Confused capricorn?WTF (Page 3)

It's the opposite of whatever you understood HappyCapper,i wasn't being sarcastic or mean.

When i said i would be prepared to get my hand burned i meant as in i would bet on it,my bad for not getting the words right.

I'm not american by the way so whatever sounds like bad,it isn't,it's my poor grammar.

Ah okay. Thing is: you know this - he doesn't. And, tbh, I do think caps do get jelous. We take our time to make sure we're guarded as well as we can from future heartache before we enter a realtionship. It does take time. If you want to be with a cap, it's gonna take a lot of patience(which is also a possibility to why you got no answer from your cap, nasha82), and I'm not sure you and your aries venus can/want to do that. I don't know, ofc, only you do. You might want to try it, though - might be worth it.

I do agree that the both of you probably need time off from each other, but now that you made it official it's gonna be yet another insecurity building in him. Hence, he's gonna need even more time and patience even when/if you see each other again. Do not call BS unless you are absolutely sure that it is indeed BS. It seems to me that some of the things you have reacted strongly to have really baffled me - I have seen it as not necessarily BS or even bad at all. Maybe it was - after all, you were there, I was not.

All this just imo, as usual. 🙂

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Posted by RushOfMagic

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before you told about your feelings you should have said that the only reason why you mentioned the other guy was because you thought you were friendzoned by him and that you were ok with being just friends. now you seem like someone who played games. wanted to make him jealous and when that didn't worked out you decided to be honest.

@Aurora:

Very good point but i already thought about that!
And i will tell you why i didn't told him about this:

As if a girl stay a year by your side,doesn't give a f*** about no guy,stays single,lets you get close,let you keep her in your arms,motivate you when you're down,listen to your work problem,gives you direction and strength when no one pays attention to the minimal details that bothers you,chase you for 2 weeks after making a dumb comment without ANY INTENTION and tells you also that she's in loved with you JUST TO PLAY GAMES??

I'm sorry but if this sounds like game i'll shave my p**** in chess pieces!!
That doesn't make sense,he's not stupid and i would like to think he didn't even consider that as an option!

He also thought that his actions were clear, he dated noone, mentioned noone, and out of the blue you start talking about another man. Both of you are assuming a lot.

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Indeed.

Posted by Chance15

Posted by aurora
before you told about your feelings you should have said that the only reason why you mentioned the other guy was because you thought you were friendzoned by him and that you were ok with being just friends. now you seem like someone who played games. wanted to make him jealous and when that didn't worked out you decided to be honest.

Agree with this.

He has his part though. Too much earthy formal-ness in his chart. He's had enough time to claim her. She, like many of you unforgiving broads 😉, probably wants a real man. He should have expanded on his 'hair touch' game.

He didn't even make it to first base..he got thrown out trying to bunt.

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Oh goody,now someone who calls women "broads" pointed out that my cap friend didn't make it to the first base with me.
I think you just saved us all from our confusedness,thank God you exist Chance15!

Posted by RushOfMagic
It's the opposite of whatever you understood HappyCapper,i wasn't being sarcastic or mean.

When i said i would be prepared to get my hand burned i meant as in i would bet on it,my bad for not getting the words right.

I'm not american by the way so whatever sounds like bad,it isn't,it's my poor grammar.

Hehehe Well, I'm not an american either. Maybe I'm just a bad reader. 🙂

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Posted by RushOfMagic
It's the opposite of whatever you understood HappyCapper,i wasn't being sarcastic or mean.

When i said i would be prepared to get my hand burned i meant as in i would bet on it,my bad for not getting the words right.

I'm not american by the way so whatever sounds like bad,it isn't,it's my poor grammar.

Hehehe Well, I'm not an american either. Maybe I'm just a bad reader. 🙂

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Do you live in the States?

Posted by nasha82
I may sound bitter but i just believe in saying it how it is a cigar is a cigar if you know what i mean

Yes, you do sound bitter, but I wouldn't call it calling a cigar a cigar. Or maybe this is your definition of calling a cigar a cigar?

"all caps r immature there supossed to be " down to earth" out of all the earth signs these are flakiest of them all they are anything but down to earth"

Really? If you - as the first human being on earth - want to call me flaky, you are most welcome to, if this is indeed your opinion. You have the right to your opinion. I just refuse to believe that you believe that every single capricorn is flaky, immature and not down to earth. So why do you write it? For reactions? I think you have such good comments at times, and then you write things like this and I get so disappointed, because I feel they diminish the good things you write.

Oh well.

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It's the opposite of whatever you understood HappyCapper,i wasn't being sarcastic or mean.

When i said i would be prepared to get my hand burned i meant as in i would bet on it,my bad for not getting the words right.

