Confused capricorn?WTF (Page 2)

@HappyCapper:

I do consider it,that's why i'm gonna try to fix it.

He's not an a-hole,he's a pain in the ass but he's worth it(metaphorically)

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Or a frenchpornwithpopcorn lol

I can see those nicknames do wonders for you lol

I don't drink but he does

Posted by RushOfMagic
@HappyCapper:

I do consider it,that's why i'm gonna try to fix it.

He's not an a-hole,he's a pain in the ass but he's worth it(metaphorically)

Good! Please let me know how it goes. 🙂

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Or a frenchpornwithpopcorn lol

😄

Posted by HappyCapper

Posted by RushOfMagic
@HappyCapper:

I do consider it,that's why i'm gonna try to fix it.

He's not an a-hole,he's a pain in the ass but he's worth it(metaphorically)

Good! Please let me know how it goes. 🙂

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You'll be the first to know🙂

Posted by champranger
I'll wait and see how this unfolds first. I still have much learning to do about Caps.

But OP, there's still the possibility that while he is distancing himself, that a new girl may surface and peak his interest.

Yes i know but i'm not gonna think about that,i keep it in the back of my mind but i'm not gonna let it control me.

He has the right to be happy and it's up to him to decide that in which way he considers it's best for him.

I can't do nothing to stop that and i don't even want it,it's his life and he has the freedom to do whatever he chooses.
Plus,i believe in him and i know he will take the right decision.

Posted by RushOfMagic

Posted by champranger
I'll wait and see how this unfolds first. I still have much learning to do about Caps.

But OP, there's still the possibility that while he is distancing himself, that a new girl may surface and peak his interest.

Yes i know but i'm not gonna think about that,i keep it in the back of my mind but i'm not gonna let it control me.

He has the right to be happy and it's up to him to decide that in which way he considers it's best for him.

I can't do nothing to stop that and i don't even want it,it's his life and he has the freedom to do whatever he chooses.
Plus,i believe in him and i know he will take the right decision.

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Champranger keep up the good work,you think outside the box and with that you make other people think,reason,that's all about in the end.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
I know my cap daughter moves on pretty quickly, she may miss little things about that person and cry about it for a couple days, but she doesn't dwell for too long at all. There's usually another guy that ready and waiting on the sidelines anyhow. Lol

A capricorn woman is very strong(i'm talking about a mature woman),she knows what she wants and she doesn't waste time with trivial matters,of course she will move along,she has a bossy side,she doesn't needs another pussy in her life,she needs a man that can get the job done!

She has too much dignity to just play the victim,she's a woman in every sense of the word. I think that if she has a reason to stay though,or that if the damage wasn't that big she will stay.

I never did something that disrespected my capricorn friend,that's the reason he stayed. I made a mistake,granted but i believe that our relationship is bigger than this and with much purpose and growth,for the both of us.
He would have much more to lose if he moves along than if he stays. This is not a toxic relationship,on the contrary.

Posted by champranger
Thank you 🙂

You're welcome and thank you

@HappyCapper:

So i talked to him today. I asked him when he has the time to come over and he said that friday or saturday if i'm free!Lol
I told him that i'm staying at home this weekend because next week will be a busy and pressuring one and i would like to relax before that.

He said that we will update for friday or saturday,i answered him ok Apple,he laughed and that's that.
He's usually busy friday or saturday hmmm...and usually i'm too...lol.

He gives me the choice to see him in the weekends after a week of "being tired and shit" to see if i'm going out with that guy??Now that sounds like a test to me and it pisses me off.
To be continued HappyCapper!

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
if he's not looking at you in the eye, Prepare you to wait a month

Wait wait,there's still time to change his mind until friday or saturday,i believe he has a plan and he officially started to play games.

Now that's a problem. When you play games you either don't give a s*** or you are too sure but that's tricky because when a capricorn man doesn't give a s*** he walks away,he doesn't waste his time or energy into games.

And he can't be that sure neither so,what's the catch capricorns?

And now i could really need some help,back me up on this please.

