@Walkergrl
9 Years500+ PostsVirgo
Interested in your opinions on this... vent post.
I would ask the guy to stop texting and if he didn't would tell him you are going to mention it to his woman if he doesn't stop
Have you blocked him?
OP
If you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
Posted by Hare
Hire a hit man.
Are you offering ..... At a price of course? š
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Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Hare
Hire a hit man.
Are you offering ..... At a price of course? š
I'm too nice to be a hit man.
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Lol
Posted by MyStarsShine
I would ask the guy to stop texting and if he didn't would tell him you are going to mention it to his woman if he doesn't stopHave you blocked him?
I have him on the auto reject list. My phone doesn't have a blocking option.
Great idea, btw.
Posted by LadyPootsAlot
I wouldn't. You have nothing to gain from it. All it would do is further entangle you in the situation.
I agree. It's HIS karma!
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
Posted by Hare
Hire a hit man.
I could pay you with cheese. š
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
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You need to get tougher with him
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
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You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
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No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
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Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
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I agree. It's probably better to just handle it that way. Far too much energy has been given to this asshat.
That's the part of myself that I 'hate' the most. Far too forgiving. What house placement would that fall into?
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
I agree. It's probably better to just handle it that way. Far too much energy has been given to this asshat.
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You don't need for him to see that you are still hooked in....he may derive some weird kick from that and think you still care. Stay cool and detached and firm...almost businesslike. It always worked for me š Strong boundaries are needed for people that don't listen
Good luck with it
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Posted by Hare
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by Hare
Hire a hit man.
I could pay you with cheese. š
That would be a lot of cheese.
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I really have no idea what kind of cheese is your preference, anyway?
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
I agree. It's probably better to just handle it that way. Far too much energy has been given to this asshat.
You don't need for him to see that you are still hooked in....he may derive some weird kick from that and think you still care. Stay cool and detached and firm...almost businesslike. It always worked for me š Strong boundaries are needed for people that don't listen
Good luck with it
š
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Yes. Yes. And YES.
My anger has simmered to a low boil now....
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
I agree. It's probably better to just handle it that way. Far too much energy has been given to this asshat.
You don't need for him to see that you are still hooked in....he may derive some weird kick from that and think you still care. Stay cool and detached and firm...almost businesslike. It always worked for me š Strong boundaries are needed for people that don't listen
Good luck with it
š
Yes. Yes. And YES.
My anger has simmered to a low boil now....
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if you want to channel your anger, write it down on a piece of paper in large letters with a red pen and then get rid of it....at least then you will be expressing it to yourself and not him
Re the hit man thing.......i don't like cheese but would do it for a year's supply of carrot cake š
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
No, i wouldn't waste your breath on that, i would just say
*This is to let you know, if you text or contact me in any way in the future, i will be informing your gf. Thanks*
I agree. It's probably better to just handle it that way. Far too much energy has been given to this asshat.
You don't need for him to see that you are still hooked in....he may derive some weird kick from that and think you still care. Stay cool and detached and firm...almost businesslike. It always worked for me š Strong boundaries are needed for people that don't listen
Good luck with it
š
Yes. Yes. And YES.
My anger has simmered to a low boil now....
if you want to channel your anger, write it down on a piece of paper in large letters with a red pen and then get rid of it....at least then you will be expressing it to yourself and not him
Re the hit man thing.......i don't like cheese but would do it for a year's supply of carrot cake š
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Great idea! And LOOOLLLL on the carrot cake š
What you would accomplish is hurting her to satisfy your inability of letting him go.
If you truly let him go, he wouldn't be in contact with you because you would have nipped it in the bud ..... unless you're helpless and are at the mercy of anyone except yourself.
You even formulated in your mind - words to yell at him to try and get one over on him. Only a person who is still vested would bother with such a thing.
This all sounds like your only thoughts are on yourself and your little feelings ... meanwhile, you wrote this thread with the possibility in mind to completely ignore the feelings of the innocent woman, and would just stomp over her to satisfy yourself.
