I started dating a wonderful Capricorn early (March) last year. We clicked immediatedly and began a very hot affair. It ended, I thought, abruptly at the end (December) of last year and he has moved on to another relationship. He purchased a home with his new friend. He has maintained that he would like for us to remain friends. I am very in love with him and feel he chose his current partner because he felt she made a better finacial arrangement for what he wants than I do. He continues to communicate with me via emails, ims and phone calls. He seems to enjoy knowing that I still love him and has even propositioned me sexually. He is surprised that I refuse to sleep with him. He is (I feel) in a committed relationship (I wouldn't purchase a home with someone I was not in a committed relationship with or married to). I refuse to be the other woman for him no matter how much I love him. It seems to more I pull back the more he feels the need to reassure me that our relationship meant something to him and that he values my friendship. My question is how should I deal with him. I am very intiutive and our break up simply does not feel final to me. I feel like we are not finished. I am not interested in anything less than a real relationship. I appreciate your input. I am a Virgo and he, of course, is a Cappie.
Bye Bye Cappie
Read posts should I let him go. It will give you some insight. If you need more help come back to this posts. I have been with a Cap for almost 11 years. I say let her have him, that will draw him back to you. Act not interested!
Thank you. I read some and will read more tomorrow. I am attempting to date again, but in all honesty I am not ready. I am not waiting for him but I am not ready to get involved with a new person while I am still very much in love with him. I am taking this time to work on me and the pursuit of my career gosls. In terms of the communication between us I figure he will stop when he realizes my morals are in tact. I don't see him as a cheater; I think he just wanted to see what I am made of. Thank you again for your response. I appreciated the advice.
Thank you again. I am upset by the turn of events as well. It seemed out of character with what I knew or experienced when I was with him. I am a firm believer that what is done in the dark will come to light. I am not willing to put into the Universe what I don't want to receive back. Time heals all wounds and just as you said, I am the one who will have to stop him from this behavior with me. I am protecting myself because I am worth it.
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