going No Contact is a good idea

going No Contact is a good idea

sorry ,my post went online to quick-).
Anyway,after some time dragging myself to salsa and trying to be cheerfull,i realise iam not happy with the situation( i realise iam going more for reconciliation with my ex,from my point of wiew,now).
Getting jealous when he is dancing with other people,also,not good for me.
Also,doing a lot of comunication every day(99 procent starting from my part),doesnt make me happy either.
I realise i became a puppy,he was the dumper(i was stroking his ego,concerned about him,so on).
So yesterday,i send a txt saying iam not going to salsa anymore,because there are some feelings remainings and situation doesnt make me happy,i need space.
His answer was- do as you want,is not about feelings is about learning new beautiful things at salsa??
So today is first day of No contact ,feeling a bit empowered.
p.s.I think he erase me from his friends list,he might be upset,idont know,his bussiness.
Iam staying strong to clear my heart for the next guy.

Going no-contact is not limited to the idea of "moving on". It helps you empower yourself, to analyze your relationship "from the outside", while allowing emotions to cool and settle.

Yes, it can lead to moving on, or it can also lead to finding a new approach to a relationship that was in difficulty.

Thanks,i didnt recognise myself lately,i felt like i gave all my power away and become more emotional and unhappy every day(and this in only 2 months since i started /tried to do the friends stuff,but for sure i wasnt ready for this).
So,iam the most important person in the world for me,its time to be selfish for myself!-)

Posted by mika7
Thanks,i didnt recognise myself lately,i felt like i gave all my power away and become more emotional and unhappy every day(and this in only 2 months since i started /tried to do the friends stuff,but for sure i wasnt ready for this).
So,iam the most important person in the world for me,its time to be selfish for myself!-)

Losing power to someone that you love (or care about strongly) can happen to the best of us. The problem is that it can be very self-destructive. So taking some of that power back and stepping back for a while can be very therapeutic.

In the beginning it can be scary because you feel afraid of "losing the person", but as you say, you need to be a bit selfish until you regain your own power in the relationship.