Capricorn Running Or Just Finished?
Capricorn Running Or Just Finished?
So I've posted about this Cap a few time on here, always need guidance haha. But only recently have I seen his cold and distant side and I need a bit of insight.
Met in August, started working together in September and started dating in February. Started casual - not FWB tho - cause we were both not long out of relationships but things developed pretty fast. After a month, we had holiday'd together and he had admitted that he'd never fallen so fast for someone and that he was scared and worried he was getting too comfortable cause he had a new job to go to up North in April. Alas, he kept seeing me, making plans and being his usual affectionate and loving self. We took our relationship to the next level just 2 weeks before he left (just trying to show how fast things changed). He went on a week long trip with his dad and when he came back he was sooo distant. I only seen him twice in his last week here: once for an hour where he could only talk about his stresses and that he was worried we had went fast (note: HE definitely chased me and set the pace) and that he wasn't ready for a relationship. I never asked or pressured for a relationship, but he had freaked out a few times about our 'status' and I always had to tell him that I had no expectations and to go with the flow and that usually calmed him! But I do know that our mutual friends gave him a hard time about how close we got so fast - basically saying he was whipped. He said he DID like me and DOES miss me when im not there but needed space for a couple of weeks. The second time was when he phoned me the next night asking me to come meet him for 'going away drink' - a friend we share is also going up to work with him in the same place. But he couldn't look at me once I was there! He looked sad and ended up drinking more than intended. He asked to walk me home, but couldn't say a lot:/ He just kept looking at me and then looking away and sighing! Anyway, the next day I messaged him asking if he was gonna say goodbye and he just said that he couldn't and it was goodbye for now...He'd always said it would be hard to say bye to me, but no bye at all? 😢 I was very hurt...
So a mutual friend of ours got the impression from him that he was gonna go silent on me once he got up there and they were right. I've heard nothing, but all of my friends have and some co-workers! The only reason I've talked to him is cause my Gemini bestie drunk phoned our other friend up there and my Cap answered. She asked him if he missed me and I grabbed the phone from her haha Once he heard it was me he said 'I do miss you *insert name here*' and I said 'well...ditto' I asked how he was and he said fine but tired, and asked when we were coming up/that we should.
So wtf is happeing here haha From what I've read about Caps, a few things could be happening: He's A) testing my patience/loyalty/understanding (2 months isn't long I get it), B) has a new job in a new place and he can't have a romance right now so he is putting everything he feels for me aside to focus (bit harsh, don't get why he would leave something he liked like that...) or he just really isn't interested and is trying to go easy on me?
We never fought or argued btw So I don't think I've hurt him! And even when he couldn't say bye to me, I never showed him I was upset or got angry, I told him I understood that he's been through a lot and needs time and he just thanked me for being so understanding.
Any insight welcome 😢(((
my chart:
sun: aries
moon: cap
asc: leo
mercury: Taurus
venus: Gemini
mars: aries
his chart:
sun: cap
moon: libra
asc: libra
mercury: cap
venus: cap
mars: cap
*yeah hes a cap stellium...
Met in August, started working together in September and started dating in February. Started casual - not FWB tho - cause we were both not long out of relationships but things developed pretty fast. After a month, we had holiday'd together and he had admitted that he'd never fallen so fast for someone and that he was scared and worried he was getting too comfortable cause he had a new job to go to up North in April. Alas, he kept seeing me, making plans and being his usual affectionate and loving self. We took our relationship to the next level just 2 weeks before he left (just trying to show how fast things changed). He went on a week long trip with his dad and when he came back he was sooo distant. I only seen him twice in his last week here: once for an hour where he could only talk about his stresses and that he was worried we had went fast (note: HE definitely chased me and set the pace) and that he wasn't ready for a relationship. I never asked or pressured for a relationship, but he had freaked out a few times about our 'status' and I always had to tell him that I had no expectations and to go with the flow and that usually calmed him! But I do know that our mutual friends gave him a hard time about how close we got so fast - basically saying he was whipped. He said he DID like me and DOES miss me when im not there but needed space for a couple of weeks. The second time was when he phoned me the next night asking me to come meet him for 'going away drink' - a friend we share is also going up to work with him in the same place. But he couldn't look at me once I was there! He looked sad and ended up drinking more than intended. He asked to walk me home, but couldn't say a lot:/ He just kept looking at me and then looking away and sighing! Anyway, the next day I messaged him asking if he was gonna say goodbye and he just said that he couldn't and it was goodbye for now...He'd always said it would be hard to say bye to me, but no bye at all? 😢 I was very hurt...
So a mutual friend of ours got the impression from him that he was gonna go silent on me once he got up there and they were right. I've heard nothing, but all of my friends have and some co-workers! The only reason I've talked to him is cause my Gemini bestie drunk phoned our other friend up there and my Cap answered. She asked him if he missed me and I grabbed the phone from her haha Once he heard it was me he said 'I do miss you *insert name here*' and I said 'well...ditto' I asked how he was and he said fine but tired, and asked when we were coming up/that we should.
So wtf is happeing here haha From what I've read about Caps, a few things could be happening: He's A) testing my patience/loyalty/understanding (2 months isn't long I get it), B) has a new job in a new place and he can't have a romance right now so he is putting everything he feels for me aside to focus (bit harsh, don't get why he would leave something he liked like that...) or he just really isn't interested and is trying to go easy on me?
We never fought or argued btw So I don't think I've hurt him! And even when he couldn't say bye to me, I never showed him I was upset or got angry, I told him I understood that he's been through a lot and needs time and he just thanked me for being so understanding.