My advice to you would be to at least try to move past him, and to definitely reprimand yourself severely for even considering it's ok to emotionally harm her just so you can sleep better at night.
@ P-Angel
While I truly do appreciate your input, you have no idea of what my emotions are. If you missed it... It was a VENT.
But... that's ok. Alls good. I had no intentions of 'harming' her or anyone as a matter of fact. I was just getting my feelings out in an open forum instead of bringing bad karma on myself. Which you would have realized if you'd actually read through the post. But again, that's ok. I'm not judging you.
Posted by Noni05
I would Move onStart dating again
And I would no longer bother with him
I'm going to lay low until retrograde has passed before I'll open myself up for dating. But yeah, at some point, I'll get there. No biggie. No big rush. It's all good.
UPDATE:
So, he did text me tonight saying that he'd "like to talk".
I took your advice and told him, " Listen, if you contact me again, I will contact your girlfriend."
*cue crickets*
WOW! What a sense of relief from taking back my power. Thank you for giving me the words. It was pretty damn awesome feeling!!!
Still feels good and right!!! š
Posted by Walkergrl
@ P-AngelWhile I truly do appreciate your input, you have no idea of what my emotions are. If you missed it... It was a VENT.
But... that's ok. Alls good. I had no intentions of 'harming' her or anyone as a matter of fact. I was just getting my feelings out in an open forum instead of bringing bad karma on myself. Which you would have realized if you'd actually read through the post. But again, that's ok. I'm not judging you.
I was speaking impartially ... which you would have gotten if you didn't automatically ram a stick up your ass the moment you saw me enter the room.
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
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Who had no morels and values?
Posted by Walkergrl
Still feels good and right!!! š
I don't remember your story, sorry but what makes you want to even text a man who left you for another woman?
Why bother?
I am sure he will answer your text.
So are you going to text back?
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by Walkergrl
Posted by MyStarsShine
OPIf you haven't fully let go of this guy, he will keep contacting you. When you do the final cut, he won't any longer ...
I have. It's his constant contact that keeps bringing things to the surface.
You need to get tougher with him
You're right. I considered texting this to him the next time he reaches out to me...
"You're a selfish, emotionally abusive, opportunistic, little fukboi, preying on women with no morals or values. My well of forgiveness for you is empty. Stay away from me."
Granted my anger and rage was in full throttle this morning when I wrote this.
Who had no morels and values?
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This particular Scorp.
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Walkergrl
Still feels good and right!!! š
I don't remember your story, sorry but what makes you want to even text a man who left you for another woman?
Why bother?
I am sure he will answer your text.
So are you going to text back?
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I don't think he'll text anymore after my last text to him.
I've dealt with my fair share of stage four clingers. The best policy BY FAR is to never engage. You may want to call him a pos but he wants a reaction from you and you'll just be giving him what he wants.
As for the gf, unless she reaches out to you, don't involve yourself in their relationship. You'll only be further involving yourself in his life. He may even take it as you want to break up his relationship cause you want to get back together with him.
If he's sending you harassing texts maybe screenshot them as insurance. Make sure his number is apparent so it's obvious it's coming from him.
Posted by LadyNeptune
I've dealt with my fair share of stage four clingers. The best policy BY FAR is to never engage. You may want to call him a pos but he wants a reaction from you and you'll just be giving him what he wants.As for the gf, unless she reaches out to you, don't involve yourself in their relationship. You'll only be further involving yourself in his life. He may even take it as you want to break up his relationship cause you want to get back together with him.
If he's sending you harassing texts maybe screenshot them as insurance. Make sure his number is apparent so it's obvious it's coming from him.
I have no desire to get into the mix of anything that he's involved with. I don't have anything left to say to him and honestly, I really don't think he'll reach out anymore.
Looks like the words did the trick then
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Most of you know my situation with the Scorp, which has been going on for far too long... *sigh*
My question is, if you knew that someone was constantly texting or calling you, would you go back to the person they've been dating and now confirmed that they're in a relationship and tell them about the 'player' or leave it up to the 'victim' to find out on their own?