Inside the mind of a cap...

Ive noticed a huge obstinent streak in my cap. Does that boil down to the fact that he must be in control at all times?

Ive noticed a huge obstinent streak in my cap. Does that boil down to the fact that he must be in control at all times?
Yeap, he was total control all the time. You however are your own entity, your own being, your own soul, your own identity. Let him know that he cannot control YOU! If you want the relationship to turn out for the best he can be the head of the relationship and you can be the heart. I wouldn't let him have complete control over my mind, body and soul.

i lived with a cap man for 10 years, and we were friends for a year before that.

yes, he had an obstinate streak, and had to have things under control all the time but he responded best to a rational, logical approach ... as long as i was reasonable in 'stating my case' he eventually saw things my way.

this applied to everything from everyday little things to major decisions...irrational and dramatics definitely did not work. altho i did walk out on him for one afternoon shortly after we moved in together. maybe that showed him early on i meant business, lol. but after that, we never had any major fights...everything was a rational 'discussion'.