Capricorn Men Appearing and Disappearing

So. I read the board and it seems this is a common trait of the Capricorn male to reappear and disappear. If this constantly happens, is this normal? or, would one assume the male is in a relationship? He seems to show up weekly and say hes very busy apologizing. He is indeed a busy person, but I'm not used to this behavior from the male species.

If I attempt to contact him, which is rare, just like other users here, there are no responses to texts, emails, or calls. Everything seems to be on his time. I dont know if we are just friends. I think its safe to say since we barely speak that we are nothing.

Our conversations are awkward because I never know what to say. We live far away. I dont want to question and try to be patient, but my patience has been tested. I dont really care that much anymore as I know he will appear just when I stop caring.

Any thoughts..

Sounds like he has a girlfriend or something and you are the person on the side. Regardless of the reason, he is stringing you along.

Im not sure how to reply on here so this is a test

Ok, so that is how you reply lol. Basically, we were set up. I went to visit him. He acted like we were dating. Took me to meet the whole family at different times and then started to call me every ten days. Says he wants to come see me, but the contact is so sporadic that I feel nothing is going on. He did leave messages saying how much he "misses me" and "cares."

That's typical Capricorn Men behaviour. And when you convince yourself that you should forget him and live your own life, he will come back then, write something exactly at that time. It's scary, like they know when to come back 😛

If he took you to his family, tell you he misses you and acts like you're dating, I would say he's interested in you.. But I am telling you, being with a capricorn in a long distance relationship is tough (I am with one now), so be prepared not hearing anthing from him some periods 🙂

I guess I am prepared to not hear from him, but I dont even feel like we are dating or really anything. How could I? And, you are right.. Every time I decided I dont care at all and dont really feel like continuing to talk. There he is calling five times in a row...bizarre to say the least. When I went to see him, he acted like we were going to see each other all the time and the distance was no big deal, but obviously, thats not the case. Additionally, had I have known he was going to behave like this, I never would have gone there in the first place. Let me add that before I went there, he had tons of time to give me attention and phone calls. Oh, and let me make this clear..our relationship is not sexual. Even though I spent the nights with him, we did nothing but kiss.

...every ten days...— by then i'd be seeing someone who'd be actually chasing me.

Unless you like cat and mouse games, I would recommend you get out quick. Been there and it won't make sense now or ever.

Capricorn men have a tendency to disappear and reappear from time to time. These individuals really need their space. He could have a girlfriend that he hasn't revealed to you yet. They like to be in control of their relationship. They are excellent in bed but the down side is they don't show too much emotion outside the bedroom. They are not verbally expressive either! It can take a long time to break down the wall with them.

He has a girlfriend. He is hiding something. Plain and simple. When things aren't rite at home he calls you to feel better. You are like his back up plan in some sense. He mite really like you but the distance is the deal breaker.

I would call him on his crap. Tell him its not cool, unless he is jsut your friend and you dont mind then coo;.

I say date someone in your zip code who really likes you than a hot and cold Cap who is far away. They are self-centered so he is doing him. SO do you.

And remember, people treat you the way you allow. Do you.

Sophs thank so much. I agree wholeheartedly 🙂

Just was so confused..if he has a girlfriend..why introduce me to your parents/grandparents

Posted by scorpricorn
So. I read the board and it seems this is a common trait of the Capricorn male to reappear and disappear. If this constantly happens, is this normal? or, would one assume the male is in a relationship? He seems to show up weekly and say hes very busy apologizing. He is indeed a busy person, but I'm not used to this behavior from the male species.

If I attempt to contact him, which is rare, just like other users here, there are no responses to texts, emails, or calls. Everything seems to be on his time. I dont know if we are just friends. I think its safe to say since we barely speak that we are nothing.

Our conversations are awkward because I never know what to say. We live far away. I dont want to question and try to be patient, but my patience has been tested. I dont really care that much anymore as I know he will appear just when I stop caring.

Any thoughts..

Been there done this twice already so I can relate. Lol. Caps do get us Scorps every time. It's amazing I can be strong and decisive with everyone else, but I use to let my Caps get away with murder. Lol. I know one thing's for sure, he doesn't seem to be giving you what you want, so why bother? You should move on before he hurts you because he probably does have a girlfriend since he's out of town. Find someone that lives near you who can fulfill all your needs. That's what you deserve!

Thank you all for comments..much appreciated

Why introduce you? Convenience, plain an simple... they've been pushing and you showed up at the right time. If he were into you, you would not be looking at contact "every 10 days". Caps may take it slow, but, trust me, when we want something we go after it full force and we are not a force to be reckoned with!

I think you make a very good point. Do you think when I stop answering his call he will get more aggressive? Or, you think he will just disappear? Thoughts.

