Cappy Woman Question

Howdy,

Been a while but something came up and I thought I would ask some folks here.

I've known this Cappy gal for about 5 years or so now. We met at a group outing though we didn't initially hit it off immediately. However, as the years passed, I managed to get to know her through our group's various events. Then all of sudden, being the typical cappy, she just vanished for some three years. She had decided to go back to school and put her focus on that and basically dropped out of our group's activities. Even after her schooling was done, work became her next focus.

Yet, I was persistent with her. I felt we had some good conversations though they were far and few between. I kept trying to get her to go out but if it wasn't one thing, it was another.

Fast forward to the present. The cappy gal and I had talked for the first time in several months (this was about a month ago). We talked and she even agreed to have lunch and we took a hike together. I didn't think we made any progress in the sense of romance that day. I thought we talked fine and had a good day overall so I didn't think about it much.

However, about 2 weeks ago, a mutual friend had a birthday lunch and the cappy girl showed up as well (I didn't know). My friends decided that cappy girl should sit next to me (they know we keep in touch with each other). We talked a little bit and I found it very odd that she started asking me about how work and my house hunting had been (we had talked about it at our hiking trip). I had not prompted her at all. Personally, I thought it was a little unusual and sensed something may have changed.

Seeking to see if something indeed had changed, I asked her to do something the next weekend but unfortunately due to a few things, we haven't gotten together. However, she has been SUPER responsive via phone and email which a female friends thinks is a good thing.

However, the really odd part is that I talked her a couple of days ago. She indicated that she was trying to change herself and not be as "selfish" since she tended to put off people so much in the past. She also said she wanted to be more social so she could network more. Maybe she was just being general, but I thought "Hmmm, that doesn't sound so good for me. Sounds like she's just trying to go out more and I'm always bugging her".

Anyways, I would love to hear people's thoughts. Is the gal interested? Is she just being practical since I'm a

Hi coach! 😄

Shaka post was great, thats basically what I was going to type. He's right about coming on too strong, that will case a cappy woman away in a heartbeat, but too, you don't want to act too indifferent with her because she may think you aren't interested in her, which is not the case because you seem to like her alot.

Oh and just because she was asking about stuff you had once told her while camping is not weird at all, it just shows interest in the fact that she trying to keep up with you, that's a good thing. And I wouldn't get discouraged because you two haven't gone out yet, things come up and you just need to keep rescheduling until the time is right. Hey, it took like 9 attempts to make a date between a guy and I work out once, no lie. Things would constantly come up with me, but he was patient enough to wait, which was nice 🙂

Cappy girls don't give all things *love* out very easy because we don't like are hearts being thrown against the wall. Just take it easy and keep trying to get her to step out with you ^_^.

Thanks guys! Yeah, my message was a little lengthy so I forgot to note that I actually thought I was "reading into things" too much. The gal is a tough nut to crack. However, I will say that the gal always says that she appreciates me for being patient with her comings and goings. I admit that I surprise myself a bit. I'm an Aries Sun so I'm typically not the most patient sign though maybe I am off balanced by the other signs in my chart. I'm actually very laid back with people.

We've just established a fairly solid friendship and that's always a good start in my book. 🙂 I'm trying to see if there's anything more. Maybe in time, maybe not, but only time can tell. 🙂