
With no warning or conversation?




Posted by SamCancerGirlWe are not forgetful if we care about the person (rarely we are forgetful) unless they made us not give af.
The cap didn't like something you said or did the last time you were in touch
They are sulking about something
They are too busy in their own world to notice that they haven't been in touch
They are forgetful



Posted by champrangerWe hung out on Thanksgiving (he invited me). Chatted briefly the next couple of days or so. I invited him out a week after Thanksgiving. He never responded or showed up. I texted him the next day "So I'm guessing you are either busy/preoccupied, or you changed your mind. Again." He immediately responded "ANDALUSIA CHILL OUT! Get out of your head. You're worrying too much." I've reached out a couple times since then but haven't heard back. I told/texted him this past weekend "You are hurting my feelings." No response.Posted by AndalusiaHow long since he stopped responding?
Hmm.. I don't feel any of these explanations are the reason this particular Cap stopped talking to me in particular.
But then agsin, maybe it is for one of these reasons. He won't respond though, so I don't know.click to expand

Posted by BlackMambaYou've got to be joking...Posted by Imarollini would understand this, but i have come to find out that earth signs drain others, use others, and then act as if they're the victims...Posted by GreenteaThis.
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.
They just don't care for things that don't enrich their lives. If someone drains them, uses them etc... They just pull the plug.
really bad habitclick to expand

Posted by elllesqueYas know.. I was thinking about this.. I don't know if it's "distance makes the heart grow fonder" with Caps, so much as it's "everything worth having won't come easy". Like, they don't respect or cherish it unless it's a challenge.
Melly,
I don't have an answer......just don't be a pushover when he does contact you....because he will.
they take that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" bullshit way too far. lol

Posted by BlackMambaYou have got to be joking...Posted by Greentea1000% serious. I think Earth signs are delusional.Posted by BlackMambaYou've got to be joking...Posted by Imarollini would understand this, but i have come to find out that earth signs drain others, use others, and then act as if they're the victims...Posted by GreenteaThis.
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.
They just don't care for things that don't enrich their lives. If someone drains them, uses them etc... They just pull the plug.
really bad habitclick to expand

Posted by BlackMambaYes, yes I know.. according to you, we're Darth vador.
seriously if you only understood how the rest of us see you...
the most giving signs are Fire signs...next water...then maybe Earth..

Posted by champrangerWe've known each other 2 years though. And I pretty much told him what I need and how I am (which he responded with "I know"). So he kind of knew what he was getting into and signed up for it regardless. I feel.Posted by AndalusiaSounds like you were too much for him ... in his POV. Maybe stop contacting for a while?Posted by champrangerWe hung out on Thanksgiving (he invited me). Chatted briefly the next couple of days or so. I invited him out a week after Thanksgiving. He never responded or showed up. I texted him the next day "So I'm guessing you are either busy/preoccupied, or you changed your mind. Again." He immediately responded "ANDALUSIA CHILL OUT! Get out of your head. You're worrying too much." I've reached out a couple times since then but haven't heard back. I told/texted him this past weekend "You are hurting my feelings." No response.Posted by AndalusiaHow long since he stopped responding?
Hmm.. I don't feel any of these explanations are the reason this particular Cap stopped talking to me in particular.
But then agsin, maybe it is for one of these reasons. He won't respond though, so I don't know.
So it's been 3 weeks to a month since I've heard from or seen him.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueLolol. He out cray-crayed you? 😛
.....and for a scorpio with a ram moon to give up.................
that says a lot. 😛

Posted by BlackMambaHe does fine for himself. Together, we'll be an empire.
GreenTea how well off is the scorp?