Posted by RushOfMagic
@HappyCapper:

So i talked to him today. I asked him when he has the time to come over and he said that friday or saturday if i'm free!Lol
I told him that i'm staying at home this weekend because next week will be a busy and pressuring one and i would like to relax before that.

He said that we will update for friday or saturday,i answered him ok Apple,he laughed and that's that.
He's usually busy friday or saturday hmmm...and usually i'm too...lol.

He gives me the choice to see him in the weekends after a week of "being tired and shit" to see if i'm going out with that guy??Now that sounds like a test to me and it pisses me off.
To be continued HappyCapper!

Hmm. Well, I honestly don't see this as game playing...yet. I just think it would be so tragic if the two of you missed this opportunity because you misread each other. I'd give him the opportunity to prove you wrong in that assumption before I'd accuse him of anything. Fact is: you don't know. Maybe he was tired. Maybe he was hurt because of the thing with the other guy...and has now come around and is trying to get you. This may still have a happy ending.

Maybe he is playing games and being a total jerk, and then at least you found out and can start forgetting about him. But don't you want to find out if he is indeed legit?

Friday passed,i didn't contact him no more,today i didn't spoke to him,nor i'm planning to do it. He won't even make a half step,rather come by my house(i think he made a pact with his EGO).
He's waiting for me to say something or to give him a second invite,not gonna happen,i think two weeks is more than enough to prove a point,or not obviously.

He's not a jerk but he's very good at acting like one right now,he's in the mortal combat mode.

Hmm. And here I thought the two of you were going to meet fri or sun. Hmm. All I can say right now is that it's going to be very interesting to see what his next move will be... He must be done pouting at some point. I repeat: Hmm.

Posted by HappyCapper
Hmm. And here I thought the two of you were going to meet fri or sun. Hmm. All I can say right now is that it's going to be very interesting to see what his next move will be... He must be done pouting at some point. I repeat: Hmm.

Yeah well i was angry before i thought about this so i talked to him,here we go:

I asked him why he's acting like a jerk,he said why i come to this conclusion so i gave him the logical reasons.
He gave me again a poor excuse about yesterday,that he was doing i don't know what and that he forgot,then today he got busy and that with the Easter and all he will cook for his family and he was just busy at work and everything.
That's not him,i know that for a fact, He's been shutting me out but that's ok,it's his right to do so.
I told him that i don't deserve this and he said that when i asked him my time out to not see each other he respected that and i should respect his period of pressure at work and all.
I asked him for a time out,granted,that was a month ago when i felt like i couldn't deal with all these emotions,i just needed to get away from him for a while.

I didn't knew he would get so affected by it though,i didn't want it to be awkward for us,me being his friend,him not making any move or letting me know something so i distance myself from all this just to get a clear view and breath!!
I told him why i did that,that i was in loved with him and i didn't want it to get messy or complicated,i just needed my friend and i didn't knew how to be other than his friend,we never got into more than that,not with words at least.

I'm 30 years old,he's 27. He's mature for his age,he's wise and responsible,serious about work and relations but he's still behind me,i lived my life,i've done more than he done and i'm looking for something more stable. We talked about this and he knows it but i can't put that on him,he has to live his life at his own time with his own experiences,it's not my decision to make and i want him to be happy,even it's not with me.

I'm strong enough to let him go and i adore him,i really want for him to do everything he dreams about,he's really special even if he's not seeing this about him.
I always tell him that i wish he could see himself through my eyes🙂He's a special man and he deserves all the good things and even more.

He never leaved me though,even now,he said he's sorry for not telling me that he's having a rough couple of days but that i should understand him like i always do because nothing changed...I can't believe that,he changed and it pains me. I can't do this no more,it's been a year and i feel like i just need air!!!

I've ended it before it could get more worse,before i put pressure on him. I can't deal with losing him so i told him that he disappointed me and i don't wanna see him again.

That i wish him the best,that i'm proud of him and that i wish he will be happy cause he deserve all that!!
I can't have him walk through my door and watch him leave over and over again like it's ok,i'm in love with him and all that i'm feeling isn't fair to put on just one person,it's too much,even for me.
I've always had this view of people and relationships that we don't belong to one human being,we can't expect to posses a person,it's not our right,everyone's free and all these feelings just don't make sense.
Maybe it's my capricorn rising or maybe it's my taurus stability and reality check but this is my life view and i can't be selfish with him.