Any insight welcome 😢(((
my chart:
sun: aries
moon: cap
asc: leo
mercury: Taurus
venus: Gemini
mars: aries
his chart:
sun: cap
moon: libra
asc: libra
mercury: cap
venus: cap
mars: cap
*yeah hes a cap stellium...
You guys sound young... How old are you two?
@RamOnFire1 He's 23 and I'm 21! So not super young, but still a lot to do in life I guess
He might've realized that he's not that attracted to you... :/ The best thing to do would be just asking him directly what is happening. Talk to him
Who cares what's wrong with him! He was cold and mean enough to cut contact with you for no reason. Do you want a friend like that? A bf like that? What are you hopIng to happen from this?
Based on his poor behavior towards you, you should be done.
Based on his poor behavior towards you, you should be done.
Posted by bkbella86But...he was sad...this he deserves understanding and cherry on the top! ?
Who cares what's wrong with him! He was cold and mean enough to cut contact with you for no reason. Do you want a friend like that? A bf like that? What are you hopIng to happen from this?
Based on his poor behavior towards you, you should be done.
Posted by AriesAlwaysYou guys are still really young so take it easy. There's no need for pressure and see how things develop. If you're really impulsive it may not go far but if you care for him be patient and talk things out.
@RamOnFire1 He's 23 and I'm 21! So not super young, but still a lot to do in life I guess
Here's some reading materials for you:
http://horoscopes.lovetoknow.com/How_to_Date_a_Capricorn_Male
http://horoscopes.lovetoknow.com/compatible-astrological-signs/aries-woman-jealousy-towards-capricorn-man
If you're interested read my story with my Cap:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/aries-woman-cap-man--7653230/
Good luck to you. 🙂
Posted by GemitatiLol!Posted by bkbella86But...he was sad...this he deserves understanding and cherry on the top! ?
Who cares what's wrong with him! He was cold and mean enough to cut contact with you for no reason. Do you want a friend like that? A bf like that? What are you hopIng to happen from this?
Based on his poor behavior towards you, you should be done.click to expand
Posted by RamOnFire1He ghosted her tho. Age has absolutely nothing to do with this.Posted by AriesAlwaysYou guys are still really young so take it easy. There's no need for pressure and see how things develop. If you're really impulsive it may not go far but if you care for him be patient and talk things out.
@RamOnFire1 He's 23 and I'm 21! So not super young, but still a lot to do in life I guess
Here's some reading materials for you:
http://horoscopes.lovetoknow.com/How_to_Date_a_Capricorn_Male
http://horoscopes.lovetoknow.com/compatible-astrological-signs/aries-woman-jealousy-towards-capricorn-man
If you're interested read my story with my Cap:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/aries-woman-cap-man--7653230/
Good luck to you. 🙂
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This is about character.
Is this your advice to his ghosting? To be patient? Would you tell your daughter to do this if she had been ghosted too?
@RamOnFire1 The fact that you and your cap work well gives me hope🙂 - my cousin is an Aries and get husband a cap too! Our 2 months were so full of chemistry and love, him opening up to me...I just can't imagine that disappearing! He always said he loved my faith, just hope I'm not delusional?
@Liriell But I didn't think he wants to hear from me cause he asked for space haha Definitely don't my first message to him to be emotionally charged!
@AriesAlways
A week long trip (I assume after that he became distant) for Capricorns is enough time to think some things through. I'm basically saying that he A) may be afraid of his feelings (based on "I miss you" through the phone, but he wants to cope with them on his own; B) something in this relationship isn't quite right for him.
I doubt any Capricorn who embreced their feelings for another person would avoid her, or, God forbid, get drunk. I'd say something here isn't right and even he might not know what it is. I wouldn't say he's testing you if he's sincere with you.
Your second sentence in reply: Definitely don't my first message to him to be emotionally charged!; I assume you don't want to come across as desperate/emotional. Do what you think is appropriate, but I would definitely ask firmly if he's come to some new conclusions, or if something changed.
I like to know where I stand in relationships, usually I'm rather direct about this. Beating around the bush drives me insane. 🙂
A week long trip (I assume after that he became distant) for Capricorns is enough time to think some things through. I'm basically saying that he A) may be afraid of his feelings (based on "I miss you" through the phone, but he wants to cope with them on his own; B) something in this relationship isn't quite right for him.
I doubt any Capricorn who embreced their feelings for another person would avoid her, or, God forbid, get drunk. I'd say something here isn't right and even he might not know what it is. I wouldn't say he's testing you if he's sincere with you.
Your second sentence in reply: Definitely don't my first message to him to be emotionally charged!; I assume you don't want to come across as desperate/emotional. Do what you think is appropriate, but I would definitely ask firmly if he's come to some new conclusions, or if something changed.
I like to know where I stand in relationships, usually I'm rather direct about this. Beating around the bush drives me insane. 🙂
@Liriell Yeah after he came back he was just completely flipped! But he was also stressed and I hear Caps aren't great with stress? I guess I don't see what could've changed his mind since he didn't see/talk to me for a week (we both don't have phones haha). I'm just hoping it's a game of patience with him and I'm not just being a fool...
And I get what you mean! But since he said he's not ready for a relationship I assumed that is where we stand rn...As in, if I message and ask if something has changed I think he would just reiterate
And I get what you mean! But since he said he's not ready for a relationship I assumed that is where we stand rn...As in, if I message and ask if something has changed I think he would just reiterate
@Chance_12 Yeah possibly...I just can't imagine his saying he's falling for me then suddenly going radio silent. Like there's going all in and not feeling it, but then there's that (I feel haha). But again, I'm an Aries...I'm very in the moment, my cap is very in the future - don't think he is happy with the place he is at rn :/
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