Capricorn ex husband...dramas!

Hello Caps!

I was married to a capricorn (been divorced a few years now)and we do not have any contact, except when he is working locally in my area and then he tries to call me. I am with a Taurus man now, which my Cappy ex husband is aware of as when he kept asking me out for a drink i explained i was with someone else and it wasn't appropriate to go for a drink with him.

He spent a few months blocking me on fb, then unblocking me and calling my phone when he was in the area. I didn't answer the phone because he knows its wrong to be calling me when i am in another relationship. He didn't listen. However, he has recently started seeing a new girl so I haven't heard anything for months and again blocked on fb by him, no probs.

I changed my phone number for an unrelated reason but this weekend I got a call from a friend to say my ex husband was in the pub that my new partner and i were due to arrive at. I didn't want to go in there but my current boyfriend said we should. So we did.

Now this is the confusing part, as i stood at the bar I looked round and my ex husband was staring at me with a horrible look on his face, as though I had done something dreadful to him?! He then spent 30 mins staring at me before drinking up and leaving.

I don't get it, why would he behave like that?? Any insight from the caps would be much appreciated!

His chart is below;

Sun Capricorn 15.51 Ascendant Taurus 7.35
Moon Taurus 29.31 II Gemini 8.49
Mercury Aquarius 1.16 III Gemini 27.06
Venus Aquarius 8.14 R IV Cancer 13.13
Mars Libra 9.15 V Leo 2.02
Jupiter Scorpio 6.51 VI Virgo 2.04
Saturn Libra 21.43 VII Scorpio 7.35
Uranus Sagittarius 2.59 VIII Sagittarius 8.49
Neptune Sagittarius 25.22 IX Sagittarius 27.06
Pluto Libra 26.47 Midheaven Capricorn 13.13
Lilith Sagittarius 11.33 XI Aquarius 2.02
Asc node Cancer 22.31 XII Pisces 2.04

Posted by capgirl75
My take: He didn't know you were going to be there. Big surprise. Cap people hate surprises in general, but being in the same space with you, while you are with your new bf, made him feel sad and/or uncomfortable, and he didn't have time to prepare and put on his "cool" act.

I had to have dinner last year with my son, my ex and my ex's then girlfriend, who is his new wife. But it was a cub scout dinner and I knew ahead of time they would be there, so I had plenty of time to prepare and put on my "game" face.

Your ex did not have that luxury. Expecially if it's a place he goes to often, then he would perceive it to be his territory, you were in it.

Hiya

He did know we were going to be there as a mutual friend explained to him that we were due to arrive and he said that it was cool, hence why I was confused at his reaction when we got there.

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LoL. Off topic a bit, but this reminds me of my mom. If someone is looking at her, she cant help but looking at them in return.

I bet yall glanced at and watched eachother for 30 min smh lol. i wouldnt have went in there to begin with.

As soon as you glanced and saw the weird look you should have given a puzzled look and never looked back. Whatever he was dealing with is his problem, really. Trying to wrap your head around it is a complete waste of time and distraction.

Inana - I did not look back, I was told by other that he was staring at me.

To the others, this is not an attention thing. He was unfaithful and violent during our entire marriage, hence me divorcing him. I am just wondering the reasons for his odd behaviour as (as I hope you can appreciate) I need to always be one step ahead of him.

My current relationship is fine. I certainly do not keep tabs on my ex husband, I couldn't give a flying one what he does, unless it may have an impact of my well-being and happiness. Without meaning to sound rude, I came here for a cap insight into HIS behaviour, not a character assassination of what is perceived to be mine.

Thanks anyway.

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Thank you Seraph

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With all due respect, if you feel the need to come on here with your armchair psychology of posters questions then what does that say about you?

I think a man that has previously broken into my home should concern me. It concerns my friends, hence why they let me know where he was. This is a man who split open my face in front of everyone, so forgive me if I spent 2 seconds to pull his chart and post it in here. He doesn't live near me anymore, he doesn't leave me alone and he had no need to be in my town, which is why I am a bit concerned as to what stunt he'll pull next.

If you feel that makes me a bad person, or "reading too much into things" then that's up to you. In turn please don't feel offend if I think you're a condescending tw@t.

My last comment was for Elle, not you Seraph btw

All I was asking was if this was a typical cap trait, so I could decide if it should be concerning or if it was just a normal cap thing to do.

What has p1ssed me off is that others, rather than take the time to establish the facts, just assumed they knew my motivation for asking the question. Even when I clarified the point, I was still subjected to a diatribe of patronising waffle.

Thanks for being lucid in your answers Seraph, it's greatly appreciated. It's nice that you have grasped that this is an astrology forum and not the "Sigmund Freud for Beginners Club".

That's me out of here, I'll stick to the Leo board where it's less irritating.

A typical Cap trait? He sounds like a crazy lunatic that has done and is capable of much more than a stare, and you know that.

He's psycho and you are asking us why this crazy man stared at you? The answer is obvious.

I don't understand one thing, why would you go anywhere near the place he was at, I mean if he is such an ahole. I know for a fact I would stay away if he had hurt me like he hurt you. Seriously, this does not make sense, unless....

I don't think his behavior was strange. In fact, it is quite normal.

If my ex walked in with a new woman. I am going to stare at her. It might appear that I am staring at them both. I would want to see her. This is just human nature. Eventually, when I had seen all I needed to see, I would leave. Maybe 1/2 hour maybe 15 minutes, heck they might even leave before me. Who knows what I would be looking for or at.