I didn't rage out at him,i was acting like i knew i should,i knew this is the end so i didn't want it to be a dirty and hateful one.
Even if it's not the greatest moment of my life,i think i should still give him good vibes and positivity cause that's what people do when they care for each other,even if i won't be around.
So i think it's over and i don't know what to do of it cause i'm used to be around him but i'm not bitter,i can't be. He's been a good part of my life,great actually,more lively than 10 years together but i'm happy for that.
That's a privilege not many can have.
He said i'm the only one who tries to escape here because he doesn't have intentions to leave but if that's my decision he respect it.

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
if you want to take air, just for flirt with the new guy,
you can call me frenchporn again

I would tell you to just go f*** yourself but we all know that would bring you joy🙂
I don't need to flirt to feel good about myself frenchporn,that wasn't ever my goal,i always feel good...i want to feel alive,i want to create something good for others too,if my hell is to make others feel good then i would live my life like that... and i won't give two shits about it🙂

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
ok, ok,

just go..

he will came back,

and when he will came ? what's you are gonna do?

I'm not waiting for him to come back,i've done everything to push him away,only a mad man would come back,a man in love.

But some things aren't to last frenchporn,some are just to help our grow and that's that. Be at peace with that and just let it go. True love isn't about lasting,true love is also about being the best version of yourself and still inspiring and let the other one be happy.
You'll learn that with time,it will hurt before you'll learn but true love doesn't always have a happy ending for yourself,not in real world at least.

"and that he forgot" If he says that he forgot about your meeting he is either not interested in you or has medical issues or he is still making you suffer. My guess would be the latter because...I'll get to that.

"today he got busy and that with the Easter and all he will cook for his family and he was just busy at work and everything. That's not him,i know that for a fact," Being busy, I can understand, but inform me so that I can make plans myself.

"he said that when i asked him my time out to not see each other he respected that and i should respect his period of pressure at work and all. I asked him for a time out,granted,that was a month ago when i felt like i couldn't deal with all these emotions,i just needed to get away from him for a while."

So you asked for a time-out? There you go. He may(or may not) be done punishing you for the thing with the other guy, but now he wants to know if the same rules apply to both of you(in your mind) and, yes, he probably wants to punish you a bit too. Thing is, he probably respected your wish for a time-out, but it still made him insecure.

"capricorns, doesnt have the same visions of time, for us one month, its just one day." Yup, I agree this is true. You have got to give him time...is what I would have said if you hadn't ended it. You should ofc not be with a person you don't want to be with, but I truly hope that it wasn't the "I've ended it before it could get more worse,before i put pressure on him. I can't deal with losing him so i told him that he disappointed me and i don't wanna see him again." that made you do it. I just never understood the point of breaking up with someone because you can't stand to lose them. But me and my sag venus totally get the need for air.

So sad it ended; you don't find people you have such a great connection to every day. All I think it would have taken to start this up in a real way is a little tenacity and a little bit more understanding about each other's needs and personalities. But maybe it's better this way.

@ HappyCapper:
No,my decision was based on the fact that he said he will do something and he didn't do it!
In my book and his,that's disrespectful,I'm saying this because we talked about this,in other discussions that involved other people.
This was a red flag,he did it on purpose and i'm saying this because you know when I told you that we've talked to see each other,it wasn't sort noticed,it was on wednesday!Till Friday he could have said something!He was busy my ass,he want it to make me pay without being so obvious.
I'm tired,I forgot to let you know,I had a busy day,cooome on...

And one more thing,I told him I need some time to figure out some issues,he didn't knew that it was about him.
He told me last night that i'm the one that needed time off so he's not the one that wants to go away,I am!
But that's just bs because I started all the conversations afterwards and I invited him to come over at my place.
He's stubborn and he can't let go,he said that he's not the only one that made a mistake and that he's sorry that he didn't let me know but that i'm exaggerating.

