*groan*

My Virgo asked me what I wanted for Christmas... I HATE that Q!! IDK, IDC, something from the heart...

But, I have a tendency to ask a Q in response to a Q... so I asked what he wanted in response. No answer 😛

At least he's thinking ahead LOL

So, how do you all handle such a Q— "What do you want for ... ?"

Ummm, I thought I read something on the virgo board about you two being over?

Not true, or did I read the wrong thing or are you back together?

What's your mars and venus lildol? Just curious.

^^^^^ oohhhhhhh got it, well now I go see what kind of gift a venus in Sag likes lol!!!!!!!

Sweet, thanks Shaka 😄

@Shaks - good memory my dear!!! *hugs*

@CappySweetie - it was how I was feeling about what he said at the time, or, rather, thinking about it was eating me up. But, since that post, he's raised concern about if I decide I want to get rid of him next year where does that leave him? (because I hold the purse strings at this point - I basically told him he was wasting his time worrying about such stuff). So, here we are him wanting to know what I want for Christmas... no, not a man wanting to cut ties, not in the least bit (regardless of what my post on the Virgo board sounded like - that was my own insecurity issues I suppose).

Purse strings? I will have to ask what that phase means later but okay lol.

You must be really in love with this virgo guy 🙂 I mean, just with all the stuff from then to now. And NOW we are on to Christmas gifts.

Well, here we go:

A gift for Mars in Scorpio and Venus in Sagittarius -- anything from Victoria's Secret 😉

😛 NOT ME... I don't care for gifts really... hate 'em. IDK, didn't like 'em as a kid either. BLAH... you know I'm a little bah humbug about the whole Christmas thing anyway. I guess I would be hurt if I go nothing at all. But, the fact he's thinking about it really means the world to me, more so than anything he could ever give me.

Do you actually tell somewhat WHAT you want? That is soooo awkward to me.

Re: purse strings... I got the money babe!!! I got control (a Caps dream LOL). Actually, I've turned into his financial manager (he's not so good about money management - live high when the living is good - any good Cap would want to see someone out of that situation and work toward the future, thus I've taken the reigns and in the end it will be to my benefit and will help him as well). I did something for him to his benefit and told him it was all for him, he said "no, it's for us" I responded with "that's why we have each other" his response "Exactly!". I want him to succeed, he said he wants me to succeed even further... I can say that my plans have played out pretty much exactly as I thought they would as far as me overseeing finances! He wants us in a place that in 5 yrs we'll be living rather comfortably, he sees me as the key to making that happen.

Get the heck out of here already

Posted by lildol
😛 NOT ME... I don't care for gifts really... hate 'em. IDK, didn't like 'em as a kid either. BLAH... you know I'm a little bah humbug about the whole Christmas thing anyway. I guess I would be hurt if I go nothing at all. But, the fact he's thinking about it really means the world to me, more so than anything he could ever give me.

Do you actually tell somewhat WHAT you want? That is soooo awkward to me.

Re: purse strings... I got the money babe!!! I got control (a Caps dream LOL). Actually, I've turned into his financial manager (he's not so good about money management - live high when the living is good - any good Cap would want to see someone out of that situation and work toward the future, thus I've taken the reigns and in the end it will be to my benefit and will help him as well). I did something for him to his benefit and told him it was all for him, he said "no, it's for us" I responded with "that's why we have each other" his response "Exactly!". I want him to succeed, he said he wants me to succeed even further... I can say that my plans have played out pretty much exactly as I thought they would as far as me overseeing finances! He wants us in a place that in 5 yrs we'll be living rather comfortably, he sees me as the key to making that happen.

I WOULD 😄 I tell someone what I want and then I expect to get it 😛 But I like surprises too, I LOVE surprises.

Oh yeah, that's right, you handle the finances. You know that's so funny because I know I'm a capricorn and all but I HATE dealing with my own fiances. OMG, I hate it, I absolutely dread it. I use to like doing it but I'm not sure what happened, as I got older, I know I have to do it but OMG, I hate it xD

That's because there is no sense of accomplishment doing it for ourselves... when we do it for someone else, we feel as though we are making a difference and improving the lives of others!! At least that is the way I look at it... we easily take life in stride and make things work no matter what, no big deal, success comes natural. But, when we can help others for whom it does not/is not come(ing) along we feel a sense of accomplishment just because we were able to assist another along and help them achieve some sort of success not matter how minor.

You should've said, "You". That would've been one good hit on the ice barrier.

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Posted by cappysweetie
Get the heck out of here already

STFU or GTFO no one is talking to you mate.

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but I'm talking to you.

mate

Posted by lildol
That's because there is no sense of accomplishment doing it for ourselves... when we do it for someone else, we feel as though we are making a difference and improving the lives of others!! At least that is the way I look at it... we easily take life in stride and make things work no matter what, no big deal, success comes natural. But, when we can help others for whom it does not/is not come(ing) along we feel a sense of accomplishment just because we were able to assist another along and help them achieve some sort of success not matter how minor.

Maybe that's it xD If I were doing it for someone else, maybe I wouldn't mind as much but OMG, I like having money and I can save money or dear I hate having to figure things out with it.