Maybe he wanted to see , with his own eyes that you have moved on. Any answer you get is going to be mere speculation. It's like asking the caps why he abused you. They can't tell you.

I think you are probably a nice person but I have noticed a trend..you ask for answers and then become defensive. In an online forum you are going to interact with many personality types. Try to take what you need and leave the rest.

If you keep coming off defensive, no one will answer your posts/questions. They will fall to the bottom of the topic list.

Again this is just advice, take from it what you will.

I am partial to Leos so I am only trying to help. If you think Elle is rough..girlfriend you ain't seen nothing yet. Wait until P Angle or Tiki or Let it Be or Decan get at you. Yikes.

Posted by Nala13
I think you are probably a nice person but I have noticed a trend..you ask for answers and then become defensive. In an online forum you are going to interact with many personality types. Try to take what you need and leave the rest.

If you keep coming off defensive, no one will answer your posts/questions. They will fall to the bottom of the topic list.

Again this is just advice, take from it what you will.

When have I done this??

Posted by sadlioness

Posted by Nala13
I think you are probably a nice person but I have noticed a trend..you ask for answers and then become defensive. In an online forum you are going to interact with many personality types. Try to take what you need and leave the rest.

If you keep coming off defensive, no one will answer your posts/questions. They will fall to the bottom of the topic list.

Again this is just advice, take from it what you will.

When have I done this??

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Re-read "anyone wanna take a look at this chart or whatever the title was" it's on the Leo board. Read your responses. Try to read them objectively as if someone else wrote them.

Some personalities thrive on drame. Sadlioness, I hope this isn't you.

Posted by sadlioness

i was with someone else and it wasn't appropriate to go for a drink with him.

That is evasive in that it doesn't say that you don't want to go out with him ... rather, it's imply that you would if it was appropriate.

That gives him the go signal.

I didn't read the rest, maybe you went to explain why that response gives him the green light.

Posted by sadlioness

I did not look back, I was told by other that he was staring at me.

I frequent restaurants so often that there's dust growing on my stove .... all different ones !!

Little ma & pa sub shops to expensive French Cuisines to every kind inbetween ... and nobody has ever came to tell me what other patrons are doing, and trust with my figure I get noticed a lot.

Not one person tells me what others are doing in any of the restaurants ... and might make this project and ask many others to see if they have experienced this before.

The way you worded that quote above, it implies that more than one other person told you ... which makes it even stranger in that if more than one person comes to you to tell you about him, then it means you are such a regular to an establishment that they will look out for you .. which means, if WOULD indeed know where you go. So for you to insinuate that this running into him was a happenstance situation, would be a blatant lie on your part ..... because if more than one patron in a restaurant has your back in knowing your ex was there .. then they know your ex too, which means where you took your new squeeze was where you hung out with the ex.

Which means this running into him was deliberate.

Posted by sadlioness

With all due respect, if you feel the need to come on here with your armchair psychology of posters questions then what does that say about you?

I think a man that has previously broken into my home should concern me. It concerns my friends, hence why they let me know where he was. This is a man who split open my face in front of everyone, so forgive me if I spent 2 seconds to pull his chart and post it in here. He doesn't live near me anymore, he doesn't leave me alone and he had no need to be in my town, which is why I am a bit concerned as to what stunt he'll pull next.

If you feel that makes me a bad person, or "reading too much into things" then that's up to you. In turn please don't feel offend if I think you're a condescending tw@t.

Really?

So, you have no fear of him, because you actually visit a restaurant where he is eating. You say those things about him with your words, then you have no actions to match it.

You obviously just want to run your mouth.

Secondly, if your friends are watching his movements then that means he's being stalked.

Typical case of the Attention-Whore-Leo -Syndrome ... because if was actually all of those things, then he'd be in jail.

A person who knifes another in the face, and practices B&E is a criminal, and criminals live in prison.

And you're not concerned one bit about what stunt he'll pull next because if you were concerned ..

1. you wouldn't be visiting the same establishments he was in, knowing he was there, knowing he WOULD be there if in town because it's your regular hang out

2. you wouldn't lead him on by suggesting that it isn't appropriate, rather than unequivicollay telling him to leave you alone

3. you would call the cops to tell them that the guy who sliced your face open was near you, in fact, if it was a small enough town, the cops would have been on it already, which means he never cut you, though considering your lying tongue perhaps she should have

4. you wouldn't be following his every move, to include online, to include friends ... it's obvious that you need to know where he is and what he is doing so you can accidently run into him on purpose, so you have more drama to cry about being inflicted upon you.



In summation to all of this, you LIKE it that he still notices you.

Posted by sadlioness

He spent a few months blocking me on fb, then unblocking me

he has recently started seeing a new girl so I haven't heard anything for months and again blocked on fb by him, no probs.

I didn't want to go in there but my current boyfriend said we should. So we did.

I'm not facebook savvy, so maybe this is completely understood by everyone else, but .... why are you observing his blocking, ublocking, blocking again (spanning months) on facebook. And secondly, if you don't want him, then why aren't you blocking/deleting him?

So, taken into what you said above into consideration, it becomes obvious that you wanted to keep the bridge open with him on facebook on purpose because you haven't made any moves to remove him from you on fb.


And secondly, why would a new boyfriend be so casual about running into the man who cut your face open? From what you wrote, there is nothing in there that sounds alarms off that the new boyfriend has any care whatsoever about the man who put the scar on his womans face is sitting right there in plain view, and staring at her.



When this Story is looked at inbetween the lines .... it becomes obvious that it's an embellishment.


My question is why. Why do you feel the need to lie?

Didn't your daddy hold you enough?