IS IT OVER....?

ok. before you guys start laughing..I need your point of view..so I put up a few posts looking for advice and value each and every one..
So this is what' s up ...my cap and I talked ever day last week..made plans to see each other on saturday...he suggested us gettign together...seemed excited about it...saturday I called him and left him a message adn a text wantign to know what time we're getting together...I have NEVER heard from him since....that was last saturday...Should I just forget about it...I did not call again and i am not planning to...I have known this guy off and on for quite some time now....

You should know the drill by now..lol..He's missed a date, hasn't got back to you..either somethings up and he's busy or he's backing away who knows what goes on that head of theirs..Just get on with you life as though you'd never met him for you own peace of mind..

oh my God...you could be describing the cap guy who i agonized over for almost 4 years, he would pull this shit constantly...and one never knew what would happen because sometimes, just sometimes, he'd actually follow through with the plans...but...never ever could i truly count on him...but it was those surprising wonderful times that would keep reeling me back in, i can't tell you how many times i said "that's it, I'm done" to myself, and then he'd do something wonderful and caring and there I'd be, hooked again...until...the inevitable let-downs...
don't have any advice cause i certainly didn't follow my own...but i'm having deja vu just reading your posts...we've been done for quite some time now, he moved far away...and although i swear to God, it's the best thing that's happened to me for him to go away..there are still times i miss him and the fun we had when he was so "there"...BUT and it's a big BUT...the grief, anxiety, frustration, humiliation etc were horrible...he was like an addictive drug, i knew it was killing me but could not quite detox completely until i was forced to..i'm ashamed to admit that but it's the truth

It aint over till the fat lady sings!

She sang in my heart and finally in my head...loud and clear...

Well thats your cue then young lady..Go do your thang...and don't look back..I think you've invested enough time in that knucklehead..(as they are commonly known on these boards)

Ditto on mm...follow your instinct..

I think hes dead someone killed him for standing them up last weekend.

Lol @ James...Been on the booze again have we?

By jove, I think you've got something there James. Why that makes purrfect sense. And furthermore, that bloak deserves everything he got coming to 'im. That's what I say.

Let's 'ave us anotha pint on that thought!..
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I had a BF Cap too...Therefore, Cap men is like that naturally...For me they are not keeping their words...Whatever his reason is...he's naturally not sticking to his words..

DO NOT CALL HIM!!!!! LET HIM GET BACK TO YOU AND, YOU ACT AS IF YOU TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT THE PLAN.. TAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM VERY NON-CHALANTLY. DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING HE SAYS SERIOUSLY, DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING FROM HIM AND ACT LIKE YOU CAN TAKE HIM OR LEAVE HIM. IF HE MAKES ANOTHER PLAN WITH YOU SAY OK WHATEVER. GO OUT HAVE FUN AND TRY TO MEET OTHER MEN. NEXT TIME HE CALLS ANSWER AND SAY LET ME CALL YOU BACK, AND DO NOT CALL HIM BACK. DO WHAT HE DOES TO YOU

Having simular thoughts about my new Cappy girlfriend. But it has been suggested that I hang in there, and I'm try...ing...to.... it's so hard tho...

I haven't had a landline phone, only a cell with expensive minutes and so we'd been emailing back and forth. (I'm on a WiFi LAN) So Monday I finally got a home phone again, and have been trying to call her all week... only get her voice mail... was getting worried, but today I finally heard from her in an email saying it's been crazy at work... so I'm trying to calm down, = )

Send him an email, but don't bother him about where he's been etc... just be nice and matter of fact... don't get on his case etc... It's very possible he's just been really hassled at work or something... give him a chance.

Yea... I'm getting my closure and getting over him finally. He is acting so bizarre and immature, that I have lost all respect for him. After getting in touch and telling me to call him, he won't return the call. He emailed for 2 hours w/ me Monday back and forth and claims that he doesn't have my phone number-- to explain the phone call issue. He is totally being stupid and playing games bc. I'd called and texted him a few times the past weeks. I had changed my cell number on him a YEAR ago, bc. of him and when I was mad. I think he's now been doing this since then, refusing to call, bc. of a major grudge/hurt feelings he's harboring. It's become just way TOO dark and freaky, bordering on sadistic or something.