car" is a euphemism for having sex. That's the only way I could figure out the rest of the post being an excuse for a grown man to act like this.

I mean no disrespect. But honestly if you replace the words "asking to use my car" with that very act, then the rest makes sense. Otherwise it only makes sense if he's 14.

Don't encourage this kind of behaviour but also don't be discompassionate and make it about what you have or haven't done. Like 88 said, BE the example. He may also be one of those people that just gets serially cheated on from relationship to relationship and never actually learn his lessons as to why or embrace change. In which case, he'll probably push you to the limits and make it so that he can believe (in his own mind) that you're about to cheat on him even when you're not.

Never thought of it that way.... he is actually 26 years old. I also dont think sex is the issue bc we have that on a regular basis. I also dont know how i could cheat when we both have keys to each others places

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Posted by lovelytaylor
Lol at 88 i got told my low rise jeans were tooo low. He is a january cap.

hahhahahaa these men.

this one is a January cap as well. It is cute though, as long as he doesnt go over board with telling what to wear because I don't like controlling men. I had yoga pants and a nice tank top, everyone wears tank tops here in this state.

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How long have you been together?

Ohhhh he sounds like a keeper

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I was joking about the sex thing. I just hope he took enough time out to figure himself out between his exes and getting involved with you.

Oh lol you know i honestly dont know if he did. Hes only stated that he has veen cheated on a few times when he was giving his all. Sometimes i catch on to the little test othee times i dont.

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Posted by tiziani
Yeah I was joking about the sex thing. I just hope he took enough time out to figure himself out between his exes and getting involved with you.

lol, yeah I couldn't understand why you said that to her.

but you said something very important, the aries guy I dated had jealosy issues. & he acused me of so many things, I even started to believe that I was doing them for reals. lol , Till I got tired of him & threw his stuff out the window and aked him to get the f***** out of my life.

I think her cap is just being protective. maybe acted weird yesterday but he will get over it. 🙂

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Where do you see the protective side of that argumeargument

@ 88 funny thing is this isnt his first time doing the whole car situation. I usually say yes but i stood my ground this last time!! The last time he needed it come to find out he parked it and got In another car!!! So this time i said no

I will do whenever he is out of his feelings lol

Capricorn men are innately possessive. What's theirs is theirs and they aren't sharing. Whether it's your time, mind, body or all 3 if their is something about you that they feel belongs to them they will get pushed out of shape if they feel it is being threatened by an outside influence/source.

Give him some space to process, let go of your own annoyance at his behavior, and wait to see how he reapproaches you.

I love all these comments...Lol

If he's insecure its your job to make him feel secure! If that's what it is, fix it.
If he's jealous it's because of something your doing! If that's what it is, fix it.
The comfort zone is a beautiful place to be. Would you feel comfortable if the tables were turned—

Sounds to me like he is ready to be serious, but thinks your not... He probably wants more of you attention!

I am a Jan Cap and guess what? If you didn't take me serious, Poof I'm gone!
I give you fair warning beware...

Posted by Pidelight
Capricorn men are innately possessive. What's theirs is theirs and they aren't sharing. Whether it's your time, mind, body or all 3 if their is something about you that they feel belongs to them they will get pushed out of shape if they feel it is being threatened by an outside influence/source.

Give him some space to process, let go of your own annoyance at his behavior, and wait to see how he reapproaches you.

He approached me later on today as if nothing happened. Didnt bring it up or anything. He never likes to talk things out i guess he figures it out in his head

Posted by SureShotCap
I love all these comments...Lol

If he's insecure its your job to make him feel secure! If that's what it is, fix it.
If he's jealous it's because of something your doing! If that's what it is, fix it.
The comfort zone is a beautiful place to be. Would you feel comfortable if the tables were turned—

Sounds to me like he is ready to be serious, but thinks your not... He probably wants more of you attention!

I am a Jan Cap and guess what? If you didn't take me serious, Poof I'm gone!
I give you fair warning beware...

I will attempt to fix it because i am a virgo moon lol and that is what we do!! ! I do feel like he wants to br more serious but he never says it
Its like he leaves all the emotional stuff up to me!!! Waits til i bring it up or doesnt discuss it at all. Fear of rejection i guess

Posted by 88
LOL SureShotCap,

well these comments are from women so you also get to learn from us. lmao

but your comment was pretty clear to me, next time I wont wear my tank tops around the JAN CAP how is that. *fixed*

When I was younger, that shhh was a no no. Nowadays, I'll yet you feel confident and beautiful, because your my well earned prize. Plus now I can catch😄everybody look at your boobs!

Posted by lovelytaylor
I do feel like he wants to br more serious but he never says it

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Believe me, he won't have to say it, when he is ready, you will notice the shift of energy in his body language, your hairs will stand up. Suddenly he won't have to say anything but you feel and understand exactly what he is telling you. And your gonna be in trouble...

The thing about the clothes...

A cap wants a lady who looks and acts classy. That is very important to his image. Please take that into consideration.
Not saying low ride jeans and tank tops aren't appropriate, just make sure you look classy.

I still don't get the issue with the car. Dude! Drive your own car!!!

Lol!! I don't blame you! I bet you looked cute!

Posted by truecap
The thing about the clothes...

A cap wants a lady who looks and acts classy. That is very important to his image. Please take that into consideration.
Not saying low ride jeans and tank tops aren't appropriate, just make sure you look classy.

I still don't get the issue with the car. Dude! Drive your own car!!!

Lol i honestly dont think it was about the car lol. He is just fine today and hasnt mentioned it. He actually asked did i miss him which is very strange for h hes never asked that before

Posted by lovelytaylor
I do feel like he wants to br more serious but he never says it

Believe me, he won't have to say it, when he is ready, you will notice the shift of energy in his body language, your hairs will stand up. Suddenly he won't have to say anything but you feel and understand exactly what he is telling you. And your gonna be in trouble...

Make my hair stand i cant wait!!! I feel like as the months pass each month he opens up a tad bit more!!! Slow process to say at the least. I sometimes feel like i am a prize to be shown when he is around his cousins. His face lights up a little more he is more talkative and always finds a way or reason for me to be around them.

He bring up his Ex once because I wanted to know why the relationship ended. I always like to ask about previous exs whem i first meet someone. He hasnt brung her up since. As for the sex its a lot more me than him because i have a huge sex drive. He has told me more than once to calm down lol. I will admit he has some issues but I don't believe his Ex is one.