Capricorn and sex?

I've always read about caps being real conservative and basically asexual. And most caps I've met are just like that (myself included). I used to date a cap and we haven't slept together at all because IDK it just never came across our minds lol, but anyway he used to say he can't just have sex, he makes love in a stable and lasting rl. Yet I see some weird ass ropes tied to his bed and I'm like ??
I also THINK I have a thing for being dominated and getting a little violent (since I seem to have a need for dominance in all other spheres of life, I somehow want to be really submissive when it comes to sex) but I never tried it cause I'm never sexually active lol
What are other cap's experiences? To me it seems like we hold back and really don't view sex as an important part of our lives, or could it be that we discover this aspect of life later/with the right person? Also do other caps have these "weird" hidden desires while mainly viewing sex as a missionary bonding process of a rl lol idk I can't even talk about this shit properly obviously

I am not one to freely have sex with just anyone. I need to have feeling and feel a deep connection with someone. Once in a relationship and I'm secure, then Katie bar the door, it's on! Almost nothing is off limits.

And hidden desires, well, uhmm, caps can be very kinky. 😉

Sex is very important to me - I can get really cranky if I don't get it. I don't have sex with just anyone, but there doesn't have to be a deep emotional connection - I can attach or detach. Fwb is fine with me, ONS I don't do anymore. The best sex is definitely sex with a person I actually do have that connection with, though, no competition.

It's difficult for me to be really submissive - I've tried and it's just not my thing. Some submissive elements, yes, but not the whole nine yards. And this is from a pisces mars(although I don't identify with that placement fully.)

Kinky? What is kinky, really? I actually had a discussion about this just a few weeks ago and what was very interesting to me was that a lot of the things the guys in the group thought was kinky, the girls saw as vanilla - such as light bongade. So, from the perspective of "who knows what's kinky" I really don't mind experimenting - in fact, I would probably bore without it after a wile.

Great that you seem to may have complimentary tastes, so to speak. Go for it! 🙂

I love sex! Honestly I wouldn't be able to imagine relationship without it... but I can live without it as well (now lol in the beginning i was addicted 😄)... From my experience I can have sex without any special connection but it's definitely not my thing or something i would search for... I wanna have sex with someone I'm in love with and have strong feelings for... that's the best experience for me. 🙂 Also i usually like to test things out new positions and stuff like that I'm open minded but make it quite clear if I don't like something.

That,s interesting. I made love with a Cap guy...it was fantastic and passionate. I think they love sex and do it well. But they do it without love too...so i cant believe he had deep emotion, because after sex he come to my house, visited my family and disappeared next day 😄
So i think he dont have any serious emmotion. He just fucked simple

You sure? I'm pretty sure my sexual libido is pretty high.

interesting discussion

She doesn't have my placements...

Money is still God though

Sorry Saturn and my True Node are in 2nd house

Venus Scorpio is choosy when it comes to sex. Probably same with Scorp moon. I knew a Cap with Scorp moon and Sag Mars. Pretty sure she wasn't promiscuous, she preferred "bosses" but could not really find one. What is your mars along with 5th and 8th house.

Posted by Ixion120
Caps are not shy about sex....t the men tend to be freer with talking about it like most of the time (I have several VERY good male cap friends ((who don't know each other at all)) and they are all similar in this way.)

I also have dated a cap-ette and talked to several others....they just feel that open talk about it willy nilly is just a bit classless lol especially upfront. Get em comfortable prove you aren't an idiot and set up the right context and they will divulge much and more Caps can be INCREDIBLY down to earth.

FTW

Posted by frostey91
Venus Scorpio is choosy when it comes to sex. Probably same with Scorp moon. I knew a Cap with Scorp moon and Sag Mars. Pretty sure she wasn't promiscuous, she preferred "bosses" but could not really find one. What is your mars along with 5th and 8th house.

mars is Virgo?

What about caps with a lot of aqua in his placements? What are his thoughts about sex?

I just found this article:

Here are 5 Signs That You Might Be Asexual:

1. Venus or Mars in an air sign (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius).

Of the four elements, air signs are the most cerebral and least connected to the physical body. These three signs enjoy thinking about or discussing sex. Trey Songz may have invented sex, but someone with Venus or Mars in an air sign surely invented mind sex, phone sex, cyber-sex, sexting and virtual sex. We like "sex" that requires active participation from the brain, preferably with some type of emotional or physical distance. Therefore, those of us with Venus or Mars in Gemini, Libra or Aquarius can go longer than the other signs without any physical sexual contact with another person because we're having good sex all of the time - in our minds. Anyone who has actually lived out a fantasy knows that, sometimes, fantasies are better left in the imagination.

Both my Venus and Mars are in Gemini. In other words, stroking my imagination evokes the same feeling that another woman with Venus or Mars in a water, earth or fire sign would get from her nipple getting stroked. A man has a better chance of seducing me by telling me what he wants to do to me rather than actually showing me.