Let the games begin lol

It's hard to beat them at their own game because they are very discipline. If you're playing games there's a 95% chance he will win unless you have no feelings for him at all. They are intelligent people so game playing might not be the plan and it could back fire. Plus it will take even longer for them to develop trust in the relationship. They don't like being rejected but Capricorns are so patient they can wait longer than you can imagine.

Thanks Faith. I guess the only reason I would consider playing is because I have no feelings anymore. For me absence makes my heart grow less attracted not fonder

i'm sorry i'm still stuck on the every ten days part...

I would like to say I know you are not saying I'm clingy. But a clingy person would get freaked out after not talking a day or two days. I have let this go on for a few months with out being clingy and living my own life. I just wanted to see if this is normal or not.

i don't think you're being clingy but i do think you should try and see other people. his focus is elsewhere and even if he really is interested you're not going to get what you want from this at this point in time.

Posted by wateraries
That's typical Capricorn Men behaviour. And when you convince yourself that you should forget him and live your own life, he will come back then, write something exactly at that time. It's scary, like they know when to come back 😛

If he took you to his family, tell you he misses you and acts like you're dating, I would say he's interested in you.. But I am telling you, being with a capricorn in a long distance relationship is tough (I am with one now), so be prepared not hearing anthing from him some periods 🙂

Wow that's the identical situation here! We are not a couple but we have been seeing each other mentally and sexually for over a year now and it's just the same on-going cycle. If your feelings are involve this can become emotional frustrating. Sometimes Capricorn men can be extremely lovable and call all the time, make time for you, take you out and then suddenly disappear and won't pick up the phone for weeks. These men can be confusing at time!!!

Posted by scorpricorn
Thanks Faith. I guess the only reason I would consider playing is because I have no feelings anymore. For me absence makes my heart grow less attracted not fonder

You go girl!! Hope he's not irresistible because just when you think you have no more feelings they come back!!! I wish you luck because I sure can use some!!!!

Posted by TG
No, I didn't mean that you are clingy. I was just speaking in general. But oddly, I changed my mind a little bit from my last post. It's true that we dont like clingieness, but a little bit clingieness is good on theother hand. It makes us feel wanted and loved and that's what everyone wants.. It's somewhat of a capricorn paradox actually. We don't like clingieness, and yet the only people that get have a relationship with us are those that are somewhat clingy and persistent. That's what I've noticed.

definitely, need to feel needed but not suffocated.

also, again, i can't really relate to a cap not calling for lengthy amounts of time like that. i'd say he was interested but he definitely has his priorities set in a way that doesn't allow for a full fledged relationship. don't keep your eggs in one basket

Ya, I have shown lots of patience and not much clinginess. Since I get no response to emails, calls or texts, which I used to do occasionally. I have stopped all contact. I understand they need to feel needed and I appreciate you writing that. But, I am unable to show that since my attempts at contact go unanswered for days. So, in turn, I do nothing now, whatsoever.

Posted by TG
What is a "full fledged relationship" though? I think capricorns are a bit misunderstood to be honest. We don't mind having a full fledget relationship ( if you mean an intimate/mature relationship) with the RIGHT person. But that person has to show some understanding, patientience and loyality too. It might sound harsh, but we??ll meet you half way if you really do that. It's quite rare to find people who are all those things tho, but if we do, we're very loyal to them too. Just be loyal and patient and the cap will try really hard to make it work too. He might even spend quality time with you and all that bs.. 😛

i'm not talking about caps in general, i'm just referring to this certain one. a relationship doesn't seem to be his top priority, not saying he's a commitmentphobe or anything. like scorpio chick mentioned, both of our caps don't go several days without initiating some form of contact no matter how busy they are. also not saying that he's not interested in her, because he is, his priorities aren't focused necessarily on her.

Thank you cancergem for the way you stated that. I appreciate it and believe you are correct. Thanks all.

I think that's a false myth about Caps being faithful! They cheat and it's evident how distant they can become at times. They use being distant as a weapon with their side fling, so they can be in control of their emotion and not fall to deep. That's when the loyalty kicks in because no matter how much they like the fling, they are in control. They are discipline and won't jeopardize their relationship.

Scorpio chic you hit the nail on the head. They are insecure so they love the craziness. It makes them feel wanted and they love to tell other people how the person they are with is psycho.

Posted by scorpio_chic
^ you would know.. You've been the side-chick for how long now? Just saying...

My thoughts exactly!! Faith has it somewhere in her mind that she actually matters to this Cap when many of us have clearly stated our beliefs to the contrary... *smh*

It's sad that women think they really know a person by reading messages in this forum. Misery loves company!!! I'm sure glad I'm bless!!!!

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It's sad that women think they really know a person by reading messages in this forum. Misery loves company!!! I'm sure glad I'm bless!!!!

so blessed that you can't find your own dick so you gotta share one.