Last night after I told him that I wish him all the best he told me that i'm a good girl and that he hopes that i'll be happy and find someone that can make that happen!
That's another bs line.
After I told him that i'm in love with him,I had the courage to say him that,I think that should erase every doubt he had before!
This situation had to ended and yes i'm sorry cause we had a great connection but he still needs to grow up and i'm letting him do just that.

I also told him to erase my number cause he won't need it no more,i'm changing my number cause i'm getting another phone for my b-day and with that a new number too.
He didn't erased me from whattsapp yet.
The need for air is both of us,he needs to figure out what he wants and I need to move on.

Hmm. I must admit that I feel you are acting pretty immaturely as well, if not more than he is. You assume things, flare up and call BS without giving the other side enough thought. You seem to feel entitled to lots of things and while he appologises, you ask him to erase your number. Mature? I think not. I'm sorry, but you wanted my honest opinion, and here it is. I'm not saying this to be mean. I say it because I feel you are not seeing your own actions objectively(which ofc is imposible for anyone to some extent, but...)

Didn't give him a new number...or at least she didn't say so in her post.

If she gave him her new number, why would she even mention telling him to erase the old one? To brag about her new phone? Come on.

Posted by nasha82
She didnt give him her number, she said to erase the old number because she was getting a new number and phone and proably didnt want him to have the new number. Telling him erase the old number because she is getting a new number is not game playing its sense. Not everybody plays games is it really hard to believe that.

1. She asked him to erase her number. Agreed?

2. She did not want him to have her number, new or old. Agreed?

He was her friend who hasn't done her any harm and now she is bothered by him having her number. That sounds like "proving a point" to him that omg, I'm so upset with you and I never ever ever ever want to talk to you again. Mature? Nope. Not imo.

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Yeah and between my legs I don't have balls but two testicle

🙂🙂🙂🙂I knew you deserve your nickname,play nice frenchporn

Posted by HappyCapper
Hmm. I must admit that I feel you are acting pretty immaturely as well, if not more than he is. You assume things, flare up and call BS without giving the other side enough thought. You seem to feel entitled to lots of things and while he appologises, you ask him to erase your number. Mature? I think not. I'm sorry, but you wanted my honest opinion, and here it is. I'm not saying this to be mean. I say it because I feel you are not seeing your own actions objectively(which ofc is imposible for anyone to some extent, but...)

No no,it's ok,i insist you tell me nothing but your honest opinion.
Now,i don't think i'm entitled to nothing but he continues with the bs and it has to stop!

I told him to erase the number because i'm changing it in the next few days(meaning tomorrow or the day after!),this was more of a way to let him know that i won't be available no more on that number!
I didn't gave him the number because i don't have it yet!

We had a discussion yesterday,we didn't fight,we didn't insulted each other or call each other names.
If he wants my new number he'll ask for it!
What i am suppose to do after pouring my heart to him?We both need a time off!

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Posted by nasha82
She didnt give him her number, she said to erase the old number because she was getting a new number and phone and proably didnt want him to have the new number. Telling him erase the old number because she is getting a new number is not game playing its sense. Not everybody plays games is it really hard to believe that.

1. She asked him to erase her number. Agreed?

2. She did not want him to have her number, new or old. Agreed?

He was her friend who hasn't done her any harm and now she is bothered by him having her number. That sounds like "proving a point" to him that omg, I'm so upset with you and I never ever ever ever want to talk to you again. Mature? Nope. Not imo.

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Ok you have a point but you have it only from his point of view right now and it's not fair.
Put yourself in my position too and it would be great if you'd do that being a woman,i know it's about capricorns here but also about Taurus in this case.

I'm giving him a option,take it or leave it!Maybe it won't be today or tomorrow but it's an option,if i never wanted to speak with him in the future i would have just vanished!I would have changed the number without telling him and i wouldn't even write here about it!
Don't you think?
I'm being a bitch right now but i have to stand up for myself sorry,capricorn or not,i told him i'm in loved with him and i gave him space!
I need it and he needs it,period.
If in the future we'll be able to talk this out or get close again fine but right now i don't want him around,he needs to figure out what he wants,i think it's pretty mature actually.
A immature girl would get all clingy,desperate and dramatic,i'm backing off for a good reason!