Many descriptions list "intelligence" as a Venus or Mars in Gemini turn-on. But that's a superficial analysis (boo!). Gemini doesn't value "intelligence" for the sake of itself. Holding the most PhDs, reciting the encyclopedia or winning Jeopardy four times isn't what's turning us on. Rather, we're turned on by someone having enough cleverness (or enough curiosity to seek out many tidbits of information) to keep us thoroughly entertained by newness. We're not really concerned with who is the smartest person in the room. We want to know who's most likely to know more sexual positions and techniques. Who's most willing to go there with us? You want to have sex on a roller coaster in space? Me too! Unpredictability is sexy. Igniting my imagination with double entendres, the ability to massage language, and poetic expressions of emotion is sexy. After hearing someone whisper erotic nothings in my ear, I want to light up a (fake) cigarette.
While I don't have a strong desire to have physical sex with someone, I do have a strong desire for a romantic partner. Finding out that this still qualifies me as an asexual was enlightening!

My Venus in Gemini in the 7th house makes no major aspect to any other planet in my chart. Nevertheless, it's strongly placed in its natural house of one-on-one partnerships. Not only am I at my best with a partner, but I feel somewhat lost without one. It's the same feeling I imagine a twin feels when separated from the other twin - a feeling of being whole yet somehow incomplete. All things being equal, Venus in Libra (the sign ruled by Venus) would have similar feelings of being incomplete without a partner.

2. Mars-Saturn. Mars desires sex and hunts for a sexual partner to quickly fulfill those desires. Saturn acts cautiously and is concerned with consequences of impulsive actions. These two planets combined can result in slowed sex drives, inhibitions about making sexual desires known, insecurity about sexual attractiveness, performance anxieties, or fears of judgment. Of course, the signs that Mars and Saturn are in adds more flavor.

We know that Mars in experimental Gemini's idea of sex is discussing or imagining having sex. My Saturn is in picky Virgo. Virgo is never satisfied with Gemini's selection of a sexual partner:

Mars in Gemini to Saturn in Virgo: Did you hear the way he just described his philosophy of life? He's sexy! Imagine what he can do with some Scrabble tiles. Mmm mmm mmm!


Saturn in Virgo to Mars in Gemini: Yeah, but did you also hear him say that variety is the spice of life? You know what that means: he's probably slept with enough people to fill up New York! He could have a STD, girl! Don't do it!!!

Case in point: Several months ago, I went on a date with a man who I found very physically attractive. The conversation was flowing and he was getting sexier with every witty comeback. In the middle of our flirt session, he spied a man walk by in a pair of skinny jeans, which prompted him to throw out a few "witty" barbs that sounded like a homophobic rant to my ears. Now, most women I know would have ignored these opinions and continued the date. Maybe even joining in with a few snarky comments of their own. But not me. I was so disgusted with him that my arousal instantly died. His opinion had nothing to do with me but it revealed him to be a closed-minded fool - NOT sexy! It was a true "check please!" moment.

2. Venus-Mars Square, Opposition or Conjunction. In the 7th house. When Venus (our romantic ideals) and Mars (our sexual desires) "talk" to each other, there's an increased chance of finding a satisfying partner. Can't get anything started without that conversation, right? But what if the conversation turns into an argument because these two can't get on the same page? What if Venus only wants to associate with brag-worthy people but Mars is only sexually attracted to people who rebel against society's standards? In these cases, it's very difficult for the person to have their cake (a satisfying relationship) and eat it, too (be sexually satisfied). As a result of experiencing many disappointments, they may end up cheating or deciding not to enter into any sexual or romantic relationship.

I have a Venus-Mars conjunction (by sign). In my case, it's not very difficult to find a satisfying romantic and sexual partner because I'm usually sexually attracted to the type of man who also shares my relationship values. What's so bad about that? The rub is that I end up attracting people who are exactly like me, rather than someone who complements my personality by filling in the gaps. Hello Gemini Twins!

Not only do I have Asc (personality) opposing Mars (action) interpreted in the 7th house, (of romantic relationships) but my Gemini Mars (sexual partner) is exactly conjunct my Gemini Descendant (ideal Other). In my relationships, it becomes difficult to tell just who is the "Gemini" partner. Imagine two pairs of Twins in one relationship all arguing every side of every issue, never making a decision because all points of view haven't been thoroughly analyzed and discussed, yet. Imagine all four of these people changing their minds at a moment's notice. Not the most stable situation, right? It's quite nerve-wracking, to say the least.

Case in point: My first sexual partner has a Gemini Asc and Sagittarius Desc, which is my relationship mirror opposite. Pretty cool, right? However, he has Mars in Gemini just like me. Think about this for a minute. He has Gemini Mars in the 1st house. I have Gemini Mars in the 7th house. To make things even more crazy, my ex also has Saturn in Gemini and was going through his Saturn Return while we were together. We spent most of our relationship accusing the other one of being argumentative, indecisive, a flirt, etc. The sad part is that I now know that we were both right. We were literally and symbolically reflecting each other's strengths and challenges.

It was fun at first but then became hell.

