Is my Cappy Really Done?

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scorpio1108
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I'll try and keep this as short as possible... I'm a scorpio dating a cap for about 4-1/2 months... seemed like everything was going great, i would ask him often if things are ok or if he's happy as he is extremely hard to read. He would always say yes plus he is extremely affectionate (even in public). I noticed he was acting a bit off the last two weeks so I tried to give him as much space as possible. We have always been like that from the beginning we both enjoying doing our own things then meeting up when we have time (usually a minimum of once a week we've also met each others families and friends ). He texts me Thursday saying good morning and he hopes I have a great day... then bam that evening he tells me he doesn't feel a spark there and that he doesn't think the relationship is going to last or go anywhere promising. He said that he cares about me a lot and I'm the first girl in a very long time (8 years actually) that he has got along with so well.. I was totally blown away as i had never felt this at all, we always seemed great together. I mentioned i wasn't happy he did it over text but i respected his feelings nad he can't help if he feels that way but there are no hard feelings. I ran into his best friend and he said that he hasn't really left his room and has been extremely off, he hadn't even told his best friend he had dumped me! He was very insistent that we continue to be friends but I have yet to talk to text him since thursday night. I don't know what to do, I was starting to fall in love with the guy... Is he done should I really just let it go and walk away? I'm so confused why he'd want to stay friends!
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This is a tough situation...

I am a Scorpio female dating a cap man.. so maybe I can help a bit.

For Scorpio we are intense.. We wanna know exactly how someone is feeling.. we wanna get in their head and figure them out.. I find that I have never had a problem with reading men until I met my cap man..

It's so hard.. So I get you there..

Could it be that you might have gotten a little too intense with him?.. They are very slow paced, aloof.. don't really care for extremely intense situations.. I found that I had to calm my intense nature down in the beginning... Just a little. & they do need their space.

As far as him calling things off.. Were there any reasons behind it..? I kinda need more detail..

Are you two in school..?

You mentioned he hasn't come "out of his room".. If you are in school, his intent may have to do more with focusing on his studies. Maybe the relationship got in the way of that.

If he wants to remain friends, I'd say, be his friend, be there for him... Still. But give him space.
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scorpio1108
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Sorry we are both 31 so no not in school. I've been under a lot of stress lately as I've had some family stuff come up. I did apologize to him about being withdrawn as I didn't want to take my stress out on him. My best friend is a cappy so I knew going in I couldn't unleash my full "passionate" side on him right away.

As far as calling things off the only thing he mentioned was the no spark. He never gave me any reasons or anything just a text saying he wanted to be friends and he didn't see a future for us. I was in the frame of mind that things were going really well. We'd talk almost everyday even to just check in, always laughed never had one fight or disagreement ever.

He did finally text me last night (again I hadn't made a move to contact him at all since he called things off thursday) saying he's the biggest idiot/ass that every roamed the planet and is appalled at how he's treated the whole situation between us.He does want to get together and talk face to face but I'm not sure if it's a talk to reconcile or for closure since he said he was done and the no spark thing.
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Posted by scorpio1108
Sorry we are both 31 so no not in school. I've been under a lot of stress lately as I've had some family stuff come up. I did apologize to him about being withdrawn as I didn't want to take my stress out on him. My best friend is a cappy so I knew going in I couldn't unleash my full "passionate" side on him right away.

As far as calling things off the only thing he mentioned was the no spark. He never gave me any reasons or anything just a text saying he wanted to be friends and he didn't see a future for us. I was in the frame of mind that things were going really well. We'd talk almost everyday even to just check in, always laughed never had one fight or disagreement ever.

He did finally text me last night (again I hadn't made a move to contact him at all since he called things off thursday) saying he's the biggest idiot/ass that every roamed the planet and is appalled at how he's treated the whole situation between us.He does want to get together and talk face to face but I'm not sure if it's a talk to reconcile or for closure since he said he was done and the no spark thing.
I would meet him when you can so that you can have closure because if you don't you won't know and try to be chill and listen and try to understand but then when he has finished, he should then try to understand how you feel. So, seek first to understand and then to be understood. Then part and let all that stuff gel and then move on with your life in whichever way you have decided to go.
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Posted by Gemitati
Why don't people understand that sometimes spark is gone?

There could be nothing else but one morning one feeling that spark is no more!


Maybe it could be me being a scorpio here but I've never just woke up one day and felt the spark was gone. Generally things taper down or fizzle out but I can't say I've ever just woken up and been like "nope I'm out!" lol
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It could be that too so it was fizzling down and finally he came clean.

Hopefully you'll find out its not!