Do Caps hate advice/feedback...stubborn?

The cap I've been dating for about 3 weeks is very hard to read. Which as a Libra this isnt something thats typically hard for me. He'll stress about school and when I try to give him advice, he shuts out and veers off like thats not what he meant. When its clear. So ill go along with, its frustrsting but im being patient, that was yesterday. Then today he felt sick, and hasnt had the best health in the past. I tell him he should go to the doctors in case it gets worse. He says he doesnt want to, but goes on how he might have type two diabetes etc. What am I supposed to answer about that? I tell him kinda the same thing and say im just looking out for him. Been a couple hours, assuming hes taking a nap but I dont want him to shut out. He was somewhat distant yesterday and I dont want that to happen today. I dont know caps at all, this is veryyyy confusing! What do I do or say? Ay yi yI. Haha thanks guys!

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The cap I've been dating for about 3 weeks is very hard to read. Which as a Libra this isnt something thats typically hard for me. He'll stress about school and when I try to give him advice, he shuts out and veers off like thats not what he meant. When its clear. So ill go along with, its frustrsting but im being patient, that was yesterday. Then today he felt sick, and hasnt had the best health in the past. I tell him he should go to the doctors in case it gets worse. He says he doesnt want to, but goes on how he might have type two diabetes etc. What am I supposed to answer about that? I tell him kinda the same thing and say im just looking out for him. Been a couple hours, assuming hes taking a nap but I dont want him to shut out. He was somewhat distant yesterday and I dont want that to happen today. I dont know caps at all, this is veryyyy confusing! What do I do or say? Ay yi yI. Haha thanks guys!

Don't nag him! don't overanalyze anything! go with the flow, do your thing, he will come around. U probably idolized him and went in emotionally too fast like libras usually do. I didn't know caps at all until I started dating one few months ago and I realized they are beyond easy to read, u just gotta take your pink shades off and see him for who he really is. Caps are usually "what u see is what u get"...

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Well I'm definitely not nagging him I've been trying 2 parent him in a way, I'm saying it in a caring way. But you make a point, what do you mean by I probably idolized him. That's interesting and I'm curious!

Woops! Meant not trying to parent him! Hahaha. Geeze.

Just ask him! Do you need company? Do you want help with something? Be blunt with him. He will respect the honesty more then anything else. He is watching you to see if you care and TRY to take care of his needs...

Just for your info: He is already watching you watch him. STOP WATCHING HIM and he will eventually drop his guard.

They hate to be wrong, and they hate to have it pointed out to them, and they hate to be wrong and have it pointed out to them in public. Dont show them up..rather pretend they are right and just play along.

I, for one, don't like to be told what to do and can't stand unsolicited advice (when that happens, you think I'm listening, but I'm not). So, don't push him, nag him, constantly harp on it, or boss him around. You've already expressed your opinion, so drop it for a little while. He doesn't trust your opinion yet, you've only started dating. No offense to you, I can see you are concerned and are genuine.

Be supportive. Let him know you care.

If he keeps whining, tell him to put up or shut up. Either go to the doctor like you suggested, or don't, but if he's not going, then quit his bitching about it (and yes, you'll go with him if he would like). Be direct, be hard assed - he might not seem to like it, but he will respect you.

Oh, I did like the money aspect appeal. That does tend to knock some sense into a cap. lol! He might not be old enough to appreciate it, though.