NICE!! *two thumbs up*

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So bless he paid my Son tuition in full!!!

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Capricorn men like confident women with standards.

...as someone they'd respect and are more serious about.

I think this varies, though. My Cap friend has liked some girls that had confidence, but NO standards. He's also hooked up with chicks that were easy and trashy. The latter was obviously just using for sex, but the former made me shake my head. That guy crushes after the worst women, I swear.

I agree, but I doubt it goes any further than that. He might crush on her initially and want to 'conquer' her, but once she's conquered I highly doubt he'd want to take it any further. My cap used to be in love with Alicia Keys. He was really turned off by the fact that she broke up Swizz Beats home. Rumor had it that she was dating him while he was still with his wife. My cap told me that this changed his opinion of her, just like that.

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My CAP was shock that D Wade left his wife to be with Gabrielle Union. He always thought Gabby was beautiful but he said if he was married he would never leave his wife that held him down when he didn't have anything to be with a slut like her.

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It's sad that women think they really know a person by reading messages in this forum. Misery loves company!!! I'm sure glad I'm bless!!!!

so blessed that you can't find your own dick so you gotta share one.

NICE!! *two thumbs up*

So bless he paid my Son tuition in full!!!

When he's fulltime in your life sweetheart, then come talk to me. As long as you're the other woman he's just paying for borrowed time. Literally.

Forgive me, I really have a hard time having respect for women who sleep with another woman's man. I don't care if he bought you a fucking private jet. Money is nothing to me, I'm not impressed.

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Have you ever had a issue where someone took your man from you because I'm not sure where all this is coming from!!! We live 2 hrs away from each other.I spend a lot of time communicating with him on the phone. I been to his job and I stayed with him at his condos many of times before. My Cap has the same characteristic traits that I'm hearing in this forum so I guess all of them have girlfriends. That was my assumption at 1st but I haven't had any clear evidence,except for the fact that he becomes distant sometimes. If Capricorn men being distant at times, means he has a girlfriend than that should apply to everyones' Cappy and not just mine!!! I'm just here to share my experience with poeple.
I don't even like my Cappy right now!!! In fact I hope he has girlfriend so he can get the hell out of my life!!!

What are the traits of Cap male with venus in aquarius?

@faith: no one has EVER taken YOUR man from you because he was NEVER your man to begin with. You have ALWAYS been the other woman. Who cares if you've been on his job or stayed at his condo, big fricken deal, means squat!!! A Cap interested in someone is not going to just up and disappear, they will pull away and not want to talk at times and be busy, this does not mean they go MIA. Distance does not mean no contact, a Cap interested is a Cap who is going to go all out, and they may have they're withdrawals, but it is a mental withdrawal not a total absence from the world of their love interest - IF you were worth his time and he was TRULY interested, he wouldn't go MIA. *knock knock on faith's head* YOU, my dear, are nothing but a piece of ass and he most likely has many other's (sadly, just like you).

(why did I just waste my time on this? :/) *smh*

isn't it though...

Player/user indeed crosses my mind for the OP... but, ever 10 days. If it is truly systematic like that, could he be playing some 'game' ya know, like "The game" or something along those lines. Stringing her along, definitely, but, in other words, is there any 'system' out there that suggest systematic contact of the sort— Just a thought...

Thanks for the comments. I agree. Player user cant really apply here. Since nothing happened physically. Player maybe. Keep me around while dating others. But even so, i am nothing with him so hes welcome to do whatever. Funny you mention the game. Even in the Game, I don't think they wait that long because they have to wow you. He did do a technique to me from the game last time we spoke. I had read the book because another guy had done some things to me. But, Im pretty sure he either has someone else, not interested in a commitment right now, or socially awkward. Even so, now we have hit more then ten days and no contact. So, it would be safe to assume nothing goin on. Im trying to meet others just no one compares to him as far as "the list" every girl has. I would say at this point list or no list he is undesireable to me. Just based on the fact that I deserve more from someone not sporadic contact.

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Have you ever had a issue where someone took your man from you because I'm not sure where all this is coming from!!! We live 2 hrs away from each other.I spend a lot of time communicating with him on the phone. I been to his job and I stayed with him at his condos many of times before. My Cap has the same characteristic traits that I'm hearing in this forum so I guess all of them have girlfriends. That was my assumption at 1st but I haven't had any clear evidence,except for the fact that he becomes distant sometimes. If Capricorn men being distant at times, means he has a girlfriend than that should apply to everyones' Cappy and not just mine!!! I'm just here to share my experience with poeple.
I don't even like my Cappy right now!!! In fact I hope he has girlfriend so he can get the hell out of my life!!!

YOU were the one who told everyone here that HE had a girlfriend. Do you not remember that? I mean if you're gonna go on like some lunatic, at least go back to your old posts and refresh yourself on your own story, dear. Because apparently you can't keep your story straight.

