Confusing Cap. Story. (Warning it is very long!)

Hi there, I'm new here but this is what I think..
Your capi doesn't want you to leave...
He's testing you to see how you react to certain situations
as there's lots of family events (BBQ/brunch etc) he doesn't wanna cause a
scene...
You have played it very well (keeping calm maintaining a happy appearance
in front of family and friends etc) even thou you both
have a lot to talk about -post fight etc

I think he's starting to warm to you again n he was defo testing you making you angry etc
You may have just PASSED the test!!!

If you feel that his behaviour now is getting better I'd leave it and not bring up the argument n stuff
Up sounds like he's trying to move passed it n be better.

If you feel that u have to bring it up n need to mention it

Do it in a way where he doesn't feel threatened/or like your having a go at him.
He knows he's messed up but won't want you telling him that.

Maybe just cuddle n say that u want to work on it and there's things he needs to do to show you
That he's making an effort n tell him to play nice?
Hope that helps!!

I have a capi friend and when he's messed up big time I let it rip
Being a cancer it doesn't help one but as I get all emotional n have to let it all out
Then when I've calmed down it dawns on me that I shouldn't have done that
It did help the situation but after I say I'm sorry.. Capi hides for two weeks n comes back
No mention of the situation n all is rosy again..!

Ps sorry skipped over the response to you reading the txts..

That's a hard one - shouldn't b reading his txts and he shouldn't be telln his ex stuff about your personal
Relationship... You can bring this up but both are to blame for diff reasons but it's not gonna help the situation in my opinion.

If you can get passed this - since you prob have talked /fought over the issue.
I would just say that it's not fair for him to tell his ex about the issues you are having in your relationship n that if he needs to discuss it should only be with you
Be firm and then let it drop. Don't bring up old arguments capi's hate that

Am I too late?!??!!? Read this......

Your gut telling you to go through his phone was one thing
Then finding that type of convo with his ex
Then him admitting that he's not stimulated

That's just too much to continue to give this the green light imho.

Posted by Metoo
I have steam coming out of my ears for what you saw in those texts.

Sadly I think you're mistaken. Wasn't telling her to salvage the relationship. More like PREPARING her for the aftermath of the break up. Honestly I feel very very insulted when I get misunderstood here sometimes.

If you do believe astrology then you'll know that Capricorn mans aren't players and we have a reputation for being cold and direct especially in areas of love. If the intent is to break up, IT WILL happen eventually. We don't leave people dangling emotionally because that is just irresponsible. It'll be a VERY, very clear and direct cut. Again we do not leave people dangling.

"I don't want a relationship with you."
then.............
"In three years, you will be my wife. I don't care who you are with, what you are doing, it won't matter because it will happen."

I would have stopped and cut off every single emotion@"I don't want a relationship with you." Really, what can honestly mean much of anything after that is said?

I think emotional dangling is the person being unsure, and stringing you along without telling you much of anything. You think it's going someone, but it's really not and they are keeping you close until something better comes along.

The guy you speak of Elle is not doing emotional dangling imo. He's just emotionally unstable, and going from one extreme to the next. That's all him and his problems, which means the intent to pull strings or play puppet master may not be there as much as it seem.

*somewhere

Posted by capgirl75
"I don't want a relationship with you."
then.............
"In three years, you will be my wife. I don't care who you are with, what you are doing, it won't matter because it will happen."

Oh my God, I have done this. 😢 But I didn't mean to screw with anyone. Person is still my friend and I probably should apologize.

What made you go from one extreme to the next?

I believe some of us can have too many On/Off switches. I'll feel good today about someone/something, but the total opposite tomorrow. That's horrible.

Posted by lnana04
"I don't want a relationship with you."
then.............
"In three years, you will be my wife. I don't care who you are with, what you are doing, it won't matter because it will happen."

I would have stopped and cut off every single emotion@"I don't want a relationship with you." Really, what can honestly mean much of anything after that is said?

I think emotional dangling is the person being unsure, and stringing you along without telling you much of anything. You think it's going someone, but it's really not and they are keeping you close until something better comes along.

The guy you speak of Elle is not doing emotional dangling imo. He's just emotionally unstable, and going from one extreme to the next. That's all him and his problems, which means the intent to pull strings or play puppet master may not be there as much as it seem.

My heart already feels broken 10x over. I forgot how to respect myself above anyone.. It's such a sad thing for a Scorpio! I'm not myself.

I don't have the astro skill to read deeply into our charts or I would have long time ago.

I just know we miss the mark. Like we both always wanted the same thing but it was NEVER dealt at the same time. And we only understand and talk about things after something messes up.

+1 Elle

"I'm not intelectually stimulated by you, sorry"

RAISE YOUR STANDARDS! Or settle for someone whose just not that into you intellectually or otherwise and this could explain why there is so much conflict, fighting and tension, the drama is STIMULATING intellectually but at the same time there is a huge loss of respect on his part for you, he know damn well you are settling and he's losing respect and a loss of respect equates to a loss of attraction, take into consideration the sex flows freely and until he finds a replacement you'll do.

Save what little self esteem you have left before you turn into a beggar which isn't attractive by the way, basically, humiliating yourself just to say you have someone in your life.

not only long but boring.

Posted by james tate
not only long but boring.

with respect mr.tate- I never forced you to read it now did I ?

thank you ladies for you wonderful insight.. After some time and self strength finding.. I am in a much better place now. With not only myself, but in the eyes of others. =).