It's good that you are helping him 🙂 He better give you a good Christmas gift for doing that 😄

"I did something for him to his benefit and told him it was all for him, "

lildol is "PAYING" for love...she has a history of over giving...She is not his wife but she's financially investing herself so much so that she believes he will cave in and stay with her...good luck with that

She wasn't insecure, she just reeled his ass back in with that money and attention and whatever else she's doing to keep his attention....good luck with that one too

She will be right back here whining that he no longer wants her....Christmas gift? Try a card since he's financially strapped.

she's his benefactor...whatever happened to him going on the road to make money...guess he was able to convince you to pay his way on the slick side whilst he plays the doting boyfriend...must be nice

people here and people that lurk but not post asked me to stay and bombarded me with emails to keep up my info, so I'm still around....I will be lurking and posting from time to time. I figure when I finally leave for good (If) I decide to do that I will leave up my profile.

TIKI !!!!!!!! 😄!!!!! YOU ARE STILL HERE 😄!!!!!!!

Yep...I'll leave when I'm good and ready *WINK* lol

That's right ^_^.

LS drive in your lane and try not to get your panties bunched, If I want to give relationship advice whether asked or otherwise well it's my prerogative *wink*

@Tiki - I never had to reel him back in with money or attention as you put it. The dynamics have not changed other than the fact that I can't see him daily (because he's not here). He just calls me constantly... but, then again, that's nothing new either, he's always called constantly when he's not home. And as far as money matters go - his checks get mailed to me or money wired into our acct and uses a debit card to access it.

Yep he has his hands in your pockets, it's not uncommon for this to happen to women, to merge funds, he appears to give you his money as so he gets access to yours all under the guise of a relationship she loosens the grip and he gains access and he doesn't have to take her money b/c she willingly gives and give and give hoping for a pay off....shrugs oh well life goes on

@Tiki - HA! I about spit out my coffee with that one! He doesn't have access to my money or bank acct... we don't have combined monies *rolls eyes* - you do seem to underestimate me!

@LS - you're right, I don't owe anyone an explanation. Thanks!!

be consistent...you said wired into our account, you also made it clear you pay his way albeit it gifts/paying a bill/helping him out, if you said (his account) well that should alleviate any misconceptions that your not giving him access...

I'm done with your back peddling stupidity, I shall move on from this dead horse as P-Angel has consistently pointed out your story doesn't add up because the forest is too thick and you can't see the forest from the trees.

LS STFU...I have no more of a vested interest than anyone else on DXP...It's a forum, we speak our opinions, we generally say what we want to whom we want to say it to.

No one asked you to co-sign, lildol is capable of dealing with me without your help...

Do you have a vested interest in me speaking to her? You seem stalker like over me or you wouldn't say a word to me so you are no better because no one is speaking directly to you. I said I'm done with it and here you come captain co-sign save em...

I say what I want...Get the fuck over it

Yes Tiki, I said OUR acct that does not mean my money is in there, its accessible to both of us. I also have his social security number, his driver's license number and online access to his other accts... if anyone could do anyone over, I'm in the position to do so, not he! *smh*

Maybe you need to try to think more like a Cap, or, at minimum, a more pragmatic sign, so that you can better understand reason for action, self-preservation and positioning. My actions are calculated and not in the way or for the reasons that you think! Nothing is EVER a sudden revelation or rash decision...

at least not when it comes to financial affairs!

I knew you could talk for yourself lildol and you always seem to fill in the gaps after you manage to lie and back peddle...

I don't for a second believe your money is not in that account, your attempting to prove how much you love him and want him to stay with you and what better way to do that than to give him full access to your life, I can only take your word that you haven't given him that and yet I don't believe for a second you haven't given him access to your money only because history dictates that you give in forms of affection, paying his bills, giving him money for business transactions, giving to him period. In reality if you were someone he truly wanted as a real girlfriend the last thing he would do is take from you ever even if you willingly chose to give it away.

It's all been questionable to say the least and you always seem to back peddle and clean it up...so yeah I'm done

LOL@Quick....there is a cancer that needs your help. throw on your cape before she gets away!!!

As long as there are lonely silly thinking desperate needy women gotta have a piece of man over no man around there will be a Tiki lurking in the background shouting wake the fake up, know your worth and throw away that la la land mentality...

I twisted...Let it go

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Posted by cappysweetie

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Posted by cappysweetie
Get the heck out of here already

STFU or GTFO no one is talking to you mate.

but I'm talking to you.

mate

Your going to die a very slow and painful death.

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You first sugar 😉

Posted by Prince_Pisces
My Virgo asked me what I wanted for Christmas... I HATE that Q!!

what?! LOL thats the best question ever! lol

I know 😄 Heavens, I love gifts, I do, I do lol

For Tiki 😉 And me too 😄! No one understands me, but ...

Britney Spears' version sucks!!!

So glad it was a remake xD This one is cooler 😄

Like I said! It's for me and Tiki 😄!

But lildoll can have it too I don't care whatever lol

Posted by cappysweetie
For Tiki 😉 And me too 😄! No one understands me, but ...

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I remember the days when I used to dream about boning bobby brown...so sinful lol

doing the cabbage patch....they don't understand me....they really don't know the deal...get busy

@Sultanaa, it's all good! 😄

I think I'll go with bluetooth headset for his phone (drives me nuts that he always has me on speaker phone when driving).

He asked if I wanted him to mail me my gift, or wait to give it to me when I go down next week. But, given the holiday mail, it would probably arrive at my place while I was in FL with him!!