Astrological relationship theory goes: We attract people with qualities represented by our Descendant (the opposite of our Ascendant) to make us "whole". How can I find the person who complements my personality (Ascendant) if I am the person that complements me? Am I looking for qualities in others that I should be recognizing/developing in myself? Am I my own ideal partner?

3. A Strong Neptune. Neptune is idealistic. It's our connection to the Universe. It represents the part of our psyche or life where we practice blind faith, seduce others or are easily seduced. Those of us with Neptune prominent in our charts walk through life smelling roses and disregarding the ugliness of the thorns and weeds. We see the "God" around us. Whatever Neptune touches in our chart becomes lifted to a pedestal. If Neptune touches Venus, Mars or our Moon, then we idealize our love and sex partners or emotional connections with our partners.

I have a 1st house Neptune that connects to my 8th house of intimacy and 9th house of ideals via trines to Leo Mercury, Leo Jupiter, and square Virgo Saturn. My Trail of Broken Hearts is littered with people who I thought (Mercury) were the best things since the microwave...until I got closer to them and realized that they are not Mr. Perfect of my imagination but flesh and blood with human flaws (Virgo Saturn). I'm that woman who gets grossed out by flatulence, random body hair where it shouldn't be, lack of self control, crass behavior, an unkind nature, etc. The disappointment of seeing a person's humanness (or lack of humanity) is a sexual turn-off. With Neptune involved, no mere mortal can satisfy my dreams so it becomes more satisfying to remain single and date a "dream lover" (written by Mariah Carey, with Moon/Neptune conjunction in Sagittarius and North Node in dreamy Pisces):

4. A water-ruled 8th house. The 8th house represents how we view intimacy and how easy it is for us to be intimate with others. If our 8th house is ruled by Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces, we're psychically receptive to others. We yearn for soul connections but may also fear emotional vulnerability.

My 8th house is ruled by Cancer (Moon). We are extra protective of the issues associated with our Cancer-ruled house. My Sun in Cancer is here. I'm very sensitive to someone misusing the power they gain from entering my "secret garden". Because my 5th house is tied to my 8th house through aspects between Mars (sex drive), Mercury (thinking, communication) and Jupiter (ideals, ethics), I require a mind-body-heart-soul connection to feel safe enough to let someone inside me - both literally and figuratively. It's hard enough finding a connection with someone on just one of these levels. Imagine how hard it is to find someone who holds ALL of the keys to open my locked 8th house!

Ironically, the very concept that makes us with a water-ruled 8th house most nervous is also what can lead to our truest healing: deeply spiritual, emotionally-connected sex therapy (shout-out to Robin Thicke, whose patient Pisces Sun and sexual Scorpio Moon wrote this delicious song):

5. Moon, Venus or Mars in 12th house. Our Moon symbolizes our emotional responses to life, what we need to feel comfortable and fulfilled, our instincts, the unconscious messages we learned/inherited from our mother, how we nurture and are nurtured. As we already know, Venus and Mars are the love and sex planets. When at least one of these planets are in the 12th house, some major aspect of our love natures remains hidden from us or from others.

My Moon is in Scorpio in the 12th house of secrets, the subconscious, the collective unconscious and past lives (if you believe in reincarnation). Moon in Scorpio keeps emotions, motives and passions a secret. Moon in Scorpio in the 12th house "knows" that it's dangerous to explore or share emotions, motives and passions without serious repercussions. The popular phrase "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" was probably coined by someone with a Scorpio Moon. In my past life, perhaps I found out the hard way that passion should be controlled. Having my Moon in the sign that rules the sexual reproductive organs is a good indicator that I have a strong (yet submerged) sex drive and/or was exposed to sex at a very early age.

Both of these are true.

I grew up with the implicit and explicit message that sex is private. It seemed to me as a child that every adult treated sex like the ultimate taboo, refusing to talk about it in any other way except for "keep your legs closed! having sex will ruin your life!" (shout-out to my dad with Saturn in Scorpio) or whispering about it behind my back. As a response, I became obsessed with investigating sex to satisfy my curiosity. I found out the deep, dark secrets of many adults who lived "lightly" during the day. The teacher that taught us to have self-respect and treat our bodies like temples was having affairs with my classmates' parents. The woman who claimed not to enjoy sex at all had a drawer full of porn. Neighbors were postal workers by day but trading sexual favors for crack by night. And so on.

Thanks to my Scorpio Moon quindecile Gemini Mars, I discovered way more about people's secret sex lives than any child should know. I inadvertantly confirmed through my snooping (or just being in the right place at the right time to overhear information) that the nagging feeling in the back of my mind that whispers to me about the dangers of letting my baser desires get the best of me is a warning that I best heed. I learned early not to try everything that flits across my imagination (Mars in Gemini) because it just might become an addiction (Mars in the 6th house of habits). Consequently, rather than indulge myself sexually, I pour all of my energy into a wide variety of interests (Gemini) to keep me focused on anything other than fulfilling my sexual desires with someone else and possibly opening myself up to dangerous vulnerability (see #4) or the joy of repetition (shout-out to Prince!).