New to all of this and need some advice. I am 31 Taurus that met a 26 yr. Cappy through a mutual friend at a club 3 weeks ago. He asked me out to a sushi date within in a hr for the next day. The night we met we left the club and he asked to go smoke hookah at a bar so I did then we went to play pool at his complex. He asked me that night to kiss me which he we did. Made out- nothing more.. I went home. The next night we went out and he brought his friend with him and his gf.. we went to dinner and then out dancing.. went back to his friends house and he taught me how to dance salsa till 4am. I spent the night with him but no sex. He texted me the very next day asking about my day.. he then would continue to respond to my snapchat stories.. last weekend I was going to Miami and I initiated the first text and said " Lets get together when I get back" and he said "yes lets for sure, I am down whenever you want" I came back from my trip and I texted him.. he asked about my trip and we talked about work.. i told him i wanted to hear more about his work sometime and he said sure over wine sometime we can.. so i suggested this Saturday (which was last sat) We had another great date.. we laughed, he showed me photos of him and his sister, we got naked but didn't have sex he asked why i wouldn't.. and i said "I kinda like you and don't wanna rush" he didn't push it further. He texted me on Monday about my day but that was the last contact. I am not sure if he is stringing me along. Isnt it true if guys want to see you they make an effort? I initiated the last time to show my interested and don't want to chase this guy. Advice much appreciated!
Cappy Guy Interested or not?
I agree. I shouldn't have let it get to that point. My intentions were not to play games. I hope the situation can get rectified just not sure where to go from here.

You go far enough to get naked but wouldn't have sex.
Tease.
Tease.

He was interested until you contradicted yourself. You'll get naked, but want to take it slow??

Posted by sweetsandy24
New to all of this and need some advice. I am 31 Taurus that met a 26 yr. Cappy through a mutual friend at a club 3 weeks ago. He asked me out to a sushi date within in a hr for the next day. The night we met we left the club and he asked to go smoke hookah at a bar so I did then we went to play pool at his complex. He asked me that night to kiss me which he we did. Made out- nothing more.. I went home. The next night we went out and he brought his friend with him and his gf.. we went to dinner and then out dancing.. went back to his friends house and he taught me how to dance salsa till 4am. I spent the night with him but no sex. He texted me the very next day asking about my day.. he then would continue to respond to my snapchat stories.. last weekend I was going to Miami and I initiated the first text and said " Lets get together when I get back" and he said "yes lets for sure, I am down whenever you want" I came back from my trip and I texted him.. he asked about my trip and we talked about work.. i told him i wanted to hear more about his work sometime and he said sure over wine sometime we can.. so i suggested this Saturday (which was last sat) We had another great date.. we laughed, he showed me photos of him and his sister, we got naked but didn't have sex he asked why i wouldn't.. and i said "I kinda like you and don't wanna rush" he didn't push it further. He texted me on Monday about my day but that was the last contact. I am not sure if he is stringing me along. Isnt it true if guys want to see you they make an effort? I initiated the last time to show my interested and don't want to chase this guy. Advice much appreciated!
Lol. You got 1000% naked. Then said no.
He doesn't believe you. You've done this before. And he knows. You probably thought it would tempt him in a good way.
But he's seen a naked woman before.
Please don't do this with future men you like ever.
It just looks like you're playing games for your own amusement at his expense.

Posted by sweetsandy24
New to all of this and need some advice. I am 31 Taurus that met a 26 yr. Cappy through a mutual friend at a club 3 weeks ago. He asked me out to a sushi date within in a hr for the next day. The night we met we left the club and he asked to go smoke hookah at a bar so I did then we went to play pool at his complex. He asked me that night to kiss me which he we did. Made out- nothing more.. I went home. The next night we went out and he brought his friend with him and his gf.. we went to dinner and then out dancing.. went back to his friends house and he taught me how to dance salsa till 4am. I spent the night with him but no sex. He texted me the very next day asking about my day.. he then would continue to respond to my snapchat stories.. last weekend I was going to Miami and I initiated the first text and said " Lets get together when I get back" and he said "yes lets for sure, I am down whenever you want" I came back from my trip and I texted him.. he asked about my trip and we talked about work.. i told him i wanted to hear more about his work sometime and he said sure over wine sometime we can.. so i suggested this Saturday (which was last sat) We had another great date.. we laughed, he showed me photos of him and his sister, we got naked but didn't have sex he asked why i wouldn't.. and i said "I kinda like you and don't wanna rush" he didn't push it further. He texted me on Monday about my day but that was the last contact. I am not sure if he is stringing me along. Isnt it true if guys want to see you they make an effort? I initiated the last time to show my interested and don't want to chase this guy. Advice much appreciated!
Lol. You got 1000% naked. Then said no.
He doesn't believe you. You've done this before. And he knows. You probably thought it would tempt him in a good way.
But he's seen a naked woman before.
Please don't do this with future men you like ever.
It just looks like you're playing games for your own amusement at his expense.
Adults don't do this.
10-4. Got it. Stupid wine.
is there anything I can do to fix this or just kick rocks and move on?
is there anything I can do to fix this or just kick rocks and move on?