If you don't like the guy, then why the eff do you spend so much time talking to him over the phone and spending time at his places? You contradict yourself too much. You're spending more time trying to convince yourself than you are us.

It'd be appreciated if you'd stay out of the cap boards as far as giving advice. You're the LAST person who should be giving out advice on these guys.

Eh, whatever, crazy.

(anticipates a response about her sexuality or the like)

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Perhaps you haven't read the post a month before that one.
We got into an argument and I said something disrespectful to him. I was having a bad day I took my frustration out on him. After the argument he was totally different towards me. I apologize to him but he wouldn't forgive me. He became distant and I started accusing him of having a girlfriend. He said that girlfriend statement as a smart remark to me. He finally forgave me but took an awful long time. Now I know I can't say anything contradicting on this forum because people may get the wrong assumptions. LOL

It's really hard to pedal backwards...

No doubt!!

Advice please.. I am not looking at what is being done, I am trying to find the reasoning behind it. Under any other circumstance and any other person, I would have erased him from my life and mind, but this one...it is impossible. I now could write a book on cap men( read a lot about them), he seems to fit the bill perfectly and his behavior being sooo typical to the cap man is why I am unable to be angry or bitter, just confused and needing advice. He was married for 13 years to someone he loved a lot (married at 25) divorced at 38 and is still a bachelor. (He is 46) She broke him ( I think)... he is no saint though.( But from what I have put together, if he was miserable and would have stayed had the marriage been at all salvageable.
To make a very complicated loong story short, (I will bore anyone whose interested😉 actually the story is not boring at all)... a very intense affair ( ??m unhappily married, seeking divorce, he is in a troubling on/off 1.5 year relationship. I am hopelessly in love ( this could not or would not have happened otherwise for me), and he has admitted he loves me many times. He is a smart, disciplined workaholic and been around the block a lot also unbelievably handsome. I have been off the market for a long time, his equivalent in looks, very naive , but not stupid( a scorpio/scorpio woman at the end of the day) but "IN LOVE" for the first time in my life. Sad but true😢. Though I'm a very proud person, I do not feel pride is more important than love so I am willing to put myself out on the line. I have found the man I have been hoping for all my life. And I do not want to lose him. I am technically married but he is my housemate not my husband. I think cappy is not 100% sure I will leave the non-marriage.I am socio/econ his superior, but I could care less but I think this intimidates him. The subject only once came up jokingly by him , but what I can't say yet is that all the riches in the world mean nothing without love. (And I am so in love with him) On his side, he has a girlfriend of on and off stature but a girlfriend just the same but he is professing undying love to me and much more.
My dilemma- should I follow his actions or words? I honestly don't know him well enough be 100% sure of his motives and true feelings. The other day, small world, I saw him with girlfriend and the look on his face still haunts me( pure pain)..I shot him a look of sadness mixed with disgust.( I am "married" but my marriage is

My dilemma- should I follow his actions or words? I honestly don't know him well enough be 100% sure of his motives and true feelings. The other day, small world, I saw him with girlfriend and the look on his face still haunts me( pure pain)..I shot him a look of sadness mixed with disgust. ( I am in a dead marriage - I have a housemate, he on the other hand has a live relationship troubled or not) I recieved a text immediately - please forget what you saw, please don't abandon me, we must talk, ?? am so ashamed and embarassed by my actions towards you, i must see you...) fate would have it that the day we were to meet my ailing father passed away and I have been away for three weeks. Except for two text messages sent by me initial one answered, second one unanswered, no word. Should I call or not? should I patiently wait or not? This is consuming me. Help please...I need insight, my gut says he is a n aloof cappy with fears, even more than mine. I feel emotionally stronger than him and I can bear the burden of a lot if I only knew he was worthy. This is his first disappearing act- I need to know the why of it....

In reply, first off, I am very new to this and any forum, I have never in my life posted an "anything". I am extremely sorry to have posted my question on your thread. I really don't know my way around, but I will be more careful .. again I am very sorry😢

Wow, I know better now, again, very very soorrry...

Posted by amethyst2002
I wasn't necessarily trying to be, but shit. Why do people gotta do that?

OH HAY I'M GONNA POST MY OWN 6 POST LONG PROBLEM ON SOMEONE ELSE'S TOPIC INSTEAD OF STARTING MY OWN, LOL.

yeah that was pretty funny. lol

scorpio 55....where post this again somewhere else and I will give advise. let me know where you post.

Posted by lildol
Why introduce you? Convenience, plain an simple... they've been pushing and you showed up at the right time. If he were into you, you would not be looking at contact "every 10 days". Caps may take it slow, but, trust me, when we want something we go after it full force and we are not a force to be reckoned with!

bravo my dol...thats motivation...............