Posted by champrangerI told him consistency and communication were important to me, and that I was not in the market for anything casual.Posted by AndalusiaWould it be okay if I ask what you had said to him about how you are and your needs?Posted by champrangerWe've known each other 2 years though. And I pretty much told him what I need and how I am (which he responded with "I know"). So he kind of knew what he was getting into and signed up for it regardless. I feel.Posted by AndalusiaSounds like you were too much for him ... in his POV. Maybe stop contacting for a while?Posted by champrangerWe hung out on Thanksgiving (he invited me). Chatted briefly the next couple of days or so. I invited him out a week after Thanksgiving. He never responded or showed up. I texted him the next day "So I'm guessing you are either busy/preoccupied, or you changed your mind. Again." He immediately responded "ANDALUSIA CHILL OUT! Get out of your head. You're worrying too much." I've reached out a couple times since then but haven't heard back. I told/texted him this past weekend "You are hurting my feelings." No response.Posted by AndalusiaHow long since he stopped responding?
Hmm.. I don't feel any of these explanations are the reason this particular Cap stopped talking to me in particular.
But then agsin, maybe it is for one of these reasons. He won't respond though, so I don't know.
So it's been 3 weeks to a month since I've heard from or seen him.click to expand

Posted by AndalusiaIf I forget, or feel a little iffy about that person... Or if that person doesn't contact me at all and I'm the one that has to do it all
With no warning or conversation?

Posted by AndalusiaI don't believe that.Posted by elllesqueYas know.. I was thinking about this.. I don't know if it's "distance makes the heart grow fonder" with Caps, so much as it's "everything worth having won't come easy". Like, they don't respect or cherish it unless it's a challenge.
Melly,
I don't have an answer......just don't be a pushover when he does contact you....because he will.
they take that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" bullshit way too far. lol
But when you have that^^ mindset, it's easy to mistake "this person challenges me" with "it is challenging trying to be with this person".
At least that's what I've noticed from some of the other Cap Venus' and Mars in my life I don't know too many other Cap Suns or Moons.click to expand



Posted by AndalusiaAlso, I'm hurt and mildly bitter right now.
I think some Caps just make shit up for themselves to do. No one is THAT busy.

Posted by VanishWell In the past I was more of the you call me kind of person but as I've grown into my older teen self I've become more of the communicator, and there has been times when I had to be the one to contact my friends and ask them how they're doing or what not, even my friend who I use to be super close to even stopped communicating with me during a really tough time in my life with my Mother being sick and everything.. So I just stopped being the communicator with that friendship and I have snapchat so if my friends really want to see how I'm doing they can snap me or something... Just because I'm smiling in a picture doesn't mean I'm okayPosted by glitterpittyBut you're the cardinal...I think capricorns feel like they do more contacting than they actually do xDPosted by AndalusiaIf I forget, or feel a little iffy about that person... Or if that person doesn't contact me at all and I'm the one that has to do it all
With no warning or conversation?click to expand

Posted by JahliaI just want to say - I think you are lovely and I'm glad you started posting again. I've missed your presence 🙂
Also, sometimes(pretty often actually)we're just busy and would preferred to be left alone. I find that I love being alone, or just get too absorbed in what I have to do. When I moved on Campus-my mom thought that I was angry with her because I didn't call her very often. Often, It's not deliberate.

Posted by elllesqueAgain generational difference.Posted by frostey91as someone said previously......games.
I was meaning the distance thing yeah but I dont see ignoring people on purpose. I've had to incorporate distance.
Another thing cannot always make yourself available, sometimes act like you are busy when u aren't that makes you more busy and makes him show his cards more...click to expand

Posted by VanishNo it's okay, oh my bad.. She's doing okay now thoughPosted by glitterpittyAh, okay. I was just projecting anyway 🙂Posted by VanishWell In the past I was more of the you call me kind of person but as I've grown into my older teen self I've become more of the communicator, and there has been times when I had to be the one to contact my friends and ask them how they're doing or what not, even my friend who I use to be super close to even stopped communicating with me during a really tough time in my life with my Mother being sick and everything.. So I just stopped being the communicator with that friendship and I have snapchat so if my friends really want to see how I'm doing they can snap me or something... Just because I'm smiling in a picture doesn't mean I'm okayPosted by glitterpittyBut you're the cardinal...I think capricorns feel like they do more contacting than they actually do xDPosted by AndalusiaIf I forget, or feel a little iffy about that person... Or if that person doesn't contact me at all and I'm the one that has to do it all
With no warning or conversation?
Sorry about your mom.click to expand