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Posted by HappyCapper

Posted by nasha82
She didnt give him her number, she said to erase the old number because she was getting a new number and phone and proably didnt want him to have the new number. Telling him erase the old number because she is getting a new number is not game playing its sense. Not everybody plays games is it really hard to believe that.

1. She asked him to erase her number. Agreed?

2. She did not want him to have her number, new or old. Agreed?

He was her friend who hasn't done her any harm and now she is bothered by him having her number. That sounds like "proving a point" to him that omg, I'm so upset with you and I never ever ever ever want to talk to you again. Mature? Nope. Not imo.

Read the whole post you will get why she is acting this way which is common behaviour

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I have read this whole thread thoroughly, believe me, I even wrote half of the posts myself.

I got it wrong with the phone number, sorry. I couldn't see why you would mention it if you intended you give him your new one, which btw I think you should give him without him having to ask. I didn't see the reason you gave, so I take that back.

I am most defintely trying to put myself in your position, but the difference is that you are here, able to give your pov, but he isn't, so I admit to giving his pov a lot of thought in this. But I do hope it has come through that I try to think just as much from yours too.

Oki, just got a visitor. I'll write more later. Cya🙂

Posted by nasha82
When you decide to tell someone your feelings and leave yourself vulnerable its very hard to hear nothing back this is why not many caps do it, they want you to do it but not themselves very mature—. You give them space and have patience and you also give yourself a cut off point now thats being mature. You have to push caps from time to time to get the right reaction because if you dont push them then you dont get it, not mature at all. She is an earth sign aswell and she knows what she wants and dont want

"When you decide to tell someone your feelings and leave yourself vulnerable its very hard to hear nothing back"

Thank you!

Posted by HappyCapper
I got it wrong with the phone number, sorry. I couldn't see why you would mention it if you intended you give him your new one, which btw I think you should give him without him having to ask. I didn't see the reason you gave, so I take that back.

I am most defintely trying to put myself in your position, but the difference is that you are here, able to give your pov, but he isn't, so I admit to giving his pov a lot of thought in this. But I do hope it has come through that I try to think just as much from yours too.

Oki, just got a visitor. I'll write more later. Cya🙂

It's ok and that makes sense but i'm not the villain here,none of us is.
We are on the same side,just on the upside down.

Posted by aurora
before you told about your feelings you should have said that the only reason why you mentioned the other guy was because you thought you were friendzoned by him and that you were ok with being just friends. now you seem like someone who played games. wanted to make him jealous and when that didn't worked out you decided to be honest.

@Aurora:

Very good point but i already thought about that!
And i will tell you why i didn't told him about this:

As if a girl stay a year by your side,doesn't give a f*** about no guy,stays single,lets you get close,let you keep her in your arms,motivate you when you're down,listen to your work problem,gives you direction and strength when no one pays attention to the minimal details that bothers you,chase you for 2 weeks after making a dumb comment without ANY INTENTION and tells you also that she's in loved with you JUST TO PLAY GAMES??

I'm sorry but if this sounds like game i'll shave my p**** in chess pieces!!
That doesn't make sense,he's not stupid and i would like to think he didn't even consider that as an option!

Making him jealous,now that's funny cause the capricorn men don't give a shit about that,they would just look at you and think "that's cute" and laugh at you!

That's a trait capricorn and taurus have in common.
It's the lowest and petty way to get a reaction and it stands for manipulation,i would leave a man in the cold for that without even a blink,another trait in common with capricorns.

I know myself and i know him,this relationship never needed spiteful and silly acts,it's based on stability and respect by all means!

I would be prepared to get my hand burned on that!

Sure now it's stands in the air but we're both better than this. I will walk away with my dignity and my head up and he'll do the same.

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Posted by aurora
before you told about your feelings you should have said that the only reason why you mentioned the other guy was because you thought you were friendzoned by him and that you were ok with being just friends. now you seem like someone who played games. wanted to make him jealous and when that didn't worked out you decided to be honest.