I'm not american by the way so whatever sounds like bad,it isn't,it's my poor grammar.

Hehehe Well, I'm not an american either. Maybe I'm just a bad reader. 🙂

Do you live in the States?

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Nope 🙂

Posted by nasha82
If you want to be with a cap, it's gonna take a lot of patience(which is also a possibility to why you got no answer from your cap, nasha82),

Ive known this girl since august 2013 its now april 2015 she knows how i feel and i have never pressured or been pushy with her telling me how she feels, so having patience i think i have been patient and put up with alot of her bs

Oki. Just said it was a possibility.

@Chance15:

broad
Word for a woman. Less respectable than lady but much more respectable than bitch.

broad
bitch, woman, girl, female

Broad
Broad is primarily used by Italian Americans in Philly, South Jersey, North Jersey, and New York City--NOT Baltimore per previous definition. It simply is a derogatory meaning for female i.e bitch, woman, lady, trick, chick, hoe.
broad

Baltimore definiton of a girl, female
Females usually don't liked to be called that unless their a hoe

broad
A girl who like's sex and sex for money. She would cheat on her boyfriend if someone had a bigger D to ride. Straight up broad

Lol ok Scooby Doo,don't assume you know what a real man means.

Posted by HappyCapper
Ah okay. Thing is: you know this - he doesn't. And, tbh, I do think caps do get jelous. We take our time to make sure we're guarded as well as we can from future heartache before we enter a realtionship. It does take time. If you want to be with a cap, it's gonna take a lot of patience(which is also a possibility to why you got no answer from your cap, nasha82), and I'm not sure you and your aries venus can/want to do that. I don't know, ofc, only you do. You might want to try it, though - might be worth it.

I do agree that the both of you probably need time off from each other, but now that you made it official it's gonna be yet another insecurity building in him. Hence, he's gonna need even more time and patience even when/if you see each other again. Do not call BS unless you are absolutely sure that it is indeed BS. It seems to me that some of the things you have reacted strongly to have really baffled me - I have seen it as not necessarily BS or even bad at all. Maybe it was - after all, you were there, I was not.

All this just imo, as usual. 🙂

It is BS,he never acted like this before,he was constant.

But then again only the thought of putting myself in his shoes and hearing him talking like i talked to him about that guy makes me angry.

I would probably acted like him right now,maybe worse.

"Unlike any known sign in the zodiac, capricorn feels like investing deep his time, energy, thought process not only in the relationship but tiniest thing as well. so one can't blame them on the sincerity front.Right..If he loves someone, he won't take long to let the other person know this all.you only need to understand his way of showing it as affection, care, concern & many little things he is willing to do for the sake of it.

If anyone wanna know, if the relationship will really last long, just keep looking for his sincerity alone...they can't hide it..they know how to appreciate well important people or relations around. If he is still with you, cares for you..means automatically he has got lot of passion for you. Just that like cancerians, capricorns too feel their surroundings, happenings on a very conscious level. Anything that can remotely distract their enviro, mood, thought process affects them, kinda fixed types, not easily yield to pacify others...if they are not happy with the current situation, they would like to withdraw...

Compared to any sign, capricorns can remain detached with many situations incl. love relations to think clear of the planes & still dealing with the person concerned.He is investing, & it's worth to know that he is really going to have someone level headed by his side,they are practical too.

While they also feel uncomfortable when people can't understand their way of quite, reserved yet ambitious, honored approach towards varied things in life. getting proved wrong, foolish isn't their supposed way of dealing with things.

They liked to be challenged, can be a very good sport, yet making them uncomfortable about any fault, wrongdoings is not their way of accepting things,once this all begins, they start withdrawing from the situation as if to again re-affirm their make believe for investing in this all,If the person really deserves their precious time, energy, feelings."

Thought I'd give you an example of something I didn't get how it was BS from his pov:

"Last night after I told him that I wish him all the best he told me that i'm a good girl and that he hopes that i'll be happy and find someone that can make that happen!
That's another bs line."

You told him that you wish him all the best, and then when he does the same to you it's a BS line? Yeah, I didn't quite get that.

Love that you are trying to put yourself in his shoes. I may not have behaved like he did, but we are all different and the reason why I am so forgiving towards him is that it is very important to me personally to feel that there is no ill intent in a persons actions. As soon as I see truly sinister behaviour, I vanish. And I can see no ill intent from him whatsoever.

I think him telling you that you that he forgot about your meeting was definitely a nono, but I can at least understand his actions, that is, if he was willing to take responsibility for it, which he also did. You called him on it(rightly so) and he knew that it was wrong, so he apologised. I just get the feeling that he wishes you well.