Posted by frostey91That's the thing tho. I was fine with being friends if he couldn't give me what I needed romantically. I outlined what I needed and I thought he was on board. If he had qualms he should have voiced them and/or not.proceeded.Posted by elllesqueAgain generational difference.Posted by frostey91as someone said previously......games.
I was meaning the distance thing yeah but I dont see ignoring people on purpose. I've had to incorporate distance.
Another thing cannot always make yourself available, sometimes act like you are busy when u aren't that makes you more busy and makes him show his cards more...
I tried to do things the right way and it didn't work for me.
Games have to be incorporated for my gen unless it's spotless
Cap men older idk
There are just too many options out there.
Why should he pick you?
What makes you important?
That is pure Cap energy--it is very calculating what is in it for me.
I am a more complicated cap BC my fire placements and first house stellenium
And moon combos
Seriously he is asking himself those questionsclick to expand

Posted by VanishExceptional and relevant question.Posted by frostey91Does the person have to keep that up all throughout the relationship? Like, if I lived with a Cap would I still have to "go out" and be busy? Its the weekend "I'm going to go hangout with friends bae" *I'm secretely going to an internet cafe with a gaming laptop*
I was meaning the distance thing yeah but I dont see ignoring people on purpose. I've had to incorporate distance.
Another thing cannot always make yourself available, sometimes act like you are busy when u aren't that makes you more busy and makes him show his cards more...click to expand

Posted by elllesqueIt is a game. Everything is. Are they dating or in a relationship because that is what matters.Posted by frostey91you do realise that despite the generational differences....what you are saying is perceived as a game, right? by others?Posted by elllesqueAgain generational difference.Posted by frostey91as someone said previously......games.
I was meaning the distance thing yeah but I dont see ignoring people on purpose. I've had to incorporate distance.
Another thing cannot always make yourself available, sometimes act like you are busy when u aren't that makes you more busy and makes him show his cards more...
I tried to do things the right way and it didn't work for me.
Games have to be incorporated for my gen unless it's spotless
Cap men older idk
There are just too many options out there.
Why should he pick you?
What makes you important?
That is pure Cap energy--it is very calculating what is in it for me.
I am a more complicated cap BC my fire placements and first house stellenium
And moon combos
Seriously he is asking himself those questionsclick to expand


Posted by elllesqueChicks are so flakyPosted by frostey91be careful with this.
I only condone this behavior in the beginning of dating.click to expand

Posted by Chance_11Does Vanish have a Cancer Sailor Moon too??!Posted by VanishSorry, didn't mean to offend your whiny, sensitive moon vicariously through Elle. I'll be more careful next time 😉
Lol capricorns sound like jerks.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueOR Owl PharaohPosted by frostey91I say be careful because that *one* woman who is going to be worth it? She's going to figure this shit out and walk.Posted by elllesqueChicks are so flakyPosted by frostey91be careful with this.
I only condone this behavior in the beginning of dating.
My name is frostey for a reason.
It's different when people have their careers and shit together.
Generational diff mostly
You play or get played for the most part
Just like the chick who went to basic and went after the first dude she saw after being with her husband for 6 years
Dude did everything right and boom atomic bomb before Christmas
Distance in the beginning is alright
Then instead of frostey.....we can call you salty.click to expand

Posted by Chance_11Lol, I only ask because I myself am a Virgo with a Cancer Sailor Moon.Posted by AndalusiaLet's bypass it, It's her secret plan to make it a Virgo/Vanish thread lolPosted by Chance_11Does Vanish have a Cancer Sailor Moon too??!Posted by VanishSorry, didn't mean to offend your whiny, sensitive moon vicariously through Elle. I'll be more careful next time 😉
Lol capricorns sound like jerks.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueGood pointPosted by frostey91I say be careful because that *one* woman who is going to be worth it? She's going to figure this shit out and walk.Posted by elllesqueChicks are so flakyPosted by frostey91be careful with this.
I only condone this behavior in the beginning of dating.
My name is frostey for a reason.
It's different when people have their careers and shit together.
Generational diff mostly
You play or get played for the most part
Just like the chick who went to basic and went after the first dude she saw after being with her husband for 6 years
Dude did everything right and boom atomic bomb before Christmas
Distance in the beginning is alright
Then instead of frostey.....we can call you salty.click to expand