@Aurora:

Very good point but i already thought about that!
And i will tell you why i didn't told him about this:

As if a girl stay a year by your side,doesn't give a f*** about no guy,stays single,lets you get close,let you keep her in your arms,motivate you when you're down,listen to your work problem,gives you direction and strength when no one pays attention to the minimal details that bothers you,chase you for 2 weeks after making a dumb comment without ANY INTENTION and tells you also that she's in loved with you JUST TO PLAY GAMES??

I'm sorry but if this sounds like game i'll shave my p**** in chess pieces!!
That doesn't make sense,he's not stupid and i would like to think he didn't even consider that as an option!

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The things you write here does not spell game, but all your actions together might.

Posted by nasha82
Ive been there myself told this cap how i truely felt on 3 occations last september i wrote her a letter as my last way of telling her how i felt and she just recited stuff out it to see my reaction but never ever told me how she felt, so i completly understand where you are comming from hearing nothing hurts like mad. So untill these guys are prepared to do it themselves then they will never understand what its like FACT.

As you said yourself, it's not easy to pour your heart out to someone, maybe that's why? Or she's just a beotch? Are you angry with all capricorns due to this one, or do you have any other experiances? I just feel I read your comments one by one and don't recognise many of the things you blame all caps for. You seem really bitter. Sorry you had to go through that.

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Details please.

How did you tell him, you love him.

I'm interested in this as well. Could be important.

Posted by nasha82
You tell them girl caps know what they are doing by playig games but yet they play them anyway then wonder why people dont stick around "stratches head",

Now i don't mean to interfere in your "kicking capricorn asses on dxpnet forum" cause you know better what are your experiences with them and i'm sure you have your reasons but i'm not here to generalize and show the bad side of capricorns,i already know it.

But i'll tell you something,capricorns sometimes more than often do certain things unconsciously,what it could be looking like a game for you,for them it's just "self preservation".
I know it sounds selfish but you have to go through a lot shit with them before they will stop doing that,it takes a lot of patience for your part and trust from his/hers.

And even then,they still watch their back because they are made for being pessimists,they are always ready for the bad stuff so when someone approaches them they think "Why should i gave this person something i've been working all my life for?Why should he/she not work for it like myself?"

It's the ugly truth but it's the truth and i don't think they are to blame,just look around.

Posted by RushOfMagic
Making him jealous,now that's funny cause the capricorn men don't give a shit about that,they would just look at you and think "that's cute" and laugh at you!

That's a trait capricorn and taurus have in common.
It's the lowest and petty way to get a reaction and it stands for manipulation,i would leave a man in the cold for that without even a blink,another trait in common with capricorns.

I know myself and i know him,this relationship never needed spiteful and silly acts,it's based on stability and respect by all means!

I would be prepared to get my hand burned on that!

Sure now it's stands in the air but we're both better than this. I will walk away with my dignity and my head up and he'll do the same.

It sounds like you just wrote this post from pure rage, so I'm not going to take it seriously. You can't have meant all that.

And i think i might just answered all my questions with my last post,how about that?lol

Posted by HappyCapper

Posted by RushOfMagic
Making him jealous,now that's funny cause the capricorn men don't give a shit about that,they would just look at you and think "that's cute" and laugh at you!

That's a trait capricorn and taurus have in common.
It's the lowest and petty way to get a reaction and it stands for manipulation,i would leave a man in the cold for that without even a blink,another trait in common with capricorns.

I know myself and i know him,this relationship never needed spiteful and silly acts,it's based on stability and respect by all means!

I would be prepared to get my hand burned on that!

Sure now it's stands in the air but we're both better than this. I will walk away with my dignity and my head up and he'll do the same.

It sounds like you just wrote this post from pure rage, so I'm not going to take it seriously. You can't have
meant all that.

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Lol,no not at all,i don't follow you on this one,what do you mean?
I was stating why i would never make him or somebody jealous,someone who would pull that trick on me it would be automatically pathetic and not worth it.