I feel I am really trying to push you into eachother's arms, and maybe I'm in the wrong for doing so. But you should know that the reason for it is that I get a really good feeling when it comes to the two of you and I feel that it wouldn't take a lot for it to happen. But, as said, I'm not there in the situation, so I don't know. All I can do is read what you have written and respond in the way I feel is right from how I see things.

^^^Hadn't read your latest post when I posted mine. Will read it now. 🙂

Just got visitors...again. Will read later. Cya🙂

@Frenchporn:
I told him that i'm inloved with him in the middle of our discussion,I started the conversation with "why are you acting like a jerk for the passed 2 weeks",in the middle I told him that i'm inloved with him and I ended it with wishing him all the best.
That's all I had at that moment.

I don't know what i'm gonna tell him when and if he comes back my Capricorn french buddy.
Having all the answers it's not the answer.

@HappyCapper:
I wished him the best,he did the same but he added that he wish I will find someone that will make that happen.
I wouldn't say that to someone i'm in loved with,only if I want them to move on.
And this is not assuming no more,it's a fact!
He says i'm the one that wants to leave but he does it.

He didn't mentioned nothing about my feelings for him,nothing.
He could have said that he cares about me just as a friend,seeing that we were saying "our goodbyes".
He could have said that he cares about me and that's all but he didn't.
He knows i'm decisive when I make a decision. He even said that there's nothing he can say cause he knows I won't change my mind.
He was the one that assumed here.

And the truth is I am decisive and I never turn back because I think about everything before I make a decision so I can be sure and for not making a mistake,not only for me but also for the person involved.
He knows I was upset when we had that discussion,that wasn't the right time to be all "wish you happiness with somebody else".
No,you show me that you want me to stay or else i'll leave and I won't even regret it!
This is not a game,I did my part but he didn't even said one word that would make me think or make me realise that maybe i'm wrong.

I understand that and I dealt with it and by the way HappyCapper,saying you're sorry when clearly you know that you made a mistake won't make it alright!
He knew what he's doing,he did it on purpose.
He did exactly the thing that he knew will make me upset.
He apologized just for the kicks and to walk away in a respectful manner.
I told him congratulations for disappointing me and for hurting me with that.

I made a comment about a man that I didn't even liked as a man,just as a person.
I talk good about people that I believe they are good!
This is me,I tell you you're an ass if this is what I believe,there is no filter with me,you'll know it!
And I don't see how this is sooo bad to the point that you burn a relationship you weren't even commited to in the first place!
F*** that,i'm done with it.

@nasha82:
I was hurt to and I've told him,I've expressed my feelings,all of them!
Love,frustration and I still managed to keep my cool,I took in consideration that maybe he really had some crappy 2 weeks.
I'm not turning off nothing,i'll deal with it.
At least now I know i'm alone in this so I can move on.

@nasha82:
Blaming him won't make me happy or make it alright,don't get it twisted.
He liked someone before me,he is scared so he knows.
That's not the point though,his way of dealing with this situation doesn't match with mine but is his way and I respect that!
Loyalty also means to respect ones decisions,even in this case!
Thanks for the feedback though🙂

@champranger:
You could be right actually.
But I didn't told him he's a jerk,I asked why he's acting like one after he stood me up.
We talked about seeing each other and then he did the opposite.
More than that,he didn't even let me know that he won't make it.
After

After that we talked about other things,i told him about my feelings and then i wished him the best.

This is to sum up,the conversation was much longer.
Then i told him that he can cancel the number,he knows i'm changing the number,he didn't knew when but i mentioned that.
Since it was our last discussion i added that too,in fact tomorrow i'll have another number.

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@Frenchporn:
I told him that i'm inloved with him in the middle of our discussion,I started the conversation with "why are you acting like a jerk for the passed 2 weeks",in the middle I told him that i'm inloved with him and I ended it with wishing him all the best.
That's all I had at that moment.

So you started with something that would put him on the defensive ...?

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I started with where he left me yes.
If he would had come to talk like we planned i would have started with where i left him,meaning at the comment about that man.

I made a mistake and then he makes another one.
The only difference is that he made me pay for it and i told him about it.

He kept all inside and i didn't.

I reacted,he didn't,he was already in defensive since he decided to be passive and act like nothing's wrong.

He said that he knows he made a mistake and that he's sorry about that but i'm overreacting and either way it's ok since he's the only one who makes mistakes,apparently .

Then he said that it looks like i want to leave and then he wished me well,after i wished him well.

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Posted by RushOfMagic
After that we talked about other things,i told him about my feelings and then i wished him the best.

This is to sum up,the conversation was much longer.
Then i told him that he can cancel the number,he knows i'm changing the number,he didn't knew when but i mentioned that.
Since it was our last discussion i added that too,in fact tomorrow i'll have another number.