Posted by frostey91If I don't mean anything to him then he needs to quit dragging his ass all over my GD emotional carpet.Posted by elllesqueGood pointPosted by frostey91I say be careful because that *one* woman who is going to be worth it? She's going to figure this shit out and walk.Posted by elllesqueChicks are so flakyPosted by frostey91be careful with this.
I only condone this behavior in the beginning of dating.
My name is frostey for a reason.
It's different when people have their careers and shit together.
Generational diff mostly
You play or get played for the most part
Just like the chick who went to basic and went after the first dude she saw after being with her husband for 6 years
Dude did everything right and boom atomic bomb before Christmas
Distance in the beginning is alright
Then instead of frostey.....we can call you salty.
That again is the difference what is she worth to him?
The mysterious question
Who wants to bet on how many this Cap stopped talking to me posts we get from now until Jan 19?
I say 3 posts a day.click to expand

Posted by VanishA trophy is something you are proud of.Posted by Chance_11NOT YOU. I was talking about what frostey said about how capricorns treat their girlfriends (I dont actually believe all caps are like that...or are you?), but now, yes you. And you're the sensitive one! :pPosted by VanishSorry, didn't mean to offend your whiny, sensitive moon vicariously through Elle. I'll be more careful next time 😉
Lol capricorns sound like jerks.click to expand

Posted by Vixen2Money and success more important.Posted by frostey91relationships are low on the totem pole?Posted by AndalusiaI don't believe that.Posted by elllesqueYas know.. I was thinking about this.. I don't know if it's "distance makes the heart grow fonder" with Caps, so much as it's "everything worth having won't come easy". Like, they don't respect or cherish it unless it's a challenge.
Melly,
I don't have an answer......just don't be a pushover when he does contact you....because he will.
they take that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" bullshit way too far. lol
But when you have that^^ mindset, it's easy to mistake "this person challenges me" with "it is challenging trying to be with this person".
At least that's what I've noticed from some of the other Cap Venus' and Mars in my life I don't know too many other Cap Suns or Moons.
Caps are just fucking busy (men) and very calculating
Relationships are very low on pedestal
But when we want you we want you
It just seems one is hot and one is cold...
Especially for me
Either they are into me too quick or vice versa
All about the money instead?click to expand

Posted by KittenLaRougeExplains a lot about capricorns...Question though, cappy I was with did the things that you posted, minus the cheating, do cappys expect to be treated so well but not to give the same treatment?
i find out they are lying, cheating, misleading me, using me, or playing me. they are ignoring me, not giving me enough attention, not prioritizing me in their life.
or they have deeply hurt me. i will leave without saying a word.

Posted by elllesqueI'm fine with him not wanting to date me if he doesnt.see a future or isn't ready, etc (guy in the OP, not frostey lol). What I am not.okay with/don't understand is why he would pretend or.keep continuously trying if he is unsure or not feeling it. THAT'S what I don't get.
frostey is telling the truth, unfortunately.
I hope people are hearing this.