Posted by happyface1Not that I agree with the OP getting naked, I dont understand how men see this as a woman playing some sort of game when the obvious reason is the woman felt some pressure and conflicting views and desires. She wants to have sex, she wants to continue to see the man but she wants to take things slow.Posted by sweetsandy24
New to all of this and need some advice. I am 31 Taurus that met a 26 yr. Cappy through a mutual friend at a club 3 weeks ago. He asked me out to a sushi date within in a hr for the next day. The night we met we left the club and he asked to go smoke hookah at a bar so I did then we went to play pool at his complex. He asked me that night to kiss me which he we did. Made out- nothing more.. I went home. The next night we went out and he brought his friend with him and his gf.. we went to dinner and then out dancing.. went back to his friends house and he taught me how to dance salsa till 4am. I spent the night with him but no sex. He texted me the very next day asking about my day.. he then would continue to respond to my snapchat stories.. last weekend I was going to Miami and I initiated the first text and said " Lets get together when I get back" and he said "yes lets for sure, I am down whenever you want" I came back from my trip and I texted him.. he asked about my trip and we talked about work.. i told him i wanted to hear more about his work sometime and he said sure over wine sometime we can.. so i suggested this Saturday (which was last sat) We had another great date.. we laughed, he showed me photos of him and his sister, we got naked but didn't have sex he asked why i wouldn't.. and i said "I kinda like you and don't wanna rush" he didn't push it further. He texted me on Monday about my day but that was the last contact. I am not sure if he is stringing me along. Isnt it true if guys want to see you they make an effort? I initiated the last time to show my interested and don't want to chase this guy. Advice much appreciated!
Lol. You got 1000% naked. Then said no.
He doesn't believe you. You've done this before. And he knows. You probably thought it would tempt him in a good way.
But he's seen a naked woman before.
Please don't do this with future men you like ever.
It just looks like you're playing games for your own amusement at his expense.
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Idk, I think a more mature man who is truly interested in a woman would realize hey, sorry if this felt rushed, i can respect your desire to wait but you have to respect me by not allowing things to go this far.
A help me help you deal.
Maybe I am being an idealist.
I didn't want to have sex with him so quick because I want to actually see where this goes. I didn't want to ruin the risk of sleeping with someone so quickly.. Granted yes I put myself in a wrong situation. Now I know not to moving forward.
We did talk briefly today and we are going horseback riding next sat. I did ask him.. but this is something we talked about when we met and he told me to tell him the next time I am going cause he would love to come.. so I guess this is alright. I know I wouldn't be hanging out with someone if I was over them.
Its horseback riding.. so I wont be getting naked. Lol
Its horseback riding.. so I wont be getting naked. Lol

Posted by malloryorPosted by happyface1Not that I agree with the OP getting naked, I dont understand how men see this as a woman playing some sort of game when the obvious reason is the woman felt some pressure and conflicting views and desires. She wants to have sex, she wants to continue to see the man but she wants to take things slow.Posted by sweetsandy24
New to all of this and need some advice. I am 31 Taurus that met a 26 yr. Cappy through a mutual friend at a club 3 weeks ago. He asked me out to a sushi date within in a hr for the next day. The night we met we left the club and he asked to go smoke hookah at a bar so I did then we went to play pool at his complex. He asked me that night to kiss me which he we did. Made out- nothing more.. I went home. The next night we went out and he brought his friend with him and his gf.. we went to dinner and then out dancing.. went back to his friends house and he taught me how to dance salsa till 4am. I spent the night with him but no sex. He texted me the very next day asking about my day.. he then would continue to respond to my snapchat stories.. last weekend I was going to Miami and I initiated the first text and said " Lets get together when I get back" and he said "yes lets for sure, I am down whenever you want" I came back from my trip and I texted him.. he asked about my trip and we talked about work.. i told him i wanted to hear more about his work sometime and he said sure over wine sometime we can.. so i suggested this Saturday (which was last sat) We had another great date.. we laughed, he showed me photos of him and his sister, we got naked but didn't have sex he asked why i wouldn't.. and i said "I kinda like you and don't wanna rush" he didn't push it further. He texted me on Monday about my day but that was the last contact. I am not sure if he is stringing me along. Isnt it true if guys want to see you they make an effort? I initiated the last time to show my interested and don't want to chase this guy. Advice much appreciated!
Lol. You got 1000% naked. Then said no.
He doesn't believe you. You've done this before. And he knows. You probably thought it would tempt him in a good way.
But he's seen a naked woman before.
Please don't do this with future men you like ever.
It just looks like you're playing games for your own amusement at his expense.
Idk, I think a more mature man who is truly interested in a woman would realize hey, sorry if this felt rushed, i can respect your desire to wait but you have to respect me by not allowing things to go this far.
A help me help you deal.
Maybe I am being an idealist.
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If you feel conflicting views or you're unsure. Don't get naked. Simple. She's a tease.

Nah. I disagree. A tease is a female intentionslly looking to manipulate and lead a man on. I think in her 30s, the OP should know better but I dont see her as some sex femme fatale. Besides men do and say the opposite all the time because they dont know what they want, we dont call them teases. The better reply to the OP is why did she not feel secure enough to say no before things escalated so far?

Posted by ParisianCappyWhy? it sounds good, start slowly build up a foundation? No?
i dont know, if i was him i start to stop talk to you
but i'm too much capricornish

But if you didn't want sex with him, and yall should not have been naked though at all... since this was only date 5 ..

Posted by sagiluvLol at consitution you. That is a new one, gotta love auto correct.
Stop contacting him, let him constitution you. I'm sure he will be back...
Like I said, it wasn't supposed to be a game. I dropped the ball on this one, I'm only human. Thanks for all the feedback. We'll go on this cowboy date and I will let him lead from there.
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