I just got accused of the disappearance act!

Your not that into him lol.

Have you ever been the recipient of the *disappearance"? It doesnt feel good, does it?

Somehow it seems you're getting off on his displeasure...?

Posted by truecap
I was like "its only been 5 days!" Geesh!

LOL! i just had to comment because the title and your comment/reaction to it was funny ...Eventhough I am a Cancer and have been in the receiving end of a Cap "disappearance" and I swear I couldn't even last 5 days ...I just look back to it now and it makes me chuckle how silly the courting process is for humans in general. ::sigh::

Posted by lnana04
Your not that into him lol.

+++++1 ROFLMAO.....

Posted by lnana04
Your not that into him lol.

hahahaha....


Yeah I admit 5 days is a long time not to talk to someone.

I'll admit when I didn't hear from someone for 5 days I just assume they are avoiding me OR that they don't revolve around me and I don't revolve around them. Somehow that doesn't bother me.

Indeed.. 5 days is such a long days. I agreed with Inana04. You're not into him yet.

He has definitely not been "into" you either by the look of things 😛

Posted by lnana04
Your not that into him lol.

id have to agree

but where the hell was he at during the 5 days— he coulda picked up the phone 2...begs a few other questions about how your partner feels about himself..self esteem, rejection caused by their partner not being up their ass. some people need constant affirmation. on the other hand, he may have no life so he sits by the phone and waits.

I'm not dating him, just a male Taurus friend I chat with on-line. In fact, I've never even met him in person.

And, yes, I have been on the other end, but I always understood when people get caught up in work, etc.

The thing that I love about my Cap friend is that we can go days, weeks, months, even a year without speaking and will pick it back up like we never left off. My Cap father and I are also like this. I'll go months without talking to him, and a year or two without seeing him and when we see each-other we give a little hug and it's like "hey, what you been up to?"

Of course, romantic relationship are different, but I understand when my Cap friend disappears on me and vice versa. Other friends, not so much, which is why I don't have many, and again, I'm sure it's different for romantic relationships. Even then though, if a person let me know in advance, "hey, I'm gonna be busy for the next 3 weeks with work/school" then I'd be okay without hearing from them. *shrugs*

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by lnana04
Even then though, if a person let me know in advance, "hey, I'm gonna be busy for the next 3 weeks with work/school" then I'd be okay without hearing from them. *shrugs*

That would be wonderful to hear a statement like this, because it gives the other person a heads up. Unfortunately, my experience has been based on sudden disappearance acts. It's very painful and from my personal perspective disrespectful.

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Yeah...respect, communication, courtesy, and all that jazzz...

I'm going thru the same thing. Met a guy about 8 months ago thru close friends and he said to our mutual friend he is very interested. Initially he would send me
A random message every few days to see how's things and then suddenly the disappearing act. So one time I gave it 2 weeks and nothing... So I im him and he was like he's been busy. So I said to him it would be nice every once in a while that u initiate contact or chat and not just rely on me n he sent me a smiley face. Then I let things be for 4 weeks and nothing- I wanted to see if he would even bother N
I felt it was getting out of hand so I messaged him an asked why he was such a loner and he responds sorry been busy with work and being out stationed but I knew full well he had been on Facebook etc and going out with friends so I let it go.
Now it's been just over 8 weeks and he has not taken hint or even bothered to message me. So I told our mutual friend that I don't want to waste my time with a guy like this. There is no way that a woman should do all the pursing. If I have indicated and shown that I am
Interested I expect the man to initiate things every now and then and I simply said to my friend that I refuse to message this guy and ask what the hell or respond to his message if any. That was 2 weeks ago I chatted to my friend and nothing.
If this guy does message me saying sorry been busy with work studies and sport, I feel like not even bothering or just saying well u were free enough to post on Facebook. Now dun bother with me... I really dunno what to do. There's a guy who really likes u there is hot chemistry and he doesn't even bother to message u or check up on u, it's hard to not feel a little hurt

Sadly, few people have the emotional maturity to end a relationship with respect by saying goodbye. They just slink away like cowards. Happened to me. Just have to accept it and move on.