Posted by elguapolibraDon't use that baiting question. With this sign in an asshole BC it cheated. The particular person is an asshole.Posted by KittenLaRougeExplains a lot about capricorns...Question though, cappy I was with did the things that you posted, minus the cheating, do cappys expect to be treated so well but not to give the same treatment?
i find out they are lying, cheating, misleading me, using me, or playing me. they are ignoring me, not giving me enough attention, not prioritizing me in their life.
or they have deeply hurt me. i will leave without saying a word.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueJeez my cappy ex did the same thing. Wow I am seeing that relationship in a new light through this revelation. Thank you!Posted by GreenteaI wish she was.Posted by BlackMambaYou've got to be joking...Posted by Imarollini would understand this, but i have come to find out that earth signs drain others, use others, and then act as if they're the victims...Posted by GreenteaThis.
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.
They just don't care for things that don't enrich their lives. If someone drains them, uses them etc... They just pull the plug.
really bad habitclick to expand

Posted by AndalusiaCaps are like Libras in the fact that they weigh all the pros and con's and they can be slow. The move at there own pace not yours.Posted by elllesqueI'm fine with him not wanting to date me if he doesnt.see a future or isn't ready, etc (guy in the OP, not frostey lol). What I am not.okay with/don't understand is why he would pretend or.keep continuously trying if he is unsure or not feeling it. THAT'S what I don't get.
frostey is telling the truth, unfortunately.
I hope people are hearing this.
Why he keeps dragging his ass all over my emotional carpet.click to expand


Posted by elllesqueYes but Libra weighs (how it will effect their balance)Posted by frostey91it's a different kind of weighing though.Posted by AndalusiaCaps are like Libras in the fact that they weigh all the pros and con's and they can be slow. The move at there own pace not yours.Posted by elllesqueI'm fine with him not wanting to date me if he doesnt.see a future or isn't ready, etc (guy in the OP, not frostey lol). What I am not.okay with/don't understand is why he would pretend or.keep continuously trying if he is unsure or not feeling it. THAT'S what I don't get.
frostey is telling the truth, unfortunately.
I hope people are hearing this.
Why he keeps dragging his ass all over my emotional carpet.
cap is weighing what they are going to 'get' out of it.
libra is weighing what they are going to 'give' you.click to expand

Posted by frostey91yepPosted by VanishA trophy is something you are proud of.Posted by Chance_11NOT YOU. I was talking about what frostey said about how capricorns treat their girlfriends (I dont actually believe all caps are like that...or are you?), but now, yes you. And you're the sensitive one! :pPosted by VanishSorry, didn't mean to offend your whiny, sensitive moon vicariously through Elle. I'll be more careful next time 😉
Lol capricorns sound like jerks.
What is wrong with a woman who makes you proud.
Don't you want someone who makes you proud?
In the end all relationships are business contracts whether you want to use that terminology or not they are.
Person x offers this
Person y offers this
Can we work together and be profitable (happy and grow together)
That's how it worksclick to expand

Posted by elllesqueHaha Cap hater.
libra is also an air signs.....air signs are way more independent than all of the earth signs.
libra may be the coupling sign but that does not mean they are dependent on that person.
those that rely on impulses and emotions.....you feel that is a weakness in them because you put value on the control it takes to manage impulse and emotion.
silly you.....you'll find out that only makes you constipated and you get those wrinkly lines in your forehead before others.


Posted by elllesquePosted by frostey91I don't hate caps, don't get it twisted. Cap is one of my favourite signs....ask anyone on the boards.Posted by elllesqueHaha Cap hater.
libra is also an air signs.....air signs are way more independent than all of the earth signs.
libra may be the coupling sign but that does not mean they are dependent on that person.
those that rely on impulses and emotions.....you feel that is a weakness in them because you put value on the control it takes to manage impulse and emotion.
silly you.....you'll find out that only makes you constipated and you get those wrinkly lines in your forehead before others.
That's why we look beautiful when were older smh.
I believe they are less selfish. Didn't say they were not selfish at all.
I'm just not particularly fond of what you find at the bottom of the container.
It's like when all the particles settle to the bottom of a container.....*that* stuff.
There are some ways you think and some things you do that clash with my standards and values.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueIt's not my opinion it's everyone's. Caring too much about social desirability and afraid to rock the boat.Posted by frostey91lol @ you thinking that libra is asking your opinion because they really give a shit. 😛
I actually admire Libra's diplomacy and teamwork , what gets me is having to always ask about everyone else's opinion on the dumbest shit... I prefer self judgment.
Also not saying how they really feel unless really pushed.
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