After you told him after your feelings, did he say anything before you wished him all the best? Did you give him time to process that?

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No,i didn't.

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Posted by RushOfMagic
He said that he knows he made a mistake and that he's sorry about that but i'm overreacting and either way it's ok since he's the only one who makes mistakes,apparently .

Then he said that it looks like i want to leave and then he wished me well,after i wished him well.

So it does sound like he believes there's no point in explaining himself to you ...

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After 1 year i could have also believed there's no point of us together but then again,here i am.

This is the first time in all this period that one of us opened this subject so some mistakes had been made,we already know we both messed up.

What was to explain champranger?

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@Frenchporn:
I told him that i'm inloved with him in the middle of our discussion,I started the conversation with "why are you acting like a jerk for the passed 2 weeks",in the middle I told him that i'm inloved with him and I ended it with wishing him all the best.
That's all I had at that moment.

That may just have sounded like the least sincere declaration of love since the last ice age. Sorry. Can't blame him for not taking that seriously.

Posted by nasha82
You will know what to say if ever you do see him, just listern to your heart and the words will come, the heart always wins over the head, if he cant do the same atleast you will look back with no regrets, just my opinion, good luck

Agreed!

But please take loads of deep breaths - it seems to me you get in trouble when you get triggered and heated, RushOfMagic.

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@HappyCapper:
I wished him the best,he did the same but he added that he wish I will find someone that will make that happen.
I wouldn't say that to someone i'm in loved with,only if I want them to move on.
And this is not assuming no more,it's a fact!
He says i'm the one that wants to leave but he does it.

I still don't get it. If I really really care about someone I truly wish them the best, including them finding someone who will make them happy. And this includes exes.

You posted on this forum for a reason - there was a guy and he acted in ways you didn't understand. This was a very smart move, I think, because I really don't think you understand him at all. I think you're trying, though, which is the point of this whole thread, so again, good move.

Now, I think you may be stuck in a rut when it comes to this, because I feel you are arguing the same points over and over again, not realising that the problem is that your arguments are based upon your thinking that he is and reacts just like you would have. This is ofc normal, as we tend to go back to ourselves when trying to understand other people, but not very helpful this very moment.

Not saying you have to agree with anything - just understand.

Tbh, I have understood his every move in this except for the non-notifying you about the gettogether, but I haven't understood all of your reasonings and actions. That doesn't mean that me and him are right and you are wrong, but that we are different people. As said, you are here in this thread because you want to understand him. This is not easy, which is why you may have to try to disregard your own feelings for just a moment and think about what he may be feeling and how he may be thinking. This is to me the key for you to understand this, regardles of whether it is for you wanting to get together with him or if it is to give you peace of mind.

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@Frenchporn:
I told him that i'm inloved with him in the middle of our discussion,I started the conversation with "why are you acting like a jerk for the passed 2 weeks",in the middle I told him that i'm inloved with him and I ended it with wishing him all the best.
That's all I had at that moment.

That may just have sounded like the least sincere declaration of love since the last ice age. Sorry. Can't blame him for not taking that seriously.

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Ok,i can see why it seems that way but the conversation was long and not even close to cold or insincere.

A declaration of love should not be "analysed" nor make sense,maybe it's not even close to a "declaration" but it's mine and i'm not gonna think about if i sounded sincere or not when i told him that i'm in loved with him.

I don't see why someone would even bother to feel and look vulnerable in front of someone else if it wouldn't be sincere.

"Now, I think you may be stuck in a rut when it comes to this, because I feel you are arguing the same points over and over again, not realising that the problem is that your arguments are based upon your thinking that he is and reacts just like you would have. This is ofc normal, as we tend to go back to ourselves when trying to understand other people, but not very helpful this very moment.

Not saying you have to agree with anything - just understand."

Yes,you couldn't be more right about this. About everything actually.

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@Frenchporn:
I told him that i'm inloved with him in the middle of our discussion,I started the conversation with "why are you acting like a jerk for the passed 2 weeks",in the middle I told him that i'm inloved with him and I ended it with wishing him all the best.
That's all I had at that moment.

That may just have sounded like the least sincere declaration of love since the last ice age. Sorry. Can't blame him for not taking that seriously.

Ok,i can see why it seems that way but the conversation was long and not even close to cold or insincere.

A declaration of love should not be "analysed" nor make sense,maybe it's not even close to a "declaration" but it's mine and i'm not gonna think about if i sounded sincere or not when i told him that i'm in loved with him.

I don't see why someone would even bother to feel and look vulnerable in front of someone else if it wouldn't be sincere.

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I think it may be a good idea to think about if it sounded sincere or not, as his reactions to it would depend on his interpretation of it.