How does a Cancer female woe a Cap male

do you guys like cancer girls, anyways, how do cap guys like to be approached by women, how would we cath your eye?

thnx guys. im just wondering cuz im kinda involved with a cap guy n im just tryin to figure out what to do lol.theres def a stronggg connection, its almost like i get kinda shy around him u kno, i feel he does to. when we txt tho its a different story. so idk haha.

@ M what do u mean by after you want a relationship?? like as in a cancer needing reassurance or the cap?

I think the shyness is the fear of doing or saying something stupid to kill the connection...IMO. I was like that around my Cappy at first, but as time passed the walls came down (for both sides). I don't think you should feel you have to do something to catch his eye, you already have. Let him pursue you and if he's interested, he will definitely go out of his way be with you.

We cancers tend to need the constant reassurance, which completely exhausts Cappy. They don't understand it and really get turned off by it. My advice, let things happen at their own pace, keep yourself busy with your own interests, let cappy come around to you, fight your insecurity as best you can...communicate with cappy. Direct and to the point communication works best, no emotional manipulation (which cancers are extremely good at), cappy will see right through it and lose interest.

Just some insight from a cancer girl who loves her cappy guy.....

Absolutely, a reaction/acknowledgement is needed, but I think the cappy's pace/timing for reassurance is key.

Cancer girl loves to hear and see that she's important to Cappy (all the time) and Cappy will say and do the right thing, Cancer will acknowledges and/or reciprocate, Cappy is happy (thinks the job is done)...

Cancer girl starts to wonder, where is my care and importance THIS WEEK...Cappy's confused, thinks he's already made her feel special LAST WEEK and he's not ready to do it again, yet...

I finally figured out that Cappy is going to reassure me, but it will be on HIS TIMEFRAME...

I'm so guilty of that! I learned quickly, that I have to communicate the feeling in a way that Cappy can relate...he is a ponderer, so I have to give him time to digest (timing timing timing). And it's more timing for him to translate what I've said into terms he can relate to. He's a thinker and I'm a feeler and that's takes plenty of communication and understanding to work out.

very interesting, hmm now that im lookn at the sitch with all this knowledge, im starting to find things similar in him to what u guys r tlkn about, like rejection n stuff. i noticed if i have to reject an offer, hell say things to i guess make it easiar on him lol idk. but yea im going to commnicate more and i guess do more actions

lol todays gonna be a good day

I am a Cancer girl with a Cap male. We just talked,and i was myself. I Listened to him,and didnt get loud and in his face. I Let him pursue me, but once he did, i showed him i was interested, Mine likes verbal. He likes to be told he is wanted and needed, and if you treat him sweet he will be sweet, but if you act like a bitch, he can act like a huge asshole. lol.... just be yourself!!!!!!

ok cool thnx guysss.

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Posted by CanceritaBonita
I'm so guilty of that! I learned quickly, that I have to communicate the feeling in a way that Cappy can relate...

He said how it made him fall in love with me all over again. I was baffled, because we tell each that we love each other regularly. It wasn't a secret how I felt about him, I had expressed it so many times before, so I didn't see the big deal.
But he said the fact that it was not intentional, and that I didn't do it for some sort of response let him know that it was real(??) and he said we need to take more pictures together.
Apparently he needed some reassurance too, I dunno. But that was the point where things really started to get even better between us and it's all been uphill since.

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They will participate in the "I Love You's", but its the out of the blue action or letter or note that will really get to them. I think they need that support to understand and internalize that you do care about and love them. I've come to rationalize that Cappy needs to know there is a solid foundation and support for love, anything less and it's not taken serious...

It appears that all is well in each of our relationships...nice to read about the success stories (must be that cancer moon they have 😉 )!